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12 Ways To Become A More Confident Person

12 Ways To Become A More Confident Person

Do you want to become a confident person? Many people believe that you are born with confidence, but this isn’t necessarily true. Self-confidence is built up through your life, and you can choose to gain more self-confidence.

It is never too late to start working on finding your confidence – check out 12 ways you can become a more confident person.

1. Monitor Your Work Success

Tracking your progress at work will give you actual proof of your recent successes and accomplishments – write down everything, even the little achievements.

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2. Try Something New Once A Week

Instead of shying away from new events and activities, grab life by the horns and say ‘yes’ to something new once a week. Learning new skills and trying new things is one of the most fun ways you can build up confidence.

3. Stand Up Straight

Don’t walk with your shoulder slumped and your eyes looking down – instead, walk with your back straight and don’t avoid eye contact. This will make you look self-assured and confident, and looking the part will help you to feel more confident on the inside.

4. Talk To New People

Try starting up a conversation with a co-worker or a cashier. You may be surprised by how friendly people are, and this will help you to shed any fears you have about speaking up in high pressure situations.

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5. Write Down Something You Love About Yourself Everyday

Every morning, write down something you love about yourself. From your hairstyle to your kindness, it is important to be aware of how great you actually are. The more you love yourself, the more confident you will feel.

6. Do An Activity That Makes You Feel Confident

Are you an excellent swimmer, or a great artist? Do an activity that makes you feel confident at least once a week to remind yourself that you are skilled and proficient.

7. Ignore Your Inner Critic

Everyone has the voice of self-doubt in their head; confident people just understand that the voice is negative and inaccurate. Don’t listen to the voice that says you can’t achieve – realize that it is just a voice, and it will always try to hold you back.

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8. Don’t Compare Yourself To Others

There will always be someone who is more confident, and if you focus on this you won’t see that you are still more confident than many other people. Everyone has different goals and targets; set your own instead of taking someone else’s and you will feel more confident within yourself.

9. Use Affirmations

Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself ‘I am becoming more confident’. This reminds you to focus on becoming more confident, and while you may feel silly the first time you do it, over time you will notice it feels more and more accurate.

10. Try To Be More Spontaneous

If you are likely to decline doing something without a reason, ask yourself why you are always inclined to say no. This often shows fear; fear of being ignored, fear of being bored, fear of the unknown. Realize that life will pass you by with this attitude and try to become more of a ‘yes’ person. The world is not a scary place – it is filled with beauty and fun, and realizing this will help you to gain confidence.

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11. Avoid People Who Put You Down

Cut anyone out of your life who lowers your confidence and makes you feel small. Surround yourself with people who will bring you up and support you, not drag you down and make you doubt yourself.

12. Ask A Loved One How To Build Your Self-Confidence

Ask for confidence advice from someone who knows you well and loves you. They will have helpful suggestions on how you can build your self-confidence that are personalized to you.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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