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Struggles Only Sarcastic People Would Know

Struggles Only Sarcastic People Would Know

The word sarcasm originated from the word sarkazein, meaning to tear flesh. Today that would be seen as a complete exaggeration as sarcasm is used in everyday small talk. We all use sarcasm for various reasons, yet we use it the most when talking with our closest friends. Of course we don’t intentionally “tear the flesh” of our friends- it’s all in good humor.

Mastering sarcasm is so satisfying; yet speaking in a language that is foreign to many other people can come with a range of struggles. Life is too short to be taken seriously, and as sarcasm-lovers, we take that statement to heart. Here are some struggles that you will definitely relate to if you’re a sarcastic person:

Our Sarcasm Gets Mistaken for Ignorance

When someone states a fact and we respond with “no way!” or “who knew?”, we don’t actually mean it. However, sometimes people don’t know we are kidding and they just stare at us with a look of sympathy. The puns we make aren’t always our real opinions either.

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We Have to Tell People When We are Being Serious

Most of the time, people don’t take what we say seriously because we joke around a lot. But when we do give someone an honest compliment, then they think we are making fun of them. The compliments we give are usually followed by the phrase, “Really, I’m being serious.”

We are Bad at Nailing First Impressions

Being sarcastic is our way of connecting with people. But sometimes it can be too much for someone who doesn’t know us, and then we come off as rude or obnoxious- when in reality, we are just having fun. Our sense of humor is an “acquired taste”. So when it comes to making friends, essentially, our only choice is to find people who are just as brutal as we are.

We Forget That We’re Being Sarcastic

Sarcasm slides out of our mouths so often that, sometimes, we forget we are doing it. So when people ask us if we are being sarcastic, we don’t really know.

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People Immediately Know How We Feel

It takes a lot for us to get truly excited, because usually we respond to activities our friends are going wild about with an, “Oh great”, or “That’ll be real fun, can’t wait.” Even when we are slightly excited about something, we express it with sarcasm, saying something like, “I don’t know. I’ll have to think about it because I only really, really, really, really, really want to do it.” We just don’t understand how people get excited about the most basic things. But since we have a reply for every statement, everyone knows how we feel quickly.

We Have a Hard Time Being Around Super Sweet People

We get nervous around emotional and sensitive people because we are afraid we will say something and accidentally hurt their feelings in a matter of seconds. To be safe, we have to say the words, “I’m just kidding,” after every sentence. When people don’t understand our sense of humor, we do a lot of laughing by ourselves.

We Need a Font Style for Sarcasm

Texting our friends is usually safe. Texting other people puts us at risk of getting our words taken the wrong way. I don’t like emojis, and italics don’t always get the job done. We need a font that conveys our sarcasm.

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We Use Sarcasm to Cover Things Up

We use sarcasm while talking to people we don’t like. While on the opposite end of the spectrum, we use it to humor those we do like. Whenever people hurt our feelings or irritate us, we usually have a comment for them and they don’t know whether it’s sarcastic or not. But we’ll never admit that we deal with bad emotions through sarcasm rather than just simply admitting we’re hurt. We also use sarcasm when we are having a horrible time keeping a conversation going.

We Know We’re Walking on Thin Ice

We are always a little concerned that we are going to get slapped in the face for saying the wrong thing, at the wrong time, to the wrong person. We know we are playing a dangerous game, but we play it anyway.

We Pretty Much Live Two Separate Lives

At work, we are the most considerate, polite people that ever existed. Around our friends, we’re downright honest. I mean, we can’t be ourselves at work. We would get fired for sure if we talked to our coworkers like we talk to our friends. Nothing is more satisfying than finding someone who is as sarcastic as us, as we are with them right away.

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Last Updated on January 16, 2020

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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