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17 Reasons Creative People Are Wonderful Partners

17 Reasons Creative People Are Wonderful Partners

Go ahead. It’s time to name names. Think of a creative person. Who comes to mind? Leonardo da Vinci? Your loved one? They really aren’t all that different. According to the Miriam Webster Dictionary, a synonym for creativity is inventiveness. Da Vinci is one of the greatest inventors of all time.

Another synonym is originality. If your loved one fits the dictionary definition of creative, “the ability to think of new things or create new things,” like da Vinci, it is all too probable that your loved one has been criticized, perhaps even by you. It is precisely because they are so original that they are often misunderstood.

Whether or not your loved one is a modern-day da Vinci, there may not be as many reasons to criticize them as you think. They have many attributes that make them strong partners in a relationship.

1. They are motivated.

Fastcocreate.com did a study comparing groups of creative and noncreative people. They found the creative people have more drive than the noncreative group members. They are driven to work when they find a job that suits their considerable talents. This results in earning potential so great it could result in recognition for your partner and even fame. Their dreams for themselves are so big, they will rub off on you. You can’t help but become more motivated simply by being around them.

2. They will make you more easy-going.

They may be prone to attacks of insecurity. Because they need your encouragement, you will become a more supportive person as a result of being with them.  Creative types often rant about the imperfections of their latest projects and how untalented they are. Keep calm. Know this latest tirade will soon pass. You will become calmer as a result of all this practice.

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3. They are optimists.

Because they are so creative, they are able to take a bad situation and creatively find ways to fix it. They can see potential. This ability to make the best of a bad situation makes them positive people to be around and certainly great problem solvers. According to HigherPerspectives.com, they actually let bad situations fuel their drive. Who wouldn’t want to be around a positive person? You may find the longer you are with them, you may start looking on the brighter side of life yourself.

4. They are flexible.

This entails mind-changing. Creative people are often inspired to try new things. You shouldn’t just go with it, you should appreciate it. If they think of a better idea than the plans you were putting in motion for the two of you, be grateful! This works both ways. Your partner will be open-minded to your ideas if you come up with a better plan the original one you had made as well.

5. They are not clingy.

Creative types are independent. They will never cling to you but will still love you just as much. Independence does not equal indifference. You can consider yourself lucky that you don’t have a partner who’s needy or clingy. However, if that independence deteriorates into a battle of wills, give them some space. Their stubbornness will diffuse.

6. They don’t stagnate.

They keep things dynamic in your relationship. Their curiosity makes them want to explore, and they will bring you on their travels. You will avoid that marital rut that troubles so many people with longevity. You will never be that “old” married couple.

7. They feel deeply, and they express these romantic feelings.

Creativity is about expressing oneself in unique ways. Expressing themselves comes second-nature to them. So be prepared for big romantic gestures like a night on the town or a spur of the moment get-a-way. Enjoy being loved deeply.

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8. They will share their ideas with you.

Being able to express themselves doesn’t just relate to romance. They will collaborate with you on ideas and plans. You will get “buy in” so many partners lack which is important in a successful relationship.

9. They are sensitive to your feelings.

According to one writer, “Their sensitivity is the source of their brilliance.” You will never be able to accuse a creative person of being ice cold because they are quite the opposite.  Their sensitivity enables them to recall details other might ignore. You won’t have to tell them about your day more than once.  Even if their constantly active minds make them seem distracted, they will hear you and remember what you shared. You will feel important in your relationship with them as a result.

10. They are fun to be around.

Creative people enjoy a sense of wonder that keeps them child-like. Their creative minds will find new experiences for you to share. “They can find an opportunity for fun even in the most mundane.” Life with them will never grow dull.

11. They are humble.

Because they are constantly doubting themselves, you won’t be hearing “I told you so” often from them. If conceited people get on your nerves, you won’t have this problem with your loved one. As a result, you won’t have a partner that makes you feel small.

12. They are not materialistic.

They may have drive and ambition, and a desire for recognition and fame, but it’s passion that fuels their drive, not the desire for money. You won’t have to worry about financing their elaborate shopping sprees at expensive stores.

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13. They are funny.

Creative people enjoy jokes, the baudier the better! Whenever you feel down, they know how to put a smile on your face because laughter is the best medicine.

14. They are great decorators.

Although creativity means being sensitive to art and beauty in more than just surface appearances, they still like to immerse themselves in beauty. So don’t worry about hiring a decorator for your first apartment together, they will gladly take care of it.

15. They don’t let rejection stop them.

They let failure propel them to try again. Their ability to rebound makes them enjoyable company. They don’t wallow. They will also encourage you to keep on pushing forward.

16. They keep what works.

They don’t keep their minds cluttered with ideas that don’t work. Their creative mind has a filter that enables them to know what works and what doesn’t.  Your home won’t be cluttered with nick-knacks.

17. They will make you more nurturing.

When their work “calls” and they forget to sleep, eat, or bathe, your nurturing side will appear, possibly one you didn’t know you had. You bring out the best in each other.

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In closing, because creative individuals have such active minds, your loved ones may be exhausting at times, but their charms make it worth this whirlwind. Creative individuals are full of love. They love their environment that has the potential to inspire, they love beauty, and they love you.

Great news. Your loved one’s merits will not go away. Neuroscience has confirmed their brains function differently than the rest of the world. Don’t let these differences, which are beyond their control, strain your relationship. Try to understand them instead.

Featured photo credit: danielavladimirova via flickr.com

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How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

Do you say yes so often that you realize you aren’t really happy about this, wondering how to say no to people?

For years, I was a serial people pleaser. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

It took a long while but I learned the art of saying no. Saying ‘no’ meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. I started to manage my time more around my own needs and interests. When that happened, I became a lot happier. And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

The Importance of Saying No

When you learn the art of saying ‘no,’ you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey considered one of the most successful women in the world confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything. It was only when she realized that after years of struggling with saying no, I finally got to this question: “What do I want?”

Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

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Warren Buffett views no as essential to his success. He said,

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

When I made ‘no’ a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say ‘no.’

From an early age, we are conditioned to say ‘yes.’ We said yes probably hundreds of time in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work. We said yes get a promotion. We said yes to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

We say yes because it feels better to help someone. We say yes because it can seem like the right thing to do. We say yes because we think that is key to success. And we say yes because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist like the boss.

And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves. At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we feel guilty we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

The message no matter where we turn is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

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How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

Deciding to add the word ‘no’ to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say ‘no’ but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of ‘no’ that you could finally create more time for things you care about. But let’s be honest, using the word ‘no’ doesn’t come easily for many people.

The 3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time especially you haven’t done it much in the past will feel awkward.

2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

Remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it, who else knows about all of the demands on your time? No one. Only you are at the center of all of these requests. are the only one that understands what time you really have.

3. Saying ‘No’ Means Saying ‘Yes’ to Something That Matters

When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

6 Ways to Start Saying No

Incorporating that little word ‘no’ into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

One of the biggest challenges to saying ‘no’ is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no reflect poorly on you?

Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because FOMO even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

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Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better.

3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say ‘No’

Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say ‘yes’ because we worry about how others will respond or the consequences of saying no or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose respect from others. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

Keep in mind that saying ‘no’ can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way. You might disappoint someone initially but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to.

4. When the Request Comes In, Sit on It

Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time, or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say ‘no.’ There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

5. Communicate Your ‘No’ with Transparency and Kindness

When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

A clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

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6. Consider How to Use a Modified ‘No’

If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” giving you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

Final Thoughts

Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

Use the request as a fresh request to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself. If you are the one placing the demand on yourself, try to evaluate the demand as if it were coming from somewhere else.

Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project but not by working all weekend. Or, tell someone in your family you can’t loan them money again because they never paid you back the last time. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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