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10 Secrets Of Life Steve Jobs Would Want You To Know

10 Secrets Of Life Steve Jobs Would Want You To Know

Whenever I see this picture of some guy paying tribute to Steve Jobs at a ceremony; instead of being sad, I feel nostalgic that Jobs’ legacy will live on as long as technology reigns.

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    “No great man lives in vain. The history of the world is but the biography of great men.” – Thomas Carlyle

    Every great life gives you a myriad of lessons. If you are keen enough to learn from them, then you are destined towards greatness too. Here are 10 secrets of life Steve Jobs would want you to know.

    1. “What would Steve Jobs do?”

    During the absence of Steve, whenever they had a problem in Apple, insiders would tackle the problem by contemplating, “What would Steve do in this situation?” Jobs immediately chucked off that notion by declaring that, “we can never take present decisions basing on the past examples.” Instead, he encouraged them to do what they are actually supposed to do. So, Apple has become invincible even after Steve’s death.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “No one answer fits every scenario, you have to constantly explore.”

    2. Simplicity is achieved through complexity

    Somehow we feel that achieving simplicity is far easier than being complex. As Einstein famously puts it, “If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.” True. You can only achieve simplicity after passing through confusing phases of complexity.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “Be simple, aim to be simple for greatness resides in simplicity.”

    3. Sell people their dreams, not your products or services

    Never ever sell your products or services. Just sell people their dreams. Make it so that they are crazy not to worship your brand. That’s what happened with Apple. Steve just showed the way to the dreams we had. To put it simply, we believed in him. He never asked us to purchase Apple products. They just empowered us with the technology to achieve.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “You just have to change the perspective. Make your brand personal.”

    4. Going minimal is the key

    Minimalism is the new habit now. Have you ever noticed that all the Apple products come without a manual  and with minimal packaging? That’s because, Jobs believed in being minimal and simply executed it.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “The secret of happiness is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.”

    5. Provide them with social currency

    Just as people use money to buy products or services, they also use social currency to achieve desired positive impressions among their families, friends, and colleagues. You need to leverage your dynamics to give people ways to achieve and provide visible symbols or status that they can show to others, just like Apple.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “Make people feel good, they will follow you.”

    6. Discard the obvious

    “There are thousand no’s for every yes. We simplify, we perfect and we start over until everything we touch enhances each life it touches. Only then do we sign our work.” – Apple

    Discarding the obvious choice is the key to Apple’s success. Random choices are obvious, but the perfect choice takes time. You might arrive at your choice, only after discarding many other choices.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “Say ‘NO’ for every ‘YES’ until you reach the desired result. Rise above the mediocrity by discarding obvious choices.

    Watch this video, “Working Strategy” of Apple for more secrets.

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    7. Provide value continuously

    Money is what you get when you exchange something of value. Steve Jobs knew this secret pretty well. Take any Apple product, you will have continuous value propositions — be it in the form of iTunes, software updates, free trials, or many others. You will never regret purchasing an Apple product because you receive value propositions throughout its lifetime.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “Be indispensable and provide value. People will follow you but do it as a habit not as a strategy.”

    8. Vision is crucial

    Check out this video first before examining the vision of a product.

    Way back in 1991, Jobs imagined the vision of applications and personal computers for everyone. He even discussed the strategy of providing applications pertaining to every subject of study to empower people in that arena (in the above video). To put it simply, he was 20 years ahead. Envisioning something out of nothing can only be done by a few great souls like Steve.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “Stick on to the vision and believe in it. You will achieve it.”

    9. Make lives easy

    Steve Jobs made everything easy for consumers. Do you know that all Apple products comes “pre-charged”, so that you can enjoy the product without facing the hassle of waiting for it to get charged before you can enjoy it. This is just one example. Every effort of Steve Jobs had only one goal: to make our lives easy.

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    “Serve people as much as you can. You have the evidence.” – APPLE

    10. Aesthetics matter

    Design matters. Often the quality of designed environment determines the quality of life. Jobs believed in it. He constantly hinted that, “Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.” Beauty is a promise of goodness, it encourages our better sides.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “Good design helps us to be the best version of ourselves. Strive for it.”

    Featured photo credit: gNakata via amagico.com

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    Published on May 4, 2021

    How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

    How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

    They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

    In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

    How to Spot Fake People?

    When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

    Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

    1. Full of Themselves

    Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

    Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

    2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

    Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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    It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

    3. Zero Self-Reflection

    To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

    Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

    4. Unrealistic Perceptions

    Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

    A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

    5. Love Attention

    As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

    6. People Pleaser

    Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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    Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

    7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

    Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

    8. Crappy friend

    Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

    It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

    The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

    How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

    It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

    There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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    1. Boundaries

    Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

    2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

    Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

    3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

    If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

    4. Ask for Advice

    If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

    Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

    5. Dig Deeper

    Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

    Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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    6. Practice Self-Care!

    Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

    Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

    Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

    Final Thoughts

    Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

    We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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