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This Is Why Finding The Right Spouse Is The Key To Your Career Success

This Is Why Finding The Right Spouse Is The Key To Your Career Success

Many have stated that having a relationship can have a detrimental effect on your career success, however with the right spouse, this can change everything. When your relationship is secure and your partner loves you, they can become a very good assistant to your achieving your goals and dreams. It’s important to recognise that your partner is supporting you because if they aren’t then they could be holding you back from success.

1. They don’t stand in your way

When you’ve got someone in your life who wants you to be the best you can be, they won’t try and get in the way of that. If you have to work overtime for a few weeks to ensure you get that promotion, they won’t complain that you come home late every night because they support your choices. Tip: Make sure that you thank your partner for supporting you and plan to do something special when all the hard work has come to an end.

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2. They are excited about your job

Sometimes it can be annoying when none of your loved ones are interested in your job. When you have someone who is enthusiastic about sharing your work, it not only makes you feel more secure that you’ve made the right career choices but sharing can spark off new ideas that you wouldn’t have thought of without talking about it. Tip: Ensure that you are equally as enthusiastic about either your partner’s job or a hobby that they are keen on. This will ensure that your partner doesn’t feel neglected.

3. They aren’t intimidated by your success

A lot of men can be intimidated by dating a woman who is more successful than them. Women can also feel inferior and dependant if their partner is making more money than them. If your partner truly supports you, they won’t make you feel guilty about climbing the career ladder. They want you to be happy because it makes them happy. Tip: Don’t make your partner feel insecure by belittling their career or comparing their salary to yours.

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4. They make you feel secure

Without stress from your relationship to deal with your mind is free to focus on the work at hand. If you’re constantly worried if your relationship is at risk, then no doubt it will be at the back of your mind when you really want to be 100% focused at work. Tip: Take a break from your work to focus on your partner to make them feel equally as secure and loved.

5. They know how to pick their fights

Yes, we all know how annoying it can be when your partner doesn’t clean up after themselves or changes the toilet roll but there is a time for that. When you’re with the right person they can sense when you’re stressed from work and know that if they nag or moan that it’s only going to make you more stressed. That’s why they won’t pick up on things when you are ‘work busy’. They don’t want to be the reason for your failure. Tip: Try to realise when you’re being a pain in the backside and don’t take your lover for granted by using work as an excuse for not giving them any attention or doing no chores.

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6. They are positive without being unrealistic

There is a distinct difference between being positive about your goals and setting you up for disappointment. Someone who wants you to succeed knows when to encourage your crazy ideas and when not to. Of course it’s important that we encourage our loved ones even when the odds are against them but if they are the number 1 cheerleader for your quest to become an astronaut when you have a degree in journalism, it shows a lack of respect and understanding. Tip: Don’t take offence when your other half doesn’t get as excited as you are. They’re only looking out for you and have your best interest at heart.

7. They know how to help you relax

All work and no play was never good for anyone. When your spouse can sense that you’re hitting a dead end, they know how to take your mind off your work. Whether this is a day out, a quite night in, or some good old love making. This is a good thing because sometimes we need a break from our work in order to succeed. With the right person you can strike the perfect balance between work and leisure time without sacrificing anything. Tip: Be proactive and suggest something to do. Don’t rely on your spouse to always come up with ideas. 

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Last Updated on November 19, 2019

Work Smarter, Not Harder: 12 Ways to Work Smart

Work Smarter, Not Harder: 12 Ways to Work Smart

I imagine that like me, you say that you never have enough time and that you just cannot cope with 60 dozen things all at once.

How on earth do you get out of that spiral?

Many people never sit down and look at how to work smarter, rather than harder and even longer hours. But not you, you’re smart enough to try to learn effective ways to work.

So how to work smarter not harder? Here are 12 smart ways you should be following:

1. Improve Your Time Management Skills

Easier said than done? Well, no actually, because there are a few simple rules that can really help you to manage time better.

For example, when setting up a top priority task, you need to switch off the phone and ignore your email first. Then you need to abandon any ideas of multitasking as that will slow you down and ruin your focus.

Finally, set a reasonable deadline and do everything in your power to meet it.

“When you’re born, you’re born with 30,000 days. That’s it. The best strategic planning I can give to you is to think about that.” — Sir Ray Avery

2. Speed up Your Typing and Use Shortcuts

These days we’re all keyboard slaves. So why not speed up your typing and try to get rid of the two finger syndrome. In fact, when you save 21 days per year just by typing fast!

This is exactly what I am doing now, so I cannot honestly say I am practicing what I preach!

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But help is at hand. Try some of these apps and games to help you type fast: 8 Most Effective Games and Apps to Learn to Type Fast

Using shortcuts on the keyboard is another time saver and can speed up your work.

For example, press F2 to rename a selected file, while CTRL + I will put selected text in italics.

There are so many of these. If you make the effort to learn them, they really can be helpful.

3. Learn How to Use Productivity Tools

It is well worth downloading all the useful tools and apps that can highly boost your productivity. Take a look at these 18 Best Time Management Apps and Tools and install whatever fits your needs.

Now that is really a great way of working smarter, not harder.

4. Use Your Phone Wisely

Instead of writing emails, sometimes it’s better to pick up the phone and talk to the person responsible. It saves time, especially for important or urgent discussions.

If that colleague works in the same office, it is even better to go and talk to him or her. It gives you a break, you get some exercise and you actually make human contact which is becoming quite rare in this electronic world.

5. Keep a Tab on Your Tabs

If you are like me, you might well find that you have a ton of tabs open at the top of your browser.

In order to find the one you want, you have to search for them as they are off screen. Having all these tabs open slows down your browser too.

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One solution is to use OneTab which can keep a neat list on the screen of all these tabs when you want to quickly get to one of them or you want to remind yourself which ones you have open.

6. Use a “To Don’t” List

We all know about to do lists and I find that they are generally great. They give me a great sense of achievement as I cross off the tasks done.

But often, I find that we are doing non-essential tasks or ones that can easily be postponed. That is why many people recommend the to don’t list.[1]

Some people prefer to savagely prune the to do list while others prefer to have two separate lists, to do and to don’t. You just have to work out what works best for you when you are trying to save precious time to become more productive.

7. Expect Failure and Fight Paranoia

When failure rears its ugly head, some people get a bit paranoid and fear that this may become a trend.

Projects will go wrong and failure should be expected rather than feared. Learning lessons from failure and analyzing what went wrong is the best way forward.

“Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again.” — Richard Branson

And here you can find 10 Great Lessons Highly Successful People Have Learned From Failure.

8. Be Concise

Rambling on at meetings, in emails and even when introducing yourself to new clients can waste a lot of people’s time.

One way is to practice and sharpen your “elevator speech,”[2] which tells people in 30 seconds or less why they need your skills and how they can benefit from doing business with you.

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Just think of the many situations where this could be useful:

  • Making new contacts
  • Talking about yourself at a job interview
  • Meeting people at conferences or parties
  • Phone calls to new clients

9. Ask the Right Questions

“You can tell whether a man is clever by his answers. You can tell whether a man is wise by his questions.” — Naguib Mahfouz

How do you get feedback? The secret is to ask the right questions at the right time.

When you do this, you are gathering the information you need to help in decision making. This will save you time and you will be able to cut meetings to a minimum.

Forbes magazine reports on research that they carried out on asking the right questions.[3] When that happens, the positive effects are increased by 400%. There are also other benefits in staff motivation and a positive impact on the company’s bottom line.

Lifehack’s CEO Leon has shared about how to ask for feedback to learn faster: How to Learn Quickly And Master Any Skill You Want

10. Learn as Much as You Can

You should always be on a steep learning curve. Look at your skills profile and determine where you need to fill a gap. Talk to important connections and network in your niche.

Keep up to date on trends and developments. It is a fact-changing world. When an opportunity arises, you will be the best equipped to seize it because you have never stopped learning. Just another way of working smarter.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” — Mahatma Gandhi

11. Look After Your Greatest Resource

No, your greatest resource is not time. It is YOU.

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If you do not get enough sleep, exercise and relaxation, you find that you become less and less productive. You begin to work longer and longer hours, which is the exact opposite of what you want.

What you should be doing is making sure you are in the best shape. It is useful to remember that you need a break of 15 minutes after every one and a half hours of work.[4]

Taking breaks and getting fresh air and exercise is one of the best ways of working smarter, not harder.

12. Don’t Fall into the Trap of Working Smarter and Harder

As a society, we are obsessed with doing everything smarter so we are more efficient and we save time all around.[5]

But the most important thing to remember is to accept when we are ready to switch off that computer and not fill up the time with even more work!

The Bottom Line

The key to greater productivity is to work smarter, not harder. Working smarter saves precious time and energy for the things that really matter — your life goals, your personal growth, your health and your relationships.

Stop working for more hours and start working smarter!

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