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6 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Have A Rebound Relationship

6 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Have A Rebound Relationship

Break-ups can be a heart-wrenching experience. Not only does it leave you distraught and unhappy, it also bruises your self-esteem. You may find it hard to recover immediately. Perhaps this is why, for some, the best way to heal is to dive into another relationship quickly after a break-up. What is known as a rebound relationship could be an unfair and unhealthy way for you to move forward. Here is why.

1. You need some time to heal

As you end a relationship you should find time for introspection. You should have enough time to look inwards and know what went wrong with your relationship, and how you can move forward from it. A rebound breaks that course of you being able to heal and reflect through the process of a previous breakup. Time is essential to let go of the past and to embrace something new.

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2. You could be taken advantage of

A rebound relationship does not prepare you for what is next. At the point of a breakup, you are torn and broken. You should not be jumping into a relationship at this point, because you could be a victim of someone out there who wants to take advantage of your vulnerability. Instead, allow some time to pass to get prepared for what is next.

3. You are only filling a temporary gap

Whatever emotional void a breakup presents to you cannot simply be watered down by a rebound relationship. When you have been in an intimate, personal relationship with someone, you simply don’t erase the person from your mind. You do need some amount of time to get over someone. It doesn’t happen immediately or like a flash of lightning. This is why it is necessary to have some closure before walking into a new relationship. Because a rebound relationship is only there to fill a temporary gap, and it cannot offer you something solid.

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4. You destroy all hopes of getting back with your ex

Your ex has feelings too. A breakup can help both parties to look inwards, analyze, and see if there is any possibility for a future reunion. A rebound relationship destroys any chances of a possible relationship with your ex. They may have been doing well to sort out their feelings. A rebound relationship hammers the nail in the coffin and buries all the beautiful moments you have spent together.

5. You damage your reputation

A rebound relationship does not help you protect your reputation, as people who are committed are often given more respect. By not jumping into a rebound relationship, you show strength of character and a desire to achieve something. Breakups are hard and everyone understands this. But you have to own up to the situation rather than jumping into another relationship. People will take you less seriously when you are known for getting into a string of relationships one after the other.

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6. You are in a haze

After a breakup, you are in a haze and a mess emotionally. A lot of thoughts are running through your mind, and you are not your real self. Rushing into another relationship does not help you catch the eye of the person you should really be interested in. You need to be organized before getting into a relationship, as this helps the other person see you for who you really are.

Most times people do not want to face the reality of being in a breakup. They want to get into a rebound relationship to get over the fear of loneliness. The best way to deal with a breakup is to do what it entails by dealing with it. Talk to your friends, family or a therapist. You could also write, and vent your emotions through this medium. You should take good care of yourself and, with time, you will be ready to take on a new relationship.

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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