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15 Reasons Why Your Older Sister Is The Best Gift Your Parents Gave You

15 Reasons Why Your Older Sister Is The Best Gift Your Parents Gave You

Do you have an older sister? An older sister can be the greatest gift life can give you. From wiping away your tears to teaching you about “grown-up stuff,” it is likely that your older sister made your life much easier – and much, much happier.

Check out 15 reasons why your older sister is the best gift your parents could give you.

1. You always had someone to play with as a child

As a child, you literally never had to play alone – and even though your older sister was too old for Barbies, she would still get her own out and play with you if you asked nicely enough.

2. She taught you about “the birds and the bees”

Your older sister’s worldly wisdom gave you most of the information you have on sex, and it was all pretty accurate. Because of her, you understood all of the innuendos in the family films you watched – although she did also spend a few months trying to convince you that you were adopted. Thanks, sis.

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3. She helped you to build your style

She may have laughed at your brown-and-purple-striped leggings when you were a child, but she also gave you some sparkly denim jeans to wear instead. She may have been pretty mean about some of your clothes and accessories as a child, but she helped you to form a fashion sense you’re proud of today.

4. She prepared your parents for you

Your older sister was the first one to stay out late, get a boyfriend, and go to college. Your parents were pretty clingy and strict with her, but she taught them that the best way to go with you was to give you some freedom and trust.

5. She is always honest with you

If you’re dating someone who isn’t good enough for you, or you aren’t achieving your full potential at work, she will be the first person to tell you — and she will probably do it in very blunt terms. You love having someone in your life who cares enough about you to be totally honest with you — even when it is hard to hear.

6. … so she always gives the best fashion advice

Her honesty is particularly useful when it comes fashion. You may both be fully grown adults now, but she is still 100 per cent honest with you about your fashion choices. If your outfit looks bad, she won’t let it go until you get changed. When you look back on the night, you always prefer the option your sister chose.

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7. She taught you nearly everything you needed to know

She taught you how to stick up to bullies, how to get over heartbreak, and even how to put your own shoes on. She is the only friend you have who has helped you so much — and you know she will continue to help you for years to come.

8. She is responsible when you’re not

From remembering to buy Christmas presents for your parents to making sure you get home safely when you’ve had too many drinks, you can always count on your older sister to be responsible for the pair of you.

9. She was your personal chauffeur

She may not have been happy about it, but driving you to school and back made your teenage ears much easier — mainly because she didn’t lecture you all the way there, like your parents did.

10. She made high school easier for you

You spent most of your high school years being referred to as “so-and-so’s little sister,” which you found a little annoying at the time. But, now you realize it made high school much easier for you — mostly because all of your friends thought she was sooo cool.

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11. She will always let you stay at her apartment

As long as your older sister has a bed, you always have somewhere to sleep. As a child, you used to crawl into her bed when you were scared, and now you crawl into her spare bed when you’ve had too many glasses of wine to go home.

12. She always shares with you

Her toys as a child, her clothes, and even her last slice of pizza — if you ask for some, she will always give it you to, albeit begrudgingly.

13. She is your life guru

If you’re having a career or relationship crisis, your older sister is always the first person you turn to. She cares about you more than anyone else and she understands you better than anyone else, so she always comes up with the best solutions.

14. She is the only person who you can really rant about your family to

If you rant about your family to your friends, they will listen patiently, but they can’t really join in. However, your sister knows exactly how to crack you up by doing an impression of your dad’s drunken dancing.

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15. She always supports you

From driving you to job interviews to sponsoring you when you do a charity run, your older sister will always support you — no matter what.

What did you think of this list? Share it with your older sister to see what she thinks!

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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