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This Is How Successful People Get Mentally Tough

This Is How Successful People Get Mentally Tough

Success is more of a mindset, rather than simply strategy. It takes some mental grit to go through defining obstacles and challenges. You have to understand that as much as you have a winning formula, you also need a winning mind. This is why successful people are mentally tough and can navigate their way through fierce hurdles to win. In other words they win battles before they are even fought.

1. They detach themselves

Engaging in every battle, whether physical, mental, or emotional can be exhausting. Successful people need their mental strength to fight essential battles. They detach themselves from the wrong confrontation in order to toughen up for the right challenges.

2. They are calm

They can wait. They don’t need to rush into a project or show any sign of anxiety. They are not dependent on the external, but are able to manage their internal personality. Perhaps this is why they are calm? They understand such calmness and patience is a way to get what they indeed want.

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3. They are not afraid

They show courage. Mental toughness helps them prove their bravery and how much they are really willing to get what they want. Such resilience cowers their opposition, distilling the intentions of their supporters and loyalists. It also puts them in pole position to take on risks and reach success.

4. They are adaptable

They know that in the course of their journey they will meet obstacles and challenges. They also know that things and events surrounding them don’t stay static. They foresee, anticipate, and get prepared. They have to be flexible and willing to move with change to reach their destination. This is another sign of mental toughness.

5. They are not stressed out

Stress tends to take away all your positive energy and replace it with negative energy. This is why successful people minimize the factors that can cause stress in their lives. They don’t succumb to negative pressure and do not show incapacity to deal with stress if it appears.

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6. They are prepared

Life is a case of constant worries, battles, and altercations. Successful people are always ready. They don’t make themselves victims of occasional crisis and unexpected twists. Like a grand-master in the game of chess, they are prepared to respond for whatever tragedy life will throw at them. They find mental toughness in being prepared.

7. They are focused

They see everything they pursue in the long term. They don’t play for the immediate. So whatever immediate distraction they face they can always look ahead, rather than be embroiled in the present.

8. They are in charge

They take absolute control of whatever hand they are dealt. They take full responsibility of shortcomings and successes. They do not delegate this charge to any other person. They are in charge and fully in control of themselves and those things they are responsible for.

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9. They understand their strengths and weaknesses

No matter how able and willing you are, there are things you will never be in control of. This could be your weakness or limitation. People who toughen themselves mentally can accept those things they can take charge of and those things they cannot. They would rather not dwell on their misfortunes and on things that they cannot manage or do anything about.

10. They are positive

No matter how the world sees the outcome of any given challenge, successful people make themselves mentally tough fighters by staying tough and believing in possibilities. They are optimistic. They believe that the universe will somehow reward them and help them be successful in their work.

You should understand that becoming a mentally tough fighter doesn’t happen coincidentally. Instead, it takes the right initiative and constant practice in turning bad habits and wrong attitudes into something positive for successful growth.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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