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Struggles Only Sarcastic People Would Know

Struggles Only Sarcastic People Would Know

The word sarcasm originated from the word sarkazein, meaning to tear flesh. Today that would be seen as a complete exaggeration as sarcasm is used in everyday small talk. We all use sarcasm for various reasons, yet we use it the most when talking with our closest friends. Of course we don’t intentionally “tear the flesh” of our friends- it’s all in good humor.

Mastering sarcasm is so satisfying; yet speaking in a language that is foreign to many other people can come with a range of struggles. Life is too short to be taken seriously, and as sarcasm-lovers, we take that statement to heart. Here are some struggles that you will definitely relate to if you’re a sarcastic person:

Our Sarcasm Gets Mistaken for Ignorance

When someone states a fact and we respond with “no way!” or “who knew?”, we don’t actually mean it. However, sometimes people don’t know we are kidding and they just stare at us with a look of sympathy. The puns we make aren’t always our real opinions either.

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We Have to Tell People When We are Being Serious

Most of the time, people don’t take what we say seriously because we joke around a lot. But when we do give someone an honest compliment, then they think we are making fun of them. The compliments we give are usually followed by the phrase, “Really, I’m being serious.”

We are Bad at Nailing First Impressions

Being sarcastic is our way of connecting with people. But sometimes it can be too much for someone who doesn’t know us, and then we come off as rude or obnoxious- when in reality, we are just having fun. Our sense of humor is an “acquired taste”. So when it comes to making friends, essentially, our only choice is to find people who are just as brutal as we are.

We Forget That We’re Being Sarcastic

Sarcasm slides out of our mouths so often that, sometimes, we forget we are doing it. So when people ask us if we are being sarcastic, we don’t really know.

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People Immediately Know How We Feel

It takes a lot for us to get truly excited, because usually we respond to activities our friends are going wild about with an, “Oh great”, or “That’ll be real fun, can’t wait.” Even when we are slightly excited about something, we express it with sarcasm, saying something like, “I don’t know. I’ll have to think about it because I only really, really, really, really, really want to do it.” We just don’t understand how people get excited about the most basic things. But since we have a reply for every statement, everyone knows how we feel quickly.

We Have a Hard Time Being Around Super Sweet People

We get nervous around emotional and sensitive people because we are afraid we will say something and accidentally hurt their feelings in a matter of seconds. To be safe, we have to say the words, “I’m just kidding,” after every sentence. When people don’t understand our sense of humor, we do a lot of laughing by ourselves.

We Need a Font Style for Sarcasm

Texting our friends is usually safe. Texting other people puts us at risk of getting our words taken the wrong way. I don’t like emojis, and italics don’t always get the job done. We need a font that conveys our sarcasm.

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We Use Sarcasm to Cover Things Up

We use sarcasm while talking to people we don’t like. While on the opposite end of the spectrum, we use it to humor those we do like. Whenever people hurt our feelings or irritate us, we usually have a comment for them and they don’t know whether it’s sarcastic or not. But we’ll never admit that we deal with bad emotions through sarcasm rather than just simply admitting we’re hurt. We also use sarcasm when we are having a horrible time keeping a conversation going.

We Know We’re Walking on Thin Ice

We are always a little concerned that we are going to get slapped in the face for saying the wrong thing, at the wrong time, to the wrong person. We know we are playing a dangerous game, but we play it anyway.

We Pretty Much Live Two Separate Lives

At work, we are the most considerate, polite people that ever existed. Around our friends, we’re downright honest. I mean, we can’t be ourselves at work. We would get fired for sure if we talked to our coworkers like we talk to our friends. Nothing is more satisfying than finding someone who is as sarcastic as us, as we are with them right away.

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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