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Remember These 7 Things When You’re Overwhelmed With Hardship

Remember These 7 Things When You’re Overwhelmed With Hardship

There is a famous quote by Albert Einstein:

“You can’t solve a problem with the same thinking that created it.”

Now, when you are on the brink of hardship, this is a hard pill to swallow, but the aim of this article is to give you a simple process that you can use to gain momentum and flow into your life.

If we don’t break this cycle these patterns and circumstances will continue to unfold in our lives; therefore, it is worthwhile making the change.

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Understand the metrics and use the system to increase your flow.

1. Like attracts like; hate attracts hate; money follows money.

Imagine you are a light and everyone on this planet is also a light and we live on a massive light grid. We all shine at a different level of brightness; we attract the same intensity of light frequency.

It’s all about an energy exchange.

You have to do the work to ensure you don’t attract the same thing into your life—you need to raise your light frequency.

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There have been cycles throughout my life: attracting abuser after abuser, job after job and money comes and goes. It was this cycle that just continued to play throughout my life. I didn’t even understand what was happening at the time—I just knew I had to do something to break the cycle.

You don’t need to see the entire staircase in order to take the first step.

It started with my relationships; I was attracting toxic relationships into my life.

2. Decide to break the cycle.

Make the decision to do anything to break the cycle. Become so committed to breaking the cycle that you no longer focus on what you don’t want and become crystal clear on what you do want. By switching your focus on what you do want and defining that, you begin to feel like-worthy. The love that you have for yourself is restored, reinvigorated and on a whole new level of self acceptance.

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3. Surround yourself with people who have healthy relationships.

Begin to see and understand what love is really about, what a healthy relationship looks like and that it is possible to experience real, healthy, true love, but only once you’ve felt it for yourself.

4. 100% let go of what you want.

Ask yourself some important questions, like: “What do I want to do with my life? Are you happy?” Do whatever you like as long as it’s FUN. You don’t need a partner, because your life is already fulfilled. Do what you love to do, in a way you like to do it. Although you may not have the big vision about what you want in your life, you can’t see the entire staircase. Just take one step at a time in a direction that feels amazing. It’s flicking the switch and having gratitude for what you have; in order for more things to come… it’s when the need becomes a want, that’s when you’re in your power.

5. Be the change you want to see.

Within all areas of your life, money, love, health and your profession, work on raising your light and focus on what you want and set strong intentions. What you put out there, what you are will be exactly what you attract. Be the path, own the path, just get going and keep going! Don’t lose hope or focus because you are gaining traction at every step. As long as you know what you want, take action towards it and let go and it to happen. It’s already happening.

6. Money is important.

Love it, appreciate it, give thanks, nourish it, spend it with love and know that if you’re constantly raising your light, you will continue to attract, grow and expand your wealth beyond what you can ever imagine.

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7. When “stuff” happens, focus on the moment.

Things happen and it’s how we perceive something that will determine how we respond. When we react, we do it without thinking, but when we respond, it’s a much more elegant way to dance with life. There is no right or wrong; it’s just our perception around it. What if it was just another “thing” that has to happen in order for us to evolve and grow?

Write a list of 7 things that will help you through times when you’re feeling a dis-ease, anxiety or stress. Take three deep breaths, jump up and down ten times, go for a walk, play really loud music and dance, go outside and feel the wind on your face, smell a flower or meditate—whatever it is that brings you back into the moment. Don’t worry about what was or what’s going to happen; just breathe and know that all that matters in this moment is right now—this is exactly where you’re meant to be.

Featured photo credit: Adjective of the Week: gleaming by Kevin Dinkel via Flickr via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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