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10 Reasons People Who Enjoy Their “Me” Time Are More Likely To Be Successful

10 Reasons People Who Enjoy Their “Me” Time Are More Likely To Be Successful

People who enjoy their me time know something we don’t. Introverts have significant advantage over the rest of us who like to shoot at the hip. It’s time to call them out for the all-stars they truly are. The contemplative nature of reserved types aren’t preoccupied with what the next moment holds. They are firmly placed in the present and experience a much richer life because of it.

Looking out for oneself has a bad rap these days. “How can you be so selfish?” An accusatory statement we use to jab at our significant other or friends for focusing more on themselves than us. But what if this is their trick to winning at life? Let your “me” flag fly and check this out.

1. They Enjoy Deeper Connections

Results from a study at the University of Michigan showed marriages where partners took their “me” time to be a significant factor of happiness. Believe it or not a faltering sex life was less of a cause for failed relationships than each partner having their opportunity to cultivate their own interests (MBG). Emotional availability is improved when they spend time routinely exploring their own mind. After all, they are fascinating people.

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2. They Never Leave The House With A Low Battery

Psychologists advocate our use of alone time in order to give our brains the reboot it needs. They are aware of how full their mind battery is at any given time which gives them access to deep thinking, concentration, productivity and problem solving. Not only that they are happier because of it. Sometimes it’s okay to step on the brakes and they know better than anyone (Happify).

3. They Know Calendars Are Their Best Friend

Schedule, schedule, schedule. Without this secret ingredient the “me” time never happens. Quality time for themselves is the most important over quantity and a British study supports this claim (MBG). By making head space for the “me” activity it leads to a greater wellbeing, better work engagement and an improved work-life balance. In todays world of always on electronics that is a breath of fresh air.

4. They Have Self Confidence

Saying “no” is something they have no problem doing because they spend time learning about what it is that truly makes them happy. When we spend time pleasing others it is easy to lose touch with what we want out of life. They are believers in the phrase, “Life is short, so live it.”

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5. Their Brains Are More Advanced

Naturally all of this quality “me” time leads to good decisions on what activities to engage in. They invest in good books, learning how to play a musical instrument or group sports. Part of what makes them so powerful as people is that they realize their time doesn’t always have to be spent alone. Human happiness comes from being social with others and grows our brains as a result.

6. They Are Way More Creative

When we are zoomed in on a problem it is hard to see the big picture. “Me” timers are apt to have free space in their minds for possibilities. The creative process is not one to rush and the introverted mind is superb at finding answers to questions most of us, including myself, cannot hack.

7. They Rise 30 Minutes Earlier

Getting up in the morning doesn’t have to be an ordeal for them. They know that even a small head start on the day gets the brain juices flowing earlier and makes room for them to express gratitude through a journal, read a book or start on the news. No matter how busy their schedule is they always seem to get more done than anyone else. Don’t be jealous, try it.

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8. They Close Their Door

The office or home environment can get chaotic at times. Alerting others to their focus on a project or creative process will allow the space they need to excel. Ditch the guilt of spending time away from the social bustle to prevent burn out. It makes them better friends, parents, partners and team members.

9. They Don’t Have Trouble Concentrating

Spending more time in the moment is easy when they look out for themselves. On average men enjoy 28 hours of leisure time where women only get around 25 hours. They realize that this time should be spent on high quality activities that they enjoy. When it’s time to get back to work it’s not difficult for them to focus in on what they need to get done because of how centered they are.

10. They Experience Less Guilt

According to research 29% of spouses say they don’t have enough privacy or time for themselves in the relationship. They aren’t afraid to express their feelings about what their status is with those they connect with enabling a new depth to relationships. It’s not uncommon for them to share exciting news like, “I decided I’m going to learn how to play piano!” The positive impact on others from their self confidence gives them a guilt free lifestyle, opening access to a world of “me” (MBG).

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Are you one of these rare people that enjoy their “me” time? Has it effected your life in a beneficial way? Comment below and share your experiences.

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Published on March 19, 2019

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success


Do you remember the last time you faced a major setback–when you felt so low, that nothing seemed to make you happy? No matter how hard you tried, you just felt like the world was against you. Perhaps it was a bad relationship, or the loss of a loved one… maybe something bad happened at work? Whatever it may be, could you recall how your attitude was towards that situation?

Often when we’re caught in an unhappy situation, we feel limited and sometimes trapped. We want to get out of it as quickly as we can, but it’s never quite that simple.

Unfortunately, some people can remain in that terrible situation for weeks, months or even years; while others may come out strong and ready to start over–or continue from where they left off–fairly quickly.

So what sets these two groups apart?

The answer is their attitude.

Attitude is everything when it comes to achieving a goal, and tackling a setback or problem. 

When you’re able to have a positive mindset, you’ll be able to break free of your limitations that are holding you back.

A positive attitude also goes a long way in ensuring you come out victorious from whatever limitations that were holding you back before. It transforms not just your mental state, but your physical and emotional well being. It is the key to lasting total transformation.

Positive Attitude Brings About Positive Health 

When you’re stuck in a rut, often the first thoughts that run through your head are negative, thus your outlook likely becomes pessimistic. But, if you can transform those thoughts into more positive ones, then you’re on your way to talking yourself out of that rut, which allows you to move forward.

Of course, positive thinking doesn’t mean ignoring all the bad or unpleasant feelings altogether. It just means that you approach unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way–instead of taking everything as a victim to negative circumstances, you see it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Be aware of self talk!

These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self talk comes from logic and reason, while other self talk may arise from misconceptions that you create. Others could come from external sources such as negative people around you, or messages from the media.

The key is to surround yourself with positive influences that can help turn those negative thoughts into positive, more productive actions.You’ll not only feel better about the situation, but in the long run, positive thinking can lower your levels of distress and depression and give you better coping skills during hardships.

Researchers studying the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health have also found that positive thinking may provide increased life span, better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease, and even greater resistance to the common cold!

It’s unclear why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits, but one theory is that having a positive outlook enables you to cope better with stressful situations, which reduces the harmful health effects of stress on your body.

It’s also thought that positive and optimistic people tend to live healthier lifestyles — they get more physical activity, follow a healthier diet, and don’t smoke or drink alcohol in excess.

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Suffering is Inevitable, So It’s Best to Accept It 

Now, one thing that everyone goes through at some point, is suffering. It’s a harsh reality, yet you can’t actually avoid it. We experience suffering as the result of unhappiness, fear, anger, loss or frustration. In fact, it would be hard to even imagine the feeling of happiness if we never experienced suffering! How would we ever compare it?

So instead of wallowing in sorrow about the suffering you have endured, take the suffering as an opportunity for change. Did you get laid off from your job? Perhaps this would be a good time to re-assess your career goals.

Rather than feeling negative and stuck, use your time and energy to find opportunities which will put you ahead. With the right attitude, anything can seem possible.

This may sound crazy, but suffering is the secret to being successful! 

Here’s what I mean. It’s impossible to think of new ideas or understand new experiences without stepping outside of your comfort zone. Anyone who has met great successes has also faced many failures, as nobody wins on every try.

To propel you toward success, find a way to track your progress and to set and celebrate small benchmarks. It may be helpful to conduct a weekly review to assess where you are and acknowledge all of the small wins of the week. Every accomplishment, no matter how small, is an achievement; so, be sure to take note of them.

Tracking your progress is also a great way to find and mitigate triggers and hindrances that impede your progress. The point is, you’re making progress; even if it feels like suffering, you can see that it’s leading you to joy.

Remember, don’t compare yourself to others. Only compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Each step you make towards progress is making you a better version of you.

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Gratitude Goes a Long Way in Shaping Attitude 

Now, this may seem difficult to do when you’re already feeling down, but having gratitude is a very useful when you’re trying to navigate your way out of a setback. Being grateful for existing accomplishments and the supports in your life will help you see them more clearly, build your own confidence, and give you a better overall outlook on what your limitations really are and what you have to do to overcome them.

With a grateful attitude, you limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Being grateful, even during the toughest of times, steers your attitude towards a more positive one, allowing you to get back on your feet much more quickly. Many studies done on gratitude have shown positive results for people who practice regularly, such as improvement in relationships and in mental health. There’s even studies that show higher motivation in work settings due to a simple ‘thank you’ from managers to their subordinates.

Believe in Yourself and Your Truth

This is often easier said than done, but is also the most empowering truth to overcoming your setbacks and limitations in life.

Many people find it hard to keep a positive attitude during tough times because they lack inner confidence. They doubt their abilities because of the ‘failure’ that they’re experiencing, and don’t think that they can rise above again.

But, confidence doesn’t just come from talent, luck or easy opportunity. Confidence comes from overcoming difficulties and facing your fears head on. 

Confidence is a result of getting out of your comfort zone. The more you do this, the more confident you’ll be, and the more positive your attitude will be. Confidence will help you see your goals more clearly, find your strengths within, reach your goals and overcome your limitations much more quickly.

Here’s a quick story about my own struggles helping me get ahead:

When I first started Lifehack, it took a long time to gain a solid readership. Just getting 100 visitors was a challenge and took a good bit of time. I had great ambitions for this site, yet it seemed like I was doomed to fail. I received plenty of criticism, too. Some people thought that the world didn’t need yet another self help site, others offered the opinion that there was something wrong with the idea itself and I was making a mistake.

It was hard for me not to listen to them and, at some times, agree. But, persistence is key, and in the end I chose to believe in my truth.

I worked tirelessly changing the site layout, restructuring articles, and making the site more user friendly. Slowly, I expanded to a team with the hiring of some extremely dynamic and talented people. With each determined effort, the site grew in popularity, and a few years later, we had influenced millions–and continue to do so.

Pushing myself out of my comfort zone and facing every challenge head on were the greatest contributing factors to increasing my confidence. So welcome the challenges that come; don’t avoid them, as they’re all opportunities in disguise to feed your growth.

Your Attitude Sets the Tone for Success 

Do you see the importance of having a positive attitude? It is so much more than a mindset or state of mind. Your attitude sets the tone for every action and behavior that follows after, and that will determine how long it takes for you to break free from your current circumstance.

So if you’re currently in an unhappy situation, why not give it a try and look at things from a more positive outlook? As mentioned, not only does having a positive attitude bring about favorable outcomes, it also brings about positive health in the long run.

Embracing hardship as it is, and using it as a learning experience to grow, will also make you stronger. And, whether you’re going through good or bad times, practicing gratitude will no doubt help to limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Lastly, in any circumstance, you are your greatest barrier to success, which is why it’s important to always believe in yourself!

You will always have the power to be in control of your situation because your attitude is determined by you. So start harnessing all that positive thinking to turn those limitations into strengths!

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