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4 Ways Regular People Can Remove Self-Limiting Beliefs

4 Ways Regular People Can Remove Self-Limiting Beliefs

As you grew up, you were probably presented with difficult situations you were too young to fully understand. This most likely may have caused you to develop limiting beliefs in many different areas within your life.

Whether it be around money, gender stereotypes, or yourself, these dis-empowering beliefs are most likely still lingering in the back of your mind holding you back from accomplishing what you truly desire. We all have limiting beliefs, and it’s these beliefs that hold us back from following our dreams.

I believe that if you implement these 4 ideas into your life, you’ll start removing your self-limiting beliefs today and create a more empowering lifestyle for yourself!

1. Identify Your Limiting Belief

To make things simple, a limiting belief is an assumption about reality that isn’t true. It’s true to you because you believe it to be true, but this assumption of what is true is holding you back from growing as a person. The key here to identifying your limiting beliefs is to first get clear on what your beliefs are.

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This means take a pen and a piece of paper and write down everything that you believe to be true in your reality. Here’s an example:

  1. I believe God is the creator of everything.
  2. I believe I create my own reality.
  3. I believe there is an abundance of money for all.

Whatever it is that you believe, write it down. The next step is to observe. Observe the beliefs you just wrote down. When speaking about what you believe to be true to yourself or another person, observe what you say. Usually our limiting beliefs will reveal themselves through the words that we speak and feelings we feel.

If you’re talking about your beliefs with a friend and you both get into a dispute about what each of you believe, observe your point of view and take note of theirs.Then seek for the truth.

Be open to new information and try to search for an answer around this topic. Your goal here is to find and embody a more holistic, empowering and universal belief to replace the old one.

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2. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

Do you tend to put other people above yourself and believe that you can’t accomplish what they can? When we compare ourselves to others in this way, it tends to kill our confidence and makes us feel inferior. Do you have some type of skill that you feel confident about? When watching someone who is more skilled than you, do you start comparing yourself to them?

Maybe you start focusing on how much better they are and start thinking that you’re not good enough. This leads you into doubting yourself and even your dreams. This type of thinking is natural, but it doesn’t help. There is no reason to downplay your potential because someone else is currently better.

There will always be someone with more expertise and more experience than you. This doesn’t have to mean anything about you though, unless you make it about you. You are a unique person with unique traits and skills, and other people with more success than you in various areas don’t dictate the success you can create for yourself!

Don’t allow yourself to compare yourself with another person. If you do this in a self-criticizing way, this does nothing but hold you back from your full potential.

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3. Stop Letting The Past Define Your Future

Do you tend to relive past mistakes and failures? Everyone has made mistakes in their life, but not everyone interprets mistakes in the same way. Mistakes and failures from your past don’t have to define what is possible for your future. But this is exactly how many people view their past.

They let the past define who they are and end up limiting the possibilities for their future. The past doesn’t have to define or limit you. Your future is created in this present moment of time. Realize the mistakes you have made, let the past go, move on and create a future for yourself where that mistake has liberated you!

“What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

4. Take Action And Test Your Assumptions

Nothing will shatter your limiting beliefs like pushing your boundaries and living on the edge.

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Your dis-empowering beliefs tend to bring up fear, anxiety, and overall resistance in your life. When we feel resistance, we interpret this as a sign that we aren’t doing something right, or that we can’t do something. We hit a roadblock and stop doing what we know needs to be done.

Instead of letting the feeling of resistance keep you stuck, get in motion and do what you know works. This is where developing empowering beliefs comes in handy. Your new empowering beliefs will keep you motivated and determined to accomplish your end goals! Don’t assume you can’t do something because you feel fearful and nervous. These feelings simply mean you are venturing out your comfort zone and enhancing your personal growth.

Removing limiting beliefs is only hard if you make it. Follow what I’ve outlined today, open yourself up to developing new and more empowering beliefs and nothing will be able to stop your from becoming your greatest self!

Do you think you have a belief that is holding you back or have you overcome any limiting beliefs? Let me know in the comments below!

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Last Updated on July 13, 2020

9 Simple Ways to Always Stay Positive

9 Simple Ways to Always Stay Positive

It’s common to be struck with a bout of pessimism, or to naturally be more towards the pessimistic end of the perspective spectrum. It’s hard to see the positives in life and become an optimist when you’re lost in the murky waters of negative thinking.

However, Henrik Edberg, the founder of The Positivity Blog is here to share nine ways we can create a more optimistic outlook and positive perspective:

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” — Maria Robinson

When I was younger — in my teens and early 20s — I was trapped. Not physically, but mentally: by the destructive thought pattern called pessimism. This negative thinking poisoned what might have been a pretty good and opportunity-filled childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood. This pessimism created ceilings and walls where there really were none.

Throughout the period when I was ridden by pessimism, my life and I mostly stood still. Looking back, it was a terrible waste. If you are in pessimistic place, you don’t have to stay there for the rest of your life. I didn’t, for I learned to replace my negative thinking with optimism.

In this article I’ll explore nine positivity habits that have helped me to go from someone who was pessimistic most of the time to someone who is now optimistic almost all the time. I recommend to not try to add all the habits at one go but to choose one habit and to practice it for 30 days so it becomes a habit, before adding the next.

1. Ask Yourself the Right Questions

This is the simplest but perhaps also the most important habit I have discovered in adopting an optimistic mindset. The questions we ask ourselves day in and day out when we wind up in negative, difficult or uncertain situations make all the difference in our life.

A pessimist might ask him/herself questions like:

  • “Why did this happen to me?”
  • “Why do bad things happen to me all the time?”

But an optimist asks him/herself the questions that open up the mind to new viewpoints and possibilities. A few of my favorite questions for finding the optimistic perspective are:

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  • “What is one good thing about this situation?”
  • “What can I learn from this situation?”
  • “What is one small step I can take today to start solving this situation?”

2. Create a Positive Environment to Live In

The people you spend your time with and the information you let influence your mind will have a huge effect on your attitude and how you think about things.

Watch this YouTube video and learn the power of a positive environment:

So choose to:

  • Spend more time with the people who lift you up. And less time – or no time – with people who just bring you down by being negative and critical. Read: You are the Average of the 5 People You Spend the Most Time With
  • Let in the information that supports you. Spend less time on negative and self-esteem damaging media sources and spend more time reading positive and constructive blogs and books, watching motivating movies, listening to inspirational songs, and listening to audio books and podcasts created by optimistic people. Check out 12 Inspirational Movies With Important Life Lessons To Learn and 25 Most Inspirational Songs of All Time.

3. Be Grateful for What You Have (Don’t Forget About Yourself Too)

A very simple and quick way to boost the positive energy in your life is to tap into gratitude.

I usually do it by asking one or more of these questions:

  1. What can I be grateful for in my life today?
  2. Who are 3 people that I can be grateful to have in my life and why?
  3. What are 3 things I can be grateful for about myself?

Just spend 60 seconds or a few minutes during your day with answering one of these questions to reap the wonderful benefits.

4. Don’t Forget About Your Physical Self

Being an optimist isn’t just about thinking in a different way. It is also about caring for the physical part of ourselves.

I have found that working out a couple of times a week, enough quality sleep each night and eating healthy food has a huge effect on my mindset.

If I mismanage those very basic things then negative thoughts pop up far more often and I become more pessimistic and shut down about the possibilities in my life.

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So don’t neglect these basic fundamentals. Just caring for your physical self the right way can minimize a whole bunch of problems in life.

5. Start Your Day in an Optimistic Way

The way you start your morning can set the tone for the rest of your day. For example, a stress-free morning often leads to less stress during the rest of the day.

So how can you set an optimistic tone for your day?

A three-step combination that has worked very well for me is to ask myself a gratitude question during breakfast, read some positive information online or in a book very early in the morning and then follow that up with exercising.

This sets my mind on the right path and fills me up with energy for my day.

6. Focus on Solutions

A sure way to feel more negative about a situation is to sit around and do nothing about it. Instead, use the questions I shared in step one and open up your mind to the possibilities of the situation you are in.

If you have trouble to get started with taking action, ask yourself:

What is one small step I can take today to get the ball rolling?

Then take that small step forward. However small this step is, it can have a big effect in your mood and thoughts. If the step feels too big or it just makes you procrastinate, then ask yourself:

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What is an even smaller step I can take to move forward today?

The most important thing is to move forward, even if it’s a tiny baby step.

7. Reduce Your Worries

The worrying habit is a powerful and destructive one and can take over anyone’s thinking. It used to be one of my biggest obstacles to optimism and to moving forward in life.

Two effective steps that have helped me and still help me to this day to minimize the worries are:

  1. Ask yourself: how many of my worries ever happened in reality? If you are like me you will find that the answer is: very few. Most of the things you fear throughout your life will never happen. They are just nightmares or monsters in your own mind. This question can help you to do a reality check, to calm down and to realize that you have most likely just been building another imaginary nightmare.
  2. Focus on solutions and the action you can take. The worries grow stronger in a foggy mind and an inactive body. So use the questions in Steps 1 and 6 to move out of your worries and into resolution.

8. Don’t Let Ideals Ruin Things

A common mistake people make when making a shift in their attitudes is that they think that they have be perfect and do things perfectly all the time. This traps them from being positive.

Changing to a positive attitude can be gradual. While you may slip and stumble, continuing this way over time will strengthen your positive viewpoint more and more.

But if you set an inhuman standard for yourself and think you have to go from being a pessimist to always being an optimist, then you may find it hard to live up to that. And so you may feel like a failure. You get angry with yourself. And you may even give up on changing this habit and fall back into negative thinking.

So instead, focus on gradual change. If you are optimistic 40% of the time right now, try to improve this to being optimistic 60% of the time. Then, increase that to 80% when you are used to the new standard, then subsequently 100% if you can.

This focus on gradual improvement is far more sustainable and likely to bring long-term success than trying to reach an inhuman standard grounded in perfection.

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9. Finally, a Reminder to Help You to Not Give Up

I would like to end this article with a simple but powerful and timeless thought that comforted and encouraged me to continue on when things looked bleak.

That thought is: It is always darkest before the dawn.

This thought has helped me to hold on and keep going when my social skills and dating life was just plain bad. It has helped me to continue on in my online business when things looked like they would never pick up. It has helped me to put one foot over another even when things looked dark.

I have found this thought to be very true. Why? Because when things seemed to be at the lowest for my blog, business, dating life or life in general, something positive would always happened. That’s probably because being at a low point forced me to change how I did things.

But maybe also because life has a way of evening itself out when I go on. By taking action rather than give up, something good will always happens.

Seeing this thought live itself out has strengthened my belief in staying optimistic, in taking action and to keep going even when going through rough patches.

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