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6 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Have A Rebound Relationship

6 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Have A Rebound Relationship

Break-ups can be a heart-wrenching experience. Not only does it leave you distraught and unhappy, it also bruises your self-esteem. You may find it hard to recover immediately. Perhaps this is why, for some, the best way to heal is to dive into another relationship quickly after a break-up. What is known as a rebound relationship could be an unfair and unhealthy way for you to move forward. Here is why.

1. You need some time to heal

As you end a relationship you should find time for introspection. You should have enough time to look inwards and know what went wrong with your relationship, and how you can move forward from it. A rebound breaks that course of you being able to heal and reflect through the process of a previous breakup. Time is essential to let go of the past and to embrace something new.

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2. You could be taken advantage of

A rebound relationship does not prepare you for what is next. At the point of a breakup, you are torn and broken. You should not be jumping into a relationship at this point, because you could be a victim of someone out there who wants to take advantage of your vulnerability. Instead, allow some time to pass to get prepared for what is next.

3. You are only filling a temporary gap

Whatever emotional void a breakup presents to you cannot simply be watered down by a rebound relationship. When you have been in an intimate, personal relationship with someone, you simply don’t erase the person from your mind. You do need some amount of time to get over someone. It doesn’t happen immediately or like a flash of lightning. This is why it is necessary to have some closure before walking into a new relationship. Because a rebound relationship is only there to fill a temporary gap, and it cannot offer you something solid.

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4. You destroy all hopes of getting back with your ex

Your ex has feelings too. A breakup can help both parties to look inwards, analyze, and see if there is any possibility for a future reunion. A rebound relationship destroys any chances of a possible relationship with your ex. They may have been doing well to sort out their feelings. A rebound relationship hammers the nail in the coffin and buries all the beautiful moments you have spent together.

5. You damage your reputation

A rebound relationship does not help you protect your reputation, as people who are committed are often given more respect. By not jumping into a rebound relationship, you show strength of character and a desire to achieve something. Breakups are hard and everyone understands this. But you have to own up to the situation rather than jumping into another relationship. People will take you less seriously when you are known for getting into a string of relationships one after the other.

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6. You are in a haze

After a breakup, you are in a haze and a mess emotionally. A lot of thoughts are running through your mind, and you are not your real self. Rushing into another relationship does not help you catch the eye of the person you should really be interested in. You need to be organized before getting into a relationship, as this helps the other person see you for who you really are.

Most times people do not want to face the reality of being in a breakup. They want to get into a rebound relationship to get over the fear of loneliness. The best way to deal with a breakup is to do what it entails by dealing with it. Talk to your friends, family or a therapist. You could also write, and vent your emotions through this medium. You should take good care of yourself and, with time, you will be ready to take on a new relationship.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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