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30 Quotes On How To Care Less About What Others Think

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30 Quotes On How To Care Less About What Others Think

You really cannot please anyone. You are only going to get exhausted and burnt out in the process. Yet, in a world where everyone wants to get a piece of you, it is very difficult to say no to a lot of things. But at the end of the day, what does it do to your self-esteem and personality? We tend to dress, talk and pursue our goals based on what is the conventional and what is termed to be the “popular opinion.” And thus we miss out on doing the one thing that makes us unique. We have to live and give ourselves that treatment we deserve and ignore all that noise that is trying to take that piece of us. If we could shut the world out and listen to our innermost voice, imagine the possibilities of steering ourselves to the goals we so cherish. We can be happy and discover ourselves. Besides we will be more valuable to the world around us. Here are 30 quotes that will give us the inspiration to satisfactorily embrace ourselves.

1. “Accept who you are; and revel in it.” – Mitch Albom

2. “I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.” – Mahatma Gandhi

3. “Wanting to be someone else is a waste of who you are.” – Kurt Cobain

4. “Just be yourself, there is no one better.” – Taylor Swift

5. “Never dull your shine for somebody else.” ― Tyra Banks

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6. “And no one will listen to us until we listen to ourselves.” ― Marianne Williamson

7. “I feel that the simplicity of life is just being yourself.” – Bobby Brown

8. “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” – Steve Jobs

9. “The better you feel about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off.”― Robert Hand

10. “One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.” ― Shannon L. Alder

11. “Don’t worry about who doesn’t like you, who has more, or who’s doing what.”― Erma Bombeck

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12. “You see, the point is that the strongest man in the world is he who stands most alone.” ― Henrk Ibsen

13. “Imitation is suicide.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

14. “Your self-worth is determined by you. You don’t have to depend on someone telling you who you are.” – Beyoncé

15. “Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu

16. “Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” – Oscar Wilde

17. “You are not what others think you are. You are what God knows you are.” – Shannon L.Alder

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18. “Most people just want to see you fall, that’s more reason to stand tall.” ― Emma Michelle

19. “My dear, I don’t give a damn.” – Margaret Mitchell

20. “Live life as though nobody is watching, and express yourself as though everyone is listening.”
― Nelson Mandela

21. “Happiness and confidence are the prettiest things you can wear” ― Taylor Swift

22. “They can’t scare me, if I scare them first.” – Lady Gaga

“23. If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” – RuPaul

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24. “I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.” – Rita Mae Brown

25. “Self respect, self worth and self love, all start with self. Stop looking outside of yourself for your value.”― Rob Liano

26. “Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure. Confidence is the greatest friend.” ―Lao Tzu

27. “If You believe in yourself you can reach everything you want.” – Kees Broos

28. “Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.” – Judy Garland

29. “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde

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30. “Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.” – Mark Twain

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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