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7 Reasons You’re Always Exhausted

7 Reasons You’re Always Exhausted

There’s a difference between being tired and being exhausted. If you didn’t get enough sleep last night, you’re just tired and need some time to recuperate. If you’re exhausted, you feel physically, mentally, and emotionally drained. There is no quick fix for exhaustion. A remedy requires you to make some changes in your lifestyle. Although this might seem like a daunting task, it will be incredibly worth it in the long run. Think of how some of these factors have negatively impacted your life, and whether or not it’d be a good idea to make some changes.

1. You lack personal relationships

If you constantly find yourself hanging around people who are fun to be around, but who you don’t consider to be true friends, you should start looking elsewhere for meaningful connections. If your relationships are stagnant, chances are a good portion of your life is, as well. Don’t let yourself get dragged down to other people’s level, under the guise of having a “good time.” A few hours of partying doesn’t make up for a week’s worth of exhaustion. Find people who share your interests and will help you achieve your goals, not hold you back from them.

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2. You are unfulfilled

When life becomes monotonous, it becomes more of a grind than a living. Your job is a huge part of your life; if it becomes meaningless, your happiness will suffer. Not only that, but if you’re exhausted when you get home from work, you’ll be less willing to spend time doing things you love, such as working on hobbies or being with your family. Of course, you probably can’t up and quit your job. However, if you’re feeling unfulfilled in your current position, you should definitely start actively looking for a change.

3. You don’t make time for life

Like I said, if your job is dragging you down, you probably won’t want to put effort into other things after 5PM rolls around. It may seem counterintuitive, but instead of coming home and vegging out on the couch all night, use this time to do something you’ve always wanted to do. Take your family for a walk, read a book that’s been on your shelf for months, or register for a weekly class that could further your career. Just because you’re unhappy with a part of your life doesn’t mean the rest of it has to suffer.

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4. You work way too hard

If you’re at a job which you don’t necessarily enjoy, chances are you don’t put that much effort into improving your productivity. Of course, you still have to do something, since you don’t really care to learn how to be efficient in your duties. This actually backfires on you in the long run. By working harder, not smarter, you end up burning yourself out, while others around you end up leaps and bounds ahead of you. By figuring out how to maximize your productivity, you won’t work yourself to the bone every day of your life.

5. You don’t set goals

Once you get stuck in the rut of a 9 to 5 that you despise, you resign yourself to a life of dead-ends. If you have no direction, you’re simply living to work, and working to live. Although you may have initially suffered from a lack of self-worth which kept you from creating goals in the first place, lacking goals as you age will only further your lack of self-esteem. Try to set short and long-term goals in order to give yourself a reason to get out of bed every day. You’d be surprised how energizing having a purpose can be.

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6. You lack motivation

Maybe you’re in a bad spot right now. Maybe you lack the drive to get up and go every day of your life. This is a sure sign that you need to make a change in your life. Make a list of the parts of your life that make you happy, and focus on them. Check out your list of goals and see which ones aren’t attainable without making a change. Spend some time working on hobbies. You may find that your heart is really into something completely unrelated to your current position. Maybe you can find a way to make a living doing that instead. Finding a reason to get out of bed will set you on a path to success every day of your life.

7. You lack self-care

Earlier, I talked about how neglecting the positives in your life can be downright exhausting. Well, neglecting your own body can be equally as tiring. If you find that you’re not eating right, sleeping right, or visiting the doctor or dentist for check-ups simply because you don’t want to take the time to do so, you need to reevaluate your life as a whole. Yes, going to the dentist is expensive, but you can’t put a price on your health. Even going to the gym a few times during the week can break you out of your rut. As an added bonus, you’ll start to feel better about yourself — physically, emotionally, and mentally.

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You could be the most upbeat person in the world, but if you don’t have others around you that share your passion for life it will be impossible to maintain a sense of optimism.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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