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10 Signs You’ve Made The Right Choice To End That Relationship

10 Signs You’ve Made The Right Choice To End That Relationship

When you are in a wrong relationship, it is as if you are in a haze. Everything is a blur and undefined. You don’t like yourself because who is meant to like you doesn’t even like you. You go through a series of pains as you debate what could really change everything. It’s difficult for you to end the relationship and move on. If you choose to end the relationship, you may find you chose for the better. Here is a list of beneficial things that will happen next.

1. You have more self esteem

All those times he or she made you feel bad and incomplete are gone. You don’t feel lonely or ask yourself so many questions. Instead, you can manage yourself better and be organized again. You can have your thoughts in place. Now, you are a leader of yourself.

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2. You have the right people coming into your life

People that may have been estranged from your world because you were trying to make the best of your relationship can now enter your world again. Even new friends who want to be a part of the new you will have the opportunity to become friends with you.

3. You can discover yourself

All that potential and ability that was stored within but were untapped can now be accessed. You can fall in love and act stupid all you want. You don’t have anyone criticizing you or making you feel empty and unaware of your goodness. Now you can search and find those passions that you may have thought were lost.

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4. You have a clear vision of where you are headed

Although the future could be far away, you know that there is so much more in store. You are not tied to anyone that will make a mess of your future. Instead, you have limitless possibilities of great things that will make your future happy and certain.

5. You can deal with yourself

You won’t need to take yourself too seriously. You understand your flaws and mistakes. You can deal with it and be happy. In the past, when you were not sure about what was right or wrong, or why you were not simply good enough, evolves into an acceptance of your true being.

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6. You can have a good laugh

Laughter is great for the soul. It’s much better than the constant bickering and arguments you were used to. You have a good laugh because, for the first time, you are happy. You are contented with what you have, what you own, and who you are.

7. You are free

You are all for the taking. Who doesn’t want to be free? With a wrong relationship, you are stuck. You feel like you are on a tight leash or trapped in a box. Right now, you are free to be who you are and to go where you want to go instead. No one questions you or assaults your space.

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8. You have an identity

No one sees you as an attached or engaged person. They see you as you. You become what you have always wanted to be without adjusting your standards to suit another person. Rather than being what you are not, or attached to what you shouldn’t attach yourself to, you can now have an identity of your own.

9. You are mentally tough

You must have gone through situations that made you realize a lot of things. Now that you are in the clear horizon, you understand a lot of things and are more experienced. You can handle bad relationships in the future, if there is ever another like that. Being in the wrong relationship has strengthened you. Remember, taking that step to end it has made you mentally tough.

10. You are happy

How can you be happy when everything is wrong around you? If your relationship is wrong, you are challenged and questioned, rather than complimented or consolidated. Happiness is a state of consistency and completeness. When you are not satisfied with a situation, you are anxious, worried, and constantly in a state of flux.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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