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10 Signs Of Genuine People

10 Signs Of Genuine People

Who doesn’t like what is genuine, authentic and original? Being genuine is a trademark of success as this quality boosts self-confidence and primes vision and focus. Genuine people don’t need to fake it or pretend to be what or who they are not as there are no privileges for them to live under such a guise. However being genuine in a world where there is a lot of attention and publicity offered to products, individuals or items which end up betraying our trust makes it hard for us to be genuine. Yet it is worth it. Here is how one can know if they are genuine.

1. They protect their self esteem

Genuine people are not concerned about external factors that could bruise their esteem. They don’t need validation from their external environment since they are much less defensive about a lot of things. They are instead happy and content with who they are.

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2. They speak their mind

Genuine people are expressive. They are not shy about sharing their thoughts or perspectives about a subject. They understand that their opinions count. It is not as if they are trying to convince others about what they have to say, rather they feel relevant enough to be heard.

3. They can define their paths

They know where they are going. They do not need to be pushed by conventional thoughts or opinions on how to achieve or attain their goals. They can discover the adequate channels to take as they have an internal guide on how to pursue their passions or goals. They can forge an entirely new path in the process of getting to their destination.

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4. They can take responsibility

They understand that life is a mix of wrongs and right and nothing is perfect. As much as they are able to confront their thoughts, beliefs and behaviors, they know how to identify their faults and accept them if their actions from them hurt others.

5. They can offer and take a compliment

They are able to offer their gratitude and accept one too. They see a compliment for what it is and do not strain such expressions. They do not over-think it or find reasons for not accepting a well displayed form of gratitude. They understand the flow of life and how much they can help in channeling that flow of acceptance and giving.

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6. They do not judge others

Since they are honest about their abilities and they know they are not perfect they find reason to give room to others mistakes and opinions. Other humans should be given the opportunity to express themselves as we all have differing beliefs and opinions. They are not judgmental of others.

7. They are not insecure

They are not masked with feelings of inferiority or insecurity. They really are not concerned about other people’s opinion as they are confident and simply themselves. They do not adjust their lifestyle for you to like them or not.

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8. They are not threatened by failure

Genuine people see failure as a way of learning. They are not afraid to try something new and go down an unconventional route if it will be a source of experience, knowledge and satisfaction. They are far from trying to take a route because it guarantees safety and security. Rather they are happy with doing something other people are not doing to challenge the norm.

9. They practice what they preach and preach what they practice

You can count on them practicing what they preach. They are solid and predictable. They meet their commitments and do not try to exaggerate in their deeds or words. As genuine people they are not trying to live their lives according to other people’s standard. Even when it is hard to practice authenticity they know the importance of informing others why it is necessary to practice it. Whether it is a tough truth or not, they will still preach it.

10. They don’t need possessions from their surroundings to be happy

They are happy with who they are already. They are comfortable with their inner self and what is within provides the most happiness. They can find happiness in their work, their loved ones, and in their self. These simple things are enough for them to be happy. This is why they do not seek happiness from the outside whether in terms of possessions or people’s comments about them.

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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