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8 Desirable Dating Qualities Of A Bass Player

8 Desirable Dating Qualities Of A Bass Player

It requires tremendous amount of patience and effort to learn an instrument. However, it takes more than just countless hours of practice and rehearsals to perform on stage with fellow members. It requires a deeply rooted passion that urges the musician to express their emotions with every note.

A shared belief many accept is that each and every instrument in the band supplements the music. That said, many choose to eye the front runners, typically the lead singer or the guitarist for their noticeable sounds, leaving the bass player forgotten without compliments. The bass player might be overlooked and pushed aside in the back, yet they have the most crucial role in the band, where everyone relies on the rhythm and the harmony.

Bass players are quite subtle on stage. Upon observing their consistent collaboration within the band, you will notice how they sacrifice the spotlight for the music. This innate trait can bring more than just good look or charm to relationships.

Here are the 8 qualities that make bass players desirable for those seeking a promising partner.

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1. They Love to be Connected

Bass players – unless given a moment to strike a solo – are known as the support for other instruments. Rarely do we recognize the bass notes before anything else. If the bass is subtle, that means they are doing their part correctly. However, without other instruments, bass players might come off as repetitive. It wouldn’t be as interesting to hear a song with only bass notes, unlike the guitar or the piano being more delightful even if played alone.

Bass players understand the significance of stability and collaboration. This quality in a relationship is a must when reaching to secure happiness and a wealthy collaboration. They love to acknowledge your presence and allow mutual feedback through connection. If you show you admire them, they would surely do the same.

2. They Are Content Regardless of the Lack of Attention

Bass players are generally unrecognized within our culture and media. Very few notable representations of bass players are available that praise them. However, just because one is on stage and musically talented, there is no rule that they have to stand out and exaggerate, only to come off pretentious. Bass players are there for a reason: to support the band. They are passionate about the bigger picture.

As long as there is a positive cooperation, they are satisfied. Of course, this assumes there is a mutual respect. Bass players have the patience and the solitude, where they have subdued the feeling of wanting more. You won’t be disappointed when dating a bass player because they are comfortable with what they have.

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3. They are Passively Creative

Who doesn’t love to show their creative achievements? However, being too bombastic can be tiring. Submerged in a group where bass is the lowest tone, it takes keen awareness with the right time and with appropriate timing to show themselves. Their effort to explore while being tactful is like discovering an oasis at the eleventh hour. This quality can bring many surprises in relationships that leave memorable impressions on a partner. Overall, bass players might appear ordinary, but they will unexpectedly touch your feeling in an artistic manner.

4. They are Considerate

“Thank you, my friends, for finally remembering my phone number.” – John Paul Jones, bassist for Led Zeppelin at the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame 1995

Bass player will encounter the typical never dying jokes and the stereotypes of being the one that doesn’t have showmanship, the quiet one, the instrument that can’t be heard, or the member that seems to be forgotten or rather uninterested.

Pride leads toward avenues of discourse, arguments, and bitter feelings. Bass players know self-interest will only preclude cooperation among members. There is no doubt they would like more attention, everyone loves to be admired, but their kind awareness is all about security — even if they are poorly represented. This is a quality of modesty that is a key to a healthy and solid relationship. You wouldn’t have to worry about their greed to fame because as long as you show admiration, they will hit the right spot.

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5. They are Multi-Instrumentalist

Many bass players that have been recognized by the public are multi-instrumentalist. First of all, this shouldn’t be of a surprise, many bass players are musically talented when it comes to technicality. This talent comes to those that are dedicated and disciplined. Bass guitar is just as difficult as any other instruments. Being able to make transitions is a trait for those that are adventurous to get a feel for each instrument’s potential.

A partner that isn’t afraid to seek and explore in a relationship can always find significant ways to improve relationships. Also, if you’re only attracted to someone playing a guitar and singing, don’t exclude bass players. Once they drop the bass — it’s on!

6. They Tune in with People

By tuning, other than being in pitch and keeping the rhythm, bass players are the ears and the eyes of the band. They know the importance of reciprocity. Their quality of having fine communication is rare in everyday friction with strangers. People talk about having great chemistry with others, but ultimately it is being able to listen and compliment the interest of others that matters most.

If relationships are spiraling down, you need someone that can seize the moment and understand. Bass players go through musical difference with people. Honestly, that is their hardest gig to survive. It can only toughen their social skills. Everyone will have issues with individuals at some point in their lives, but bass players have tricks and methods to repair rapports that not everyone has. They know how to console and tidy you up.

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7. They are the Artists of Adaptation

What more can you want from a partner who enjoys the thrill of the moment and has enthusiasm, while maintaining gentleness. Bass players know how to excite the crowd and work from the energy. Other band-mates can jump up and down, head-bang, play with the crowds, throw drinks at the crowds, and (if financially capable) they can even smash their instruments.

However, every band needs a balance to appeal to the majority, and the bass player’s quiet presence preserves the mellow with a class act. They know how to express excitement and when it comes to romantic flattery, they can make a ballad out of you.

8. They Have Great Hands for Pleasing

Bass players are known for having incredible hands. Don’t confuse yourself of thinking of big hands, it’s how they’re used. There are plenty of bass players with smaller hands, but are just as capable to amaze you with what they can offer. Have you ever felt a rush of sensation from being touched by amazing hands? Let the bass player play you away.

Featured photo credit: Patrick Wright via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 15, 2019

What Are Interpersonal Skills? Master Them for Better Relationships

What Are Interpersonal Skills? Master Them for Better Relationships

When I wrote my book Extraordinary PR, Ordinary Budget: A Strategy Guide, I was surprised at the various layers of review and editing necessary to get the book to publication. Before I ever submitted the manuscript, I enlisted a former colleague to read and copy edit my work. Then, I submitted my work to an editor at the publisher’s house, and once she approved it, she sent it to her colleagues and then her company’s editorial board.

Upon editorial board approval of my book, my editor sent my work to reviewers in my field, then a developmental editor, then a designer and layout team and, finally, another copy editor. There were a host of personalities with whom I needed to interact along the way.

It turns out that getting a publishing contract was just the beginning – a lot happens between developing a concept, writing the book, finding an agent and publisher, and getting the book on bookshelves or on Audible or Kindle. Through every milestone of the publishing process, my ability to interact with others was crucial. This underscored for me that no matter what or how much a person accomplishes, you never do it alone – everyone needs assistance from others.

While I conceived of the book and wrote the manuscript, there is no way my book could have hit booksellers’ shelves without the dozens of people who were involved in the publishing process. Further, interpersonal skills can propel or stonewall success.

Even as someone who has written hundreds of essays, press releases, pitch notes and other correspondence, writing itself is not a solitary endeavor. Sure, I may write in solitude, but the moment I am finished writing, there are always clients, colleagues, partners, peers and others who review my content.

What is more, even as a published author and contributor for this platform, I try to never submit final copy (content) that has not been copy edited. I send everything to my copy editor, whom I pay out of my own pocket, for her review, edits and approval. Once she has reviewed my work, caught unbeknownst-to-me errors, I am much more confident putting my work out in the world.

How Interpersonal Skills Affect Relationships

It is clearer to me now more than ever before that interpersonal skills are needed in every profession and every trade.

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People don’t elect leaders because the leaders are smart. Individuals are motivated to vote when they have a hero and when they feel they have something to lose. If they seriously dislike the other candidate, they are much more likely vote according to a 2000 Ohio State University study:

“A disliked candidate is seen as a threat, and that will be motivation to go to the polls. But a threat alone isn’t enough – people need to have a hero to vote for, too, in order to inspire them to turn out on Election Day.”

In a work setting, interpersonal skills impact every facet of your development and success. Trainers must collaborate with a design team or the company hiring them to facilitate the training. During the training itself, the facilitators must connect with the audience and establish a rapport that supports vulnerability and openness. If the trainers interact poorly with the trainees, they are unlikely to be invited back. If they are invited back, they may be unlikely to inspire cooperation or growth in their trainees.

Solopreneurs interactions with clients and subcontractors, and those interactions will, in part, support or adversely impact their business. If you enjoy a career as an acclaimed surgeon or respected lawyer, your interactions with patients, clients, health insurance agencies and a team of other practitioners – many of whom are shielded from public view – will improve or decimate your practice.

As a hiring manager, one of the things I consider when interviewing candidates is their interpersonal skills. I assess the interpersonal skills they display in their content and face-to-face presentation. I ask probing questions to learn how they interact with others, manage conflict and contribute to a team atmosphere.

When candidates say things like, “I prefer to work alone” or “I can hit the ground running without assistance,” I bristle. When candidates appear to know everything and everyone, I wonder if they will be receptive to learning or open to feedback. Could these statements be indications that these individuals lack interpersonal skills?

It stands to reason, then, that interpersonal skills are among the most valuable and the bedrock of all talents and skills.

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What are Interpersonal Skills?

Interpersonal skills range from emotional intelligence, empathy, oral and written communication to leadership to collaboration and teamwork.

In sum, interpersonal skills are skills that enable you to interact well with others. They include teachability and receptiveness to feedback, active or mindful listening, self-confidence and conflict resolution.

From a communications standpoint, interpersonal skills are about understanding how colleagues prefer to communicate and then using the appropriate mediums to meet respective needs. It is about understanding how to communicate in a way to get the most out of different people.

For instance, in my career as a public relations practitioner, part of what I am constantly evaluating is which colleagues, clients and members of the media prefer email, text or phone calls. I am assessing how much frill to use with each person depending on what has worked in the past and depending on what I know about the person with whom I am interacting.

Making these decisions and being disciplined enough to follow each person’s known preferences helps me better connect with the various individuals in my orbit. Is this tiring at times? Yes. Is it necessary? Absolutely.

How to Improve Interpersonal Skills

There are tons of resources to teach interpersonal skills. I love books such as Leadership Presence by Belle Linda Halpern and Kathy Lubar, and The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

There are also a host of books and articles on emotional intelligence, which is the ability to manage one’s emotions and perceive and adapt to others’ emotions. Emotional intelligence is likewise a critical component of positive interpersonal relations. You can learn more about it in this article: What Is Emotional Intelligence and Why It Is Important

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Active and mindful listening also support improved interpersonal skills. I recommend you take a look at this piece: Active Listening – A Skill That Everyone Should Master

I have further found that humility helps a ton with interpersonal skills. It takes humility to admit you have more to learn and that you can learn from the people around you. In fact, everyone with whom you interact has a lesson to teach you. And employers are increasingly looking for team members who are lifelong learners, meaning they believe there is always room for growth and professional and personal development.

Forbes contributor Kevin H. Johnson noted in a July 2018 article,

“That’s why, when anyone asks what the next ‘hot’ skill will be, I say it’s the same skill that will serve people today, tomorrow, and far into the future—the ability to learn.”

Don’t overlook introspection.

While interpersonal skills may seem simple enough, introspection is critical to learning where and in what ways you need to grow.

Through introspection and observation, I have learned that my interpersonal skills suffer when I am sleep deprived, because then I am short-tempered and irritable. I’ve observed this connection over a significant period in my life. Unsurprisingly, it is also true of others. Fellow LifeHack contributor, health coach and personal trainer Jamie Logie noted:

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When you are chronically sleep deprived, it really does a number on you. A lack of sleep can keep your body in a constant state of stress and over time this can get pretty ugly. Elevated stress hormones can be involved in creating a bunch of pretty nasty conditions including anxiety, headaches and dizziness, weight gain, depression, stroke, hypertension, digestive disorders, immune system dysfunction, irritability.

Additionally, the Eunice Kennedy Shriver National Institute of Child Health and Human Development reported,

“Sleep deprivation can noticeably affect people’s performance, including their ability to think clearly, react quickly, and form memories. Sleep deprivation also affects mood, leading to irritability; problems with relationships, especially for children and teenagers; and depression. Sleep deprivation can also increase anxiety.”

The point is, even as you are identifying ways to improve interpersonal skills, think about what is getting in the way. While sleep deprivation is a trigger for me, your stumbling block may be different.

The Bottom Line

You cannot fix what you do not know is broken. Even as you work to understand and apply interpersonal skills, spend some time in mindful meditation to get clear on what is holding you back from developing solid relationships.

Featured photo credit: Austin Distel via unsplash.com

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