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8 Things A Great Dad Would Do For His Daughter

8 Things A Great Dad Would Do For His Daughter

The role of a Father (A.K.A Dad) plays a very significant role in a young girl’s life and her development into a woman.

1. He will treat her mother with respect

It’s very important that a father treats the mother of his daughter with respect and kindness. Regardless of the relationship status between the mother and father, respect is necessary for a healthy child. The emotional and mental health of the child depends on it. Children absorb and repeat things they observe all the time, so it’s best not to argue, or do anything negative in front of your daughter. As a dad, you set the standard for how your daughter will possibly interact with others.

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2. He will give good hugs

A hug can be powerful. Providing your daughter with hugs may result in her feeling loved, secure, comforted, confident and happy. She will know she is loved by her father. Reward her with a smile, a hug and tell her something positive like “great job” for good behavior. I feel that a hug a day also keeps the doctor away. Never turn down a hug from your daughter.

3. He will spend quality time with his daughter

It’s important for a dad to spend quality time with his daughter. Quality time doesn’t have to be all day to make a positive impact on your daughter. Take her different places or plan different activities over the course of a year. Allow her to be part of the planning process, ask her what she would like to do and offer suggestions. A thirty-minute walk in the park or dance off is a fun and healthy activity that will not require money. Make sure if you have other kids, she will have at least one time a week with you without the other siblings. Each child needs their own separate alone time with their parents.

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4. He will show his support

Show your support to daughter and her endeavors. Notice I used the word show–yes she needs to physically see and feel your support not just hear you say you support her. Okay! I totally get it, you may not be able to attend all her games or events all the time. However, if you do miss her event you can make it up by bringing her a card, flower or whatever she likes.Then take some time to sit and speak with her about the event and be interested.

5. He will share

It’s okay to share with your daughter some of your hobbies. If you like to go fishing, take your daughter. Don’t allow gender biases to dictate the activities you share with your daughter. She could learn how to be patient, other valuable skills and lessons over time, during the activity.

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6. He will say I love you

Your daughter needs to hear I love you. When she is having a bad day, she will find comfort in you and those words from you. It can calm her to know that she is in a safe, secure and loved place.

7. He will allow her to earn

A great dad will allow her to earn what she wants. Giving her money will not show her the value or appreciation of money when she is younger. It’s important that he allows her to earn an allowance by working for it. Depending on her age she could wash the car, fold the clothes, water the plants or hand you the tools while you work on the car.

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8. He will allow her mind to be opened

A great dad will allow his daughters mind to be opened to new experiences, adventures, and cultures. Taking her to different museums and allowing her to participate in different activities. This will allow her to develop into a smart and kind young woman with the ability to make up her own mind through her experiences.

Every day is a gift it allows us to start over and do better than we did yesterday. What better day than today to start making improvements. It’s important to acknowledge and take accountability for our mistakes or things we did not know about. When done genuinely, it allows  the wounds to heal and a new beginning to start.

Take the time to read to your daughter, tell her she is beautiful and smart. Ask her about her favorite color, favorite subject in school and more. This will grow a beautiful bond, between you and your daughter.

Featured photo credit: Father and Child/Petras Gagilas via imcreator.com

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Published on October 7, 2019

4 Types of Toxic People and How to Deal with Them

4 Types of Toxic People and How to Deal with Them

Can a person really be toxic? Well, a toxic person does not refer to those who are affected by the virus or toxic. To be precise, toxic people are those who are very unsupportive, abusive and unhealthy in nature. Their behavior is filled with venom and you will not feel any sort of gentle breeze in their words.

In this article, you will learn how to spot out a toxic person, and what you can do to deal with them.

Signs of Toxic People

To make it more obvious, I have added some signs of toxic people below.

Manipulative Behavior And Fabricated Mind

Toxic people are unable to deal with the bitter truth firmly. If you are going to blurt out their fabrications with proof, they will try to change the whole matter with their manipulative behavior. They will titillate you with sensitive words or they will try to frighten you to get rid of the problems.

Inhuman And Merciless in Nature

We know that sharing our thoughts with friends will keep us in good mental state. But, if you are not getting fruitful outcomes, you have to understand that you are spending time with toxic friends.

Toxic people do not know how to put themselves in other’s shoes. They just put on a mask of simplicity. But, in reality, they don’t have feelings for you. Therefore, you should stop sharing your valuable time with them as you will get nothing except annoyance and silence.

Hypocrisy at Its Best in Their Nature

Toxic people have a great hunger for respect, adoration, and fidelity. After dignifying them with these valuable elements, you will get nothing; you will be cheated, manipulated and criticized by them. And, if you are not willing to listen to them, you will be controlled by guilt-tripping.

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Emotional Outburst And Pathological Excuses

Toxic people always want to see themselves in the positive end. Therefore, to get their job done, they always have an emotional outburst and emotional excuse to make an impulsive impression upon you.

We do mistakes and it is our duty to accept those mistakes. But, toxic people have their own rules, they have a tendency to present themselves rationally even after committing a mistake. If someone tries to expose themselves with facts, they show no embarrassment and use emotional excuses as a shield.

Play with Your Emotion And Gradually Erode It

Toxic people always try to condescend you with critical jokes and when you try to elicit your thoughts, they just burst out laughing. Teasing becomes an important element in your relationship with toxic person. They even give you backhanded compliments to belittle you.

Thus, using their toxic mindset, they just gradually diminish your abilities as well as intelligence. And you will have nothing left in your hand other than putting up with these things to maintain the silence.

Well, you probably might have not seen all these signs in one person as there are different types of toxic people roaming around you.

4 Types of Toxic People

To understand it better, I’m mentioning the different types of toxic people here.

1. Conversational Narcissist

There are some toxic people who do not know how to give importance to others. They will talk about themselves but never ask you about your condition; they will only recall you when they need you or they are facing some sort of problems.

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2. Emotional Vampires

These vampires do not suck your blood but dissipate your emotion. They always talk negatively about everyone and compel you to think in the same pattern that they follow. They mask themselves in such a way in front of you that you gradually start giving importance to them. But, ultimately, you will not get any positive outcome from them.

3. Monsters with Green eyes

As discussed earlier, toxic people will give you backhanded compliments. Basically, these are called monsters with green eyes. These monsters feel happy when you feel sad. Therefore, they will always try to belittle your achievements, intelligence, and strengths. Along with it, they give compliments with some negativity in it.

4. Black-Eyed Cats

These cats always do mew-mew and try to control everything around them. They love to be pampered but, they do not like if someone goes against them.

If you are in a relationship with such persons, you will be nagged until you are giving them complete satisfaction. In a nutshell, it must be said that you have to align yourself with them if you want to live with them. But, ultimately, you will lose your mental, conversational and emotional freedom.

How to Deal with Toxic People

Living with problems is more convenient than living with toxic people. But, toxic people are parasites and therefore, you will see these monsters rambling around you wherever you go.

However, if you know how to deal with them, it would be very helpful for you and your life would be much easier to live. We have added some tips to assist you, just check these out.

Get Rid of Intermittent Reinforcement

We are very optimistic in nature and over the time, this optimism has reached to such a level that we can happily put up with the ‘close losses’ instead of trying to catch the ‘near wins’.

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B.F Skinner once did an experiment with three rats. He put them in different cages attached with levers. The lever delivered food when it was pressed. In the 1st cage, the lever always delivered food when the rat pressed it. In case of the 2nd cage, food was never delivered by the lever even after pressing it, therefore, the rat understood the lesson and never tried to get food. But, in the third cage, the lever delivered food randomly and as a result, the rat was completely hooked and fixated. He constantly pushed it but didn’t get the food always.

Well, this is called intermittent relationship and the same thing happens in human relationships where toxic people give you intermittent reinforcement and your heart gets pumped up with optimism. As a result, you will be hooked and your life will be fixated at some point with toxic people.

You should learn to move on without them and live your life happily because random happiness cannot bring permanent relief.

Never Make Too Many Allowances And Pardons

Well, sympathetic attitude is very good and it is also a fact that sometimes toxic people suffer from genuine depression, physical as well as mental illness. But, you have to set a boundary and you cannot allow people to get away with anything so easily.

If you make too many allowances as well as pardons, it would not be good for you in the long-term. Yes, there are some people who are facing extreme hardships and they are not even toxic in nature. But, all you can do is show some genuine compassion keeping yourself within the boundaries.

Always Try to Ignore Their Toxic Traps

Demotivational words are the primary weapon that they frequently use in their implications to detract you. Along with this, they throw words in such a way that you start feeling guilty. Well, you must understand that these are just toxic traps and you should not step on it.

Always remember that you will have full access to freedom if you stop taking things personally. They not only do this with you but also with everyone. You just have to keep in mind that these toxic words are not based on truth but on their own mental reproduction. So, you just have to ignore this and focus on your work.

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Show Them Your Beautiful Smile Not the Curves on Your Forehead

Toxic people have an aptitude to attack mentally, mock disgracefully and diminish shamefully. But, you will not be affected if you don’t surrender yourself. Show them that you are not getting belittled or insulted.

We all have our problems and we also know that we are capable of solving these problems. Therefore, the matter entirely depends upon us and if we don’t allow these vampires to enter into our life or play with our emotions, they cannot suck our happiness. So, I’d suggest you show your beautiful smile when they buzz around you.

Don’t Suppress Yourself

Toxic people will intimidate, bully, pass guilt, and forcefully take money from you to get their job done. They know very well that they are doing wrong and at the same time, they are acquainted with the concept that we are incapable of doing anything against them.

Most of the time, we keep ourselves quiet until someone speaks up. And because of this suppressive mindset, we are gradually being dragged into their mind games.

Well, we have to change this concept as it infuses courage into them. We need to obstruct them with firm minds and make them realize the negative consequences of their behavior.[1] If they are upsetting you, just tell them directly. Your direct statement might open a new gate of opportunity that will allow you to help them if they are suffering from genuine problems.

So, why are you still tolerating these toxic people? Follow the tips mentioned above and deal with them in the right way.

Featured photo credit: Devin Avery via unsplash.com

Reference

[1] Tips for Grooming: Change Your Fixed Negative Belief

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