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7 Things To Know Before You Date A Sentimental Person

7 Things To Know Before You Date A Sentimental Person

My entire life I’ve heard, “Nice guys finish last.”

It’s a saying that’s mocked my morals to my core understandings of what it means to be a good person. I’ve never really understood why people don’t choose to seek out nice people to date. Niceness can be defined in many ways, but one of the strongest indicators of a “nice guy” (or girl) is the sentimental way they treat life.

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Dating a sentimental person has incredible benefits.

Life has special meaning to us.

Things that seem mundane to most people are extraordinarily beautiful to sentimental folks. We always complain that life goes to fast, but how often do you spend time to appreciate that a tree can grow (and even thrive) in an urban environment? When’s the last time you took five minutes to pull over and enjoy a sunset without thinking about which Instagram filter would make the clouds look most like Crayola cotton candy? For sentimental people, every part of life’s intricate structure is suddenly transformed to something very meaningful. We appreciate the simple things, no matter how simple they seem.

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There are endless reasons for us to celebrate.

We can find a reason to party for anything. I’m not referring to binge drinking in a dorm room or illicitly using drugs before a showing of the new Jurassic World movie. Instead, we feel the need to celebrate small victories and triumphs that occur frequently in daily life. CThese are usually directly related to others, not ourselves. It’s not uncommon for sentimental people to recommend a surprise party for our close friends or an impromptu get-together.

We use our ears.

Actively! Sentimental people are always there for others, even when it’s very convenient for them. We make such great listeners because we truly care about how you’re feeling, what you’re thinking, and how we can help you get over it (if applicable). Everyone needs a shoulder to lean on. Sentimental people are some of the most stable. If you’re looking to date a good listener, look for someone who’s sentimental.

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We (most likely) enjoy above-average sex.

Sentimental people are great in the bedroom. Think about it: we love feeling sensations like love, fear, hate, and other emotions. We are conscious of when those emotions are happening. We envelope themselves in our loved one’s feelings. Why would we not want to experience sensational feelings like touch, taste, smell to the fullest? Sentimental people ooze passion. Imagine what will happen when clothes aren’t involved?

We strongly believe that “what comes from the heart goes to the heart”.

I don’t mean the “I forgot about your birthday, but here’s something from the AM PM up the street – will you please kiss me now” gifts. I’m talking about handmade, stitched, drawn, baked, or carefully thought out gifts that come from the heart. Some of the best gifts I’ve given (and received) have probably cost less than 5 dollars to make. What matters is not the gift itself, but the act of committing yourself to create something from scratch to give to someone you care about. That’s special.

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The world we see is cast in color.

This actually has a split meaning. First, sentimental people usually radiate positive energy around them at all times, especially when we are in the presence of other people. This energy (or vibe) is infectious, causing more people around us to feel joy. In the process of being so blissful 24/7 will gain you a lot of friends. Second, sentimental people are not quick to judge things at face value, or in black and white. There are always layers to peel, much like an onion, to find out what something is really about. There’s color in every situation, object, person, place, whatever. Sentimental people understand this insightful concept.

We create lasting memories grounded in pure connection.

If there’s one thing sentimental people are not, it’s fake. We’re not the type that lets any event or circumstance go by unnoticed or under appreciated. All of the sudden dates become the most important thing. Visiting your family or spending time with your friends isn’t a chore. This isn’t a “hassle” or “part of the relationship” that you have to deal with. It’s actually something sentimental people consider a divine privilege. Existence is so much sweeter when you take time — even if just a fleeting moment — to recognize beauty and elegance when you have it.

For us sentimental people, those moments are a daily occurrence.

Featured photo credit: Man with Bouquet of Roses / Viktor Hanacek via picjumbo.imgix.net

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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