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10 Signs You’re Doing Well In Your 20s Even If You Don’t Feel You Are

10 Signs You’re Doing Well In Your 20s Even If You Don’t Feel You Are

You are scrolling through your Instagram or Facebook newsfeed and see a picture of the chubby nerd from your high-school in a body-building contest. That girl who sat next to you in 9th grade Chemistry? She’s married and about to pop out her first kid. And then there’s always that one person with the humble-brag post about their condo downtown that they can afford with their new higher-paying job.

Being in your 20s can make you question whether or not you are successful at life – you have expectations to live up to! However, while you may not be married, or living in your own loft in a trendy area of your city, you are still doing well in your 20s if:

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1. You graduated school

Hey, it may have taken you 3 years, or you may have done several victory laps, but at least you’ve got a degree under your belt! Currently only 19% of Millennials have college degrees!

2. You’ve got a job

You buffed up the resume, nailed the interview, and are currently employed. It’s nice to have a job that pays you enough to have a little money in your pocket. Now you can splurge on the $15 bottle of wine versus the $2 Buck Chuck from your local Trader Joes.

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3. Your bills aren’t under your parents’ names

Congratulations on making your own payments towards your cell phone! Or electric… or credit card. It’s hard, but with budgeting apps such as Mint and Mvelopes, you can stay on top of your finances and make sure all of your bills are paid on time.

4. You don’t live at your parents’ house

This is acceptable right out of college to save some money – however, nothing is less cool than telling your friends you have to get home early because of your parents. Do you know whats nicer than living at your parents’ house? Not having a curfew. And not having to tell anyone where you’re going.

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5. You no longer survive on Ramen Noodles

You can now afford to go out to eat several times a month AND make yourself a dinner that doesn’t come pre-packaged. Want to splurge on that brie at the grocery store? Do it – you can finally afford it.

6. You have savings

Whether it is through your employer’s 401(k) program, or you’ve stashed some cash away in a savings account, you have enough money to spend on emergencies, vacations, or that shiny new X-Box whenever you need it. You may have enough left over to be able to throw in an extra game as well.

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7. You have long-term goals

Your goals no longer include marrying celebrities or becoming a professional basketball player (5’8″ just won’t cut it), but instead center on career advancement, investing, and personal insight. Maybe you want to become a manager at your company, or one day open your own restaurant! You are at the beginning of your journey, but know that taking the right path now can help you to get to where you ultimately want to be.

8. You can travel whenever you want to

Got a long weekend? Drive to the beach. Want to see that concert in Red Rocks? Catch a flight! Craving snacks at 1:00 AM? Head to the grocery store! The world is your oyster – go where your schedule and budget allows!

9. You schedule your own doctor’s appointments

Okay. Maybe this one is for your 30s…

10. You have experience

Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions. You’ve made it through college, you’ve made it through getting you first job, and you have your own place. Though still young and thriving, you’ve got some life experience and you’re wiser than you were yesterday. That counts for something!

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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