Being single is this amazing woman’s choice, not because she has been blacklisted by half of the population. She buys her own flowers and decorates her own soul; under no misconception that she is defined by having a partner. She doesn’t worry about her relationship status because she is fulfilled with herself, with her life and choices and dreams and purpose. She is also probably surrounded by suitors because well, confidence is sexy. And there are things you need to understand if you are one of these that hope to woo her.
1. She’s probably had her heart broken recently.
This means she will be extra cautious, fragile, sensitive and aware.
2. She’s not looking to take care of you.
Your laundry, cooking and “atta-boys” are not her responsibility. She needs you to understand your role as a lover and partner, not mother, maid or shrink.
3. She knows what she’s into.
At a certain age we all know how we like our coffee, how we like our steak, and how we like our men (or women). This self-awareness is hard-won and in a way, liberating. She respects the bumps and bruises that led to this knowledge.
4. She’s a lion and a princess.
Is she sitting around and waiting to be rescued? Ha! Hardly. She’s a lion, out there taking charge and making her own way in the world. She does however, appreciate gallantry and courtesy. And will treat you in kind.
5. She’s looking for a partner, not a crutch (if she’s looking at all).
She likes inspiration, a cheer squad in her corner and a complex and challenging partner, but she doesn’t need it. There is nothing about a needy relationship that thrills her. She’s complete and validated with herself and through herself. Sexy, isn’t it?
6. She appreciates the freedom to make a sandwich at 2a.m. Naked.
Living alone has certain appeal: freedom. She recognizes this and revels in it. Asking permission and incessant/unnecessary contact is not appealing, believe me.
7. She expects you to have your own life, because she certainly has hers.
She knows a person cannot make another person whole or complete. A relationship is there to enrich your lives and share with each other, so seeing you have your own friends and hobbies gives her a great sense of relief.
8. She flies solo really well.
She likes talking to strangers, exploring new things, trying new food, traveling. These make her feel connected and adventurous. Her self-esteem, self-awareness and self-reflection are all high and accurate. Not that she’s perfect. But she’s damn close and having fun experiencing all that she can!
9. She’s her own “Killer of Spiders”.
For this, she deserves a badge of honor. There are handymen- tinkering around fixing parts and problems. She doesn’t need a handyman because she’s her own; from fixing her car to exterminating arachnids, she’s got this.
10. She lives and loves wholly.
She doesn’t settle for less in a romantic relationship (that is courage and strong will). She does however love her family, friends and previous partners. She is giving to all who she loves and just because a previous relationship ended, doesn’t mean it ended with animosity.
11. She’s enjoying it.
She might not be “attached” or in the “it’s serious” stage, but you can be certain she’s having a hell of a time dating.
12. She’s a straight shooter.
That stuff we did in middle school: the gossip, insincere compliments, dramatic ploys for attention? It’s not in her repertoire, there’s no point and it makes no one feel good. Which doesn’t mean she doesn’t engage in witty repartee, she just chooses to respect herself and others.