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10 Reasons You Should Date A Geek

10 Reasons You Should Date A Geek

Geeks are great at many things. Getting a girlfriend, however, is typically not one of them. You see, geeks have often been stereotyped as bad or unsatisfying partners for women. They’ve been labeled by society as being great at reading books and getting good grades, but not so great at pleasing women. But this couldn’t be further from the truth!

Geeks are great guys! They are not only gifted when it comes to academics, but they make for incredible boyfriends as well! Here are 10 reasons why you should give a geek a shot!

1. They Are Smart

Geeks are really intelligent people. They are typically great at learning and mastering all kinds of topics. They soak in and absorb just about everything under the sun. From learning math, to science, to reading and writing, geeks can master it all!

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What a lot of us fail to realize, however, is that this ability to absorb information translates to many other things as well. From communication practices, to relationship knowledge, to sexual techniques even, geeks can learn everything! Why would you not want someone like this?

2. They Are Loyal

Geeks don’t typically have an exorbitant amount of friends. They are generally introverted and keep to themselves more than others do. As a result, geeks are extremely loyal. They know that friends are hard to come by and they don’t like losing them. Geeks are unbelievably loyal and genuine when it comes to making friends, including girlfriends, and they will almost always put their friends first!

3. They Are Funny

Geeks are funny because, well, they’re geeks! It takes a certain level of intelligence to be funny. You have to use your brain in order to calculate, comprehend, and create a joke. Whether it’s sarcasm, playful banter, or telling a joke, geeks, believe it or not, are some of the funniest guys around. They’ve honed their skill of being funny from years of watching comedies, reading magazines, and improving their functional intelligence. If a guy is smart, he can make you laugh!

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4. They Are Very In-Tune With Their Emotions

Geeks are incredibly in-tune with their emotions. They live in their own mind a lot of the time and know exactly who they are. Geeks are great at self-reflection and self-observation. They’ve lived their entire lives being analytical and thinking everything through. It only makes sense that they are in touch with who they truly are and how to handle their emotions. It isn’t often that a geek doesn’t know how to take control of his feelings.

5. They Are Honest

Geeks are honest, nice, and sincere. They are grateful for everything they have, especially when it comes to friendships. Geeks would never dare to compromise a friendship because it takes so much work building new ones. Knowing this, geeks are always honest and always tell the truth. And honesty is the key ingredient for any solid relationship.

6. They Are Mysterious

Geeks are like a good mystery novel. They are elusive and challenging like a puzzle to some women, who love trying to figure them out. No woman wants a man she can sum up right away. Instead, she wants someone who can make her think. And geeks do just that. They are different than most other men and spice things up in ways that many guys can’t. Geeks have a vagueness about them that keeps the attraction alive!

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7. They Are Down-To-Earth

Geeks are down-to-earth kinds of guys. They are not extraordinary. They are not boisterous. They are not flashy. They are just regular, average-Joe type men. And this is perfect for most women! Most women just want a regular, down-to-earth man they can connect with. They want someone who they can easily relate to, share interests with, and share commonalities with. Geeks are the perfect matches for these desires.

8. They Are Well-Spoken

A geek is not someone who blurts things out before thinking them over. No, on the contrary, a geek will think things through for a while before coming up with the right things to say! Geeks, therefore, are very well-spoken. They say the right things at the right times because they think them over in their heads first. Being the smart, clever men they are, they formulate the best responses in split-second accuracy almost every time they speak.

9. They Will Be Loved By Your Friends and Parents

Geeks are loved by many and hated by none. Everyone likes the great characteristics that geeks often have. Their warm-hearted nature is very endearing to many people. Your friends, family, and associates will all love the geeky man you date. Who wouldn’t love a great geeky guy with awesome qualities?

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10. They Have The Biggest Hearts

Geeks are the best givers. They will love you like no other man ever could. Geeks always put others ahead of themselves and are happiest when they get to please someone else. Geeks are happy when they see you happy. Aside from all of their great personality traits, geeks just have big hearts. And this alone makes them worth dating.

The next time you meet a geek, rejoice! He could actually be the man of your dreams. Geeks make incredible boyfriends—just make sure you give them a chance!

Featured photo credit: Mohammad Jangda via flickr.com

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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