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10 Signs You’re Doing Well In Your 20s Even If You Don’t Feel You Are

10 Signs You’re Doing Well In Your 20s Even If You Don’t Feel You Are

You are scrolling through your Instagram or Facebook newsfeed and see a picture of the chubby nerd from your high-school in a body-building contest. That girl who sat next to you in 9th grade Chemistry? She’s married and about to pop out her first kid. And then there’s always that one person with the humble-brag post about their condo downtown that they can afford with their new higher-paying job.

Being in your 20s can make you question whether or not you are successful at life – you have expectations to live up to! However, while you may not be married, or living in your own loft in a trendy area of your city, you are still doing well in your 20s if:

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1. You graduated school

Hey, it may have taken you 3 years, or you may have done several victory laps, but at least you’ve got a degree under your belt! Currently only 19% of Millennials have college degrees!

2. You’ve got a job

You buffed up the resume, nailed the interview, and are currently employed. It’s nice to have a job that pays you enough to have a little money in your pocket. Now you can splurge on the $15 bottle of wine versus the $2 Buck Chuck from your local Trader Joes.

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3. Your bills aren’t under your parents’ names

Congratulations on making your own payments towards your cell phone! Or electric… or credit card. It’s hard, but with budgeting apps such as Mint and Mvelopes, you can stay on top of your finances and make sure all of your bills are paid on time.

4. You don’t live at your parents’ house

This is acceptable right out of college to save some money – however, nothing is less cool than telling your friends you have to get home early because of your parents. Do you know whats nicer than living at your parents’ house? Not having a curfew. And not having to tell anyone where you’re going.

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5. You no longer survive on Ramen Noodles

You can now afford to go out to eat several times a month AND make yourself a dinner that doesn’t come pre-packaged. Want to splurge on that brie at the grocery store? Do it – you can finally afford it.

6. You have savings

Whether it is through your employer’s 401(k) program, or you’ve stashed some cash away in a savings account, you have enough money to spend on emergencies, vacations, or that shiny new X-Box whenever you need it. You may have enough left over to be able to throw in an extra game as well.

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7. You have long-term goals

Your goals no longer include marrying celebrities or becoming a professional basketball player (5’8″ just won’t cut it), but instead center on career advancement, investing, and personal insight. Maybe you want to become a manager at your company, or one day open your own restaurant! You are at the beginning of your journey, but know that taking the right path now can help you to get to where you ultimately want to be.

8. You can travel whenever you want to

Got a long weekend? Drive to the beach. Want to see that concert in Red Rocks? Catch a flight! Craving snacks at 1:00 AM? Head to the grocery store! The world is your oyster – go where your schedule and budget allows!

9. You schedule your own doctor’s appointments

Okay. Maybe this one is for your 30s…

10. You have experience

Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions. You’ve made it through college, you’ve made it through getting you first job, and you have your own place. Though still young and thriving, you’ve got some life experience and you’re wiser than you were yesterday. That counts for something!

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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