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12 Signs You Have Been With Someone For Too Long

12 Signs You Have Been With Someone For Too Long

You are part of a couple that has been together for so long, it feels like you have been a couple since before the dinosaurs. Or probably like an couple in their 80s. People have been wondering how you can stay together in this long-term relationship, despite the differences and still not drive each other nuts. The thing is, you know the secret on how you can keep each other by spicing up each other’s life on a daily basis.

Here are 12 signs you have been with someone for too long, but it’s definitely not a bad thing:

1. You can fart whenever you want without feeling embarrassed.

You feel completely comfortable letting off the gas, even when they are around. They might give you a face when they realize it, but you will not fear that will ruin your reputation with them anymore.

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2. You can wake up with your messy hair and stinky breath without feeling awkward.

You could even stay in bed and chat for a bit after waking. Perhaps when you start smelling his morning breath you will tell him to go brush his teeth!

3. You can recite the story your partner’s going to tell you when they say the first word.

You know exactly what your partner is going to say before they even finish saying it. You are like their duplicating machine; you don’t need much effort to figure out what they are going to say next.

4. You can laugh hysterically at something you find funny.

You just burst out laughing at some funny videos you saw online in front of them without worrying if your partner would think you were out of your mind.

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5. You put out the most random dance move in front of your partner.

You randomly showcase your crazy dance in front of your partner without worrying about being judged by them. The reactions you get could go from your partner dancing along with that crazy move or your partner looking at you with a poker face.

6. You can walk around the house with no pants on.

You are no longer shy hanging around the place without looking completely proper for the sanity of your partner. Especially during summer!

7. You joke with each other.

Where is the fun of it if you don’t occasionally joke with each other? It can be a simple joke to lighten up your day, like your partner will asking if you have the parking ticket with you and you say “nope,” even though you actually have the ticket with you. Then you pull out the ticket and you smile at your partner wickedly as though you just pulled the best prank ever created.

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8. You talk with a whole lot of toothpaste in your mouth.

Brushing your teeth would not be as fun without you talking with all the toothpaste in your mouth. Who cares if the paste starts dripping out of your mouth while you are saying what you need to say to your partner!

9. You fight for the covers on a nightly basis.

You have accepted the fact that the covers will never be equally shared between you and your partner. You spend too many nights pulling on the cover because you realize that you are completely out of cover.

10. You can pick your nose in front of your partner.

Let’s admit it. You might not want other people to see you digging in your nose, but in front of your partner, you couldn’t care less. Although they might point out that you are gross, you know they don’t really mind and are just teasing you.

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11. You no longer have cold sweats when you are alone with your partner’s family.

Your partner’s family has become a part of your own family. You no longer feel awkward around them. You no longer feel the need to bury yourself on the ground in order to keep you from saying or doing something inappropriate.

12. You insist on telling your partner all about your favorite TV show they don’t watch.

You make it your life’s mission to keep your partner updated on your favorite show even though they are not a big fan. Come on, where is the fun if you are the only one enjoying that awesome show?

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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