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Men’s Grooming: 8 Simple Ways To Look Sharp and Smart Instantly

Men’s Grooming: 8 Simple Ways To Look Sharp and Smart Instantly

It is true that you need to invest in your appearance, especially if working directly with clients, investors and business partners. No matter how old you are, you certainly need to dress maturely. Men usually confuse youthful and trendy clothes with a teenage style, and think that wearing “mature” suits means wearing old-fashioned ones. Follow these tips to find out how you can easily look both smart and sharp.

1. Layering is both functional and stylish

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    “All it takes are a few simple outfits. And there’s one secret – the simpler the better.”– Cary Grant

    Some men are afraid of mixing different pieces, because they don’t know how to match them. Even if you think you will make a mistake, start with wearing simple sweater with a white shirt underneath. It’s a basic trick to make your outfit more interesting. As the less is more, don’t try to combine completely different pieces.

    If you still think that layering is ridiculous, let’s consider some practical sides. The main purpose of layering is heat retention. If it gets warm, you can take off one layer and still look sharp and smart. Men sweat more than women, so if you are constantly on the move, more layers will help in managing it.

    Moreover, when matching different clothes, make sure that it is comfortable and it allows you to move freely. Except summer, all seasons require layering, so learn how to successfully combine clothing, and still manage to preserve your unique style.

    2. Accessories reflect your personality

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      “To achieve the nonchalance which is absolutely necessary for a man, one article at least must not match.” – Hardy Amies

      Many men don’t feel like business suits allow them to showcase their personality. If you are one of them, then know that you just haven’t found the right fit and style. However, if you are still waiting to come across the chosen one, I advise you to start with accessories. You don’t need to spend a fortune to look sharp, but the one thing that will require money is a perfect watch. It’s not as superficial as you might think – the purpose isn’t showing off your expensive watch in order to be seen as a successful man. These little things allow us to express ourselves and show our true nature. There are tons of different watches, and whether you are sci-fi addict or a vintage gentleman style lover, I am sure you will find the right one.

      If you are a smoker, know that it doesn’t suit any style. It may have suited James Dean, but it’s not professional to have your suit smell like cigarettes all the time. Try out some substitutions for cigarettes, and your lungs will be thankful as well. If you are a chain smoker, try out some e-cigarettes that will look smarter than holding a smelly one. If you still cannot give up smoking, have one of these electronic cigarettes, which will be a good addition to your style. Even celebrities such as Johnny Depp, Leonardo DiCaprio and Jack Nicholson have turned to vaping.

      3. Take care of yourself – style your beard and mustache

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        “My mother always says people should be able to take care of themselves, even if they’re rich and important.” – Frances Hodgson Burnett

        If you have a beard or a mustache, you need to take care of them. It isn’t sexy and masculine to look like a complete mess. Men usually turn to growing a beard in order to avoid shaving every day. However, just having one won’t make you look sharp and smart – you need to learn how to maintain both your mustache and your beard. Simple trimming can make you look elegant and sophisticated. Therefore, you don’t need a fortune to make yourself look professional and stylish – all you need is a bit of grooming.

        The same goes for hair. When considering a new haircut, make sure it reflects who you are. You want to look good when you look at yourself in the mirror. If you don’t have time for styling your hair in the morning, aim for messy boyish haircuts.

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        Personal hygiene is also of great importance. You’d be surprised how good antiperspirant and white teeth can boost your confidence and overall mood, which will make you look comfortable in your clothes. Some men suffer excessive sweating, so it can make them anxious when working in the office, where you cannot adjust the temperature.

        So, consider layering your clothing and if it is becoming a real health issue that prevents you from doing your everyday activities, you should consider some laser treatments. Being healthy and neat are always trendy, and they will make you look sharp instantly.

        4. A nice bag and wallet will make you instantly stylish

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          “Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say, and not giving a damn.” – Gore Vidal

          You might think that carrying a bag is just too much trouble, but it is really practical. Once you start carrying one, you won’t be able to leave it at home. There are many designs and types of bags – all you need to do is find the perfect one for you. From a vintage briefcase to a trendy messenger bag, you’ll make your life easier and definitely upgrade your style. Choose the bag based both on what you need to store, but also your personal taste. A good bag will enable you to carry a laptop, iPad, personal items and even an extra shirt.

          Throw away your high-school Velcro wallet, and purchase a new leather one. Pay attention to its functionality and choose the right one according to your needs. If you travel a lot, then purchase the one where you can store your passport, business cards, ID, and money.

          Choose wisely, because a nice bag and wallet will take your style to the next level in no time. If you saw “The Kingsman,” you know that a true gentleman needs to have a great suit, shoes, a bag and a black umbrella, which matches every style.

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          5. Posture adds to the overall appearance

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            “Elegance is usually confused with superficiality, fashion, lack of depth. This is a serious mistake: human beings need to have elegance in their actions and in their posture because this word is synonymous with good taste, amiability, equilibrium and harmony.” – Paolo Coelho

            You can wear a well-tailored suit and expensive shoes, but if you have bad posture you won’t look good. You are also more prone to experiencing chronic headaches and back pain. Practice standing properly in order to maintain the health of your body. When at the office, find a comfortable chair and use a foot rest in order to support your back.

            Good posture will make the clothes fit better, and will certainly boost your confidence. You cannot expect clothes to shape you and define you. Elegance comes from within, and the way you carry yourself is what matters. Keep your head high, back straight and chest out – you’ll be amazed at how much better you feel.

            6. Plan in advance to avoid style fails

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              “A man should look as if he has bought his clothes with intelligence, put them on with care and then forgot all about them.” – Hardy Amies

              If you don’t have a planned outfit, there is nothing that can make you look sharp instantly. You don’t need to have an expensive suit, but you need to plan some outfits in advance, because it might happen that you get up for work and realize that nothing in your wardrobe matches, and you don’t have enough time to wash a shirt that would be perfect. Because of that, you need  to plan some of your outfits in advance. During the weekend, you can put each outfit on a hanger or just go through clothes and plan for the next two days. This will also help you to get ready quickly and not waste your time.

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              Also, when buying clothes, try to choose ones which match the ones you already have. That way, you’ll always have a bunch of items in your wardrobe that match. Even if you opt for some different items of clothing, make sure you buy the whole look, so that with time you’ll have many possibilities to choose from and get ready in no time.

              7. Learn some basics

               
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                “A well-tied tie is the first serious step in life.” – Oscar Wilde

                Every now and then our clothes need quick fixes such as sewing a button, closing rips and even applying patches. Don’t spend money on these things, because you can easily do them on your own. Applying patches can seem complicated, but as soon as you learn how to do it, you will be able to fix your clothes in 5 minutes. Moreover, having a messy tie is unacceptable, and a well-tied tie will improve your entire look.

                If you have leather shoes, know that you need to take care of them. They’ll last as long as you maintain and polish them. In order to prevent drying use a leather conditioner, and if there are stains, use a damp cloth. The same goes for wallets and bags. Leather is a quality material, and it requires a special care, so don’t neglect it. Knowing some basics will enable you to repair and maintain your sharp look without much effort.

                8. Feeling good about yourself can make you both sharp and smart instantly

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                  “Fashions fade, style is eternal.” – Yves Saint Laurent

                  Your style should reflect your personality. Feeling good in your own skin is the most important part of style. There is nothing you cannot do if you are happy with yourself. Not only you will feel better, but also you will boost your confidence, which will make you ready for new challenges. Don’t ever try to change who you are, but show your personality through style. The two most important things in fashion are that people are happy with what they are wearing and that they can be themselves. The smile is the only accessory that will make your style truly unique.

                  Featured photo credit: Dave Eckelman via flickr.com

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                  Last Updated on August 20, 2019

                  How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

                  How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

                  Your mind is the most powerful tool you have for the creation of good in your life, but if not used correctly, can also be the most destructive force in your life.

                  Your mind, more specifically, your thoughts, affect your perception and therefore, your interpretation of reality. (And here’s Why Your Perception Is Your Reality.)

                  I have heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially if they are unproductive, self-abusive and just a general waste of energy.

                  You can let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It is your mind, your thoughts; isn’t it time to take your power back? Isn’t it time to take control?

                  Choose to be the person who is actively, consciously thinking your thoughts. Become the master of your mind.

                  When you change your thoughts, you will change your feelings as well, and you will also eliminate the triggers that set off those feelings. Both of these outcomes provide you with a greater level of peace in your mind.

                  I currently have few thoughts that are not of my own choosing or a response from my reprogramming. I am the master of my mind, so now my mind is quite peaceful. Yours can be too!

                  Who Is Thinking My Thoughts?

                  Before you can become the master of your mind, you must recognize that you are currently at the mercy of several unwanted “squatters” living in your mind, and they are in charge of your thoughts. If you want to be the boss of them, you must know who they are and what their motivation is, and then you can take charge and evict them.

                  Here are four of the “squatters” in your head that create the most unhealthy and unproductive thoughts:

                  1. The Inner Critic

                  This is your constant abuser who is often a conglomeration of:

                  • Other people’s words; many times your parents.
                  • Thoughts you have created based on your own or other peoples expectations.
                  • Comparing yourself to other people, including those in the media.
                  • The things you told yourself as a result of painful experiences such as betrayal and rejection. Your interpretation creates your self-doubt and self-blame, which are most likely undeserved in cases of rejection and betrayal.

                  The Inner Critic is motivated by pain, low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance and lack of self-love.

                  Why else would this person abuse you? And since this person is actually you– why else would you abuse yourself? Why would you let anyone treat you this badly?

                  2. The Worrier

                  This person lives in the future; in the world of “what ifs.”

                  The Worrier is motivated by fear which is often irrational and with no basis for it. Occasionally, this person is motivated by fear that what happened in the past will happen again.

                  3. The Reactor or Trouble-Maker

                  This is the one that triggers anger, frustration and pain. These triggers stem from unhealed wounds of the past. Any experience that is even closely related to a past wound will set him off.

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                  This person can be set off by words or feelings, and can even be set off by sounds and smells.

                  The Reactor has no real motivation and has poor impulse control and is run by past programming that no longer serves you, if it ever did.

                  4. The Sleep Depriver

                  This can be a combination of any number of different squatters including the inner planner, the rehasher, and the ruminator, along with the inner critic and the worrier.

                  The Sleep Depriver’s motivation can be:

                  • As a reaction to silence, which he fights against
                  • Taking care of the business you neglected during the day
                  • Self-doubt, low self-esteem, insecurity and generalized anxiety
                  • As listed above for the inner critic and worrier

                  How can you control these squatters?

                  How to Master Your Mind

                  You are the thinker and the observer of your thoughts. You must pay attention to your thoughts so you can identify “who” is running the show; this will determine which technique you will want to use.

                  Begin each day with the intention of paying attention to your thoughts and catching yourself when you are thinking undesirable thoughts.

                  There are two ways to control your thoughts:

                  • Technique A – Interrupt and replace them
                  • Technique B – Eliminate them altogether

                  This second option is what is known as peace of mind!

                  The technique of interrupting and replacing is a means of reprogramming your subconscious mind. Eventually, the replacement thoughts will become the “go to” thoughts in the applicable situations.

                  Use Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier; and Technique B with the Reactor and Sleep Depriver.

                  For the Inner Critic

                  When you catch yourself thinking something negative about yourself (calling yourself names, disrespecting yourself, or berating yourself), interrupt it.

                  You can yell (in your mind), “Stop! No!” or, “Enough! I’m in control now.” Then, whatever your negative thought was about yourself, replace it with an opposite or counter thought or an affirmation that begins with “I am.”

                  For example, if your thought is, “I’m such a loser,” you can replace it with, “I am a Divine Creation of the Universal Spirit. I am a perfect spiritual being learning to master the human experience. I am a being of energy, light, and matter. I am magnificent, brilliant, and beautiful. I love and approve of myself just as I am.”

                  You can also have a dialogue with yourself with the intention of discrediting the ‘voice’ that created the thought, if you know whose voice it is:

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                  “Just because so-and-so said I was a loser doesn’t make it true. It was his or her opinion, not a statement of fact. Or maybe they were joking and I took it seriously because I’m insecure.”

                  If you recognize that you have recurring self-critical thoughts, you can write out or pre-plan your counter thoughts or affirmation so you can be ready. This is the first squatter you should evict, forcefully, if necessary:

                  • They rile up the Worrier.
                  • The names you call yourself become triggers when called those names by others, so he also maintains the presence of the Reactor.
                  • They are often present when you try to fall asleep so he perpetuates the Sleep Depriver.
                  • They are a bully and is verbally and emotionally abusive.
                  • They are the destroyer of self-esteem. They convince you that you’re not worthy. They’re a liar! In the interest of your self-worth, get them out!

                  Eliminate your worst critic and you will also diminish the presence of the other three squatters.

                  Replace them with your new best friends who support, encourage, and enhance your life. This is a presence you want in your mind.

                  For the Worrier

                  Prolonged anxiety is mentally, emotionally and physically unhealthy. It can have long-term health implications.

                  Fear initiates the fight or flight response, creates worry in the mind and creates anxiety in the body.

                  You should be able to recognize a “worry thought” immediately by how you feel. The physiological signs that the fight or flight response of fear has kicked in are:

                  • Increased heart rate, blood pressure, or surge of adrenaline
                  • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
                  • Muscles tense

                  Use the above stated method to interrupt any thought of worry and then replace it. But this time you will replace your thoughts of worry with thoughts of gratitude for the outcome you wish for.

                  If you believe in a higher power, this is the time to engage with it. Here is an example:

                  Instead of worrying about my loved ones traveling in bad weather, I say the following (I call it a prayer):

                  “Thank you great spirit for watching over _______. Thank you for watching over his/her car and keeping it safe, road-worthy, and free of maintenance issues without warning. Thank you for surrounding him/her with only safe, conscientious, and alert drivers. And thank you for keeping him/her safe, conscientious, and alert.”

                  Smile when you think about it or say it aloud, and phrase it in the present tense; both of these will help you feel it and possibly even start to believe it.

                  If you can visualize what you are praying for, the visualization will enhance the feeling so you will increase the impact in your vibrational field.

                  Now take a calming breath, slowly in through your nose, and slowly out through the mouth. Take as many as you like!

                  Replacing fearful thoughts with gratitude will decrease reactionary behavior, taking the steam out of the Reactor.

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                  For example:

                  If your child gets lost in the mall, the typical parental reaction that follows the fearful thoughts when finding them is to yell at them.

                  “I told you never to leave my sight.” This reaction just adds to the child’s fear level from being lost in the first place. Plus, it also teaches them that mom and/or dad will get mad when he or she makes a mistake, which may make them lie to you or not tell you things in the future.

                  Change those fearful thoughts when they happen:

                  “Thank You (your choice of Higher Power) for watching over my child and keeping him safe. Thank you for helping me find him soon.”

                  Then, when you see your child after this thought process, your only reaction will be gratitude, and that seems like a better alternative for all people involved.

                  For the Trouble-Maker, Reactor or Over-Reactor

                  Permanently eliminating this squatter will take a bit more attention and reflection after the fact to identify and heal the causes of the triggers; but until then, you can prevent the Reactor from getting out of control by initiating conscious breathing as soon as you recognize his presence.

                  The Reactor’s thoughts or feelings activate the fight or flight response just like with the Worrier. The physiological signs of his presence will be the same. With a little attention, you should be able to tell the difference between anxiety, anger, frustration, or pain:

                  • Increased heart rate and blood pressure; surge of adrenaline
                  • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
                  • Muscles tension

                  I’m sure you’ve heard the suggestion to count to ten when you get angry—well, you can make those ten seconds much more productive if you are breathing consciously during that time.

                  Conscious breathing is as simple as it sounds; just be conscious of your breathing. Pay attention to the air going in and coming out.

                  Breathe in through your nose:

                  • Feel the air entering your nostrils.
                  • Feel your lungs filling and expanding.
                  • Focus on your belly rising.

                  Breathe out through your nose:

                  • Feel your lungs emptying.
                  • Focus on your belly falling.
                  • Feel the air exiting your nostrils.

                  Do this for as long as you like. Leave the situation if you want. This gives the adrenaline time to normalize.

                  Now you can address the situation with a calmer, more rational perspective and avoid damaging behavior.

                  One of the troubles this squatter causes is that it adds to the sleep depriver’s issues. By evicting, or at least controlling the Reactor, you will decrease reactionary behavior, which will decrease the need for the rehashing and ruminating that may keep you from falling asleep.

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                  Master your mind and stop the Reactor from bringing stress to you and your relationships!

                  For the Sleep Depriver

                  (They’re made up of the Inner Planner, the Rehasher and the Ruminator, along with the Inner Critic and the Worrier.)

                  I was plagued with a very common problem: not being able to turn off my mind at bedtime. This inability prevented me from falling asleep and thus, getting a restful and restorative night’s sleep.

                  Here’s how I mastered my mind and evicted the Sleep Depriver and all his cronies.

                  1. I started by focusing on my breathing—paying attention to the rise and fall of my belly—but that didn’t keep the thoughts out for long. (Actually, I now start with checking my at-rest mouth position to keep me from clenching.)
                  2. Then I came up with replacement strategy that eliminated uncontrolled thinking—imagining the word in while breathing in and thinking the word out when breathing out. I would (and do) elongate the word to match the length of my breath.

                  When I catch myself thinking, I shift back to in, out. With this technique, I am still thinking, sort of, but the wheels are no longer spinning out of control. I am in control of my mind and I choose quiet.

                  From the first time I tried this method I started to yawn after only a few cycles and am usually asleep within ten minutes.

                  For really difficult nights, I add an increase of attention by holding my eyes in a looking-up position (Closed, of course!). Sometimes I try to look toward my third eye but that really hurts my eyes.

                  If you have trouble falling asleep because you can’t shut off your mind, I strongly recommend you try this technique. I still use it every night. You can start sleeping better tonight!

                  You can also use this technique any time you want to:

                  • Fall back to sleep if you wake up too soon.
                  • Shut down your thinking.
                  • Calm your feelings.
                  • Simply focus on the present moment. 

                  The Bottom Line

                  Your mind is a tool, and like any other tool, it can be used for constructive purposes or for destructive purposes.

                  You can allow your mind to be occupied by unwanted, undesirable and destructive tenants, or you can choose desirable tenants like peace, gratitude, compassion, love, and joy.

                  Your mind can become your best friend, your biggest supporter, and someone you can count on to be there and encourage you. The choice is yours!

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