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20 Promises I’ve Made To My Newborn Baby

20 Promises I’ve Made To My Newborn Baby

To my sweet little girl:

I want you to know that you are loved more deeply than you could ever possibly imagine. You are awesome and incredible beyond measure.

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As you grow and learn, I will learn too – all about you, and all about being your parent. I definitely won’t be perfect, but I promise to always love you with my entire heart throughout life’s journey, and to do my best to nurture, guide, support, and encourage you.

This, my sweet little one, is my list of promises to you.

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1. I promise to encourage you to follow your dreams, and to remember that you are you; it’s not your job to be an extension of me.

2. I promise to help you figure out who you are as you navigate this big world. I will help you discover and build on your unique interests and strengths.

3. I promise to teach you that you are worthy of respect. I will teach you when to stand up for yourself and when to silently walk away. I will show you how to treat yourself with respect and how to demand respect from others.

4. I promise to get messy with you. I will build snow forts with you, jump in the leaves with you, make sandcastles with you, and dance in the rain with you.

5. I promise to pick my battles and not get caught up in arguments about things that don’t really matter.

6. I promise to be vulnerable with you and let you truly see me.

7. I promise to show you how to have healthy relationships. I will teach you how to be a good friend and how to choose your friends wisely. I will teach you the value of amazing girlfriends. I will explain to you why I fell in love with your Dad, and what qualities to look for in a life partner.

8. I promise to give you boundaries so you feel safe and secure, while still allowing you the space and freedom you need to grow.

9. I promise to talk with you and to listen to you. I will talk to you about anything and everything you want to talk about. I will listen attentively – to your joys, your fears, and your secrets.

10. I promise to comfort you.

11. I promise to love you wholeheartedly.

12. I promise to teach you to truly feel and embrace your emotions; I will laugh and cry with you. I will teach you how to love deeply.

13. I promise to listen to your side of the story, and to remember that just because I’m older than you doesn’t necessarily mean I’m wiser.

14. I promise to teach you to be a independent, creative, and resourceful person.

15. I promise to practice self-compassion, because by watching me be compassionate with myself, you will learn to be compassionate with yourself and others.

16. I promise to share my faith with you. I will teach how how it has changed my life and how it can change yours too.

17. I promise to continually work on becoming a better person and a better role model for you. I will also help you find other positive role models to look up to during your life.

18. I promise to believe in you. When you struggle with self-doubt, I promise to remind you of how strong and capable you are.

19. I promise to show you that you are worthy of love and belonging.

20. I promise to help you find your wings, and when the time comes, as hard as it may be for me to let go, I promise to teach you to fly.

My sweet girl, I will love you forever and always.

Love,

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Mom.

Featured photo credit: baby feet b&w/Christine Szeto via flickr.com

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How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. A rut can manifest as a productivity vacuum and be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. Is it possible to learn how to get out of a rut?

Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, or a student, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

1. Work on Small Tasks

When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks that have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

Whenever I finish doing that, I generate positive momentum, which I bring forward to my work.

If you have a large long-term goal you can’t wait to get started on, break it down into smaller objectives first. This will help each piece feel manageable and help you feel like you’re moving closer to your goal.

You can learn more about goals vs objectives here.

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2. Take a Break From Your Work Desk

When you want to learn how to get out of a rut, get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the bathroom, walk around the office, or go out and get a snack. According to research, your productivity is best when you work for 50 minutes to an hour and then take a 15-20 minute break[1].

Your mind may be too bogged down and will need some airing. By walking away from your computer, you may create extra space for new ideas that were hiding behind high stress levels.

3. Upgrade Yourself

Take the down time to upgrade your knowledge and skills. Go to a seminar, read up on a subject of interest, or start learning a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college[2]. How’s that for inspiration?

4. Talk to a Friend

Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while. Relying on a support system is a great way to work on self-care when you’re learning how to get out of a rut.

Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

5. Forget About Trying to Be Perfect

If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies. Perfectionism can lead you to fear failure, which can ultimate hinder you even more if you’re trying to find motivation to work on something new.

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If you allow your perfectionism to fade, soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come, and then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

Learn more about How Not to Let Perfectionism Secretly Screw You Up.

6. Paint a Vision to Work Towards

If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the ultimate goal or vision you have for your life?

Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action. You can use the power of visualization or even create a vision board if you like to have something to physically remind you of your goals.

7. Read a Book (or Blog)

The things we read are like food for our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great material.

Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. You can also stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs and follow writers who inspire and motivate you. Find something that interests you and start reading.

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8. Have a Quick Nap

If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep[3].

Try a nap if you want to get out of a rut

    One Harvard study found that “whether they took long naps or short naps, participants showed significant improvement on three of the four tests in the study’s cognitive-assessment battery”[4].

    9. Remember Why You Are Doing This

    Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

    What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall your inspiration, and perhaps even journal about it to make it feel more tangible.

    10. Find Some Competition

    When we are learning how to get out of a rut, there’s nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

    Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, and networking conventions can all inspire you to get a move on. However, don’t let this throw you back into your perfectionist tendencies or low self-esteem.

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    11. Go Exercise

    Since you are not making headway at work, you might as well spend the time getting into shape and increasing dopamine levels. Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, or whatever type of exercise helps you start to feel better.

    As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

    If you need ideas for a quick workout, check out the video below:

    12. Take a Few Vacation Days

    If you are stuck in a rut, it’s usually a sign that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

    Beyond the quick tips above, arrange one or two days to take off from work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax, do your favorite activities, and spend time with family members. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

    Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest.

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