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50 Things Only People Who Are In True Love Would Understand

50 Things Only People Who Are In True Love Would Understand

There is something that comes with loving someone. You are ready to put up with all the dramas you will never have put up with ordinarily. You are happy for the first time in your life, I mean really happy despite all these struggles in the following list.

1. You always think of him/her when walking in the street seeing many different things.

2. You appreciate every lyric of your favorite love song and you believe so much in the exact words.

3. There is power in every look at your significant other.

4. You can appreciate the other person’s flaws and still be madly in love.

5. You will argue a lot, but you know that no one is perfect and you are cool with that.

6. You are not complete until the other is around.

7. You want to be there until the end of the other person’s life.

8. You do not see commitment; rather you see safety and security in being with the other person.

9. You become sad too when he/she is depressed.

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10. You become an addict of every soap opera you see.

11. You are not afraid of losing it all to love – rather you are courageous and want to risk it all.

12. You can wait; yes you can, because emotions that wait run deeper.

13. You are not heads over heels in love, rather you are standing tall.

14. You can’t explain to anyone how you feel.

15. You spend special moments in a hot tub with him/her and it is like a period of forever bliss.

16. You are happy when the other person is happy.

17. You make sacrifices for the other person’s well-being.

18. You want to make the other person feel person special, despite the effort it will take.

19. You hurt them and you feel bad, you can’t pay the other person back for a wrong. You simply are stuck sometimes, sorry.

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20. You make promises to them…

21. …And you can keep those promises no matter what.

22. It is not “me” anymore. Rather it is “we”. Everything you think of is not about you but about us.

23. You are ready to work as a team to make each other happy.

24. You are scared of losing the other person.

25. You go for long walks along the beach anytime you are together.

26. He/she is worth everything you can give to them.

27. You can’t understand your feelings and no other person will also.

28. You are not jealous; rather you are proud of whatever the other person accomplishes even if the other person excels at something you failed at.

29. You are willing to suffer just to make the other person happy.

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30. You now appreciate “good nights” because it could mean a kiss a hug or saying something assuring.

31. You experience their pain and it is simply a part of you when he/she is experiencing a suffering.

32. You suddenly become an optimist as you believe everything will turn out well.

33. You wear his/her clothes and you are as comfortable in them as in your own.

34. You find out he/she is more important than the meals you eat.

35. Well, sometimes you can get jealous in mini-doses.

36. Kinky might be too far, but blindfolds are good.

37. Every day you wake up to promises and possibilities.

38. You learn new activities just because you want to please the other person.

39. You suddenly become a poet.

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40. You want to be the best husband/wife.

41. You write poetry for each other

42. You both wear the same cologne anytime you are together.

43. You piss off some friends in the process of being together all the time.

44. You have incense, backlights, candles and music for cuddling anytime you are together.

45. You only feel great when you are with him/her, so you leave parties early.

46. You love celebrity couples and it drives you nuts when one of them cheats.

47. People start asking you when you will be getting married and have kids.

48. You now start hating the idea of being alone wherever you go.

49. You have an incredibly new Facebook status which tells everyone else to back off.

50. You flirt with each other when you are in public and sometimes forget the existence of passers-by.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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