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12 Things Unemotional Women Understand

12 Things Unemotional Women Understand

Are you an unemotional woman? Many unemotional women go through life wondering why they do not feel more sensitive and emotional, but for some this is totally normal. It isn’t strange or a sign of not being well-adjusted — it is simply a different way of dealing with your feelings.

However, there are ups and downs to being unemotional. Check out the following 12 things that all unemotional women will understand.

1. You wish you were better at comforting others.

You always feel awkward whenever you are supposed to be comforting someone. You genuinely sympathise with them and you wish you could cheer them up, but you never know what to say to make things better.

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2. You avoid other people when you’re upset.

You always try to distance yourself from others if you are feeling upset. You really struggle to open up to others, and you don’t want them to feel awkward. You know many women find comfort in being around others when something is bothering them, but you just want to hide until you feel better.

3. You are often misinterpreted as being socially awkward.

You don’t have a problem talking to other people, but people always mistake you for being uncomfortable in social situations. You actually like talking to other people and making friends, but conversations rarely rile you up — you’re happy enough to listen to the others share their feelings.

4. You don’t cry at movies. (But they still move you.)

You don’t cry during sad movies — but you still love watching them. Other people think it is strange that you don’t start to blub during Marley and Me, but you secretly find them weird for crying over something that isn’t real.

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5. Confessions of the heart make you cringe.

Emotional declarations of love and commitment make you feel nauseous. You struggle to express your own emotions, so you don’t know how to reply to someone proclaiming their love.

6. You struggle with romantic relationships.

You regularly get crushes on people and you’ve had romantic relationships in the past, but your lack of emotions often gets in the way of a relationship forming. You struggle to communicate your feelings well, and you’ve always envied people who are totally comfortable discussing their thoughts.

7. You have been jokingly called ‘heartless’.

Your friends regularly call you heartless as a joke because you don’t cry at movies and you struggle to discuss your feelings. You actually have a lot of love to give, so you never take the jokes to heart.

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8. Your friends come to you if they need to calm down.

Your friends come to you whenever they need to get some perspective and calm down. You understand why they are upset, but you offer a calm, rational attitude that helps your friends to let go of negative emotions.

9. You find forming bonds with others difficult.

A big part of bonding is opening up to each other and discussing difficult emotions. This makes it hard for you to form new friendships, but it also means you treasure the friendships that you have.

10. You are always blunt with others.

You are blunt with your loved ones and proud of it. The people you care about deserve your honesty, and you always deliver.

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11. You have found creative ways to express your emotions.

Many unemotional people express their emotions through another activity, such as kick-boxing, keeping a journal or painting. You let your emotion out with other outlets, which helps you to deal effectively with any negative emotions that you are feeling.

12. You can get emotional — when it comes to your loved ones.

You love your friends and family just as much as any emotional person would. You can’t help being unemotional, but it would never stop you from caring about your loved ones. You never want to see them hurt or upset, and they understand and love you for this.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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