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This Is How Successful People Get Mentally Tough

This Is How Successful People Get Mentally Tough

Success is more of a mindset, rather than simply strategy. It takes some mental grit to go through defining obstacles and challenges. You have to understand that as much as you have a winning formula, you also need a winning mind. This is why successful people are mentally tough and can navigate their way through fierce hurdles to win. In other words they win battles before they are even fought.

1. They detach themselves

Engaging in every battle, whether physical, mental, or emotional can be exhausting. Successful people need their mental strength to fight essential battles. They detach themselves from the wrong confrontation in order to toughen up for the right challenges.

2. They are calm

They can wait. They don’t need to rush into a project or show any sign of anxiety. They are not dependent on the external, but are able to manage their internal personality. Perhaps this is why they are calm? They understand such calmness and patience is a way to get what they indeed want.

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3. They are not afraid

They show courage. Mental toughness helps them prove their bravery and how much they are really willing to get what they want. Such resilience cowers their opposition, distilling the intentions of their supporters and loyalists. It also puts them in pole position to take on risks and reach success.

4. They are adaptable

They know that in the course of their journey they will meet obstacles and challenges. They also know that things and events surrounding them don’t stay static. They foresee, anticipate, and get prepared. They have to be flexible and willing to move with change to reach their destination. This is another sign of mental toughness.

5. They are not stressed out

Stress tends to take away all your positive energy and replace it with negative energy. This is why successful people minimize the factors that can cause stress in their lives. They don’t succumb to negative pressure and do not show incapacity to deal with stress if it appears.

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6. They are prepared

Life is a case of constant worries, battles, and altercations. Successful people are always ready. They don’t make themselves victims of occasional crisis and unexpected twists. Like a grand-master in the game of chess, they are prepared to respond for whatever tragedy life will throw at them. They find mental toughness in being prepared.

7. They are focused

They see everything they pursue in the long term. They don’t play for the immediate. So whatever immediate distraction they face they can always look ahead, rather than be embroiled in the present.

8. They are in charge

They take absolute control of whatever hand they are dealt. They take full responsibility of shortcomings and successes. They do not delegate this charge to any other person. They are in charge and fully in control of themselves and those things they are responsible for.

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9. They understand their strengths and weaknesses

No matter how able and willing you are, there are things you will never be in control of. This could be your weakness or limitation. People who toughen themselves mentally can accept those things they can take charge of and those things they cannot. They would rather not dwell on their misfortunes and on things that they cannot manage or do anything about.

10. They are positive

No matter how the world sees the outcome of any given challenge, successful people make themselves mentally tough fighters by staying tough and believing in possibilities. They are optimistic. They believe that the universe will somehow reward them and help them be successful in their work.

You should understand that becoming a mentally tough fighter doesn’t happen coincidentally. Instead, it takes the right initiative and constant practice in turning bad habits and wrong attitudes into something positive for successful growth.

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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