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10 Signs that You Know a Narcissist

10 Signs that You Know a Narcissist

Narcissists are considered to be people who have an exaggerated view of themselves. They are in love with their idealized self-image. However, whatever external persona they try to maintain are only used to hide their inferiority and inadequacies. This ugly air that is buried within them is someone they will always fail to admit, but you can identify them. Understanding that because of their egos and trying to protect their inferiority this spurs them to pursue success and rank in the society.

1. They like to use obscene language

Narcissists believe they are better than every other person thus when triggered can be argumentative and curse frequently. Consumed with their ego they are sure to use strong hate words and sometimes sexually explicit language.

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2. They present a false image

Narcissists try to impress others with their external looks. They have a superiority complex and this they could use in intimidating others whether physically, socially, financially, professionally, culturally, academically and religiously. Whatever characteristics a narcissist exude are all exaggerated and can be very “in your face”.

3. They can be charming

Narcissists can be persuasive and charming in a bid to get something from you. Most times they are always after their own gratification when they choose to show intense interest in you. And if such interest is lost, perhaps because they have become bored of the chase or because they have gotten what they want. Don’t be deceived by such engaging and sociable acknowledgements from a narcissist.

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4. They are rule breakers

Narcissists are comfortable with breaking the rules and violating social norms. They could twist arms, steal office supplies, disobey traffic laws and break multiple appointments to please their egos. One of the most startling things about a narcissist is when they adamantly deny breaking a rule you witnesses them disobey.

5. They like to boss others around

Narcissists enjoy being in the pole position. Leadership positions offer them the opportunity to revel in the splendor of bossing others around and dominating them. Doing this fulfills their need for constant validation and reinforcement of who they are.

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6. They like to be in charge of conversations

Through body movements and speaking loudly, they try to take over conversations. Narcissists prefer conversations are centered on them. They wouldn’t mind looking down, showing disinterest or talking down to someone who tries to speak over them. They show no genuine interest in you.

7. They show no remorse for their misconducts

They are not sorry for any disregard of other people’s thoughts or emotions. When they hurt a sore spot, they show no consideration or sensitivity for how negative their actions could be. For example, they could borrow money from someone and will not return it or break an obligation repeatedly. Rather than take responsibility for these they blame the other person involved.

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8. They believe the world revolves around them

They think they are either heroes or heroines and the world should always acknowledge them. They exaggerate how important they are as they feel the world was created for them and that they are special. Thus, they expect preferential treatment and that their needs should always be catered for. This is obvious in both personal and professional situations.

9. They are extremely sensitive to criticism

They don’t like to criticized or be reminded of their failures. When criticism is directed at them, negative emotions are stirred as they respond with a heated argument or a cold detachment. They would always prefer that you are inferior to them. They don’t want their ego to be bruised.

10. They are manipulative

They want to make decisions for others to suit their own needs. Their tool to achieve this could be an employee, friend, colleague or even a romantic partner. Such persons could be a channel or tool to fulfilling their own unrealized dreams and to hide their inadequacies or inferiority. A person may not know they are being manipulated by a narcissist until the damage is done.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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