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If You Have These 10 So-called Bad Qualities, Congratulations! You’re Better Than You Think

If You Have These 10 So-called Bad Qualities, Congratulations! You’re Better Than You Think

It is hard to know what is good or bad these days when it comes to what qualities you possess. What strong quality applies to you may be what will drag you to become successful. And whatever the world has to think or say about those qualities shouldn’t bother you. Actually, these so called bad qualities are what bring out the shine in you. Rather than be worried about the negative implications of these qualities, you should consider the amazing potentials it has for you. Here are so called bad qualities that could offer you a defining edge in life.

1. You want to have an answer for everything

Many may consider you to be nosy, pushy or a busy body. But in many cases being curious doesn’t always kill the cat, but makes it more astute and more sly. You have to know a lot and reach for knowledge. You can’t really become a better person when you are sticking to what you are. Focus on what you can be and ask the right questions.

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2. You love taking risks

You like adventures. And you won’t just be settled in the safe zone. People will ask you why you are always chasing after the thrill and going above the bar. Why don’t you simply settle in the safe zone and be like everyone else. But how will you discover new things when you are always playing it safe? Discovering yourself and the world around you requires some attempt at new things and taking risks.

3. You are not okay with good enough

Yes others feel you are successful already and they would want to be like you. But you know that good is not enough. You want to strive to become better and reach higher heights. You know that what stays or is content slowly simmers away.

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4. You are not static

People like to predict what others can do. They want to be able to conclude that Jack is indecisive or difficult. But what if they are not able to predict what you can do or who you are? Many people are really awed or intimidated by mystery. But for you being unpredictable is cool and this serves your long term purpose.

5. You are proud

Pride is different from arrogance. You have some ego and try to keep your self-esteem in check. You don’t compromise easily. You will only bulge for the right reasons. But you understand what your worth is and you wouldn’t trade it for trash.

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6. You grieve easily

You are emotional. You don’t want to be hurt and do not want to hurt others. Many consider you to be feeble and weak. But you are not. You can empathize with other people and can connect with their pain or tribulations. This makes you someone that attracts rather than repulses.

7. You are lazy

People think that it takes hard work to be successful, but rather this is not always true. There are many hard workers out there working their knuckles with nothing to show for it. Rather than think energy, think strategy.

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8. You are pessimistic

You don’t see everything from a positive light. The world wants to listen to a story of persons who are positive. But what if you are jumping into everything with optimism and not giving yourself the benefit of doubt? You may lose so much when you are not counting the risks and saying enough “No.”

9. You are rebellious

You are not okay with the status quo. You like to rebel and try something disruptive. Whether it is to gain attention or to win acceptance, you will always go out of the conventional into the unconventional.

10. You are shy

Many people will view shyness as a weakness. But with being shy comes the strength of being conservative and reflective. You are also observant and a better listener.

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Last Updated on June 18, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for building relationships that are meaningful and fulfilling:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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