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10 Signs That You Care Too Much About What Others Think

10 Signs That You Care Too Much About What Others Think

It is human to desire what goes around your environment. Such knowledge gives us some level of consciousness and acceptance of our environment. However, taking such desire too far can be detrimental because it hurts our self-esteem, and in certain occasions could heighten our anxiety. We do not need to commit our thoughts and activities to the opinions laid down by others.

Here are ten signs to tell you if you have begun thinking too much about what others think.

1. You don’t know how to say “No”

People ask you for favors or jump into your life to forcefully be a part of it. You really need to know how to say “No” to what will not benefit your well-being because saying “No” is just as important as saying “Yes”. Perhaps you do not want to disappoint other. In reality, if you want to become a happier person you shouldn’t focus on the external, but rather on the internal.

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2. You don’t set boundaries

This means setting boundaries for yourself and for others. Your life is not a park where everyone comes to play. You should be able to set boundaries if you really do not want to be caring about the opinions of others so much.

3. You are concerned about what others have to say

You want to know what others are thinking or saying about you. You scroll through magazines and spend so much time on social media it practically becomes a sickness. You don’t have that power to ignore gossip or comments. Instead, you give others the power to rule your thoughts.

4. You always play the victim

You want the world to care or sympathize with you. If something is wrong, you blow a trumpet about it because you feel that the world should listen and share in your problems.

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5. You are a people-pleaser

You feel validated by trying to please everyone, when in the truest sense you can’t please everyone. You can only please yourself. As much as it satisfies you to do this, you are only giving others a key to start determining your actions and deeds.

6. You seek attention

You want to be seen and want others to be attracted to you. You do not know that it is not possible for everyone to like you. Yet you keep on taking actions and making decisions that will draw everyone to you.

7. You are indecisive

You do not know how to make decisions. You hesitate and you’re slow to taking actions. Most times, you would rather wait and listen to what everybody has to say before making decisions.

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8. You don’t follow your guts

There is an intuition within us all that tells us “Yes” or “No”. When we care so much about what others have to say, we will ignore what our guts tell us to do most of the time.

9. You always play it safe

You don’t want anyone to get hurt because of your deeds or words. You also don’t want to stir negative emotions and make people feel bad. You try to play it safe and revolve your life in a cocoon. Such safety zones demonstrate that you are averse to taking risks and stepping out of the conventional boundaries.

10. You are boastful

You exaggerate your accomplishments and sometimes you go way overboard to publicize your accomplishments. You like to talk about yourself and want everyone to listen to what you have to say. Whether you are the loudest person in the room or try to seem the smartest, you are only doing this to make others aware of you.

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Caring about what others think shows a kind of inferiority. Most times, this can lead to disappointment. We all should be complete and be proud of who we are. Our happiness and our success should not depend on what others think about us.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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