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7 Things Every Man Must Accomplish At Least Once In Their Life

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7 Things Every Man Must Accomplish At Least Once In Their Life

The world is full of unique opportunities, locations and activities that many of us will never even hear of nevermind actually try out. For anyone in this position, the most effective way to changing this problem and making your life a little bit more comfortable would be to get involved with any of the following tasks along the way. All of these tasks are relatively simple but something that would truly enhance your life; you just need to know what you are thinking of trying to make it work out the best for you!

1. Buy a fine suit

I’m personally not a big fan of materialistic thinking or even dressing smart (I live in soccer football shirts and jogging bottoms!) but I always think that having that suit to make yourself look a million bucks is very important for self-confidence. When you don’t feel great about yourself it can be nice to turn to something like this for a little bit of a boost in terms of your overall confidence and your personal self-esteem

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2. Leave a life-changing tip for someone

whether it’s a beggar or a waitress, leave them a large tip – as large as you can afford – and don’t wait around for the gratification. It will be nice enough to know that the person could be having an awesome day just on the money that you left them. On those days where you feel like a millionaire, share the wealth with those who just aren’t as fortunate at the moment

3. Go to see a band who you adore perform their last ever show

I personally went to see UK genius Mike Skinner as The Streets for the last ever time. It was a truly exemplary performance and to this day I still listen to this music most days; a truly brilliant artist. I’d recommend that you do the same as the feeling of seeing someone who you appreciate musically for the last time is massive

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4. Take a long train trip

We’re talking days and nights length! This is a great way to see the world from a new perspective and make it nice and easy to fully understand the best way to really appreciate the world and everything that it has for us. If you take the time to do this, you’ll really benefit for many years to come as you can recall a truly staggering journey that you aren’t too likely to forget about any time soon! It makes a big difference to have this kind of travel behind you, offering unique insights

5. Produce some creative writing

It might not be something on the “manliest list ever” but if you ever decide to get creative, we suggest that you pen a poem about someone or something that you feel attached to or care about. It makes a big difference to write about something that you are genuinely interested in, making sure that you can get all the help that you need in improving your overall level of experience in life as time goes on. Having a bit of writing experience is great for our self-esteem and our ability to think about life from a differing perspective

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6. Take up the chance to coach a sports team, if you are any good at sports

Personally I love soccer, and I love being able to get down with the local team and show the next generation how to think. I’m not good as a player but I know what to do in situations and can pass that knowledge on to the kids – this will help them become better players. Even if you are into something that isn’t sports, if you can find a class of kids learning about it you should try and impart your genuine knowledge onto their futures

7. Commit to trying something crazy and unexpected

whether it’s going away for a month to Africa to help out and see the world from a fresh perspective or even going abroad to try something like Ayahuasca, there are any things that you should consider trying in your life that would be considered “out there”. This is a more personalized choice, but if you can pick one thing in this world that you want to see up-close – whether that’s the Pyramids in Peru or you want to hallucinate with the Witch Doctor’s of the Amazon – and just book the flights to go see it!

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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