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12 Things Unemotional Women Understand

12 Things Unemotional Women Understand

Are you an unemotional woman? Many unemotional women go through life wondering why they do not feel more sensitive and emotional, but for some this is totally normal. It isn’t strange or a sign of not being well-adjusted — it is simply a different way of dealing with your feelings.

However, there are ups and downs to being unemotional. Check out the following 12 things that all unemotional women will understand.

1. You wish you were better at comforting others.

You always feel awkward whenever you are supposed to be comforting someone. You genuinely sympathise with them and you wish you could cheer them up, but you never know what to say to make things better.

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2. You avoid other people when you’re upset.

You always try to distance yourself from others if you are feeling upset. You really struggle to open up to others, and you don’t want them to feel awkward. You know many women find comfort in being around others when something is bothering them, but you just want to hide until you feel better.

3. You are often misinterpreted as being socially awkward.

You don’t have a problem talking to other people, but people always mistake you for being uncomfortable in social situations. You actually like talking to other people and making friends, but conversations rarely rile you up — you’re happy enough to listen to the others share their feelings.

4. You don’t cry at movies. (But they still move you.)

You don’t cry during sad movies — but you still love watching them. Other people think it is strange that you don’t start to blub during Marley and Me, but you secretly find them weird for crying over something that isn’t real.

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5. Confessions of the heart make you cringe.

Emotional declarations of love and commitment make you feel nauseous. You struggle to express your own emotions, so you don’t know how to reply to someone proclaiming their love.

6. You struggle with romantic relationships.

You regularly get crushes on people and you’ve had romantic relationships in the past, but your lack of emotions often gets in the way of a relationship forming. You struggle to communicate your feelings well, and you’ve always envied people who are totally comfortable discussing their thoughts.

7. You have been jokingly called ‘heartless’.

Your friends regularly call you heartless as a joke because you don’t cry at movies and you struggle to discuss your feelings. You actually have a lot of love to give, so you never take the jokes to heart.

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8. Your friends come to you if they need to calm down.

Your friends come to you whenever they need to get some perspective and calm down. You understand why they are upset, but you offer a calm, rational attitude that helps your friends to let go of negative emotions.

9. You find forming bonds with others difficult.

A big part of bonding is opening up to each other and discussing difficult emotions. This makes it hard for you to form new friendships, but it also means you treasure the friendships that you have.

10. You are always blunt with others.

You are blunt with your loved ones and proud of it. The people you care about deserve your honesty, and you always deliver.

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11. You have found creative ways to express your emotions.

Many unemotional people express their emotions through another activity, such as kick-boxing, keeping a journal or painting. You let your emotion out with other outlets, which helps you to deal effectively with any negative emotions that you are feeling.

12. You can get emotional — when it comes to your loved ones.

You love your friends and family just as much as any emotional person would. You can’t help being unemotional, but it would never stop you from caring about your loved ones. You never want to see them hurt or upset, and they understand and love you for this.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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