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17 Reasons Creative People Are Wonderful Partners

17 Reasons Creative People Are Wonderful Partners

Go ahead. It’s time to name names. Think of a creative person. Who comes to mind? Leonardo da Vinci? Your loved one? They really aren’t all that different. According to the Miriam Webster Dictionary, a synonym for creativity is inventiveness. Da Vinci is one of the greatest inventors of all time.

Another synonym is originality. If your loved one fits the dictionary definition of creative, “the ability to think of new things or create new things,” like da Vinci, it is all too probable that your loved one has been criticized, perhaps even by you. It is precisely because they are so original that they are often misunderstood.

Whether or not your loved one is a modern-day da Vinci, there may not be as many reasons to criticize them as you think. They have many attributes that make them strong partners in a relationship.

1. They are motivated.

Fastcocreate.com did a study comparing groups of creative and noncreative people. They found the creative people have more drive than the noncreative group members. They are driven to work when they find a job that suits their considerable talents. This results in earning potential so great it could result in recognition for your partner and even fame. Their dreams for themselves are so big, they will rub off on you. You can’t help but become more motivated simply by being around them.

2. They will make you more easy-going.

They may be prone to attacks of insecurity. Because they need your encouragement, you will become a more supportive person as a result of being with them.  Creative types often rant about the imperfections of their latest projects and how untalented they are. Keep calm. Know this latest tirade will soon pass. You will become calmer as a result of all this practice.

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3. They are optimists.

Because they are so creative, they are able to take a bad situation and creatively find ways to fix it. They can see potential. This ability to make the best of a bad situation makes them positive people to be around and certainly great problem solvers. According to HigherPerspectives.com, they actually let bad situations fuel their drive. Who wouldn’t want to be around a positive person? You may find the longer you are with them, you may start looking on the brighter side of life yourself.

4. They are flexible.

This entails mind-changing. Creative people are often inspired to try new things. You shouldn’t just go with it, you should appreciate it. If they think of a better idea than the plans you were putting in motion for the two of you, be grateful! This works both ways. Your partner will be open-minded to your ideas if you come up with a better plan the original one you had made as well.

5. They are not clingy.

Creative types are independent. They will never cling to you but will still love you just as much. Independence does not equal indifference. You can consider yourself lucky that you don’t have a partner who’s needy or clingy. However, if that independence deteriorates into a battle of wills, give them some space. Their stubbornness will diffuse.

6. They don’t stagnate.

They keep things dynamic in your relationship. Their curiosity makes them want to explore, and they will bring you on their travels. You will avoid that marital rut that troubles so many people with longevity. You will never be that “old” married couple.

7. They feel deeply, and they express these romantic feelings.

Creativity is about expressing oneself in unique ways. Expressing themselves comes second-nature to them. So be prepared for big romantic gestures like a night on the town or a spur of the moment get-a-way. Enjoy being loved deeply.

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8. They will share their ideas with you.

Being able to express themselves doesn’t just relate to romance. They will collaborate with you on ideas and plans. You will get “buy in” so many partners lack which is important in a successful relationship.

9. They are sensitive to your feelings.

According to one writer, “Their sensitivity is the source of their brilliance.” You will never be able to accuse a creative person of being ice cold because they are quite the opposite.  Their sensitivity enables them to recall details other might ignore. You won’t have to tell them about your day more than once.  Even if their constantly active minds make them seem distracted, they will hear you and remember what you shared. You will feel important in your relationship with them as a result.

10. They are fun to be around.

Creative people enjoy a sense of wonder that keeps them child-like. Their creative minds will find new experiences for you to share. “They can find an opportunity for fun even in the most mundane.” Life with them will never grow dull.

11. They are humble.

Because they are constantly doubting themselves, you won’t be hearing “I told you so” often from them. If conceited people get on your nerves, you won’t have this problem with your loved one. As a result, you won’t have a partner that makes you feel small.

12. They are not materialistic.

They may have drive and ambition, and a desire for recognition and fame, but it’s passion that fuels their drive, not the desire for money. You won’t have to worry about financing their elaborate shopping sprees at expensive stores.

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13. They are funny.

Creative people enjoy jokes, the baudier the better! Whenever you feel down, they know how to put a smile on your face because laughter is the best medicine.

14. They are great decorators.

Although creativity means being sensitive to art and beauty in more than just surface appearances, they still like to immerse themselves in beauty. So don’t worry about hiring a decorator for your first apartment together, they will gladly take care of it.

15. They don’t let rejection stop them.

They let failure propel them to try again. Their ability to rebound makes them enjoyable company. They don’t wallow. They will also encourage you to keep on pushing forward.

16. They keep what works.

They don’t keep their minds cluttered with ideas that don’t work. Their creative mind has a filter that enables them to know what works and what doesn’t.  Your home won’t be cluttered with nick-knacks.

17. They will make you more nurturing.

When their work “calls” and they forget to sleep, eat, or bathe, your nurturing side will appear, possibly one you didn’t know you had. You bring out the best in each other.

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In closing, because creative individuals have such active minds, your loved ones may be exhausting at times, but their charms make it worth this whirlwind. Creative individuals are full of love. They love their environment that has the potential to inspire, they love beauty, and they love you.

Great news. Your loved one’s merits will not go away. Neuroscience has confirmed their brains function differently than the rest of the world. Don’t let these differences, which are beyond their control, strain your relationship. Try to understand them instead.

Featured photo credit: danielavladimirova via flickr.com

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Published on September 23, 2020

6 Effective Negotiation Skills to Master

6 Effective Negotiation Skills to Master

I don’t know about you, but many times when I hear the word negotiate I think of lawyers working out a business deal or having to do battle with a car salesman to try to get a lower price. Since I am in recruiting, the term “negotiation” comes up when someone is attempting to get a higher compensation package.

If we think about it, we tend to negotiate almost every day in a wide variety of things we do. Getting a handle on the important negotiation skills can be incredibly beneficial in many parts of our lives. Let’s take a look at 6 effective negotiation skills to master.

What is Negotiation?

First, let’s take a look at what negotiation is. Put simply, negotiation is a method by which people settle their differences. It is a process in which compromise or agreement can be reached without argument or dispute.

Anytime two people or sides disagree on something, they are almost always looking for the best possible outcome for their side. This could be from an individual’s perspective or someone representing an organization.

In reality, it’s rare that one side gets everything they want and the other side gets nothing that they are seeking. Seeking to reach a common ground of sorts where both sides feel like they are getting most of what they want is the key to being successful and maintaining the relationship.

Places We Negotiate

I’ve mentioned that we negotiate in just about all phases of our life. For those of you who are shaking your head no, I invite you to think about the following:

1. Work/Business

This one is the most obvious and it’s what naturally comes to mind when we think of the word “negotiate”.

When you first started at your current job, you might have asked for a higher salary. It could be that you delivered a huge new client to your company and used this as leverage in your most recent evaluation for more compensation. If you work with vendors (and just about every company does), maybe you worked them to a lower price or better contract terms.

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In recruiting, I negotiate with candidates and hiring managers all the time to land the best talent I can find. It’s very common to accept additional work with the (sometimes spoken, sometimes unspoken) agreement that it will benefit your career in the future.

Recently, I took over a project that was my boss was working on so that I would be able to attend a conference later in the year. And so it goes, we do this all day long at work.

2. Personal

I don’t know about you, but I negotiate with my spouse all the time. I’ll cook dinner with the understanding that she does the dishes. Who wants to mow the lawn and who wants to vacuum and dust the house?

I think we should save 10% for retirement, but she thinks 5% is plenty. Therefore, we save 8%. And don’t even get me started with my kids. My older daughter can borrow my car as soon as she finishes her chores. My younger daughter can go hang out with her friends when her homework is done.

Then, there are all those interactions in our personal lives outside our homes. The carpenter wants to charge me $12,000 to build a new deck. I think $10,000 is plenty so we agree on $11,000. I ask my neighbor if I can borrow his snowblower in the winter if I invite him over the next time I grill steak. And so on.

3. Ourselves

You didn’t expect this one, did you? We negotiate with ourselves all day long.

I’ll make sure I don’t skip my workout tomorrow since I’m going to have that extra piece of pizza. My spouse has been quiet the last few days, is it worth me asking her about, or should I leave it alone? I think the car place charged me for some repairs that weren’t needed, should I say something or just let it go? I know my friend has been having some personal challenges, should I check in with him? We’ve been friends for a long time, I’m sure he’d come to me if he needed help. I’ve got the #4 pick in this year’s Fantasy Football draft, should I choose a running back or a wide receiver?

Think about that non-stop voice inside your head. It always seems to be chattering away about something and many times, it’s us negotiating with ourselves. I’ll finish up that report that the boss needs before I turn on the football game.

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Why Negotiation Skills Are So Important

Put simply, negotiation skills are important because we all interact with other people, and not only other people but other organizations and groups of people as well.

We all rarely want the same thing or outcome. Most of the time a vendor is looking at getting you to pay a higher price for something than you want to spend. Therefore, it’s important to negotiate to some middle ground that works well for both sides.

My wife and I disagree on how much to save for retirement. If we weren’t married it wouldn’t be an issue. We’d each contribute how much we wanted to on our retirement funds. We choose to be married, so we have to come to some agreement that we both feel comfortable with. We have to compromise. Therefore, we have to negotiate.

If we each lived on a planet by ourselves, we would be free to do just about anything we wanted to. We wouldn’t have to compromise with anyone because we wouldn’t interact with anyone. We would make every choice unilaterally the way we wanted to.

As we all know, this isn’t how things are. We are constantly interacting with other people and organizations, each one with their own agenda’s, viewpoints, and opinions. Therefore, we have to be able to work together.

6 Negotiation Skills to Master

Having strong negotiation skills helps us create win-win situations with others, allowing us to get most of what we want in conjunction with others around us.

Now, let’s look at 6 effective negotiation skills to master.

1. Preparation

Preparation is a key place to start with when getting ready to negotiate. Being prepared means having a clear vision of what you want and how you’d go about achieving it. It means knowing what the end goal looks like and also what you are willing to give to get it.

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It also means knowing who you are negotiating with and what areas they might be willing to compromise on. You should also know what your “bottom line” is. By “bottom line” I mean what is the most you are willing to give up to get what you want.

For instance, several years ago, I decided it was time to get a newer car. I say newer because I wanted a “new to me” car, not a brand new car. I did my research and figured out what type of car I wanted. I decided on what must-have items on the car I wanted, the highest amount of miles that would already be on it, the colors I was willing to get it in, and the highest amount of money I was willing to pay.

After visiting numerous car dealerships I was able to negotiate buying a car. I knew what I was willing to give up (amount of money) and what I was willing to accept, things like the color, amount of miles, etc. I came prepared. This is critical.

2. Clear Communication

The next key skill you need to be an effective negotiator is clear communication. You have to be able to clearly articulate what you want to the other party. This means both clear verbal and written communication.

If you can’t clearly tell the other person what you want, how do you expect to get it? Have you ever worked through something with a vendor or someone else only to learn of a surprise right at the end that wasn’t talked about before? This is not what you would call clear communication. It’s essential to be able to share a coherent and logical vision with the person you are working with.

3. Active Listening

Let’s do a quick review of active listening. This is when you are completely focused on the speaker, understand their message, comprehend the information, and respond appropriately. This is a necessary ingredient to be able to negotiate successfully. You must be able to fully focus on the other person’s wants to completely understand them.

If you aren’t giving them your full attention, you may miss some major points or details. This leads to frustration down the road on both sides. Ensure you are employing your active listening skills when in arbitration mode.

4. Teamwork and Collaboration

To be able to get to a place of common ground and a win-win scenario, you have to have a sense of teamwork and collaboration.

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If you are only thinking about yourself and what you want without giving much care to what the other person is wanting, you are bound to wind up without a solution. The other person may get frustrated and give up if they see you are unwilling to meet them halfway or care little for what they want.

When you collaborate, you are working together to help each other get what is most important to you. The other upside to negotiating with a sense of teamwork and collaboration is that it helps create a sense of trust, which, in turn, helps provide positive energy for working to a successful conclusion.

5. Problem Solving

Problem-solving is another key negotiation skill. When you are working with the other person to get the deal done many times you’ll face new challenges along the way.

Maybe you want a new vendor to provide training on the software they are selling you but they say it’s going to cost an additional $20,000 to provide this service. If you don’t have the additional $20,000 in the budget to spend on the software but you feel the training is critical, how are you going to solve that problem?

From what I’ve seen, most vendors aren’t willing to provide additional services without getting paid for them. This is where problem-solving skills will help continue the discussions. You might suggest to the vendor that your company will also be looking to replace their financial software next year, and you’d be happy to ensure they get one of the first seats at the table when the time comes if they could perhaps lower the pricing on their training.

There’s a solution to most challenges, but it takes problem-solving skills to work through them effectively.

6. Decision-Making Ability

Finally, having strong decision-making ability will help you seal the deal when you get to a place where everyone feels like they are getting what works for them. Each step of the way you can cross off the list when you get what you are looking for and decide to move onto the next item. Then, once you have all of your must-have boxes checked and the other side feels good about things, it’s time to shake hands and sign on the dotted line. Powerful decision-making ability will help you get to the finish line together.

Conclusion

There you have it, 6 effective negotiation skills to master to lead a more fulfilling life. Once we realize that we negotiate in one form or another almost every day in every phase of our lives, we realize how critical a skill it is.

Possessing strong negotiation skills will help you in nearly every one of your relationships at both the workplace and in your personal life. If you feel your arbitration tools could use some sharpening, try some of the 6 effective negotiation skills to master that we’ve talked about.

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