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6 Reasons Opposite Personalities Work Well Together

6 Reasons Opposite Personalities Work Well Together

We’ve all heard the saying “opposites attract.” Whether or not we believe it is another story. While it may not necessarily be a rule of nature, it’s certainly true that people with seemingly opposite personalities can work well together in a relationship, for a variety of reasons. Besides, dating someone who’s exactly like you would probably get boring after a while!

1. You complement each other

The purpose of being in a relationship is to find your better half. While some people are content living the single life, most of us strive to find the person that makes us feel whole. This won’t happen if you find someone who’s exactly like you; it’ll only fill up one half of the relationship. Like two sides of the same coin, the best relationships are made up of two individuals who, despite their differences, are not complete without the other by their side.

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2. You encourage each other

If you’re truly in love with someone, you’ve likely been inspired by them in some way, and you’ve done the same for them. Of course, the way in which you’ve inspired each other likely varies. Maybe you’ve inspired them to work harder for the things they want in life, while they’ve inspired you to not work so hard that you miss out on more important things. However you do it, you both encourage each other to live life to the fullest.

3. You compensate for each others’ weaknesses

You’ve heard of the “power couple,” right? Well, the only reason many relationships are seen like this is because both halves work incredibly well together. When one person falters, the other person is always there to pick up the pace. Alone, they might not be much, and they might not make it very far in life. But together, they can take on the entire world, and come out of the battle triumphant (just ask Beyonce and Jay-Z).

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4. You realize greatness in those unlike yourself

Unless you’re incredibly self-deprecating, you most likely think very highly of yourself. Whether you realize it or not, you probably often feel that if everyone saw the world the way you do, there wouldn’t be so many issues plaguing society. Falling for someone whose views on the world clash with yours will open your eyes to different perspectives, and allow you to see things in a different light. Although you most likely will hold on to your beliefs, being with someone opposite of you teaches you to respect other people’s point of view, and give your own ideas a second thought.

5. You experience more

Let’s take a sidebar from the more serious points in this article and realize that, simply put, being with someone different from yourself allows you to experience much more of the world. Maybe you don’t have the same taste in movies or music as your significant other, but you’ll end up giving them a try at some point–which could change your perspective entirely. I don’t love Top 40 radio by any stretch of the imagination, but since my wife does, I’ve learned to enjoy singing along to silly pop songs while driving to the supermarket. I know if it weren’t for me, she would have never watched The Usual Suspects or Se7en, but after we finished them, she looked at me and said “Wow…that was really good.” Being with someone with different interests allows you to experience things outside of your comfort zone that you never would have on your own.

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6. You can be comfortable being yourself

Speaking of your comfort zone, being with someone opposite of you, ironically, allows you to be more comfortable with who you are. You get validation from the moments I’ve spoken about, such as when they agree with you on something you didn’t think they’d agree with you on (whether it’s a movie or a political viewpoint). You also can be comfortable knowing there are certain things you’ll never agree upon. Like I said before, you’re two sides of the same coin; you won’t always see eye to eye, but you know you wouldn’t be complete without your better half.

Featured photo credit: Yinyang / Chris via farm4.staticflickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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