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30 Things You Should Not Be Afraid To Ask For In A Relationship

30 Things You Should Not Be Afraid To Ask For In A Relationship

People are sometimes scared to commit their lives to anyone. They have standards, but they do not think their partners can meet or attain them. However, when it comes to love or commitment you should expect everything because you deserve it. Companionship is a shield and it pushes you to offer love, warmth and affection. So why should you expect anything short of the best? Never be afraid to ask your partner for these thirty things.

1. Truth, either what was happened or what your partner intends to act upon.

2. Affection, something higher and above than what your other friends will give you.

3. Space, knowing that you can make great things happen if you are trusted upon to take advantage of what surrounds you.

4. Love, not just affection, but an unconditional love that is not attached to time, money or place.

5. Advice, because you cannot trust only your opinion, and also need the advice and opinion of a trusted partner.

6. Energy, because no relationship can do very well without it.

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7. Great diet, because shared meals represent shared time – home cooked and healthy is better than fast food restaurants.

8. Optimism, that no matter how things are now, it will always be better as long as the other person sticks with you.

9. Adventures, because the two of you can discover and reach great heights if you stick it out together.

10. Awareness, because you should always be noticed and recognized by your partner.

11. Your identity, as people can get lost in relationships. Make sure you do not lose your identity while being with another person.

12. Respect, something that should be earned, but should also offered.

13. Forgiveness, because you will both make mistakes.

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14. Time, time to correct things, to make amends, to heal, and to discover.

15. Patience, because you can’t build anything substantive without it.

16. A family, because when the love grows, others should also be invited into your home, and your family should grow also.

17. Laughter, because humor lightens the spirit and makes memorable moments.

18. Motivation, because you will be low sometimes and you will need help from your partner to get back up.

19. Acceptance, that you are not perfect but you can become the best you can be.

20. Appreciation, that your effort or what you have is never unnoticed.

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21. Someone to dance with and share your successes with.

22. Someone to be proud of and show off your accomplishments to.

23. Someone that will listen and never shut you out, even when the whole world seems to be deaf to your needs.

24. Someone that is deserving. Yes, you are a bundle of love but you can’t just store it all up, you have to offer such deep emotions to the right person.

25. Someone that is dependable. You need someone to have your back and should be a shield even in the most challenging of times.

26. Someone to call your own. On this you can be selfish because they are yours and you cannot afford to share them with anyone in the world.

27. Safety and security. After all is said and done, you can be safe and be in the right persons arms who will always be loyal to you.

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28. Eternity, because even when time passes they will be there with you to spend so many moments at your side.

29. Depth, whether in love or in friendship they are willing to offer you something above average, something strong, warm and comforting.

30. Compassion, a partner that cares unselfishly. You need someone that sees you as their world, and will be always be kind to you.

Never compromise the quality of your relationship and become careless or nonchalant about the above.

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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