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10 Signs Of Genuine People

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10 Signs Of Genuine People

Who doesn’t like what is genuine, authentic and original? Being genuine is a trademark of success as this quality boosts self-confidence and primes vision and focus. Genuine people don’t need to fake it or pretend to be what or who they are not as there are no privileges for them to live under such a guise. However being genuine in a world where there is a lot of attention and publicity offered to products, individuals or items which end up betraying our trust makes it hard for us to be genuine. Yet it is worth it. Here is how one can know if they are genuine.

1. They protect their self esteem

Genuine people are not concerned about external factors that could bruise their esteem. They don’t need validation from their external environment since they are much less defensive about a lot of things. They are instead happy and content with who they are.

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2. They speak their mind

Genuine people are expressive. They are not shy about sharing their thoughts or perspectives about a subject. They understand that their opinions count. It is not as if they are trying to convince others about what they have to say, rather they feel relevant enough to be heard.

3. They can define their paths

They know where they are going. They do not need to be pushed by conventional thoughts or opinions on how to achieve or attain their goals. They can discover the adequate channels to take as they have an internal guide on how to pursue their passions or goals. They can forge an entirely new path in the process of getting to their destination.

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4. They can take responsibility

They understand that life is a mix of wrongs and right and nothing is perfect. As much as they are able to confront their thoughts, beliefs and behaviors, they know how to identify their faults and accept them if their actions from them hurt others.

5. They can offer and take a compliment

They are able to offer their gratitude and accept one too. They see a compliment for what it is and do not strain such expressions. They do not over-think it or find reasons for not accepting a well displayed form of gratitude. They understand the flow of life and how much they can help in channeling that flow of acceptance and giving.

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6. They do not judge others

Since they are honest about their abilities and they know they are not perfect they find reason to give room to others mistakes and opinions. Other humans should be given the opportunity to express themselves as we all have differing beliefs and opinions. They are not judgmental of others.

7. They are not insecure

They are not masked with feelings of inferiority or insecurity. They really are not concerned about other people’s opinion as they are confident and simply themselves. They do not adjust their lifestyle for you to like them or not.

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8. They are not threatened by failure

Genuine people see failure as a way of learning. They are not afraid to try something new and go down an unconventional route if it will be a source of experience, knowledge and satisfaction. They are far from trying to take a route because it guarantees safety and security. Rather they are happy with doing something other people are not doing to challenge the norm.

9. They practice what they preach and preach what they practice

You can count on them practicing what they preach. They are solid and predictable. They meet their commitments and do not try to exaggerate in their deeds or words. As genuine people they are not trying to live their lives according to other people’s standard. Even when it is hard to practice authenticity they know the importance of informing others why it is necessary to practice it. Whether it is a tough truth or not, they will still preach it.

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10. They don’t need possessions from their surroundings to be happy

They are happy with who they are already. They are comfortable with their inner self and what is within provides the most happiness. They can find happiness in their work, their loved ones, and in their self. These simple things are enough for them to be happy. This is why they do not seek happiness from the outside whether in terms of possessions or people’s comments about them.

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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