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10 Indicators Showing You’ve Found Your True Love, Girls

10 Indicators Showing You’ve Found Your True Love, Girls

I’ve always wondered, how will you know when you’ve found the one? What makes you realise that your babe of a boyfriend is actually the core human existence you couldn’t imagine life without? Sure, you’re a great couple and you have fun, heck someone once commented #relationshipgoals on your Instagram but seriously when do you know when you’ve struck love true and hard?!

I took to my most loved up friends and family to ask them and the results were quite surprising. Forget the soppy stuff you’re told as a kid, these are real, honest and true indications of when you’ve found true love..

1. You’re not embarrassed by your body malfunctions

You know you’ve found true love when you’re comfortable enough to tell him you had a ‘monthly’ accident on his new crisp white sheets and you know he’ll find it endearing. Everyone has body hiccups from time to time and when you’re not afraid of them being seen (or heard) you know you’ve got a keeper. Being gross with your boyfriend shows you’re not afraid for him to see your inner, most human self.

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2. You’ve got inside jokes with his family

You’ve hit a new level of true love when his Mum is one of the top contacts in your phone. You send each other cute cat pictures or text anecdotes from your last visit that even your boyfriend doesn’t understand. Family is his root foundation so if you love them it shows you love him too and he’ll adore the fact his two favourite females have teamed up.

3. You can mention marriage and children

You know you’ve found true love when you can casually mention marriage and what you’re going to name your first son (we know you’ve already planned it) and he doesn’t go into panic mode. Sometimes he even brings it up! This is a clear way sign that your love is true and he sees you by his side in the future.

4. You don’t care about your appearance

You don’t need to shave your legs every time you see him because you know how little it matters to him, he loves you for you and doesn’t flinch as he runs his hands across your prickly legs. You’ll happily spend the evening with your face blotched in sudo cream and he’ll not so much as mention you look like a monster. True love is so much deeper than what’s on the surface and you know he’ll love you the same with half a tub of spot cream on your face or in those new tight black jeans.

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5. You’re best friends

You could spend every second of the day with him and not get bored. Your relationship has no limit and you know he’s the perfect companion to join you with whatever you need, be it shopping, dinner, cinema, the gym, your parents house, a night out. He will always fit the bill.

6. You have your own slang

You’ve developed your own abbreviations and slang so much so, you basically have your own language. Love is all about communication but true love is when you can be in the middle of a group of people, utter one word/sound and know what you’re both thinking.

7. You realise cliches are true, just a lot less cringeworthy

The last thing you think about when you go to sleep and first when you wake up? That’s actually a thing. He makes you want to be a better person and you feel braver and more determined to succeed knowing he’s going to be by your side and you finally understand what your Mum meant when she said ‘when you’re in love, you’ll just know’

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8. You can wear his pants

Forget the baggy boyfriend shirt you donned in the early days of your relationship. True love is when you’re out of clean knickers so wear his boxers and further more, give them a good sniff to check you’ve got a fresh pair. True. Love.

9. You only need his reassurance

When you’re having a freak out, an impossible day or just feeling plain miserable, it only takes his words and touch and you feel like your worries and stresses have been lifted. It doesn’t matter if he’s repeated the same advice you’ve been hearing all day, suddenly when it comes from him it makes so much sense. You truly value him and his words can instantly feel like a remedy.

10. You think about his happiness before your own

You put him first. It becomes natural to start putting their own happiness above your own. Ultimately you just want to see them happy and you’ll do whatever you can to make that happen. True love is selfless and they become your number one priority.

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Featured photo credit: Samuel Hearn via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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