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10 Things You Shouldn’t Hide Anymore, No Matter How Others View You

10 Things You Shouldn’t Hide Anymore, No Matter How Others View You

I know that when I was growing up, I was small, skinny and wasn’t good in sports. I hid a lot. I didn’t want my peers to know my home because they would assume my parents weren’t so wealthy. I missed out on some fun parts because I was hiding. But guess it did not matter much. It only diminished my presence rather than make me blossom. This I have learned all these years, there is really no reason to hide what gifts I have and who I really am.

“The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence.” – Charles Bukowski

1. You shouldn’t hide your intellectuality

You are knowledgeable. You are strong mentally and you see the world from a holistic angle. You are not one sided. You are not in a loss on what to say to your environment. Yet you hide it. Yet you are afraid that once you say something people will pose a defensive threat.

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2. You shouldn’t hide your awareness

You are well traveled and have been to several places. You are a reservoir of experience and what exciting thoughts you could share. Let other people know that you have some social substance and that you can see beyond their facade. Let them gain from your experience and your awareness.

3. You shouldn’t hide your intensity

There is passion and energy in you. And yes this can be intimidating to those who do not have it. you should flaunt it and get out of the way to prove that what changes everything isn’t simply sitting down and folding arms.

4. You shouldn’t hide your beauty

Yes you are sexy, but you hide that figure in long overalls. Yes you have the right curves, but you prefer to cover them in inappropriate clothes. You got the lovely eyes, yet you hide them in sunglasses. There is no point in hiding such things as your looks. Flaunt it and use it as a weapon for success.

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5. You shouldn’t hide your good nature

You are kind and you have a caring personality. You warm up to others and you really wish the world was a better place. But you hide your good-nature spirit because you are afraid the world will take advantage of who you are.

6. You shouldn’t hide your scars

“Once you’ve accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you.”
― George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones

Whether emotional or physical scars, having those scars shows that you have passed through a funnel of becoming. You are not who you were and somehow these experiences have made you tough. Let the world see your scars and listen to your story, who knows what value you would have rendered?

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7. You shouldn’t hide your humor

People have lost their sense of humor because they feel the world around them wants them to be so serious. Laughter and humor is good for the soul. Why don’t you share your brightness and offer it to the world.

8. You shouldn’t hide your authenticity

You are real. But certain people love lies and think that the fake ones are a great sell. But you do not need to be like one of those. Be who you are. Be real and genuine to yourself and to those who surround you. Such truthfulness would add greater character to who you are.

9. You shouldn’t hide your beliefs

It is easy to be intimidated by those who don’t share your thoughts, opinions or beliefs on certain subjects. Because you want to gain acceptance by these ones, you suddenly get a cold feet and hide your beliefs. You stick to other people’s opinion because you do not know what they will say when they listen to what you have to say. Well it is either they respect you or they are not deserving of being around you. Air your beliefs and never hide what opinion you have on a topic.

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10. You shouldn’t hide your skills

Whatever talents or skills the Creator has blessed you with please use it as a contribution to the development of our world. People with great skills are rare, but the world needs them. The world needs you too.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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