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10 Indicators Showing You’ve Found Your True Love, Girls

10 Indicators Showing You’ve Found Your True Love, Girls

I’ve always wondered, how will you know when you’ve found the one? What makes you realise that your babe of a boyfriend is actually the core human existence you couldn’t imagine life without? Sure, you’re a great couple and you have fun, heck someone once commented #relationshipgoals on your Instagram but seriously when do you know when you’ve struck love true and hard?!

I took to my most loved up friends and family to ask them and the results were quite surprising. Forget the soppy stuff you’re told as a kid, these are real, honest and true indications of when you’ve found true love..

1. You’re not embarrassed by your body malfunctions

You know you’ve found true love when you’re comfortable enough to tell him you had a ‘monthly’ accident on his new crisp white sheets and you know he’ll find it endearing. Everyone has body hiccups from time to time and when you’re not afraid of them being seen (or heard) you know you’ve got a keeper. Being gross with your boyfriend shows you’re not afraid for him to see your inner, most human self.

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2. You’ve got inside jokes with his family

You’ve hit a new level of true love when his Mum is one of the top contacts in your phone. You send each other cute cat pictures or text anecdotes from your last visit that even your boyfriend doesn’t understand. Family is his root foundation so if you love them it shows you love him too and he’ll adore the fact his two favourite females have teamed up.

3. You can mention marriage and children

You know you’ve found true love when you can casually mention marriage and what you’re going to name your first son (we know you’ve already planned it) and he doesn’t go into panic mode. Sometimes he even brings it up! This is a clear way sign that your love is true and he sees you by his side in the future.

4. You don’t care about your appearance

You don’t need to shave your legs every time you see him because you know how little it matters to him, he loves you for you and doesn’t flinch as he runs his hands across your prickly legs. You’ll happily spend the evening with your face blotched in sudo cream and he’ll not so much as mention you look like a monster. True love is so much deeper than what’s on the surface and you know he’ll love you the same with half a tub of spot cream on your face or in those new tight black jeans.

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5. You’re best friends

You could spend every second of the day with him and not get bored. Your relationship has no limit and you know he’s the perfect companion to join you with whatever you need, be it shopping, dinner, cinema, the gym, your parents house, a night out. He will always fit the bill.

6. You have your own slang

You’ve developed your own abbreviations and slang so much so, you basically have your own language. Love is all about communication but true love is when you can be in the middle of a group of people, utter one word/sound and know what you’re both thinking.

7. You realise cliches are true, just a lot less cringeworthy

The last thing you think about when you go to sleep and first when you wake up? That’s actually a thing. He makes you want to be a better person and you feel braver and more determined to succeed knowing he’s going to be by your side and you finally understand what your Mum meant when she said ‘when you’re in love, you’ll just know’

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8. You can wear his pants

Forget the baggy boyfriend shirt you donned in the early days of your relationship. True love is when you’re out of clean knickers so wear his boxers and further more, give them a good sniff to check you’ve got a fresh pair. True. Love.

9. You only need his reassurance

When you’re having a freak out, an impossible day or just feeling plain miserable, it only takes his words and touch and you feel like your worries and stresses have been lifted. It doesn’t matter if he’s repeated the same advice you’ve been hearing all day, suddenly when it comes from him it makes so much sense. You truly value him and his words can instantly feel like a remedy.

10. You think about his happiness before your own

You put him first. It becomes natural to start putting their own happiness above your own. Ultimately you just want to see them happy and you’ll do whatever you can to make that happen. True love is selfless and they become your number one priority.

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Featured photo credit: Samuel Hearn via flickr.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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