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10 Signs You’ve Made The Right Choice To End That Relationship

10 Signs You’ve Made The Right Choice To End That Relationship

When you are in a wrong relationship, it is as if you are in a haze. Everything is a blur and undefined. You don’t like yourself because who is meant to like you doesn’t even like you. You go through a series of pains as you debate what could really change everything. It’s difficult for you to end the relationship and move on. If you choose to end the relationship, you may find you chose for the better. Here is a list of beneficial things that will happen next.

1. You have more self esteem

All those times he or she made you feel bad and incomplete are gone. You don’t feel lonely or ask yourself so many questions. Instead, you can manage yourself better and be organized again. You can have your thoughts in place. Now, you are a leader of yourself.

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2. You have the right people coming into your life

People that may have been estranged from your world because you were trying to make the best of your relationship can now enter your world again. Even new friends who want to be a part of the new you will have the opportunity to become friends with you.

3. You can discover yourself

All that potential and ability that was stored within but were untapped can now be accessed. You can fall in love and act stupid all you want. You don’t have anyone criticizing you or making you feel empty and unaware of your goodness. Now you can search and find those passions that you may have thought were lost.

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4. You have a clear vision of where you are headed

Although the future could be far away, you know that there is so much more in store. You are not tied to anyone that will make a mess of your future. Instead, you have limitless possibilities of great things that will make your future happy and certain.

5. You can deal with yourself

You won’t need to take yourself too seriously. You understand your flaws and mistakes. You can deal with it and be happy. In the past, when you were not sure about what was right or wrong, or why you were not simply good enough, evolves into an acceptance of your true being.

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6. You can have a good laugh

Laughter is great for the soul. It’s much better than the constant bickering and arguments you were used to. You have a good laugh because, for the first time, you are happy. You are contented with what you have, what you own, and who you are.

7. You are free

You are all for the taking. Who doesn’t want to be free? With a wrong relationship, you are stuck. You feel like you are on a tight leash or trapped in a box. Right now, you are free to be who you are and to go where you want to go instead. No one questions you or assaults your space.

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8. You have an identity

No one sees you as an attached or engaged person. They see you as you. You become what you have always wanted to be without adjusting your standards to suit another person. Rather than being what you are not, or attached to what you shouldn’t attach yourself to, you can now have an identity of your own.

9. You are mentally tough

You must have gone through situations that made you realize a lot of things. Now that you are in the clear horizon, you understand a lot of things and are more experienced. You can handle bad relationships in the future, if there is ever another like that. Being in the wrong relationship has strengthened you. Remember, taking that step to end it has made you mentally tough.

10. You are happy

How can you be happy when everything is wrong around you? If your relationship is wrong, you are challenged and questioned, rather than complimented or consolidated. Happiness is a state of consistency and completeness. When you are not satisfied with a situation, you are anxious, worried, and constantly in a state of flux.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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