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12 Signs You Are An Emotionally Wealthy Person Even If You Don’t Feel You Are

12 Signs You Are An Emotionally Wealthy Person Even If You Don’t Feel You Are

There is one particular area of life where, if developed, will ensure everlasting success and happiness. And that part of your life is your emotional state. Our emotions drive every single action we take. They are our greatest motivators. They effect the way our bodies function, and without them we would have no reason to live a worthwhile and fulfilling life.

But our emotions can also lead us in the wrong direction. This is why having emotional strength is an essential necessity in life. But, what is emotional strength? And are you emotionally strong? If you don’t know the answer to these questions, here are 12 signs that you are an emotionally wealthy person even if you don’t feel like you are!

1. You Understand That Happiness Is A Decision.

Everyone wants to be happy, but many people don’t understand that being happy is their decision. Emotionally wealthy individuals understand that emotions are nothing more than reactions to the way they perceive a particular cause. For example, if someone steps on your brand new sneakers by accident you can either get upset at the person or forgive them for making a mistake. Yet many people let outside circumstances like this control their inner reality and dictate how they feel from that point on.

When you understand that your emotions don’t reflect reality, but the way you interpret reality, then you truly understand that you have complete control over your own happiness.

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2. You are confident.

You are a confident person if you believe in yourself and your abilities. Emotionally wealthy people value themselves deeply and don’t feel the need to seek acceptance within others. They work hard to achieve what many others don’t and they understand that being a magnificent person takes great effort and determination.

3. You Don’t Do Things You Don’t Want To.

Many people give in to peer pressure and end up doing things they never wanted to do in the first place. Emotionally strong people understand that they don’t ever have to do anything they don’t want to and they almost always manage to figure out ways to end up doing the things they want.

4. You Choose Your Friends Wisely.

Most people in the world are miserable and misery loves company. Emotionally wealthy people are emotionally strong for a reason, they don’t just let anyone into their lives. They don’t expose themselves to negative people who will break them down and damage their sense of self. They choose who they surround themselves with wisely.

5. You Don’t Hold Grudges.

Holding onto a grudge is like holding onto a hot piece of coal hoping that it burns the other person. Holding grudges does more harm than it ever does good.

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Holding onto grudges means you are living in the past. Emotionally wealthy individuals understand that the present moment is all you will ever have. They choose to forgive and forget those who have wronged them in the past.

6. You Are Mature.

You are emotionally wealthy when you understand that you are the only one who is responsible for the results in your life. Life is difficult, but you are willing to take on any challenges it throws at you.

7. You Don’t Feel The Need To Fit In.

You don’t feel the need to fit in because you know that you play an important role here on earth. The stronger you are emotionally, the more independent you become. When you feel the need to “fit in” it shows that you are afraid to be yourself.

8. You Keep It Real.

Emotionally wealthy people give the best of themselves at all times and they choose authenticity over insecurity. You know you keep it real when don’t have to play guessing games with people because you get straight to the point. It takes courage to show who you are and to speak about what’s really on your mind.

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9. You Don’t Allow Others To Bring You Down.

When you take on a new venture and people tell you that you’re not going to succeed, you don’t accept their words but you use them as fuel. You know that this world is filled with people who are looking to hate on you and make you feel insignificant, but you never allow them to put out your fire!

10. You Treat People How You’d Like To Be Treated.

When people are mean to others for no reason it’s a sign that they lack self-confidence. You’re emotionally wealthy if you understand that if you want to be treated nice and kindly, you have to treat people that same way.

11. You Work At Your Own Pace.

In this fast-paced world filled with constant excitement, you can easily overwhelm yourself. Emotionally strong people appreciate taking deep breaths, working at their own speed and living in the present moment because it makes them feel alive.

12. You Practice Gratitude.

Emotionally wealthy people understand that gratitude is a way of life. The more grateful you truly feel, the more you can expect to receive. They understand that they’re fortunate to have what they have today and that many people around the world don’t even have a fraction of what they do. If this is you, then you’re emotionally wealthy.

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Share these 12 signs with your friends if they resonated with you and please leave me a comment if you just discovered that you’re an emotionally wealthy person!

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Last Updated on January 16, 2020

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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