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7 Things To Know Before You Date A Sentimental Person

7 Things To Know Before You Date A Sentimental Person

My entire life I’ve heard, “Nice guys finish last.”

It’s a saying that’s mocked my morals to my core understandings of what it means to be a good person. I’ve never really understood why people don’t choose to seek out nice people to date. Niceness can be defined in many ways, but one of the strongest indicators of a “nice guy” (or girl) is the sentimental way they treat life.

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Dating a sentimental person has incredible benefits.

Life has special meaning to us.

Things that seem mundane to most people are extraordinarily beautiful to sentimental folks. We always complain that life goes to fast, but how often do you spend time to appreciate that a tree can grow (and even thrive) in an urban environment? When’s the last time you took five minutes to pull over and enjoy a sunset without thinking about which Instagram filter would make the clouds look most like Crayola cotton candy? For sentimental people, every part of life’s intricate structure is suddenly transformed to something very meaningful. We appreciate the simple things, no matter how simple they seem.

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There are endless reasons for us to celebrate.

We can find a reason to party for anything. I’m not referring to binge drinking in a dorm room or illicitly using drugs before a showing of the new Jurassic World movie. Instead, we feel the need to celebrate small victories and triumphs that occur frequently in daily life. CThese are usually directly related to others, not ourselves. It’s not uncommon for sentimental people to recommend a surprise party for our close friends or an impromptu get-together.

We use our ears.

Actively! Sentimental people are always there for others, even when it’s very convenient for them. We make such great listeners because we truly care about how you’re feeling, what you’re thinking, and how we can help you get over it (if applicable). Everyone needs a shoulder to lean on. Sentimental people are some of the most stable. If you’re looking to date a good listener, look for someone who’s sentimental.

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We (most likely) enjoy above-average sex.

Sentimental people are great in the bedroom. Think about it: we love feeling sensations like love, fear, hate, and other emotions. We are conscious of when those emotions are happening. We envelope themselves in our loved one’s feelings. Why would we not want to experience sensational feelings like touch, taste, smell to the fullest? Sentimental people ooze passion. Imagine what will happen when clothes aren’t involved?

We strongly believe that “what comes from the heart goes to the heart”.

I don’t mean the “I forgot about your birthday, but here’s something from the AM PM up the street – will you please kiss me now” gifts. I’m talking about handmade, stitched, drawn, baked, or carefully thought out gifts that come from the heart. Some of the best gifts I’ve given (and received) have probably cost less than 5 dollars to make. What matters is not the gift itself, but the act of committing yourself to create something from scratch to give to someone you care about. That’s special.

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The world we see is cast in color.

This actually has a split meaning. First, sentimental people usually radiate positive energy around them at all times, especially when we are in the presence of other people. This energy (or vibe) is infectious, causing more people around us to feel joy. In the process of being so blissful 24/7 will gain you a lot of friends. Second, sentimental people are not quick to judge things at face value, or in black and white. There are always layers to peel, much like an onion, to find out what something is really about. There’s color in every situation, object, person, place, whatever. Sentimental people understand this insightful concept.

We create lasting memories grounded in pure connection.

If there’s one thing sentimental people are not, it’s fake. We’re not the type that lets any event or circumstance go by unnoticed or under appreciated. All of the sudden dates become the most important thing. Visiting your family or spending time with your friends isn’t a chore. This isn’t a “hassle” or “part of the relationship” that you have to deal with. It’s actually something sentimental people consider a divine privilege. Existence is so much sweeter when you take time — even if just a fleeting moment — to recognize beauty and elegance when you have it.

For us sentimental people, those moments are a daily occurrence.

Featured photo credit: Man with Bouquet of Roses / Viktor Hanacek via picjumbo.imgix.net

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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