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10 Signs You’ve Made The Right Choice To End That Relationship

10 Signs You’ve Made The Right Choice To End That Relationship

When you are in a wrong relationship, it is as if you are in a haze. Everything is a blur and undefined. You don’t like yourself because who is meant to like you doesn’t even like you. You go through a series of pains as you debate what could really change everything. It’s difficult for you to end the relationship and move on. If you choose to end the relationship, you may find you chose for the better. Here is a list of beneficial things that will happen next.

1. You have more self esteem

All those times he or she made you feel bad and incomplete are gone. You don’t feel lonely or ask yourself so many questions. Instead, you can manage yourself better and be organized again. You can have your thoughts in place. Now, you are a leader of yourself.

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2. You have the right people coming into your life

People that may have been estranged from your world because you were trying to make the best of your relationship can now enter your world again. Even new friends who want to be a part of the new you will have the opportunity to become friends with you.

3. You can discover yourself

All that potential and ability that was stored within but were untapped can now be accessed. You can fall in love and act stupid all you want. You don’t have anyone criticizing you or making you feel empty and unaware of your goodness. Now you can search and find those passions that you may have thought were lost.

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4. You have a clear vision of where you are headed

Although the future could be far away, you know that there is so much more in store. You are not tied to anyone that will make a mess of your future. Instead, you have limitless possibilities of great things that will make your future happy and certain.

5. You can deal with yourself

You won’t need to take yourself too seriously. You understand your flaws and mistakes. You can deal with it and be happy. In the past, when you were not sure about what was right or wrong, or why you were not simply good enough, evolves into an acceptance of your true being.

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6. You can have a good laugh

Laughter is great for the soul. It’s much better than the constant bickering and arguments you were used to. You have a good laugh because, for the first time, you are happy. You are contented with what you have, what you own, and who you are.

7. You are free

You are all for the taking. Who doesn’t want to be free? With a wrong relationship, you are stuck. You feel like you are on a tight leash or trapped in a box. Right now, you are free to be who you are and to go where you want to go instead. No one questions you or assaults your space.

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8. You have an identity

No one sees you as an attached or engaged person. They see you as you. You become what you have always wanted to be without adjusting your standards to suit another person. Rather than being what you are not, or attached to what you shouldn’t attach yourself to, you can now have an identity of your own.

9. You are mentally tough

You must have gone through situations that made you realize a lot of things. Now that you are in the clear horizon, you understand a lot of things and are more experienced. You can handle bad relationships in the future, if there is ever another like that. Being in the wrong relationship has strengthened you. Remember, taking that step to end it has made you mentally tough.

10. You are happy

How can you be happy when everything is wrong around you? If your relationship is wrong, you are challenged and questioned, rather than complimented or consolidated. Happiness is a state of consistency and completeness. When you are not satisfied with a situation, you are anxious, worried, and constantly in a state of flux.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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