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17 Reasons Creative People Are Wonderful Partners

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17 Reasons Creative People Are Wonderful Partners

Go ahead. It’s time to name names. Think of a creative person. Who comes to mind? Leonardo da Vinci? Your loved one? They really aren’t all that different. According to the Miriam Webster Dictionary, a synonym for creativity is inventiveness. Da Vinci is one of the greatest inventors of all time.

Another synonym is originality. If your loved one fits the dictionary definition of creative, “the ability to think of new things or create new things,” like da Vinci, it is all too probable that your loved one has been criticized, perhaps even by you. It is precisely because they are so original that they are often misunderstood.

Whether or not your loved one is a modern-day da Vinci, there may not be as many reasons to criticize them as you think. They have many attributes that make them strong partners in a relationship.

1. They are motivated.

Fastcocreate.com did a study comparing groups of creative and noncreative people. They found the creative people have more drive than the noncreative group members. They are driven to work when they find a job that suits their considerable talents. This results in earning potential so great it could result in recognition for your partner and even fame. Their dreams for themselves are so big, they will rub off on you. You can’t help but become more motivated simply by being around them.

2. They will make you more easy-going.

They may be prone to attacks of insecurity. Because they need your encouragement, you will become a more supportive person as a result of being with them.  Creative types often rant about the imperfections of their latest projects and how untalented they are. Keep calm. Know this latest tirade will soon pass. You will become calmer as a result of all this practice.

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3. They are optimists.

Because they are so creative, they are able to take a bad situation and creatively find ways to fix it. They can see potential. This ability to make the best of a bad situation makes them positive people to be around and certainly great problem solvers. According to HigherPerspectives.com, they actually let bad situations fuel their drive. Who wouldn’t want to be around a positive person? You may find the longer you are with them, you may start looking on the brighter side of life yourself.

4. They are flexible.

This entails mind-changing. Creative people are often inspired to try new things. You shouldn’t just go with it, you should appreciate it. If they think of a better idea than the plans you were putting in motion for the two of you, be grateful! This works both ways. Your partner will be open-minded to your ideas if you come up with a better plan the original one you had made as well.

5. They are not clingy.

Creative types are independent. They will never cling to you but will still love you just as much. Independence does not equal indifference. You can consider yourself lucky that you don’t have a partner who’s needy or clingy. However, if that independence deteriorates into a battle of wills, give them some space. Their stubbornness will diffuse.

6. They don’t stagnate.

They keep things dynamic in your relationship. Their curiosity makes them want to explore, and they will bring you on their travels. You will avoid that marital rut that troubles so many people with longevity. You will never be that “old” married couple.

7. They feel deeply, and they express these romantic feelings.

Creativity is about expressing oneself in unique ways. Expressing themselves comes second-nature to them. So be prepared for big romantic gestures like a night on the town or a spur of the moment get-a-way. Enjoy being loved deeply.

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8. They will share their ideas with you.

Being able to express themselves doesn’t just relate to romance. They will collaborate with you on ideas and plans. You will get “buy in” so many partners lack which is important in a successful relationship.

9. They are sensitive to your feelings.

According to one writer, “Their sensitivity is the source of their brilliance.” You will never be able to accuse a creative person of being ice cold because they are quite the opposite.  Their sensitivity enables them to recall details other might ignore. You won’t have to tell them about your day more than once.  Even if their constantly active minds make them seem distracted, they will hear you and remember what you shared. You will feel important in your relationship with them as a result.

10. They are fun to be around.

Creative people enjoy a sense of wonder that keeps them child-like. Their creative minds will find new experiences for you to share. “They can find an opportunity for fun even in the most mundane.” Life with them will never grow dull.

11. They are humble.

Because they are constantly doubting themselves, you won’t be hearing “I told you so” often from them. If conceited people get on your nerves, you won’t have this problem with your loved one. As a result, you won’t have a partner that makes you feel small.

12. They are not materialistic.

They may have drive and ambition, and a desire for recognition and fame, but it’s passion that fuels their drive, not the desire for money. You won’t have to worry about financing their elaborate shopping sprees at expensive stores.

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13. They are funny.

Creative people enjoy jokes, the baudier the better! Whenever you feel down, they know how to put a smile on your face because laughter is the best medicine.

14. They are great decorators.

Although creativity means being sensitive to art and beauty in more than just surface appearances, they still like to immerse themselves in beauty. So don’t worry about hiring a decorator for your first apartment together, they will gladly take care of it.

15. They don’t let rejection stop them.

They let failure propel them to try again. Their ability to rebound makes them enjoyable company. They don’t wallow. They will also encourage you to keep on pushing forward.

16. They keep what works.

They don’t keep their minds cluttered with ideas that don’t work. Their creative mind has a filter that enables them to know what works and what doesn’t.  Your home won’t be cluttered with nick-knacks.

17. They will make you more nurturing.

When their work “calls” and they forget to sleep, eat, or bathe, your nurturing side will appear, possibly one you didn’t know you had. You bring out the best in each other.

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In closing, because creative individuals have such active minds, your loved ones may be exhausting at times, but their charms make it worth this whirlwind. Creative individuals are full of love. They love their environment that has the potential to inspire, they love beauty, and they love you.

Great news. Your loved one’s merits will not go away. Neuroscience has confirmed their brains function differently than the rest of the world. Don’t let these differences, which are beyond their control, strain your relationship. Try to understand them instead.

Featured photo credit: danielavladimirova via flickr.com

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Last Updated on July 20, 2021

How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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