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How to Overcome Bouts of Depression

How to Overcome Bouts of Depression

Depression is a seriously hard thing to overcome. Many people get it only once in their lifetime. Other people get bouts of depression again and again, which makes life hard living. However, there are certain steps you can take to overcome depression bouts and alleviate the pain and suffering that stems from it.

I hope these steps will inspire you to live the kind of  life you really want to live. I hope you can overcome these depression bouts once and for all. I hope you can live like a free bird without a cage.

I have come from the depths of depression. I know I have come out with many difficulties. I know that you never give up. You will continue fighting until you get the life you want! Just keep your fingers crossed, your motivation in check, and everything will be fine. You are not alone. You will never be alone.

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    1. Redirect Thoughts

    Redirect your thoughts so you focus more on the positive instead of the negative. Pondering the negative will lead you nowhere. Instead, focus on all the positives in you life. They will help you lead a more balanced life full of content, happiness, and laughter. Every time you think of something negative, think of all you can be grateful for. It may be the house you currently have, the family you have, food you have, or even the job you have. If you think about it, many people don’t have these commodities that z lot of us take for granted.

    We sometimes hope and crave and wish for so much that we forget the gifts that are in front of us every single day of our lives. They are indeed special, but we tend to overlook them sometimes. If only we would be able to see the wonderful things right in front of us, then these bouts of depression would never come to haunt our very lives.

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      So, every time you think of something negative, make it into something positive and inspirational. It should help you relieve the anxiety, pain, and negativity that depression gives you. It will no doubt help you feel stronger and in charge of your depression. So, try it! It will surely help you. I try it every single day. I must say it does wonders in transporting the mind from the negative into the positive.

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        2. Have Something Planned Every Weekend To Unwind Your Mind

        When something is planned every weekend, there is a channel that gives you happiness of any kind to look forward to. You can plan a weekend at the beach, amusement park, museum, or aquarium. Go ahead and do anything that makes you happy!

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          When we look forward to something, it builds excitement, thrill, and fun in our bodies. It helps us become a child once again, anticipating what is to unfold. Curiosity can be a wonderful thing to have, especially for those trying to recover from the grips of depression, and those that constantly battle it everyday.

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          I am telling you from experience, if you have something planned for the weekend after such a lengthy week at the work, your depression will start going away and diminish each passing day. I tell you from my own experience because I have battled severe depression. Bouts can be so bad it makes you unable to get out of bed, work, eat, or sleep. However, once you start enjoying life, and looking forward to planned adventures the symptoms begin to fade.

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            3. Have a Routine

            When you have a routine, you always can look forward to something. When you have a plan in mind, you will get ready, and your hopes go up with high expectations. This will lead you to forgo your depression, get active, and hopefully begin to forget about what is bothering you.

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              4. Don’t Be Afraid To Reach Out For Help

              There is someone out there who can and will help. You could go talk with a psychiatrist, friend, or relative. If you feel yourself slipping into serious depression, then make sure you go see a doctor or professional if need be.

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              There is no shame in admitting that you are in a downfall. The brave come out and say they are having a hard time dealing with these struggles by seeking help, because they want to make the most out of the life they have been given. Make sure you seek help when you can. There is nothing wrong whatsoever with seeking help. Doctors, friends, and relatives are there for a reason. They are there for celebration in each of our lives. They’re here for us when we need major help.

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                Depression is also one of those major times when you must rely on family and friends. So, go out and seek help if you need it. You are brave in doing so. Who doesn’t want to show courage when times are not on our side! Just take that one step towards your freedom and happiness. You will feel much better in the end. I can guarantee that from my personal experience as I have gone through hell and back.

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                  How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

                  How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

                  We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

                  We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

                  So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

                  Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

                  What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

                  Boundaries are limits

                  —they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

                  Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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                  Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

                  Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

                  Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

                  How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

                  Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

                  1. Self-Awareness Comes First

                  Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

                  You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

                  To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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                  You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

                  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
                  • When do you feel disrespected?
                  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
                  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
                  • When do you want to be alone?
                  • How much space do you need?

                  You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

                  2. Clear Communication Is Essential

                  Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

                  Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

                  3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

                  Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

                  That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

                  Sample language:

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                  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
                  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
                  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
                  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
                  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
                  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
                  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

                  Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

                  4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

                  Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

                  Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

                  Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

                  We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

                  It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

                  It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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                  Final Thoughts

                  Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

                  Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

                  Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

                  The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

                  Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

                  Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

                  They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

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