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12 Signs You Are An Emotionally Wealthy Person Even If You Don’t Feel You Are

12 Signs You Are An Emotionally Wealthy Person Even If You Don’t Feel You Are

There is one particular area of life where, if developed, will ensure everlasting success and happiness. And that part of your life is your emotional state. Our emotions drive every single action we take. They are our greatest motivators. They effect the way our bodies function, and without them we would have no reason to live a worthwhile and fulfilling life.

But our emotions can also lead us in the wrong direction. This is why having emotional strength is an essential necessity in life. But, what is emotional strength? And are you emotionally strong? If you don’t know the answer to these questions, here are 12 signs that you are an emotionally wealthy person even if you don’t feel like you are!

1. You Understand That Happiness Is A Decision.

Everyone wants to be happy, but many people don’t understand that being happy is their decision. Emotionally wealthy individuals understand that emotions are nothing more than reactions to the way they perceive a particular cause. For example, if someone steps on your brand new sneakers by accident you can either get upset at the person or forgive them for making a mistake. Yet many people let outside circumstances like this control their inner reality and dictate how they feel from that point on.

When you understand that your emotions don’t reflect reality, but the way you interpret reality, then you truly understand that you have complete control over your own happiness.

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2. You are confident.

You are a confident person if you believe in yourself and your abilities. Emotionally wealthy people value themselves deeply and don’t feel the need to seek acceptance within others. They work hard to achieve what many others don’t and they understand that being a magnificent person takes great effort and determination.

3. You Don’t Do Things You Don’t Want To.

Many people give in to peer pressure and end up doing things they never wanted to do in the first place. Emotionally strong people understand that they don’t ever have to do anything they don’t want to and they almost always manage to figure out ways to end up doing the things they want.

4. You Choose Your Friends Wisely.

Most people in the world are miserable and misery loves company. Emotionally wealthy people are emotionally strong for a reason, they don’t just let anyone into their lives. They don’t expose themselves to negative people who will break them down and damage their sense of self. They choose who they surround themselves with wisely.

5. You Don’t Hold Grudges.

Holding onto a grudge is like holding onto a hot piece of coal hoping that it burns the other person. Holding grudges does more harm than it ever does good.

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Holding onto grudges means you are living in the past. Emotionally wealthy individuals understand that the present moment is all you will ever have. They choose to forgive and forget those who have wronged them in the past.

6. You Are Mature.

You are emotionally wealthy when you understand that you are the only one who is responsible for the results in your life. Life is difficult, but you are willing to take on any challenges it throws at you.

7. You Don’t Feel The Need To Fit In.

You don’t feel the need to fit in because you know that you play an important role here on earth. The stronger you are emotionally, the more independent you become. When you feel the need to “fit in” it shows that you are afraid to be yourself.

8. You Keep It Real.

Emotionally wealthy people give the best of themselves at all times and they choose authenticity over insecurity. You know you keep it real when don’t have to play guessing games with people because you get straight to the point. It takes courage to show who you are and to speak about what’s really on your mind.

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9. You Don’t Allow Others To Bring You Down.

When you take on a new venture and people tell you that you’re not going to succeed, you don’t accept their words but you use them as fuel. You know that this world is filled with people who are looking to hate on you and make you feel insignificant, but you never allow them to put out your fire!

10. You Treat People How You’d Like To Be Treated.

When people are mean to others for no reason it’s a sign that they lack self-confidence. You’re emotionally wealthy if you understand that if you want to be treated nice and kindly, you have to treat people that same way.

11. You Work At Your Own Pace.

In this fast-paced world filled with constant excitement, you can easily overwhelm yourself. Emotionally strong people appreciate taking deep breaths, working at their own speed and living in the present moment because it makes them feel alive.

12. You Practice Gratitude.

Emotionally wealthy people understand that gratitude is a way of life. The more grateful you truly feel, the more you can expect to receive. They understand that they’re fortunate to have what they have today and that many people around the world don’t even have a fraction of what they do. If this is you, then you’re emotionally wealthy.

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Share these 12 signs with your friends if they resonated with you and please leave me a comment if you just discovered that you’re an emotionally wealthy person!

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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