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12 Signs You Have Been With Someone For Too Long

12 Signs You Have Been With Someone For Too Long

You are part of a couple that has been together for so long, it feels like you have been a couple since before the dinosaurs. Or probably like an couple in their 80s. People have been wondering how you can stay together in this long-term relationship, despite the differences and still not drive each other nuts. The thing is, you know the secret on how you can keep each other by spicing up each other’s life on a daily basis.

Here are 12 signs you have been with someone for too long, but it’s definitely not a bad thing:

1. You can fart whenever you want without feeling embarrassed.

You feel completely comfortable letting off the gas, even when they are around. They might give you a face when they realize it, but you will not fear that will ruin your reputation with them anymore.

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2. You can wake up with your messy hair and stinky breath without feeling awkward.

You could even stay in bed and chat for a bit after waking. Perhaps when you start smelling his morning breath you will tell him to go brush his teeth!

3. You can recite the story your partner’s going to tell you when they say the first word.

You know exactly what your partner is going to say before they even finish saying it. You are like their duplicating machine; you don’t need much effort to figure out what they are going to say next.

4. You can laugh hysterically at something you find funny.

You just burst out laughing at some funny videos you saw online in front of them without worrying if your partner would think you were out of your mind.

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5. You put out the most random dance move in front of your partner.

You randomly showcase your crazy dance in front of your partner without worrying about being judged by them. The reactions you get could go from your partner dancing along with that crazy move or your partner looking at you with a poker face.

6. You can walk around the house with no pants on.

You are no longer shy hanging around the place without looking completely proper for the sanity of your partner. Especially during summer!

7. You joke with each other.

Where is the fun of it if you don’t occasionally joke with each other? It can be a simple joke to lighten up your day, like your partner will asking if you have the parking ticket with you and you say “nope,” even though you actually have the ticket with you. Then you pull out the ticket and you smile at your partner wickedly as though you just pulled the best prank ever created.

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8. You talk with a whole lot of toothpaste in your mouth.

Brushing your teeth would not be as fun without you talking with all the toothpaste in your mouth. Who cares if the paste starts dripping out of your mouth while you are saying what you need to say to your partner!

9. You fight for the covers on a nightly basis.

You have accepted the fact that the covers will never be equally shared between you and your partner. You spend too many nights pulling on the cover because you realize that you are completely out of cover.

10. You can pick your nose in front of your partner.

Let’s admit it. You might not want other people to see you digging in your nose, but in front of your partner, you couldn’t care less. Although they might point out that you are gross, you know they don’t really mind and are just teasing you.

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11. You no longer have cold sweats when you are alone with your partner’s family.

Your partner’s family has become a part of your own family. You no longer feel awkward around them. You no longer feel the need to bury yourself on the ground in order to keep you from saying or doing something inappropriate.

12. You insist on telling your partner all about your favorite TV show they don’t watch.

You make it your life’s mission to keep your partner updated on your favorite show even though they are not a big fan. Come on, where is the fun if you are the only one enjoying that awesome show?

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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