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10 Signs That You Care Too Much About What Others Think

10 Signs That You Care Too Much About What Others Think

It is human to desire what goes around your environment. Such knowledge gives us some level of consciousness and acceptance of our environment. However, taking such desire too far can be detrimental because it hurts our self-esteem, and in certain occasions could heighten our anxiety. We do not need to commit our thoughts and activities to the opinions laid down by others.

Here are ten signs to tell you if you have begun thinking too much about what others think.

1. You don’t know how to say “No”

People ask you for favors or jump into your life to forcefully be a part of it. You really need to know how to say “No” to what will not benefit your well-being because saying “No” is just as important as saying “Yes”. Perhaps you do not want to disappoint other. In reality, if you want to become a happier person you shouldn’t focus on the external, but rather on the internal.

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2. You don’t set boundaries

This means setting boundaries for yourself and for others. Your life is not a park where everyone comes to play. You should be able to set boundaries if you really do not want to be caring about the opinions of others so much.

3. You are concerned about what others have to say

You want to know what others are thinking or saying about you. You scroll through magazines and spend so much time on social media it practically becomes a sickness. You don’t have that power to ignore gossip or comments. Instead, you give others the power to rule your thoughts.

4. You always play the victim

You want the world to care or sympathize with you. If something is wrong, you blow a trumpet about it because you feel that the world should listen and share in your problems.

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5. You are a people-pleaser

You feel validated by trying to please everyone, when in the truest sense you can’t please everyone. You can only please yourself. As much as it satisfies you to do this, you are only giving others a key to start determining your actions and deeds.

6. You seek attention

You want to be seen and want others to be attracted to you. You do not know that it is not possible for everyone to like you. Yet you keep on taking actions and making decisions that will draw everyone to you.

7. You are indecisive

You do not know how to make decisions. You hesitate and you’re slow to taking actions. Most times, you would rather wait and listen to what everybody has to say before making decisions.

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8. You don’t follow your guts

There is an intuition within us all that tells us “Yes” or “No”. When we care so much about what others have to say, we will ignore what our guts tell us to do most of the time.

9. You always play it safe

You don’t want anyone to get hurt because of your deeds or words. You also don’t want to stir negative emotions and make people feel bad. You try to play it safe and revolve your life in a cocoon. Such safety zones demonstrate that you are averse to taking risks and stepping out of the conventional boundaries.

10. You are boastful

You exaggerate your accomplishments and sometimes you go way overboard to publicize your accomplishments. You like to talk about yourself and want everyone to listen to what you have to say. Whether you are the loudest person in the room or try to seem the smartest, you are only doing this to make others aware of you.

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Caring about what others think shows a kind of inferiority. Most times, this can lead to disappointment. We all should be complete and be proud of who we are. Our happiness and our success should not depend on what others think about us.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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