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12 Ways To Become A More Confident Person

12 Ways To Become A More Confident Person

Do you want to become a confident person? Many people believe that you are born with confidence, but this isn’t necessarily true. Self-confidence is built up through your life, and you can choose to gain more self-confidence.

It is never too late to start working on finding your confidence – check out 12 ways you can become a more confident person.

1. Monitor Your Work Success

Tracking your progress at work will give you actual proof of your recent successes and accomplishments – write down everything, even the little achievements.

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2. Try Something New Once A Week

Instead of shying away from new events and activities, grab life by the horns and say ‘yes’ to something new once a week. Learning new skills and trying new things is one of the most fun ways you can build up confidence.

3. Stand Up Straight

Don’t walk with your shoulder slumped and your eyes looking down – instead, walk with your back straight and don’t avoid eye contact. This will make you look self-assured and confident, and looking the part will help you to feel more confident on the inside.

4. Talk To New People

Try starting up a conversation with a co-worker or a cashier. You may be surprised by how friendly people are, and this will help you to shed any fears you have about speaking up in high pressure situations.

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5. Write Down Something You Love About Yourself Everyday

Every morning, write down something you love about yourself. From your hairstyle to your kindness, it is important to be aware of how great you actually are. The more you love yourself, the more confident you will feel.

6. Do An Activity That Makes You Feel Confident

Are you an excellent swimmer, or a great artist? Do an activity that makes you feel confident at least once a week to remind yourself that you are skilled and proficient.

7. Ignore Your Inner Critic

Everyone has the voice of self-doubt in their head; confident people just understand that the voice is negative and inaccurate. Don’t listen to the voice that says you can’t achieve – realize that it is just a voice, and it will always try to hold you back.

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8. Don’t Compare Yourself To Others

There will always be someone who is more confident, and if you focus on this you won’t see that you are still more confident than many other people. Everyone has different goals and targets; set your own instead of taking someone else’s and you will feel more confident within yourself.

9. Use Affirmations

Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself ‘I am becoming more confident’. This reminds you to focus on becoming more confident, and while you may feel silly the first time you do it, over time you will notice it feels more and more accurate.

10. Try To Be More Spontaneous

If you are likely to decline doing something without a reason, ask yourself why you are always inclined to say no. This often shows fear; fear of being ignored, fear of being bored, fear of the unknown. Realize that life will pass you by with this attitude and try to become more of a ‘yes’ person. The world is not a scary place – it is filled with beauty and fun, and realizing this will help you to gain confidence.

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11. Avoid People Who Put You Down

Cut anyone out of your life who lowers your confidence and makes you feel small. Surround yourself with people who will bring you up and support you, not drag you down and make you doubt yourself.

12. Ask A Loved One How To Build Your Self-Confidence

Ask for confidence advice from someone who knows you well and loves you. They will have helpful suggestions on how you can build your self-confidence that are personalized to you.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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