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10 Powerful Beliefs Of Incredibly Successful People

10 Powerful Beliefs Of Incredibly Successful People

Success is ultimately based on action. But your beliefs determine your actions. Successful people believe.  That’s their big secret for getting ahead. You might want to think it’s some unfair throw of the dice that makes them succeed where so many fail, but that’s not really it. Success is an attitude that comes from a framework of powerful beliefs and empowering thoughts. Their belief system informs and inspires their actions—and that’s what makes them successful.

1. They believe that they are in charge of their life.

Incredibly successful people believe that life does not happen to you, but that life is a result of how you respond to challenges and opportunities. This empowering belief, that you and only you are responsible of what you make of any given situation, allows them to take charge of their own destiny.

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2. They believe in their own abilities and potential.

Incredibly successful people have great self-confidence in the sense that while they might not have all the answers, they believe they can figure it out. They have full faith in themselves and their potential for greatness. They know that if you don’t believe in yourself and your abilities, no one else will. A successful person knows it never makes sense to give up on yourself or your potential.

3. They believe a lot of opportunity is out there.

Incredibly successful people have their mind set on opportunity and abundance, rather than scarcity and lack. And this makes a world of a difference. Where most people see obstacles, successful people see stepping stones to greater opportunities. Where others see dead-ends, they see possibilities to make a way. They are problem solvers and not mere complainers.

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4. They believe that strategy is important… but execution is critical.

Incredibly successful people execute what works—over and over again. They understand strategy is only as important as it informs execution. Develop an idea, make a plan, create a strategy, then execute. Eventually your strategy will need to be adapted and then executed some more. Only when you set proper systems in motion will you get desired results.

5. They believe they will win through hard work and perseverance.

Incredibly successful people understand that to succeed you need to have grit. Work comes first and the payoff comes later. When others quit and compromise their values, successful people keep going. They become victors in the end not so much because they are the smartest, better connected or more talented, but because they are the last person left standing when others fall by the wayside.

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6. They believe they can make tomorrow better.

This belief that the past can be reviewed and the future made better is ingrained in their DNA. That’s the reason why incredibly successful people learn both from their own and other people’s mistakes. Where others are crippled by past failures and disempowering thoughts that they have little (if any) control of their life, successful people are busy changing the future by changing their actions today. They are at the forefront of minor or major changes, even if only in their community or industry.

7. They believe in doing things no one else is willing to do.

Incredibly successful people do not shy away from risk. They try new things even if those things seem trivial or are simple. That’s because they understand that to be different you must act differently. You must be willing to try things others won’t. People will think you are crazy at first. It is likely that you will fail a time or two. Eventually your risk may pay off and people will think you are unique and ultimately they will think you are special—phenomenal even—for doing what no one else was willing to do. And when you do what others wouldn’t you will indeed be phenomenal!

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8. They believe people are catalysts not barriers to success.

That’s why incredibly successful people focus on making real connections. They are not just interested in growing their network in terms of numbers, but in making real human connections. That means connecting with people they care about, people they can trust, people they can help and people who care about them. Numbers won’t be there for you when you need help or support. People will. So connect with people by creating meaningful, reciprocated relationships.

9. They believe in uplifting others.

Because real connections and friendships are established by laying aside your own needs and focusing more on giving than on receiving, incredibly successful people are keen on lifting and uplifting others. They are not jealous or envious when other people succeed. On the contrary, they are happy when you succeed and will consistently inspire, motivate, and make you feel better about yourself than even you think you have a right to feel. That is why, as some have observed, you will follow them anywhere, not because you have to but because you want to.

10. They believe in giving back.

Giving back is one of the ways incredibly successful people show their gratitude for all the opportunities they have been given and all the things they have accomplished so far. It’s also a way to reconnect with their roots and origin, figuratively and literally speaking. Giving back keeps them grounded, humble and in touch with reality. It reminds them that they must keep working and playing their part to make this world a better place for all. Make it a habit to share the blessings in your life and you will be all the more happier and richer for it.

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Last Updated on March 30, 2020

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

2. Be Honest

A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

4. Succeed at Something

When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

Final Thoughts

When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

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Reference

[1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
[2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
[3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
[4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
[5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
[6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
[7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
[8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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