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8 Things A Great Dad Would Do For His Daughter

8 Things A Great Dad Would Do For His Daughter

The role of a Father (A.K.A Dad) plays a very significant role in a young girl’s life and her development into a woman.

1. He will treat her mother with respect

It’s very important that a father treats the mother of his daughter with respect and kindness. Regardless of the relationship status between the mother and father, respect is necessary for a healthy child. The emotional and mental health of the child depends on it. Children absorb and repeat things they observe all the time, so it’s best not to argue, or do anything negative in front of your daughter. As a dad, you set the standard for how your daughter will possibly interact with others.

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2. He will give good hugs

A hug can be powerful. Providing your daughter with hugs may result in her feeling loved, secure, comforted, confident and happy. She will know she is loved by her father. Reward her with a smile, a hug and tell her something positive like “great job” for good behavior. I feel that a hug a day also keeps the doctor away. Never turn down a hug from your daughter.

3. He will spend quality time with his daughter

It’s important for a dad to spend quality time with his daughter. Quality time doesn’t have to be all day to make a positive impact on your daughter. Take her different places or plan different activities over the course of a year. Allow her to be part of the planning process, ask her what she would like to do and offer suggestions. A thirty-minute walk in the park or dance off is a fun and healthy activity that will not require money. Make sure if you have other kids, she will have at least one time a week with you without the other siblings. Each child needs their own separate alone time with their parents.

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4. He will show his support

Show your support to daughter and her endeavors. Notice I used the word show–yes she needs to physically see and feel your support not just hear you say you support her. Okay! I totally get it, you may not be able to attend all her games or events all the time. However, if you do miss her event you can make it up by bringing her a card, flower or whatever she likes.Then take some time to sit and speak with her about the event and be interested.

5. He will share

It’s okay to share with your daughter some of your hobbies. If you like to go fishing, take your daughter. Don’t allow gender biases to dictate the activities you share with your daughter. She could learn how to be patient, other valuable skills and lessons over time, during the activity.

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6. He will say I love you

Your daughter needs to hear I love you. When she is having a bad day, she will find comfort in you and those words from you. It can calm her to know that she is in a safe, secure and loved place.

7. He will allow her to earn

A great dad will allow her to earn what she wants. Giving her money will not show her the value or appreciation of money when she is younger. It’s important that he allows her to earn an allowance by working for it. Depending on her age she could wash the car, fold the clothes, water the plants or hand you the tools while you work on the car.

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8. He will allow her mind to be opened

A great dad will allow his daughters mind to be opened to new experiences, adventures, and cultures. Taking her to different museums and allowing her to participate in different activities. This will allow her to develop into a smart and kind young woman with the ability to make up her own mind through her experiences.

Every day is a gift it allows us to start over and do better than we did yesterday. What better day than today to start making improvements. It’s important to acknowledge and take accountability for our mistakes or things we did not know about. When done genuinely, it allows  the wounds to heal and a new beginning to start.

Take the time to read to your daughter, tell her she is beautiful and smart. Ask her about her favorite color, favorite subject in school and more. This will grow a beautiful bond, between you and your daughter.

Featured photo credit: Father and Child/Petras Gagilas via imcreator.com

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Last Updated on December 17, 2018

Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

Have you ever wanted to say something at work, but a little voice of doubt crept in and said, “what if you are wrong”?

Maybe you wanted to apply for that promotion or ask that special someone on a date, but something kept you from taking action. When you think you’re not good enough, you tend to fear the outcome and lack faith in your abilities. That is why it is vital you discover how to believe in yourself so you can accomplish your goals and create your dream life.

Whatever your situation, the fears and self-doubt your false beliefs create will always stop you in your tracks. Identifying the beliefs that cause you to sabotage your life is the first step to removing them.

Self-doubt causes inaction, and inaction leads to regret. When you are not following your passion and living your dream life, you are left with a lot of questions:

  • What if I took a chance on myself?
  • Could I have had a better life if I took more risks?
  • Am I be satisfied with the legacy I am leaving behind?
  • What could I have accomplished if I did not settle for less?

So why would you think you’re not good enough?

1. Parenting

The perception you have of yourself is based on your past experiences. There are studies that show children mimic everything from their parents ability to regulate emotions, to their parents belief about money.[1]

I have had clients who did not believe they were good enough because they did not receive any positive reinforcement as a child. When they were young, their parents were extremely overprotective.

Think of your childhood challenges like dragons you had to slay. Each obstacle you overcame was another dragon you successfully removed from your life. As you slay more dragons, your self-esteem and confidence increase. When someone has overprotective parents, their parents end up slaying the dragons.

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As a result, the child builds more confidence in their parent’s abilities, while still doubting their own.

If you are never encouraged to slay your own dragons, you start to doubt whether you can. It is only natural for a child to conclude their parents are always helping them because they think they need it. This child ages into an adult who still believes they are not good enough. They seek the help and confirmation of others, and they rarely stand-up to opposition.

Solution: Slay Your Dragons!

If you want to believe in yourself, you are going to have to take steps to rebuild your trust in yourself. Start by keeping your word to others and arriving on-time. By showing yourself that others can (and do) trust you, you are going to feel more comfortable trusting yourself.

As you move onto larger and more challenging tasks, you have built a foundation of trust in your ability to keep your word. Next, you are going to want to reclaim your sword from others. At first, you may want to confide in whoever it is currently slaying your dragons.

Understand if it is your parent or someone who loves you, they want the best for you and mean well. You are simply going to tell them that you want to do the work, and will ask them for their thoughts in the planning phase. Feel free to check in with them and give them updates on your progress, while making sure they understand you are wanting to do the work yourself.

Then when the task is completed, let them know so you can celebrate together. Now that you have slayed your own dragon, you can start to reclaim your confidence. By you utilizing them as your guide, you get the added bonus of someone you respect and admire, telling you how amazing you are.

Think of it like a symbolic passing of the torch. Now, you are both dragon slayers. Which means all the positive attributes you attributed to them slaying your dragons, now belong to you.

2. Over-Exaggerating and Oversimplifying

Your past experiences may involve you or someone close to you failing. When you experience failure, you can lose your desire to continue. This has less to do with whether you are brave or scared, and more to do with the fact that your mind does not like failure.

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No one enjoys participating in events in which they under-perform. Outside of the usual reasons of embarrassment, feelings of inadequacy, and fear of failure – it is simply not fun.

Who wants to play baseball if they strikeout every time it is their turn? Would you enjoy singing in front of an audience if you were booed off the stage every time you performed? I could go on, but I think you get the point.

The thing about those two examples is no one really strikes out “every” at-bat. It is also unlikely someone could be booed off the stage “every time” they performed in-front of an audience.

What ends up happening is you oversimplify and exaggerate your past experiences and then your mind believes you. If you believe you are not good enough to ask someone on a date because they “always” tell you no, then do not be surprised you never muster the courage to do so.

If you want to overcome these feelings of inadequacy, start by changing your beliefs. This exercise does not need to be complicated. If you believe you strikeout every time it is your turn, I want to you to go to a batting cage and keep swinging until you hit the baseball.

When you experience success, I want you to take a mental note, write it down, or have someone video it. This is your proof that you do not always strike out. Then, whenever your belief that you are not good enough resurfaces, you are going to replay that video.

Regardless of the situation, you can find a successful experience that you are overlooking.

Solution: Read About the Failures of Others

It sounds a little crazy, I know, but reading about the failures of other successful people will improve your confidence. In a study conducted by Columbia University, they found that teaching students about the failures of great scientists encouraged them to do better.[2]

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When you are battling fear and self-doubt, you tend to over-exaggerate the abilities of others and diminish your own by comparison. You start to believe the successful are successful because they are courageous risk-takers, who do not take no for an answer. You tell yourself, they are meant to succeed, while you on the other hand are not.

When you are able to relate to the successful, you start to realize they have the same struggles and challenges you do. The only difference is they kept going.

Now it is not a question of whether you can succeed, it is a question of whether you want to succeed.

3. Undervalue Yourself

What is the main difference between someone who believes they are good enough and someone who does not? The person who believes they are good enough understands they are a person of value.

What I mean by this is if you do not believe you are worth being listened to, you will not have anything to say. If you do not believe you are good enough to be respected and treated as such, you will accept and rationalize all kinds of mistreatment.

There is an old saying that we are treated as we allow ourselves to be treated. When someone has the confidence and self-esteem that commands respect, they will not accept being treated any kind of way. However, if someone does not see themselves as worthy, they will remain in toxic situations because they do not believe anything better is on the horizon.

Dr. Jennifer Crocker, who worked on a series of self-esteem studies, found in her latest research that:[3]

“College students who based their self-worth on external sources–including appearance, approval from others and even their academic performance–reported more stress, anger, academic problems, relationship conflicts, and had higher levels of drug and alcohol use and symptoms of eating disorders”

Solution: Internalize Your Self-Worth

Instead of valuing yourself based on the awards, recognition, and accolades of others, you need to search internally. By basing your perception of yourself on your core values, you can regain control over self-image.

Instead of focusing on things that are outside of control, keep your mind on what it is that makes you special. You are not defined by your job, relationships, religion, or education. Rather, you are defined by the manner in which you participate in these things. You may be a creative, hard-working, and compassionate person; and that shows up in every thing you do.

Understand that you do not need to be creative, hard-working, and compassionate all the time to consider yourself these things. You are not trying to be perfect, but you are trying to connect with your true self.

By understanding the similarities in which you tackle objectives, you will build a consistent and powerful self-worth that stands apart from external confirmation.

Final Thoughts

Do not allow your past experiences do dictate your future success. You do not want to look back on your life and have a lot of questions and regrets.

Build trust in yourself by taking action today. This will help you build the confidence you need to believe in yourself and your ability to become the champion of your life.

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