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10 Signs You’re Doing Well In Your 20s Even If You Don’t Feel You Are

10 Signs You’re Doing Well In Your 20s Even If You Don’t Feel You Are

You are scrolling through your Instagram or Facebook newsfeed and see a picture of the chubby nerd from your high-school in a body-building contest. That girl who sat next to you in 9th grade Chemistry? She’s married and about to pop out her first kid. And then there’s always that one person with the humble-brag post about their condo downtown that they can afford with their new higher-paying job.

Being in your 20s can make you question whether or not you are successful at life – you have expectations to live up to! However, while you may not be married, or living in your own loft in a trendy area of your city, you are still doing well in your 20s if:

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1. You graduated school

Hey, it may have taken you 3 years, or you may have done several victory laps, but at least you’ve got a degree under your belt! Currently only 19% of Millennials have college degrees!

2. You’ve got a job

You buffed up the resume, nailed the interview, and are currently employed. It’s nice to have a job that pays you enough to have a little money in your pocket. Now you can splurge on the $15 bottle of wine versus the $2 Buck Chuck from your local Trader Joes.

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3. Your bills aren’t under your parents’ names

Congratulations on making your own payments towards your cell phone! Or electric… or credit card. It’s hard, but with budgeting apps such as Mint and Mvelopes, you can stay on top of your finances and make sure all of your bills are paid on time.

4. You don’t live at your parents’ house

This is acceptable right out of college to save some money – however, nothing is less cool than telling your friends you have to get home early because of your parents. Do you know whats nicer than living at your parents’ house? Not having a curfew. And not having to tell anyone where you’re going.

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5. You no longer survive on Ramen Noodles

You can now afford to go out to eat several times a month AND make yourself a dinner that doesn’t come pre-packaged. Want to splurge on that brie at the grocery store? Do it – you can finally afford it.

6. You have savings

Whether it is through your employer’s 401(k) program, or you’ve stashed some cash away in a savings account, you have enough money to spend on emergencies, vacations, or that shiny new X-Box whenever you need it. You may have enough left over to be able to throw in an extra game as well.

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7. You have long-term goals

Your goals no longer include marrying celebrities or becoming a professional basketball player (5’8″ just won’t cut it), but instead center on career advancement, investing, and personal insight. Maybe you want to become a manager at your company, or one day open your own restaurant! You are at the beginning of your journey, but know that taking the right path now can help you to get to where you ultimately want to be.

8. You can travel whenever you want to

Got a long weekend? Drive to the beach. Want to see that concert in Red Rocks? Catch a flight! Craving snacks at 1:00 AM? Head to the grocery store! The world is your oyster – go where your schedule and budget allows!

9. You schedule your own doctor’s appointments

Okay. Maybe this one is for your 30s…

10. You have experience

Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions. You’ve made it through college, you’ve made it through getting you first job, and you have your own place. Though still young and thriving, you’ve got some life experience and you’re wiser than you were yesterday. That counts for something!

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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