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30 Things You Should Not Be Afraid To Ask For In A Relationship

30 Things You Should Not Be Afraid To Ask For In A Relationship

People are sometimes scared to commit their lives to anyone. They have standards, but they do not think their partners can meet or attain them. However, when it comes to love or commitment you should expect everything because you deserve it. Companionship is a shield and it pushes you to offer love, warmth and affection. So why should you expect anything short of the best? Never be afraid to ask your partner for these thirty things.

1. Truth, either what was happened or what your partner intends to act upon.

2. Affection, something higher and above than what your other friends will give you.

3. Space, knowing that you can make great things happen if you are trusted upon to take advantage of what surrounds you.

4. Love, not just affection, but an unconditional love that is not attached to time, money or place.

5. Advice, because you cannot trust only your opinion, and also need the advice and opinion of a trusted partner.

6. Energy, because no relationship can do very well without it.

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7. Great diet, because shared meals represent shared time – home cooked and healthy is better than fast food restaurants.

8. Optimism, that no matter how things are now, it will always be better as long as the other person sticks with you.

9. Adventures, because the two of you can discover and reach great heights if you stick it out together.

10. Awareness, because you should always be noticed and recognized by your partner.

11. Your identity, as people can get lost in relationships. Make sure you do not lose your identity while being with another person.

12. Respect, something that should be earned, but should also offered.

13. Forgiveness, because you will both make mistakes.

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14. Time, time to correct things, to make amends, to heal, and to discover.

15. Patience, because you can’t build anything substantive without it.

16. A family, because when the love grows, others should also be invited into your home, and your family should grow also.

17. Laughter, because humor lightens the spirit and makes memorable moments.

18. Motivation, because you will be low sometimes and you will need help from your partner to get back up.

19. Acceptance, that you are not perfect but you can become the best you can be.

20. Appreciation, that your effort or what you have is never unnoticed.

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21. Someone to dance with and share your successes with.

22. Someone to be proud of and show off your accomplishments to.

23. Someone that will listen and never shut you out, even when the whole world seems to be deaf to your needs.

24. Someone that is deserving. Yes, you are a bundle of love but you can’t just store it all up, you have to offer such deep emotions to the right person.

25. Someone that is dependable. You need someone to have your back and should be a shield even in the most challenging of times.

26. Someone to call your own. On this you can be selfish because they are yours and you cannot afford to share them with anyone in the world.

27. Safety and security. After all is said and done, you can be safe and be in the right persons arms who will always be loyal to you.

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28. Eternity, because even when time passes they will be there with you to spend so many moments at your side.

29. Depth, whether in love or in friendship they are willing to offer you something above average, something strong, warm and comforting.

30. Compassion, a partner that cares unselfishly. You need someone that sees you as their world, and will be always be kind to you.

Never compromise the quality of your relationship and become careless or nonchalant about the above.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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