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10 Signs Your Life is On Track- Even If You Feel Like There’s Something Holding You Back

10 Signs Your Life is On Track- Even If You Feel Like There’s Something Holding You Back

People think that happiness is found in the external things in life.

They forget that the key to becoming what they want to be, and to achieving the satisfaction they desire, is from what they already possess inside themselves. They are anxious for the things they have not achieved or gained- rather than building on what they currently have.

Channeling your energy into the present can place your life on track and push away all the negative thoughts and fears surrounding you.

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You may feel that certain things are holding you back, but you only have to check out these signs to know if you are on track to becoming the success you want to be:

1. You are not envious of others

You are content with your position in life and so you are not consumed with envy. Rather than compare yourself with others, you are interested in seeing them make their goals happen too. In fact you are willing to lend a hand in helping them to achieve what they want to achieve. You can find the good in others and see them as fellow game-changers, and this rubs off on you positively.

2. You get a good night’s sleep

You sleep well. You are not addicted to painkillers and sleeping pills. You know that you have plenty of reasons to be at peace with yourself. You are not consumed in fear and worries; even when things are challenging, you know everything will work out for the best.

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3. You are guilt-free

You can accept forgiveness and apologize to those you have wronged. You also know that you don’t have any reason to hold grudges. You are focused on mending fences rather than building obstacles that prevent you from having functional relationships. Thus, you are guilt-free and don’t feel the need to become obsessive about potential problems when people don’t behave as well as they could towards you.

4. You value yourself

You know that you matter. Because your self-esteem is in check, you worry less about what others think about you. You know that you are essential to the success of your environment, relationships and career. You are not looking for validation elsewhere: you already have found it within yourself.

5. You believe that the future will take care of itself

You know the future will handle itself, so you know you don’t have to become obsessive about controlling every potential outcome. You are not nervous or anxious about it. Whatever is happening to you now is simply a stepping stone to get you to where you should be. Rather than being consumed in fear about uncertain situations, you focus on the certainty of possibilities arising now and into the future.

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6. You engage in personal growth

Every day you work hard to become a better version of yourself. You are not stuck where you were yesterday. You want to improve and you are eager for change. You live for it and consistently put some effort into making that change happen.

7. You can say “no”

You don’t say “yes” to everything that comes your way. You are selective about how you use your energy and time. You don’t engage in everything that that you are offered because you know this can be wasteful. Rather, you focus on the targets that will make you a more accomplished and satisfied person.

8. You can take charge

You are confident in your abilities. You understand the importance of challenging events as phases of transition and change. You do not get consumed by these external factors, so you are able to focus on the importance of being the person that ultimately accepts responsibility for your own life.

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9. You are driven by the goal of adding value

You want to attain things, but it isn’t just specific results that drive you. Rather, you are concerned with what you can give to make certain outcomes happen. Instead of complaining about what you are receiving, you are fully engaged in what you are giving out to others and the environment around you.

10. You are living- not just waiting

You are not just waiting for things to happen to you. You are living and taking every day one step at a time. In doing so, without desperately searching, you are discovering- and gradually reaching- your destination. Such an awakening allows you to enjoy the present moment, instead of fussing over the places you have not yet reached.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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