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10 Signs Your Life is On Track- Even If You Feel Like There’s Something Holding You Back

10 Signs Your Life is On Track- Even If You Feel Like There’s Something Holding You Back

People think that happiness is found in the external things in life.

They forget that the key to becoming what they want to be, and to achieving the satisfaction they desire, is from what they already possess inside themselves. They are anxious for the things they have not achieved or gained- rather than building on what they currently have.

Channeling your energy into the present can place your life on track and push away all the negative thoughts and fears surrounding you.

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You may feel that certain things are holding you back, but you only have to check out these signs to know if you are on track to becoming the success you want to be:

1. You are not envious of others

You are content with your position in life and so you are not consumed with envy. Rather than compare yourself with others, you are interested in seeing them make their goals happen too. In fact you are willing to lend a hand in helping them to achieve what they want to achieve. You can find the good in others and see them as fellow game-changers, and this rubs off on you positively.

2. You get a good night’s sleep

You sleep well. You are not addicted to painkillers and sleeping pills. You know that you have plenty of reasons to be at peace with yourself. You are not consumed in fear and worries; even when things are challenging, you know everything will work out for the best.

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3. You are guilt-free

You can accept forgiveness and apologize to those you have wronged. You also know that you don’t have any reason to hold grudges. You are focused on mending fences rather than building obstacles that prevent you from having functional relationships. Thus, you are guilt-free and don’t feel the need to become obsessive about potential problems when people don’t behave as well as they could towards you.

4. You value yourself

You know that you matter. Because your self-esteem is in check, you worry less about what others think about you. You know that you are essential to the success of your environment, relationships and career. You are not looking for validation elsewhere: you already have found it within yourself.

5. You believe that the future will take care of itself

You know the future will handle itself, so you know you don’t have to become obsessive about controlling every potential outcome. You are not nervous or anxious about it. Whatever is happening to you now is simply a stepping stone to get you to where you should be. Rather than being consumed in fear about uncertain situations, you focus on the certainty of possibilities arising now and into the future.

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6. You engage in personal growth

Every day you work hard to become a better version of yourself. You are not stuck where you were yesterday. You want to improve and you are eager for change. You live for it and consistently put some effort into making that change happen.

7. You can say “no”

You don’t say “yes” to everything that comes your way. You are selective about how you use your energy and time. You don’t engage in everything that that you are offered because you know this can be wasteful. Rather, you focus on the targets that will make you a more accomplished and satisfied person.

8. You can take charge

You are confident in your abilities. You understand the importance of challenging events as phases of transition and change. You do not get consumed by these external factors, so you are able to focus on the importance of being the person that ultimately accepts responsibility for your own life.

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9. You are driven by the goal of adding value

You want to attain things, but it isn’t just specific results that drive you. Rather, you are concerned with what you can give to make certain outcomes happen. Instead of complaining about what you are receiving, you are fully engaged in what you are giving out to others and the environment around you.

10. You are living- not just waiting

You are not just waiting for things to happen to you. You are living and taking every day one step at a time. In doing so, without desperately searching, you are discovering- and gradually reaching- your destination. Such an awakening allows you to enjoy the present moment, instead of fussing over the places you have not yet reached.

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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