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Being socialable is a very easy thing to do, and it shouldn’t be something you’re either good at or not. You can learn to become a more social person – if you want to.

Generally extroverts will have less trouble getting out and talking to new people, but that’s to be expected. Don’t think, however, that outgoing people don’t make mistakes either. There are ways to make life easier while you’re out and about.

To Do:

Initiate conversation – A lot of people, while out, wait for other people to talk to them. Becoming the person that initiates conversation and breaks the ice is, as they say, half the battle. When you feel more comfortable doing this, you’ll find yourself meeting more and more interesting people and gaining fruitful friendships.

It can be somewhat daunting at first because of fear of rejection or being shut down. This will almost never happen. At worst you’ll receive a closed yet polite response. Just remember, people are out to be social. You have small groups of people who are sticking to themselves, but that doesn’t mean they don’t want to meet new people.

Smile - If you look like you’re unhappy you’ll be less approachable. This is an easy step to appearing open and social. When you initiate conversation, your smile should be mirrored and rapport will build from there.

Enjoy your company – When you look like you’re having fun you are instantly more likable. People want to know fun people, someone who enjoys company. While out with friends, have a good time. It may seem obvious, but many groups of people head out and do nothing but scan the room.

If you’re enjoying yourself, people will notice and want in on the action.

Acknowledge randoms – This can be as simple as a smile and a nod. When you make eye contact with a stranger, acknowledge it. If your smile is reciprocated, this will be an easy introduction. Later, initiate the conversation.

One of my favorite things to do while out is make friends with random people. How else do you make new friends? You’ll find the most fun and personally suitable people come from these random encounters.

Dress the part - I don’t find this the most important step, but it does make life a lot easier when you look like you belong somewhere. Now, I don’t mean losing any individuality. I mean don’t go out of your way to look unapproachable.

If you just came from work, for instance, loosen up. Unless it’s an after-work crowd you’ll find yourself out of place and more likely not to be approached. Personally, I don’t adhere to this rule very much, but it will make yourself that much approachable.

Then again, individuality goes a long way. Be yourself.

Listen - People enjoy talking about themselves. The worst, however, is when someone only waits for you to stop talking so they can begin again. Take a genuine interest in people. People are very interesting, so actively engage in a conversation. There is a lot to talk about in this world, small talk isn’t all that necessary – particularly because it can be painfully boring.

Converse, don’t rant - The best way to get good responses out of people is to ask good questions. Avoid ‘what do you do’ and ‘nice weather’ etc. Talk about something that interests you. People love explaining things they know, so when you don’t know what someone is talking about, ask them. Don’t pretend like you know, they will be more than happy to teach you.

Keep eye contact – Don’t scan the room while talking to someone. It is a clear indication you’re not interested in the conversation. If you really have no interest in what someone is saying, change the topic. Or excuse yourself. There’s a million reasons to end the encounter; not every conversation has to be meaningful.

Being able to look someone in the eyes is directly related to some recognizing honesty [see Fundamentals Of Eye Contact]

Keep open body language – Whether alone or not, avoid closing yourself off by crossing your arms etc. Remain open, remain active [see Closed Body Language]. People will generally not approach wallflowers. And in any case, what fun is there to be had just standing around?

Do stuff – It’s hard to talk about your day when you haven’t done anything. Don’t think that you don’t need to do any work in a conversation. Try to engage the other person and be interesting. Call on another time you were at this particular venue. Did you read something interesting today? Mention it and ask opinions. Everyone’s got them.

The Don’ts:

Sit on your phone – If in conversation, or in good company, I generally ignore my phone. Unless it is to arrange meetings etc, I’ll let it go and return the call when appropriate. There is something very rude about being in the middle of a discussion and being shut off by a phone call. You’re left in the lurch, sipping your drink with no one around.

If I can see that the call will be longer than 30 seconds, I’ll usually get up and go for a wander. It’s not to be rude. I’ll excuse myself and join someone else, maybe make a call myself.

Ignore randoms - As previously stated, meeting random people is excellent fun. You don’t need to launch into a discussion right away, or even really care about the person at all. But being polite and open to interaction will go a long way.

First of all, you might make a new friend. You might score a few free drinks or have a hilarious interaction. Secondly, if you are open to anyone approaching you, low and behold, you will look more approachable and find more people initiating conversation with you. You’re making life easier!

Dwell on smalltalk – I’m quite adverse to smalltalk. You really don’t need to ask the standard ‘interview’ questions. “What do you do?” etc. A lot of people have fairly uninteresting jobs and know that. People are out to forget their work lives, so why bring it up?

Granted, it’s an easy way to get a general picture of someone, but do you need it? Wouldn’t it be better to ask more pertinent questions like, “How is your night going?” or “Have you seen this DJ before?” Ask what someone is drinking or where they bought their shoes.

Smalltalk indicates almost no general interest until you come up with something out of the ordinary – like “I write blogs for a living”. Likewise, if you’re a student, don’t talk about school [If you must see How To Make Small Talk].

Get blind - If you’re out to be social, becoming a drunken zombie will do you no good. I’m not going to say it never happens to me, but if you want a fruitful evening, stay at least somewhat conscious. It’s easier to talk that way.

Criticize - It’s OK to give your critique of the music or selection of beers, but don’t let it get you down. No one has any fun with someone that’s continually upset about little things. You might be at a dive, but still enjoy yourself. You generally have the best times in the worst places possible.

Judge people - You’re making it very hard for yourself when you are continually judging people before talking to them. Almost no-one’s personality matches their look. Just because someone isn’t enjoying their company – as mentioned above – doesn’t mean they want to be shut out.

Go out of your way to approach wallflowers and people who aren’t smiling. You may not get a great, or even polite, response but don’t let that deter you. Some people don’t realize they are putting out particular signals [with body language etc] and you’ll be pleasantly surprised when they suddenly brighten up by your witty comments.

Most important:

Don’t feel like you have to do anything. You’re out for your own reasons and want to do your own thing. Different things work for different people. For instance, you might never feel comfortable approaching strangers. Find your own groove and be yourself.

Next week we’ll talk about How To Initiate Conversation in more detail.

Anything you don’t agree with?

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  • Jose Lozano

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  • Chris Hota

    Under the Smile section, “Report” should be “rapport.”

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  • FreakingOut

    Oh God, oh God. I can’t do this. I can’t! I want to be more social but that list is so complicated. And it’s confusing. Geezuz, I don’t think I can do it.

  • Tom Ritchford

    I really enjoyed your article! (Another spelling quibble — you mean “averse” not “adverse”).

    All of your ideas are good and you have all the important ones. Good on you!

    Here are some other suggestions…

    1. find out someone’s greatest interest.

    Everyone has at least one thing they are really interested in — and that’s the thing that makes *them* the most interesting. Find out what it is. You can just ask, it’s not a rude question.

    Even if it appears to be something dull, ask about it — you’ll be amazed at the little details that appear that you’d never have noticed. I still remember someone at a party talking about his skydiving experience as though it’d happened to me (I egged him on and asked him for more details).

    And this has the advantage that they’ll also love you afterwards — you always like people who are interested in the things you’re interested in.

    2. Be brave and honest.

    Launch into conversations with people. Admit you don’t know things. Hang out with people who are different from you, who frighten you or gross you out or you feel better than or worse than, and try to treat them as an equal whose words are worth exactly as much as yours.

    3. Watch people.

    Most people are too polite to tell you if you’re doing something they don’t like — but their body language will tell you.

    Good signs are if someone uncrosses their arms or legs, tilts their head to one side, looks at your mouth when you speak. Bad signs are if they turn your head away as you speak (you’re talking too loud or you have bad breath, happens to everyone — turn down, or turn your face so that you don’t breathe right at them) or cross their arms (you’ve pissed them off).

    Of course, these signs are approximate — you have to look at a cluster of symbols to fully interpret (i.e. people will cross their arms when they’re cold). And you already knew these — but perhaps you didn’t know them verbally which meant you weren’t really able to reason about them.

    You can make big mileage in the telepathy district by just watching people. And if you don’t know why they are doing something, ask them gently why (perhaps joking to soften it). “I’m sorry, did I do something to make you angry? (I know I can be annoying.)”

    If you cultivate a knowledge of body language, you’ll never be bored at the party — you’ll be able to see what’s really happening in each conversation without hearing a word. And you’ll love your fellow man more, too.

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  • Tom Ritchford

    [apologies if this is a dupe, it didn't appear to get posted...]

    I really enjoyed your article! (Another spelling quibble — you mean “averse” not “adverse”).

    All of your ideas are good and you have all the important ones. Good on you!

    Here are some other suggestions…

    1. find out someone’s greatest interest.

    Everyone has at least one thing they are really interested in — and that’s the thing that makes *them* the most interesting. Find out what it is. You can just ask, it’s not a rude question.

    Even if it appears to be something dull, ask about it — you’ll be amazed at the little details that appear that you’d never have noticed. I still remember someone at a party talking about his skydiving experience as though it’d happened to me (I egged him on and asked him for more details).

    And this has the advantage that they’ll also love you afterwards — you always like people who are interested in the things you’re interested in.

    2. Be brave and honest.

    Launch into conversations with people. Admit you don’t know things. Hang out with people who are different from you, who frighten you or gross you out or you feel better than or worse than, and try to treat them as an equal whose words are worth exactly as much as yours.

    3. Watch people.

    Most people are too polite to tell you if you’re doing something they don’t like — but their body language will tell you.

    Good signs are if someone uncrosses their arms or legs, tilts their head to one side, looks at your mouth when you speak. Bad signs are if they turn your head away as you speak (you’re talking too loud or you have bad breath, happens to everyone — turn down, or turn your face so that you don’t breathe right at them) or cross their arms (you’ve pissed them off).

    Of course, these signs are approximate — you have to look at a cluster of symbols to fully interpret (i.e. people will cross their arms when they’re cold). And you already knew these — but perhaps you didn’t know them verbally which meant you weren’t really able to reason about them.

    You can make big mileage in the telepathy district by just watching people. And if you don’t know why they are doing something, ask them gently why (perhaps joking to soften it). “I’m sorry, did I do something to make you angry? (I know I can be annoying.)”

    If you cultivate a knowledge of body language, you’ll never be bored at the party — you’ll be able to see what’s really happening in each conversation without hearing a word. And you’ll love your fellow man more, too.

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  • Ian

    You forgot one of the most important things to effective socializing:

    Remember the names of the people you meet and say their name when you talk to them.

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    Great article, and I’ve discovered your site which I had never even heard of.

    Another thing (and you touched on it briefly in your article) is something that falls under the body language bit, and is something that I must get out of the habit of doing, avoid standing with your hands in your pockets. It makes it awkward when you meet people because they don’t know whether they should extend there hand to shake yours or whether they should just give a friendly wave and just creates this awkwardness between you.

    Thanks again for the great article

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    Rules for socializing! everything need not be planned. People should be themselves, that is what make them interesting. Everything should not be guided by rules.

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    And as has been pointed out before: “Rejection is a part of life. Its a numbers game and its not about how many times you have been turned down but about how many times you haven’t that count.” But unless you don’t risk trying, and it is a risk for some, you won’t reap the reward of finding new friends or people to talk to. Get out there and just do it.

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    Nice article however not everyone wants to be approachable. As in introvert, I intentionally never smile just so people will leave me alone. I have no desire to meet anyone new and generally take offense to strangers talking to me.

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    One thing I learned having been in a fraternity is the importance of remembering names. It takes practice. Using tool such as matching something with someone’s name helps. For example we had two girls at a party named Katy. One was very tall and became known as ‘tall katy’. Tricks like that are invaluable. Remembering someones name can be beneficial in so many ways I don’t even know where to begin. Not to mention people respect a person who remember names. I have a hyphenated last name that is quite complicated. Anytime someone gets it right let alone even remembering it is very impressive to me. I also tend to be impressed if not amazed by people that seem to remember everyones names.
    Having harped on names I must say this list is excellent. I have it book marked and plan to read and share.

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  • john

    One question: when starting to talk with strangers, initially, there might be some level of “coldness”, when both sides do not know what to say. in such cases, what one says might seem to be “forced” to break the ice.

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    Many people confuse introversion with being anti-social, inhibited, anxious, or as a lack of social skills.  The fact is, many introverts are simply people who find that crowds or lengthy social activities drain their batteries.  Extroverts, on the other hand, find the same activities quite energizing. 

    I find that many introverts, including myself, tend to be reflective thinkers who like to have time to process what others say or do.  I also think that many of us take in too much of our environment which contributes to the “tiredness” in social situations.  Rather than being able to focus on one person and one conversation a time, introverts tend to be overly aware of the noise and movement going on all around them. 

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