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6 Reasons Opposite Personalities Work Well Together

6 Reasons Opposite Personalities Work Well Together

We’ve all heard the saying “opposites attract.” Whether or not we believe it is another story. While it may not necessarily be a rule of nature, it’s certainly true that people with seemingly opposite personalities can work well together in a relationship, for a variety of reasons. Besides, dating someone who’s exactly like you would probably get boring after a while!

1. You complement each other

The purpose of being in a relationship is to find your better half. While some people are content living the single life, most of us strive to find the person that makes us feel whole. This won’t happen if you find someone who’s exactly like you; it’ll only fill up one half of the relationship. Like two sides of the same coin, the best relationships are made up of two individuals who, despite their differences, are not complete without the other by their side.

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2. You encourage each other

If you’re truly in love with someone, you’ve likely been inspired by them in some way, and you’ve done the same for them. Of course, the way in which you’ve inspired each other likely varies. Maybe you’ve inspired them to work harder for the things they want in life, while they’ve inspired you to not work so hard that you miss out on more important things. However you do it, you both encourage each other to live life to the fullest.

3. You compensate for each others’ weaknesses

You’ve heard of the “power couple,” right? Well, the only reason many relationships are seen like this is because both halves work incredibly well together. When one person falters, the other person is always there to pick up the pace. Alone, they might not be much, and they might not make it very far in life. But together, they can take on the entire world, and come out of the battle triumphant (just ask Beyonce and Jay-Z).

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4. You realize greatness in those unlike yourself

Unless you’re incredibly self-deprecating, you most likely think very highly of yourself. Whether you realize it or not, you probably often feel that if everyone saw the world the way you do, there wouldn’t be so many issues plaguing society. Falling for someone whose views on the world clash with yours will open your eyes to different perspectives, and allow you to see things in a different light. Although you most likely will hold on to your beliefs, being with someone opposite of you teaches you to respect other people’s point of view, and give your own ideas a second thought.

5. You experience more

Let’s take a sidebar from the more serious points in this article and realize that, simply put, being with someone different from yourself allows you to experience much more of the world. Maybe you don’t have the same taste in movies or music as your significant other, but you’ll end up giving them a try at some point–which could change your perspective entirely. I don’t love Top 40 radio by any stretch of the imagination, but since my wife does, I’ve learned to enjoy singing along to silly pop songs while driving to the supermarket. I know if it weren’t for me, she would have never watched The Usual Suspects or Se7en, but after we finished them, she looked at me and said “Wow…that was really good.” Being with someone with different interests allows you to experience things outside of your comfort zone that you never would have on your own.

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6. You can be comfortable being yourself

Speaking of your comfort zone, being with someone opposite of you, ironically, allows you to be more comfortable with who you are. You get validation from the moments I’ve spoken about, such as when they agree with you on something you didn’t think they’d agree with you on (whether it’s a movie or a political viewpoint). You also can be comfortable knowing there are certain things you’ll never agree upon. Like I said before, you’re two sides of the same coin; you won’t always see eye to eye, but you know you wouldn’t be complete without your better half.

Featured photo credit: Yinyang / Chris via farm4.staticflickr.com

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Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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