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9 Reasons Staying Single For A Long Time Will Boost Your Next Relationship

9 Reasons Staying Single For A Long Time Will Boost Your Next Relationship

Not everyone wants to be in a relationship and not everyone wants to be single. They are two different worlds. But getting the best out of both of these experiences can be crucial for your happiness. Yes, we all want to be happy, whether we are in a relationship or not.

Despite what some people may think, taking time out to be on your own can help you to become a better person and allow you to be ready for the challenges a new relationship will bring. Being single for a long time can actually be really helpful in preparing you for your next relationship. Here are some reasons why:

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1. You are able to establish new standards

Being single can sometimes make it easier to be more picky and to set clearer standards for yourself. This allows you to be able to learn what you really want in a partner and to identify that person when they come along.

2. You are mentally stronger

Being single gives you a level of independence. This boosts your mental strength and your willingness to cope with challenges. You don’t fuss about the small stuff because you are able to see these things in a different light, allowing you to become a person more capable of thriving in a relationship.

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3. You have more confidence

Being single definitely helps you to feel more secure in certain aspects of your life. Because of your confidence, you don’t enter a new relationship because you are insecure or feel inferior; rather you do so because you seek someone who will complement your life. You have your self-esteem in check and as such, you are able to deal effectively with anything that might harm your self-confidence.

4. You have something to offer your partner

Yes, being single can help to strengthen many of your life skills. You are more structured, and organised, and your life skills are something that you can offer a partner, helping them to remain content and feel supported.

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5. You are not afraid to take risks

Due to being single, you are often willing to try out many new things and this can lead you to develop a more holistic outlook on life. You are able to enjoy not feeling stuck- experiencing a great sense of freedom. Being in a relationship will not change this all of a sudden, or necessarily threaten your sense of freedom. Rather you will bring this adventurous set of instincts to your new relationship, and I bet your new partner will find it invigorating.

6. You can trust yourself

Whether your partner is looking for this quality or not, through being single for a long time you have become more trusting. You can trust yourself to make major decisions, while also allowing a partner to offer their opinions and/or support. You are not fickle or indecisive when making decisions about a range of matters. Because of this, you have been able to develop opinions and perspectives that can strengthen a relationship.

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7. You know what you deserve

You can ask for the things that matter to you in your relationship. You are not silent or passive aggressive. If you want better sex, you can ask for it. If you want better communication, you can ask for it. You are not there to be taken for granted. Rather you make sure that you are valued in the relationship. Every person serious about a relationship wants a partner who is actively engaged with making the relationship harmonious and enjoyable.

8. You know the hidden elements in a relationship

Being single exposed you to what is necessary in your world- and what might be missing in your world too. Entering a relationship makes you discover a new angle on your life. Yes, you know what you need and how a relationship can help you to get these things. Thus, because of these discoveries, you can value a relationship for what it offers you.

9. You don’t have any limitations

While some people may feel trapped by an obligation to pursue marriage/ a serious long-term relationship, this is not the case for you. You have stayed single for so long that you can now navigate almost any obstacle or sharp corner with confidence. You are able to discover and learn, rather than getting stuck and lost in self doubt. You are a survivor and being single for so long has prepared you well for the challenges any new relationship will bring.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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