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6 Bucket List Goals for Women

6 Bucket List Goals for Women

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”- Neale Donald Walsch

While many bucket lists consist of fun things such as travel adventures or sky diving, this list of life goals is different. This bucket list will encourage you to stretch out of your comfort zone and transform your life.

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Here are 6 bucket list goals for women to achieve before dying. Women will know they have achieved these goals when they can say:

1. They gave themselves permission

Waiting for permission can kill your dreams. Waiting for approval from friends, family members, and acquaintances can stifle your life. Instead of depending on permission from others, give it to yourself. Give yourself permission to change careers mid-life if you’re loathing your job. Begin working on the novel you’ve been craving to write. Plunge into one of your passions in your free time and see if you can develop it into the full-fledged business you want to start. Throughout your life, it’s important to give yourself permission to do what you love and avoid constantly seeking approval from others.

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2. They were authentic

In order to be authentic, you must learn who you are. Learn about what you love, what irks you, what makes you happy, and what you dread doing. Learn about what’s important to you and how you love to spend your time. Once you know who you are, work on living your life focused on your purpose, priorities, and passions. You don’t have to follow society’s norms. Seriously consider your passions- as ‘out there’ as they might seem- and study people who have done what you want to do. You have a unique personality and there is only one you. Take time to discover who you are and learn to maximize your amazing qualities. It will change your life.

3. They gained control of their finances

Becoming financially free opens your life to possibilities. Work toward getting your financial situation under control, by increasing your income, decreasing your spending, or paying off your debts. Once you become financially free, you can truly own your time. Your years can then be spent doing what you love to do, and not what you feel you have to do to make ends meet.

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4. They did something scary every day

“Do one thing every day that scares you” is a great quote from Eleanor Roosevelt that encourages us to push beyond our comfort zones. Each time you do something out of your comfort zone, you learn how to manage your nerves and you gain confidence. By taking risks, you continually learn and grow.

5. They loved wholeheartedly

Don’t assume your loved ones know you love them. Tell them. Explain to your loved ones how much you admire them and appreciate them. Compliment them, encourage them, and inspire them. Be truly present when you spend time with them. Be vulnerable; let them know your true self. Laugh with them and cry with them. Build them up when the world tears them down. Let them know you are there for them and you love them, no matter what.

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6. They built something that will outlast them

One important stage in the human lifespan, according to German psychoanalyst Erik Erikson’s theory of psychosocial development, is creating something that will last beyond your lifetime. For some people, having children satisfies this life stage, but you can build something completely unrelated to having a family. You could write a book, develop a scholarship fund in your name at your alma mater, or help pass a law that will reduce the carbon footprint of corporations for years to come. There are endless possibilities of things you can do to leave this world a better place.

What do you want your legacy to be?

Featured photo credit: Womans hand Holding Cocktail On Beach / Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

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7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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