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10 Powerful Beliefs Of Incredibly Successful People

10 Powerful Beliefs Of Incredibly Successful People

Success is ultimately based on action. But your beliefs determine your actions. Successful people believe.  That’s their big secret for getting ahead. You might want to think it’s some unfair throw of the dice that makes them succeed where so many fail, but that’s not really it. Success is an attitude that comes from a framework of powerful beliefs and empowering thoughts. Their belief system informs and inspires their actions—and that’s what makes them successful.

1. They believe that they are in charge of their life.

Incredibly successful people believe that life does not happen to you, but that life is a result of how you respond to challenges and opportunities. This empowering belief, that you and only you are responsible of what you make of any given situation, allows them to take charge of their own destiny.

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2. They believe in their own abilities and potential.

Incredibly successful people have great self-confidence in the sense that while they might not have all the answers, they believe they can figure it out. They have full faith in themselves and their potential for greatness. They know that if you don’t believe in yourself and your abilities, no one else will. A successful person knows it never makes sense to give up on yourself or your potential.

3. They believe a lot of opportunity is out there.

Incredibly successful people have their mind set on opportunity and abundance, rather than scarcity and lack. And this makes a world of a difference. Where most people see obstacles, successful people see stepping stones to greater opportunities. Where others see dead-ends, they see possibilities to make a way. They are problem solvers and not mere complainers.

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4. They believe that strategy is important… but execution is critical.

Incredibly successful people execute what works—over and over again. They understand strategy is only as important as it informs execution. Develop an idea, make a plan, create a strategy, then execute. Eventually your strategy will need to be adapted and then executed some more. Only when you set proper systems in motion will you get desired results.

5. They believe they will win through hard work and perseverance.

Incredibly successful people understand that to succeed you need to have grit. Work comes first and the payoff comes later. When others quit and compromise their values, successful people keep going. They become victors in the end not so much because they are the smartest, better connected or more talented, but because they are the last person left standing when others fall by the wayside.

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6. They believe they can make tomorrow better.

This belief that the past can be reviewed and the future made better is ingrained in their DNA. That’s the reason why incredibly successful people learn both from their own and other people’s mistakes. Where others are crippled by past failures and disempowering thoughts that they have little (if any) control of their life, successful people are busy changing the future by changing their actions today. They are at the forefront of minor or major changes, even if only in their community or industry.

7. They believe in doing things no one else is willing to do.

Incredibly successful people do not shy away from risk. They try new things even if those things seem trivial or are simple. That’s because they understand that to be different you must act differently. You must be willing to try things others won’t. People will think you are crazy at first. It is likely that you will fail a time or two. Eventually your risk may pay off and people will think you are unique and ultimately they will think you are special—phenomenal even—for doing what no one else was willing to do. And when you do what others wouldn’t you will indeed be phenomenal!

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8. They believe people are catalysts not barriers to success.

That’s why incredibly successful people focus on making real connections. They are not just interested in growing their network in terms of numbers, but in making real human connections. That means connecting with people they care about, people they can trust, people they can help and people who care about them. Numbers won’t be there for you when you need help or support. People will. So connect with people by creating meaningful, reciprocated relationships.

9. They believe in uplifting others.

Because real connections and friendships are established by laying aside your own needs and focusing more on giving than on receiving, incredibly successful people are keen on lifting and uplifting others. They are not jealous or envious when other people succeed. On the contrary, they are happy when you succeed and will consistently inspire, motivate, and make you feel better about yourself than even you think you have a right to feel. That is why, as some have observed, you will follow them anywhere, not because you have to but because you want to.

10. They believe in giving back.

Giving back is one of the ways incredibly successful people show their gratitude for all the opportunities they have been given and all the things they have accomplished so far. It’s also a way to reconnect with their roots and origin, figuratively and literally speaking. Giving back keeps them grounded, humble and in touch with reality. It reminds them that they must keep working and playing their part to make this world a better place for all. Make it a habit to share the blessings in your life and you will be all the more happier and richer for it.

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David K. William

David is a publisher and entrepreneur who tries to help professionals grow their business and careers, and gives advice for entrepreneurs.

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Published on May 4, 2021

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

How to Spot Fake People?

When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

1. Full of Themselves

Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

3. Zero Self-Reflection

To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

4. Unrealistic Perceptions

Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

5. Love Attention

As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

6. People Pleaser

Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

8. Crappy friend

Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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1. Boundaries

Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

4. Ask for Advice

If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

5. Dig Deeper

Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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6. Practice Self-Care!

Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

Final Thoughts

Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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