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10 Secrets Of Life Steve Jobs Would Want You To Know

10 Secrets Of Life Steve Jobs Would Want You To Know

Whenever I see this picture of some guy paying tribute to Steve Jobs at a ceremony; instead of being sad, I feel nostalgic that Jobs’ legacy will live on as long as technology reigns.

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    “No great man lives in vain. The history of the world is but the biography of great men.” – Thomas Carlyle

    Every great life gives you a myriad of lessons. If you are keen enough to learn from them, then you are destined towards greatness too. Here are 10 secrets of life Steve Jobs would want you to know.

    1. “What would Steve Jobs do?”

    During the absence of Steve, whenever they had a problem in Apple, insiders would tackle the problem by contemplating, “What would Steve do in this situation?” Jobs immediately chucked off that notion by declaring that, “we can never take present decisions basing on the past examples.” Instead, he encouraged them to do what they are actually supposed to do. So, Apple has become invincible even after Steve’s death.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “No one answer fits every scenario, you have to constantly explore.”

    2. Simplicity is achieved through complexity

    Somehow we feel that achieving simplicity is far easier than being complex. As Einstein famously puts it, “If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.” True. You can only achieve simplicity after passing through confusing phases of complexity.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “Be simple, aim to be simple for greatness resides in simplicity.”

    3. Sell people their dreams, not your products or services

    Never ever sell your products or services. Just sell people their dreams. Make it so that they are crazy not to worship your brand. That’s what happened with Apple. Steve just showed the way to the dreams we had. To put it simply, we believed in him. He never asked us to purchase Apple products. They just empowered us with the technology to achieve.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “You just have to change the perspective. Make your brand personal.”

    4. Going minimal is the key

    Minimalism is the new habit now. Have you ever noticed that all the Apple products come without a manual  and with minimal packaging? That’s because, Jobs believed in being minimal and simply executed it.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “The secret of happiness is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.”

    5. Provide them with social currency

    Just as people use money to buy products or services, they also use social currency to achieve desired positive impressions among their families, friends, and colleagues. You need to leverage your dynamics to give people ways to achieve and provide visible symbols or status that they can show to others, just like Apple.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “Make people feel good, they will follow you.”

    6. Discard the obvious

    “There are thousand no’s for every yes. We simplify, we perfect and we start over until everything we touch enhances each life it touches. Only then do we sign our work.” – Apple

    Discarding the obvious choice is the key to Apple’s success. Random choices are obvious, but the perfect choice takes time. You might arrive at your choice, only after discarding many other choices.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “Say ‘NO’ for every ‘YES’ until you reach the desired result. Rise above the mediocrity by discarding obvious choices.

    Watch this video, “Working Strategy” of Apple for more secrets.

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    7. Provide value continuously

    Money is what you get when you exchange something of value. Steve Jobs knew this secret pretty well. Take any Apple product, you will have continuous value propositions — be it in the form of iTunes, software updates, free trials, or many others. You will never regret purchasing an Apple product because you receive value propositions throughout its lifetime.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “Be indispensable and provide value. People will follow you but do it as a habit not as a strategy.”

    8. Vision is crucial

    Check out this video first before examining the vision of a product.

    Way back in 1991, Jobs imagined the vision of applications and personal computers for everyone. He even discussed the strategy of providing applications pertaining to every subject of study to empower people in that arena (in the above video). To put it simply, he was 20 years ahead. Envisioning something out of nothing can only be done by a few great souls like Steve.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “Stick on to the vision and believe in it. You will achieve it.”

    9. Make lives easy

    Steve Jobs made everything easy for consumers. Do you know that all Apple products comes “pre-charged”, so that you can enjoy the product without facing the hassle of waiting for it to get charged before you can enjoy it. This is just one example. Every effort of Steve Jobs had only one goal: to make our lives easy.

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    “Serve people as much as you can. You have the evidence.” – APPLE

    10. Aesthetics matter

    Design matters. Often the quality of designed environment determines the quality of life. Jobs believed in it. He constantly hinted that, “Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works.” Beauty is a promise of goodness, it encourages our better sides.

    A secret from Steve Jobs – “Good design helps us to be the best version of ourselves. Strive for it.”

    Featured photo credit: gNakata via amagico.com

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    How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

    How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

    Do you say yes so often that you realize you aren’t really happy about this, wondering how to say no to people?

    For years, I was a serial people pleaser. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

    But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

    It took a long while but I learned the art of saying no. Saying ‘no’ meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. I started to manage my time more around my own needs and interests. When that happened, I became a lot happier. And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

    The Importance of Saying No

    When you learn the art of saying ‘no,’ you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

    In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

    Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey considered one of the most successful women in the world confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything. It was only when she realized that after years of struggling with saying no, I finally got to this question: “What do I want?”

    Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

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    Warren Buffett views no as essential to his success. He said,

    “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

    When I made ‘no’ a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

    How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

    It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say ‘no.’

    From an early age, we are conditioned to say ‘yes.’ We said yes probably hundreds of time in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work. We said yes get a promotion. We said yes to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

    We say yes because it feels better to help someone. We say yes because it can seem like the right thing to do. We say yes because we think that is key to success. And we say yes because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist like the boss.

    And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves. At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we feel guilty we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

    The message no matter where we turn is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

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    How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

    Deciding to add the word ‘no’ to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say ‘no’ but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of ‘no’ that you could finally create more time for things you care about. But let’s be honest, using the word ‘no’ doesn’t come easily for many people.

    The 3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

    1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

    Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time especially you haven’t done it much in the past will feel awkward.

    2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

    Remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it, who else knows about all of the demands on your time? No one. Only you are at the center of all of these requests. are the only one that understands what time you really have.

    3. Saying ‘No’ Means Saying ‘Yes’ to Something That Matters

    When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

    6 Ways to Start Saying No

    Incorporating that little word ‘no’ into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

    1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

    One of the biggest challenges to saying ‘no’ is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no reflect poorly on you?

    Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

    2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

    Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because FOMO even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

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    Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better.

    3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say ‘No’

    Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say ‘yes’ because we worry about how others will respond or the consequences of saying no or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose respect from others. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

    Keep in mind that saying ‘no’ can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way. You might disappoint someone initially but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to.

    4. When the Request Comes In, Sit on It

    Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

    Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time, or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say ‘no.’ There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

    5. Communicate Your ‘No’ with Transparency and Kindness

    When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

    Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

    A clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

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    6. Consider How to Use a Modified ‘No’

    If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” giving you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

    Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

    Final Thoughts

    Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

    Use the request as a fresh request to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself. If you are the one placing the demand on yourself, try to evaluate the demand as if it were coming from somewhere else.

    Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project but not by working all weekend. Or, tell someone in your family you can’t loan them money again because they never paid you back the last time. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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