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12 Things Unemotional Women Understand

12 Things Unemotional Women Understand

Are you an unemotional woman? Many unemotional women go through life wondering why they do not feel more sensitive and emotional, but for some this is totally normal. It isn’t strange or a sign of not being well-adjusted — it is simply a different way of dealing with your feelings.

However, there are ups and downs to being unemotional. Check out the following 12 things that all unemotional women will understand.

1. You wish you were better at comforting others.

You always feel awkward whenever you are supposed to be comforting someone. You genuinely sympathise with them and you wish you could cheer them up, but you never know what to say to make things better.

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2. You avoid other people when you’re upset.

You always try to distance yourself from others if you are feeling upset. You really struggle to open up to others, and you don’t want them to feel awkward. You know many women find comfort in being around others when something is bothering them, but you just want to hide until you feel better.

3. You are often misinterpreted as being socially awkward.

You don’t have a problem talking to other people, but people always mistake you for being uncomfortable in social situations. You actually like talking to other people and making friends, but conversations rarely rile you up — you’re happy enough to listen to the others share their feelings.

4. You don’t cry at movies. (But they still move you.)

You don’t cry during sad movies — but you still love watching them. Other people think it is strange that you don’t start to blub during Marley and Me, but you secretly find them weird for crying over something that isn’t real.

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5. Confessions of the heart make you cringe.

Emotional declarations of love and commitment make you feel nauseous. You struggle to express your own emotions, so you don’t know how to reply to someone proclaiming their love.

6. You struggle with romantic relationships.

You regularly get crushes on people and you’ve had romantic relationships in the past, but your lack of emotions often gets in the way of a relationship forming. You struggle to communicate your feelings well, and you’ve always envied people who are totally comfortable discussing their thoughts.

7. You have been jokingly called ‘heartless’.

Your friends regularly call you heartless as a joke because you don’t cry at movies and you struggle to discuss your feelings. You actually have a lot of love to give, so you never take the jokes to heart.

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8. Your friends come to you if they need to calm down.

Your friends come to you whenever they need to get some perspective and calm down. You understand why they are upset, but you offer a calm, rational attitude that helps your friends to let go of negative emotions.

9. You find forming bonds with others difficult.

A big part of bonding is opening up to each other and discussing difficult emotions. This makes it hard for you to form new friendships, but it also means you treasure the friendships that you have.

10. You are always blunt with others.

You are blunt with your loved ones and proud of it. The people you care about deserve your honesty, and you always deliver.

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11. You have found creative ways to express your emotions.

Many unemotional people express their emotions through another activity, such as kick-boxing, keeping a journal or painting. You let your emotion out with other outlets, which helps you to deal effectively with any negative emotions that you are feeling.

12. You can get emotional — when it comes to your loved ones.

You love your friends and family just as much as any emotional person would. You can’t help being unemotional, but it would never stop you from caring about your loved ones. You never want to see them hurt or upset, and they understand and love you for this.

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Amy Johnson

Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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