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8 Desirable Dating Qualities Of A Bass Player

8 Desirable Dating Qualities Of A Bass Player

It requires tremendous amount of patience and effort to learn an instrument. However, it takes more than just countless hours of practice and rehearsals to perform on stage with fellow members. It requires a deeply rooted passion that urges the musician to express their emotions with every note.

A shared belief many accept is that each and every instrument in the band supplements the music. That said, many choose to eye the front runners, typically the lead singer or the guitarist for their noticeable sounds, leaving the bass player forgotten without compliments. The bass player might be overlooked and pushed aside in the back, yet they have the most crucial role in the band, where everyone relies on the rhythm and the harmony.

Bass players are quite subtle on stage. Upon observing their consistent collaboration within the band, you will notice how they sacrifice the spotlight for the music. This innate trait can bring more than just good look or charm to relationships.

Here are the 8 qualities that make bass players desirable for those seeking a promising partner.

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1. They Love to be Connected

Bass players – unless given a moment to strike a solo – are known as the support for other instruments. Rarely do we recognize the bass notes before anything else. If the bass is subtle, that means they are doing their part correctly. However, without other instruments, bass players might come off as repetitive. It wouldn’t be as interesting to hear a song with only bass notes, unlike the guitar or the piano being more delightful even if played alone.

Bass players understand the significance of stability and collaboration. This quality in a relationship is a must when reaching to secure happiness and a wealthy collaboration. They love to acknowledge your presence and allow mutual feedback through connection. If you show you admire them, they would surely do the same.

2. They Are Content Regardless of the Lack of Attention

Bass players are generally unrecognized within our culture and media. Very few notable representations of bass players are available that praise them. However, just because one is on stage and musically talented, there is no rule that they have to stand out and exaggerate, only to come off pretentious. Bass players are there for a reason: to support the band. They are passionate about the bigger picture.

As long as there is a positive cooperation, they are satisfied. Of course, this assumes there is a mutual respect. Bass players have the patience and the solitude, where they have subdued the feeling of wanting more. You won’t be disappointed when dating a bass player because they are comfortable with what they have.

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3. They are Passively Creative

Who doesn’t love to show their creative achievements? However, being too bombastic can be tiring. Submerged in a group where bass is the lowest tone, it takes keen awareness with the right time and with appropriate timing to show themselves. Their effort to explore while being tactful is like discovering an oasis at the eleventh hour. This quality can bring many surprises in relationships that leave memorable impressions on a partner. Overall, bass players might appear ordinary, but they will unexpectedly touch your feeling in an artistic manner.

4. They are Considerate

“Thank you, my friends, for finally remembering my phone number.” – John Paul Jones, bassist for Led Zeppelin at the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame 1995

Bass player will encounter the typical never dying jokes and the stereotypes of being the one that doesn’t have showmanship, the quiet one, the instrument that can’t be heard, or the member that seems to be forgotten or rather uninterested.

Pride leads toward avenues of discourse, arguments, and bitter feelings. Bass players know self-interest will only preclude cooperation among members. There is no doubt they would like more attention, everyone loves to be admired, but their kind awareness is all about security — even if they are poorly represented. This is a quality of modesty that is a key to a healthy and solid relationship. You wouldn’t have to worry about their greed to fame because as long as you show admiration, they will hit the right spot.

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5. They are Multi-Instrumentalist

Many bass players that have been recognized by the public are multi-instrumentalist. First of all, this shouldn’t be of a surprise, many bass players are musically talented when it comes to technicality. This talent comes to those that are dedicated and disciplined. Bass guitar is just as difficult as any other instruments. Being able to make transitions is a trait for those that are adventurous to get a feel for each instrument’s potential.

A partner that isn’t afraid to seek and explore in a relationship can always find significant ways to improve relationships. Also, if you’re only attracted to someone playing a guitar and singing, don’t exclude bass players. Once they drop the bass — it’s on!

6. They Tune in with People

By tuning, other than being in pitch and keeping the rhythm, bass players are the ears and the eyes of the band. They know the importance of reciprocity. Their quality of having fine communication is rare in everyday friction with strangers. People talk about having great chemistry with others, but ultimately it is being able to listen and compliment the interest of others that matters most.

If relationships are spiraling down, you need someone that can seize the moment and understand. Bass players go through musical difference with people. Honestly, that is their hardest gig to survive. It can only toughen their social skills. Everyone will have issues with individuals at some point in their lives, but bass players have tricks and methods to repair rapports that not everyone has. They know how to console and tidy you up.

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7. They are the Artists of Adaptation

What more can you want from a partner who enjoys the thrill of the moment and has enthusiasm, while maintaining gentleness. Bass players know how to excite the crowd and work from the energy. Other band-mates can jump up and down, head-bang, play with the crowds, throw drinks at the crowds, and (if financially capable) they can even smash their instruments.

However, every band needs a balance to appeal to the majority, and the bass player’s quiet presence preserves the mellow with a class act. They know how to express excitement and when it comes to romantic flattery, they can make a ballad out of you.

8. They Have Great Hands for Pleasing

Bass players are known for having incredible hands. Don’t confuse yourself of thinking of big hands, it’s how they’re used. There are plenty of bass players with smaller hands, but are just as capable to amaze you with what they can offer. Have you ever felt a rush of sensation from being touched by amazing hands? Let the bass player play you away.

Featured photo credit: Patrick Wright via flickr.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

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For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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