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How To Mend Broken Relationships And Build Anew

How To Mend Broken Relationships And Build Anew

Sometimes our relationships take a turn for the worse. We say things we shouldn’t say, or carry out actions that hurt the other person. In doing so, we may risk losing vital relationships; but there are ways to repair these relationships and make them stronger than before.

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    1. Forget the Past

    In forgetting the past, all of the negative emotions are washed away. Any toxic feelings, moments, and memories are burned away, leaving one refreshed. It is hard, but it can help you feel better about the situation. When we forgive, and forget the past, we start with a clean slate. Who doesn’t want to start life with a fresh, clean, and new slate?

    2. Apologize

    If there was a fight or complication, regardless of the perpetrator, apologize. Apologies are always accepted regardless of how big the situation.

    Yes, it takes time but it is completely worth every bit of waiting. There is no shame in apologizing; the apologizer and the forgiver both come to a consensus of beginning anew once more. That is the primary thought that counts and is helpful in any given situation, and begins the healing process.

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    3. Make Sure There Is Trust

    All relationships require trust. If there isn’t trust, the foundation may not last. Trust is the starting point of every relationship. It can create or destroy them.

    When you trust someone, you put your faith in them no matter what may happen, and you choose to stay by their side. In mending relationships, this is important. You should demonstrate that you trust the other person completely before the new start of your relationship with them.

    It is beautiful to see faith in any relationship because it is essential in both maintaining and mending relationships.

    4. Be Focused

    There is nothing greater than focus. Try and focus on what needs to be fixed before delving too far in the situation.

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    Try to see where the differences lie. This will allow you to tread carefully and cautiously without hurting the other person. Trying to keep everyone’s feelings in place allows for ease in relationships and makes everyone feel wanted. Make sure you know what you want in the relationship.

    Knowing what you want in the distant future makes things a lot easier in the near future. Just make sure to have faith in yourself. Know who you are and who the other person is, and together you can figure out how to re-start.

    5. Build Anew

    Let bygones be bygones.

    Don’t stay where you were yesterday in the argument. Try to move on, and if you try, you eventually will be able to move on. If you live the same life for 75 years, that is not a life.

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    People change, and so do times and circumstances. People are a result of these changes.

    Don’t let little things get to you, and just move on. It will make you feel better in the long run. That is a guarantee. Who doesn’t like change? Now that we have a clean slate, we can write whatever we want to on it. It doesn’t matter. It is new.

    6. Start With Love

    There is nothing greater than love. Go with a clean heart and tell the other person what you truly feel.

    Love is essential in healing. Love can prevent further damage.

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    Love mends everything. It is something that we all crave more than anything in this world. It beats money, honor, or gratitude.

    Love is something that when given can only increase. It is unconditional and something so majestic and pure that it cannot be described fully in words.

    We build trust, faith, and confidence with love.

    Love has such strength; far greater than the greatest wonders of the world.

    Make sure your new relationship has love because it is truly unbeatable. It can outwit, outlast, anything in this world!

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      Last Updated on January 18, 2019

      7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

      7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

      Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

      But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

      If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

      1. Limit the time you spend with them.

      First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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      In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

      Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

      2. Speak up for yourself.

      Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

      3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

      This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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      But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

      4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

      Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

      This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

      Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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      5. Change the subject.

      When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

      Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

      6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

      Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

      I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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      You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

      Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

      7. Leave them behind.

      Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

      If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

      That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

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