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15 Small Habits Great Couples Do Every Day (And They Are Way More Powerful Than You Imagine)

15 Small Habits Great Couples Do Every Day (And They Are Way More Powerful Than You Imagine)

Being happy in a relationship requires effort and hard work on both persons in it. While many may scorn at the idea of performing certain acts daily, happy couples are aware of each other and are never hesitant to show love to their partners daily.

1.They are present for each other

Forget the gadgets, the cellphones or the tablet. Happy couples are present for each other and are attentive to each other’s needs.

2. They go the extra mile for each other

There is no singular factor here, they know what it means to go the extra mile for the other person.a nd they are so happy to do that, whether it is in making your spouse that cup of tea or breakfast, or placing a gentle hand on his/her shoulder, there is something they do to show they are extra supportive.

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3. They are courteous

Happy couples know that they have evolved from a simple dating relationship. They are willing to mind their manners and be respectful to the other person’s request.

4. They show gratitude

A simple thank you could go a long way to making sure the relationship is on great track. A thank you shows that you know the other person’s worth in your life.

5. They give each other gifts

The small things matter. You don’t have to buy your partner the most expensive gift in the shop. Sometimes a simple kiss can be reassuring.

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6. They check in on each other

We are all busy, right? But that does not mean you cannot call or text your partner to show you are concerned about them. Every happy couple does this.

7. They forgive

A little grudge or resentment has a way of blowing out of proportion. Smart and happy couples do not let transgressions stand in their way of being happy together.

8. They offer support

Your partner’s dreams and goals should be of interest to you. happy couples are very much interested in the goals and plans of their partners. They cheer each other up daily.

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9. They have fun

There is no ill in being silly in the relationship. You can invent your own silly language. Yes being in a happy relationship means acting stupid sometimes.

10. They work as a team

There is no division when you are a happy couple. Happy couples know what being a team is worth it. Whether it is in washing the dishes or making a meal, you are more interesting when you are a team.

11. They always court each other

The best way they will always find each other attractive is in flirting and courting and each other daily. Such reminds them how handsome or beautiful they are. So notice your partner’s new haircuts or hairstyles, or their clothes or their wonderful new appearance.

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12. They touch each other lovingly

This should be a priority. It is not only about words, actions mean a lot. Every happy couple know the importance of a regular and loving touch. Hug your partner, rub their feet, just touch them and connect physically with them.

13. They say Yes

Many of us are great at saying no. But happy couples are great at saying yes to each other. When you start surprising your partner with a yes, great things will start happening in your relationship.

14. They make their partners a priority

No matter how busy or tired they are, they know that giving their partners more of themselves will provide more connection and bonding in the relationship. Happy couples are never hesitant to drop every other thing to make their partners a priority.

15. They cuddle

Sometimes what your partner needs is a reassuring cuddle to make them feel loved and relevant. Express yourself physically and gain warmth together. Such bonding helps you find comfort and security in being together.

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Last Updated on December 9, 2019

5 Warning Signs That You’re a People Pleaser

5 Warning Signs That You’re a People Pleaser

Do any of the followings sound familiar…

You cringe at the thought of saying no. You obsess about what others think of you and whether you’re doing something to make them dislike you. You live your life based on the opinions of others because you are deathly afraid of disappointing them.

If you say yes to all of these, you are likely a chronic people pleaser.

It’s hard not to struggle with people-pleasing at one time or another in our lives. As social beings, it’s in our nature to get along with others; our survival and success depend on it.

However, there is a fine line between healthy social behavior and the experience of emotional depletion caused by chronic people-pleasing. In addition to being emotionally drained, you may find yourself compromising on your principles and values in order to be accepted. As you help others to get what they want, your own health and well-being will suffer.

As a recovering people pleaser myself, I’ve observed these five common signs of chronic people-pleasing and some ways to overcome it:

1. You’re Incapable of Saying No

Do you find it painfully hard to turn down the requests of family, friends, and even acquaintances or strangers? You really want to say no, but instead, you say yes to their various demands.

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Before you know it, you’ve become the go-to person when something needs to get done. From the small to the large, you take on every task. You may even be considered a hero to some.

On the inside, you’re suffering. You genuinely want to help others, but you also know that you are depleting your own resources with every “yes.” You may fear that you’ll lose your friendships and good reputation by saying no. After all, last thing you want to be called is selfish.

Solution

First, realize that your capacity to care for others and your capacity to care for yourself are not mutually exclusive. In fact, the two are intimately related.

Second, understand that you are not responsible for the happiness of those around you. They are. Let these two realities give you permission to say no. Start practicing with small requests. Refuse kindly, and without apology.

2. You Avoid Making Decisions or Sharing Your Opinions

Do you have a hard time voicing your opinions and feelings in a group setting or with close friends? Do you constantly allow others to make decisions for you?

You understand a deep truth about decisions and opinions: they divide. However, it’s not in your nature to cause division by speaking up, so you remain silent to avoid conflict.

Over time, this behavior is deadly, because as you defer to the opinions and decisions of others, you are silencing your own voice. This will rob the world of your unique perspectives and gifts.

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Solution

Remember that you can disagree without being disagreeable. People can have divergent opinions and still treat each other with respect and kindness. So give voice to your thoughts, concerns, and needs.

By speaking up, you may rock the boat. You may even be outvoted. But if you treat others with respect, they will respect you even when they disagree with your opinions and choices.

3. You’re Crushed When You Discover Someone Doesn’t like You

This is a hard one. It seems reasonable to assume that if you go out of your way to please everyone, then everyone will like you. But it’s not true.

Some people will dislike you simply because of who you are or for reasons outside of your control. You understand this intellectually, but you cannot stop trying to win the few holdouts.

Solution

Closely examine your desire to be liked by everyone. Did this originate in your childhood, as you tried to win the affections of family members or friends at school? Use tools such as reflection, meditation, and counseling to help you let go of past negative experiences.

As social beings, we need to be loved and accepted – but not by everyone. Decide whose love and affection is worth the effort and whose is not.

4. You’re Resentful of Others but Are Not Sure Why

This often happens when we suppress our feelings and needs over the long term.

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Do you feel unexplained anger toward your close friends, spouse, or boss? The anger is your subconscious telling you that you have been neglecting yourself while helping others advance their goals. Think of this resentment as the “check engine” light turning on in your car. Don’t ignore it.

Solution

Face the truth of what is going on in your life. If you’re feeling overextended or taken advantage of, acknowledge these feelings. Avoid second-guessing yourself. Find time for self care, and make this a priority.

5. You’re Unaware of How Far You’re Willing to Go – Until You’re in over Your Head

This is a sure sign that you lack proper boundaries. You avoid setting limits because you believe this runs counter to having a generous spirit. But this simply allows people greater latitude to intrude into your life. The requests may become more and more unreasonable and you may not realize it until someone has crossed the line.

If you’ve taken on too much, you may experience passive aggressive behavior, crying for no apparent reason, anxiety, or depression.

Solution

Be willing to admit that your time and energy are limited, not because you’re selfish, but because it’s the truth.

Boundaries are simply a recognition of that truth. Do not be afraid to set your boundaries and enforce them. It will take a while for you and others to get used to it, but you’ll experience an increased sense of well-being, and people will learn to accept your limits.

Learn to set boundaries for good: How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

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Final Thoughts

You can be generous without allowing yourself to be used. You can be kind without being a pushover. You can be well-liked without having to sell your soul.

Don’t allow your fears and insecurities to turn you into a chronic people-pleaser. Instead, make time to please one of the most important people in your life: you.

Why? Because when you care for yourself, you can care for others out of the abundance of your own well-being. You will do this not because you are afraid of losing their affection, but simply because you want to. You will experience true freedom.

So decide today to give yourself the same love and attention you give to others. This is one decision you won’t regret.

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