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17 Reasons Creative People Are Wonderful Partners

17 Reasons Creative People Are Wonderful Partners

Go ahead. It’s time to name names. Think of a creative person. Who comes to mind? Leonardo da Vinci? Your loved one? They really aren’t all that different. According to the Miriam Webster Dictionary, a synonym for creativity is inventiveness. Da Vinci is one of the greatest inventors of all time.

Another synonym is originality. If your loved one fits the dictionary definition of creative, “the ability to think of new things or create new things,” like da Vinci, it is all too probable that your loved one has been criticized, perhaps even by you. It is precisely because they are so original that they are often misunderstood.

Whether or not your loved one is a modern-day da Vinci, there may not be as many reasons to criticize them as you think. They have many attributes that make them strong partners in a relationship.

1. They are motivated.

Fastcocreate.com did a study comparing groups of creative and noncreative people. They found the creative people have more drive than the noncreative group members. They are driven to work when they find a job that suits their considerable talents. This results in earning potential so great it could result in recognition for your partner and even fame. Their dreams for themselves are so big, they will rub off on you. You can’t help but become more motivated simply by being around them.

2. They will make you more easy-going.

They may be prone to attacks of insecurity. Because they need your encouragement, you will become a more supportive person as a result of being with them.  Creative types often rant about the imperfections of their latest projects and how untalented they are. Keep calm. Know this latest tirade will soon pass. You will become calmer as a result of all this practice.

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3. They are optimists.

Because they are so creative, they are able to take a bad situation and creatively find ways to fix it. They can see potential. This ability to make the best of a bad situation makes them positive people to be around and certainly great problem solvers. According to HigherPerspectives.com, they actually let bad situations fuel their drive. Who wouldn’t want to be around a positive person? You may find the longer you are with them, you may start looking on the brighter side of life yourself.

4. They are flexible.

This entails mind-changing. Creative people are often inspired to try new things. You shouldn’t just go with it, you should appreciate it. If they think of a better idea than the plans you were putting in motion for the two of you, be grateful! This works both ways. Your partner will be open-minded to your ideas if you come up with a better plan the original one you had made as well.

5. They are not clingy.

Creative types are independent. They will never cling to you but will still love you just as much. Independence does not equal indifference. You can consider yourself lucky that you don’t have a partner who’s needy or clingy. However, if that independence deteriorates into a battle of wills, give them some space. Their stubbornness will diffuse.

6. They don’t stagnate.

They keep things dynamic in your relationship. Their curiosity makes them want to explore, and they will bring you on their travels. You will avoid that marital rut that troubles so many people with longevity. You will never be that “old” married couple.

7. They feel deeply, and they express these romantic feelings.

Creativity is about expressing oneself in unique ways. Expressing themselves comes second-nature to them. So be prepared for big romantic gestures like a night on the town or a spur of the moment get-a-way. Enjoy being loved deeply.

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8. They will share their ideas with you.

Being able to express themselves doesn’t just relate to romance. They will collaborate with you on ideas and plans. You will get “buy in” so many partners lack which is important in a successful relationship.

9. They are sensitive to your feelings.

According to one writer, “Their sensitivity is the source of their brilliance.” You will never be able to accuse a creative person of being ice cold because they are quite the opposite.  Their sensitivity enables them to recall details other might ignore. You won’t have to tell them about your day more than once.  Even if their constantly active minds make them seem distracted, they will hear you and remember what you shared. You will feel important in your relationship with them as a result.

10. They are fun to be around.

Creative people enjoy a sense of wonder that keeps them child-like. Their creative minds will find new experiences for you to share. “They can find an opportunity for fun even in the most mundane.” Life with them will never grow dull.

11. They are humble.

Because they are constantly doubting themselves, you won’t be hearing “I told you so” often from them. If conceited people get on your nerves, you won’t have this problem with your loved one. As a result, you won’t have a partner that makes you feel small.

12. They are not materialistic.

They may have drive and ambition, and a desire for recognition and fame, but it’s passion that fuels their drive, not the desire for money. You won’t have to worry about financing their elaborate shopping sprees at expensive stores.

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13. They are funny.

Creative people enjoy jokes, the baudier the better! Whenever you feel down, they know how to put a smile on your face because laughter is the best medicine.

14. They are great decorators.

Although creativity means being sensitive to art and beauty in more than just surface appearances, they still like to immerse themselves in beauty. So don’t worry about hiring a decorator for your first apartment together, they will gladly take care of it.

15. They don’t let rejection stop them.

They let failure propel them to try again. Their ability to rebound makes them enjoyable company. They don’t wallow. They will also encourage you to keep on pushing forward.

16. They keep what works.

They don’t keep their minds cluttered with ideas that don’t work. Their creative mind has a filter that enables them to know what works and what doesn’t.  Your home won’t be cluttered with nick-knacks.

17. They will make you more nurturing.

When their work “calls” and they forget to sleep, eat, or bathe, your nurturing side will appear, possibly one you didn’t know you had. You bring out the best in each other.

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In closing, because creative individuals have such active minds, your loved ones may be exhausting at times, but their charms make it worth this whirlwind. Creative individuals are full of love. They love their environment that has the potential to inspire, they love beauty, and they love you.

Great news. Your loved one’s merits will not go away. Neuroscience has confirmed their brains function differently than the rest of the world. Don’t let these differences, which are beyond their control, strain your relationship. Try to understand them instead.

Featured photo credit: danielavladimirova via flickr.com

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10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

Most discussions on positively influencing others eventually touch on Dale Carnegie’s seminal work, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Written more than 83 years ago, the book touches on a core component of human interaction, building strong relationships. It is no wonder why.

Everything that we do hinges on our ability to connect with others and formulate deep relationships. You cannot sell a house, buy a house, advance in most careers, sell a product, pitch a story, teach a course, etc. without building healthy relationships. Managers get the best results from their teams, not through brute force, but to careful appeals to their sensibilities, occasional withdrawals from the reservoir of respect they’ve built. Using these tactics, they can influence others to excellence, to productivity, and to success.

Carnegie’s book is great. Of course, there are other resources too. Most of us have someone in our lives who positively influences us. The truth is positively influencing people is about centering the humanity of others. Chances are, you know someone who is really good at making others feel like stars. They can get you to do things that the average person cannot. Where the requests of others sound like fingernails on a chalkboard, the request from this special person sounds like music to your ears. You’re delighted to not only listen but also to oblige.

So how to influence people in a positive way? Read on for tips.

1. Be Authentic

To influence people in a positive way, be authentic. Rather than being a carbon copy of someone else’s version of authenticity, uncover what it is that makes you unique.

Discover your unique take on an issue and then live up to and honor that. Once of the reasons social media influencers are so powerful is that they have carved out a niche for themselves or taken a common issue and approached it from a novel or uncommon way. People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.

Contradictions bother us because we crave stability. When someone professes to be one way, but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic. Neither of these combinations bode well for positively influencing others.

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2. Listen

Growing up, my father would tell me to listen to what others said. He told me if I listened carefully, I would know all I needed to know about a person’s character, desires and needs.

To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid. Therein lies the explanation for what people need in order to feel validated, supported and seen. If a person feels they are invisible, and unseen by their superiors, they are less likely to be positively influenced by that person.

Listening meets a person’s primary need of validation and acceptance.

Take a look at this guide on how to be a better listener: How to Practice Active Listening (A Step-By-Step Guide)

3. Become an Expert

Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority. If you want to positively influence others, become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others. Research and read everything you can about the given topic, and then look for opportunities to put your education into practice.

You can argue over opinions. You cannot argue, or it is unwise to argue, over facts and experts come with facts.

4. Lead with Story

From years of working in the public relations space, I know that personal narratives, testimonials and impact stories are incredibly powerful. But I never cease to be amazed with how effective a well-timed and told story can be.

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If you want to influence people, learn to tell stories. Your stories should be related to the issue or concept you are discussing. They should be an analogy or metaphor that explains your topic in ordinary terms and in vivid detail. To learn more about how to tell powerful stories, and the ethics of storytelling, take a look at this article: How To Tell An Interesting Story In 4 Simple Steps

5. Lead by Example

It is incredibly inspiring to watch passionate, talented people at work or play. One of the reasons a person who is not an athlete can be in awe of athletic prowess is because human nature appreciates the extraordinary. When we watch the Olympics, Olympic trials, gymnastic competitions, ice skating, and other competitive sports, we can recognize the effort of people who day in and day out give their all. C

ase in point: Simone Biles. The gymnast extraordinaire won her 6TH all-around title at the U.S. Gymnastics Championships after doing a triple double. She was the first woman to do so. Watching her gave me chills. Even non-gymnasts and non-competitive athletes can appreciate the talent required to pull off such a remarkable feat.

We celebrate remarkable accomplishments and believe that their example is proof that we too can accomplish something great, even if it isn’t qualifying for the Olympics. To influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention and execute with excellence.

6. Catch People Doing Good

A powerful way to influence people in a positive way is to catch people doing good. Instead of looking for problems, look for successes. Look for often overlooked, but critically important things that your peers, subordinates and managers do that make the work more effective and more enjoyable.

Once you catch people doing good, name and notice their contributions.

7. Be Effusive with Praise

It did not take me long to notice a remarkable trait of a former boss. He not only began and ended meetings with praise, but he peppered praise throughout the entire meeting. He found a way to celebrate the unique attributes and skills of his team members. He was able to quickly and accurately assess what people were doing well and then let them and their colleagues know.

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Meetings were not just an occasion to go through a “To Do” list, they were opportunities to celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small they are.

8. Be Kind Rather Than Right

I am going to level with you; this one is tough. It is easy to get caught up in a cycle of proving oneself. For people who lack confidence, or people who prioritize the opinions of others, being right is important. The validation that comes with being perceived as “right” feeds one’s ego. But in the quest to be “right,” we can hurt other people. Once we’ve hurt someone by being unkind, it is much harder to get them to listen to what we’re trying to influence them to do.

The antidote to influencing others via bullying is to prioritize kindness above rightness. You can be kind and still stand firm in your position. For instance, many people think that they need others to validate their experience. If a person does not see the situation you experienced in the way you see it, you get upset. But your experience is your experience.

If you and your friends go out to eat and you get food poisoning, you do not need your friends to agree that the food served at the restaurant was problematic for you. Your own experience of getting food poisoning is all the validation you need. Therefore, taking time to be right is essentially wasted and, if you were unkind in seeking validation for your food-poison experience, now you’ve really lost points.

9. Understand a Person’s Logical, Emotional and Cooperative Needs

The Center for Creative Leadership has argued that the best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional and cooperative needs. Their logical need is their rational and educational need. Their emotional need is the information that touches them in a deeply personal manner. The cooperative need is understanding the level of cooperation various individuals need and then appropriately offering it.

The trick with this system is to understand that different people need different things. For some people, a strong emotional appeal will outweigh logical explanations. For others, having an opportunity to collaborate will override emotional connection.

If you know your audience, you will know what they need in order to be positively influenced. If you have limited information about the people whom you are attempting to influence, you will be ineffective.

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10. Understand Your Lane

If you want to positively influence others, operate from your sphere of influence. Operate from your place of expertise. Leave everything else to others. Gone are the days when being a jack of all trades is celebrated.

Most people appreciate brands that understand their target audience and then deliver on what that audience wants. When you focus on what you are uniquely gifted and qualified to do, and then offer that gift to the people who need it, you are likely more effective. This effectiveness is attractive.

You cannot positively influence others if you are more preoccupied by what others do well versus what you do well.

Final Thoughts

Influencing people is about centering your humanity. If you want to influence others positively, focus on the way you communicate and improve the relationship with yourself first.

It’s hard to influence others if you’re still trying to figure out how to communicate with yourself.

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