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9 Reasons Staying Single For A Long Time Will Boost Your Next Relationship

9 Reasons Staying Single For A Long Time Will Boost Your Next Relationship

Not everyone wants to be in a relationship and not everyone wants to be single. They are two different worlds. But getting the best out of both of these experiences can be crucial for your happiness. Yes, we all want to be happy, whether we are in a relationship or not.

Despite what some people may think, taking time out to be on your own can help you to become a better person and allow you to be ready for the challenges a new relationship will bring. Being single for a long time can actually be really helpful in preparing you for your next relationship. Here are some reasons why:

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1. You are able to establish new standards

Being single can sometimes make it easier to be more picky and to set clearer standards for yourself. This allows you to be able to learn what you really want in a partner and to identify that person when they come along.

2. You are mentally stronger

Being single gives you a level of independence. This boosts your mental strength and your willingness to cope with challenges. You don’t fuss about the small stuff because you are able to see these things in a different light, allowing you to become a person more capable of thriving in a relationship.

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3. You have more confidence

Being single definitely helps you to feel more secure in certain aspects of your life. Because of your confidence, you don’t enter a new relationship because you are insecure or feel inferior; rather you do so because you seek someone who will complement your life. You have your self-esteem in check and as such, you are able to deal effectively with anything that might harm your self-confidence.

4. You have something to offer your partner

Yes, being single can help to strengthen many of your life skills. You are more structured, and organised, and your life skills are something that you can offer a partner, helping them to remain content and feel supported.

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5. You are not afraid to take risks

Due to being single, you are often willing to try out many new things and this can lead you to develop a more holistic outlook on life. You are able to enjoy not feeling stuck- experiencing a great sense of freedom. Being in a relationship will not change this all of a sudden, or necessarily threaten your sense of freedom. Rather you will bring this adventurous set of instincts to your new relationship, and I bet your new partner will find it invigorating.

6. You can trust yourself

Whether your partner is looking for this quality or not, through being single for a long time you have become more trusting. You can trust yourself to make major decisions, while also allowing a partner to offer their opinions and/or support. You are not fickle or indecisive when making decisions about a range of matters. Because of this, you have been able to develop opinions and perspectives that can strengthen a relationship.

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7. You know what you deserve

You can ask for the things that matter to you in your relationship. You are not silent or passive aggressive. If you want better sex, you can ask for it. If you want better communication, you can ask for it. You are not there to be taken for granted. Rather you make sure that you are valued in the relationship. Every person serious about a relationship wants a partner who is actively engaged with making the relationship harmonious and enjoyable.

8. You know the hidden elements in a relationship

Being single exposed you to what is necessary in your world- and what might be missing in your world too. Entering a relationship makes you discover a new angle on your life. Yes, you know what you need and how a relationship can help you to get these things. Thus, because of these discoveries, you can value a relationship for what it offers you.

9. You don’t have any limitations

While some people may feel trapped by an obligation to pursue marriage/ a serious long-term relationship, this is not the case for you. You have stayed single for so long that you can now navigate almost any obstacle or sharp corner with confidence. You are able to discover and learn, rather than getting stuck and lost in self doubt. You are a survivor and being single for so long has prepared you well for the challenges any new relationship will bring.

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Casey Imafidon

Specialized in motivation and personal growth, providing advice to make readers fulfilled and spurred on to achieve all that they desire in life.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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