Not everyone wants to be in a relationship and not everyone wants to be single. They are two different worlds. But getting the best out of both of these experiences can be crucial for your happiness. Yes, we all want to be happy, whether we are in a relationship or not.
Despite what some people may think, taking time out to be on your own can help you to become a better person and allow you to be ready for the challenges a new relationship will bring. Being single for a long time can actually be really helpful in preparing you for your next relationship. Here are some reasons why:
1. You are able to establish new standards
Being single can sometimes make it easier to be more picky and to set clearer standards for yourself. This allows you to be able to learn what you really want in a partner and to identify that person when they come along.
2. You are mentally stronger
Being single gives you a level of independence. This boosts your mental strength and your willingness to cope with challenges. You don’t fuss about the small stuff because you are able to see these things in a different light, allowing you to become a person more capable of thriving in a relationship.
3. You have more confidence
Being single definitely helps you to feel more secure in certain aspects of your life. Because of your confidence, you don’t enter a new relationship because you are insecure or feel inferior; rather you do so because you seek someone who will complement your life. You have your self-esteem in check and as such, you are able to deal effectively with anything that might harm your self-confidence.
4. You have something to offer your partner
Yes, being single can help to strengthen many of your life skills. You are more structured, and organised, and your life skills are something that you can offer a partner, helping them to remain content and feel supported.
5. You are not afraid to take risks
Due to being single, you are often willing to try out many new things and this can lead you to develop a more holistic outlook on life. You are able to enjoy not feeling stuck- experiencing a great sense of freedom. Being in a relationship will not change this all of a sudden, or necessarily threaten your sense of freedom. Rather you will bring this adventurous set of instincts to your new relationship, and I bet your new partner will find it invigorating.
6. You can trust yourself
Whether your partner is looking for this quality or not, through being single for a long time you have become more trusting. You can trust yourself to make major decisions, while also allowing a partner to offer their opinions and/or support. You are not fickle or indecisive when making decisions about a range of matters. Because of this, you have been able to develop opinions and perspectives that can strengthen a relationship.
7. You know what you deserve
You can ask for the things that matter to you in your relationship. You are not silent or passive aggressive. If you want better sex, you can ask for it. If you want better communication, you can ask for it. You are not there to be taken for granted. Rather you make sure that you are valued in the relationship. Every person serious about a relationship wants a partner who is actively engaged with making the relationship harmonious and enjoyable.
8. You know the hidden elements in a relationship
Being single exposed you to what is necessary in your world- and what might be missing in your world too. Entering a relationship makes you discover a new angle on your life. Yes, you know what you need and how a relationship can help you to get these things. Thus, because of these discoveries, you can value a relationship for what it offers you.
9. You don’t have any limitations
While some people may feel trapped by an obligation to pursue marriage/ a serious long-term relationship, this is not the case for you. You have stayed single for so long that you can now navigate almost any obstacle or sharp corner with confidence. You are able to discover and learn, rather than getting stuck and lost in self doubt. You are a survivor and being single for so long has prepared you well for the challenges any new relationship will bring.
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