“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”- Neale Donald Walsch.
While many bucket lists consist of fun things such as travel adventures or sky diving, this list of life goals is different. This bucket list will encourage you to stretch out of your comfort zone and transform your life.Advertising
Here are 6 bucket list goals for women to achieve before dying. Women will know they have achieved these goals when they can say:
1. They gave themselves permission
Waiting for permission can kill your dreams. Waiting for approval from friends, family members, and acquaintances can stifle your life. Instead of depending on permission from others, give it to yourself. Give yourself permission to change careers mid-life if you’re loathing your job. Begin working on the novel you’ve been craving to write. Plunge into one of your passions in your free time and see if you can develop it into the full-fledged business you want to start. Throughout your life, it’s important to give yourself permission to do what you love and avoid constantly seeking approval from others.Advertising
2. They were authentic
In order to be authentic, you must learn who you are. Learn about what you love, what irks you, what makes you happy, and what you dread doing. Learn about what’s important to you and how you love to spend your time. Once you know who you are, work on living your life focused on your purpose, priorities, and passions. You don’t have to follow society’s norms. Seriously consider your passions- as ‘out there’ as they might seem- and study people who have done what you want to do. You have a unique personality and there is only one you. Take time to discover who you are and learn to maximize your amazing qualities. It will change your life.
3. They gained control of their finances
Becoming financially free opens your life to possibilities. Work toward getting your financial situation under control, by increasing your income, decreasing your spending, or paying off your debts. Once you become financially free, you can truly own your time. Your years can then be spent doing what you love to do, and not what you feel you have to do to make ends meet.Advertising
4. They did something scary every day
“Do one thing every day that scares you” is a great quote from Eleanor Roosevelt that encourages us to push beyond our comfort zones. Each time you do something out of your comfort zone, you learn how to manage your nerves and you gain confidence. By taking risks, you continually learn and grow.
5. They loved wholeheartedly
Don’t assume your loved ones know you love them. Tell them. Explain to your loved ones how much you admire them and appreciate them. Compliment them, encourage them, and inspire them. Be truly present when you spend time with them. Be vulnerable; let them know your true self. Laugh with them and cry with them. Build them up when the world tears them down. Let them know you are there for them and you love them, no matter what.Advertising
6. They built something that will outlast them
One important stage in the human lifespan, according to German psychoanalyst Erik Erikson’s theory of psychosocial development, is creating something that will last beyond your lifetime. For some people, having children satisfies this life stage, but you can build something completely unrelated to having a family. You could write a book, develop a scholarship fund in your name at your alma mater, or help pass a law that will reduce the carbon footprint of corporations for years to come. There are endless possibilities of things you can do to leave this world a better place.
What do you want your legacy to be?
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Last Updated on January 18, 2019
7 Ways To Deal With Negative People
Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.
But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.
If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.
1. Limit the time you spend with them.
First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.
In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.
Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.
2. Speak up for yourself.
Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.
3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”
This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.
But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.
4. Don’t make their problems your problems.
Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.
This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.
Why else would they be sharing this with you?
5. Change the subject.
When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.
Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.
6. Talk about solutions, not problems.
Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.
I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.
You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”
Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.
7. Leave them behind.
Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.
If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.
That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.
You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.