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7 Things Every Man Must Accomplish At Least Once In Their Life

7 Things Every Man Must Accomplish At Least Once In Their Life

The world is full of unique opportunities, locations and activities that many of us will never even hear of nevermind actually try out. For anyone in this position, the most effective way to changing this problem and making your life a little bit more comfortable would be to get involved with any of the following tasks along the way. All of these tasks are relatively simple but something that would truly enhance your life; you just need to know what you are thinking of trying to make it work out the best for you!

1. Buy a fine suit

I’m personally not a big fan of materialistic thinking or even dressing smart (I live in soccer football shirts and jogging bottoms!) but I always think that having that suit to make yourself look a million bucks is very important for self-confidence. When you don’t feel great about yourself it can be nice to turn to something like this for a little bit of a boost in terms of your overall confidence and your personal self-esteem

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2. Leave a life-changing tip for someone

whether it’s a beggar or a waitress, leave them a large tip – as large as you can afford – and don’t wait around for the gratification. It will be nice enough to know that the person could be having an awesome day just on the money that you left them. On those days where you feel like a millionaire, share the wealth with those who just aren’t as fortunate at the moment

3. Go to see a band who you adore perform their last ever show

I personally went to see UK genius Mike Skinner as The Streets for the last ever time. It was a truly exemplary performance and to this day I still listen to this music most days; a truly brilliant artist. I’d recommend that you do the same as the feeling of seeing someone who you appreciate musically for the last time is massive

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4. Take a long train trip

We’re talking days and nights length! This is a great way to see the world from a new perspective and make it nice and easy to fully understand the best way to really appreciate the world and everything that it has for us. If you take the time to do this, you’ll really benefit for many years to come as you can recall a truly staggering journey that you aren’t too likely to forget about any time soon! It makes a big difference to have this kind of travel behind you, offering unique insights

5. Produce some creative writing

It might not be something on the “manliest list ever” but if you ever decide to get creative, we suggest that you pen a poem about someone or something that you feel attached to or care about. It makes a big difference to write about something that you are genuinely interested in, making sure that you can get all the help that you need in improving your overall level of experience in life as time goes on. Having a bit of writing experience is great for our self-esteem and our ability to think about life from a differing perspective

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6. Take up the chance to coach a sports team, if you are any good at sports

Personally I love soccer, and I love being able to get down with the local team and show the next generation how to think. I’m not good as a player but I know what to do in situations and can pass that knowledge on to the kids – this will help them become better players. Even if you are into something that isn’t sports, if you can find a class of kids learning about it you should try and impart your genuine knowledge onto their futures

7. Commit to trying something crazy and unexpected

whether it’s going away for a month to Africa to help out and see the world from a fresh perspective or even going abroad to try something like Ayahuasca, there are any things that you should consider trying in your life that would be considered “out there”. This is a more personalized choice, but if you can pick one thing in this world that you want to see up-close – whether that’s the Pyramids in Peru or you want to hallucinate with the Witch Doctor’s of the Amazon – and just book the flights to go see it!

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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