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9 Things You Can Do To Get Your Soul Back From Your Awful Job

9 Things You Can Do To Get Your Soul Back From Your Awful Job

I’m guessing that many readers of this article didn’t plan to end up in the job or career that they are currently in. And maybe, since you chose to read this article, you’re one of them. Perhaps you just ‘fell’ into your job. Or maybe you had no plan, didn’t know your passion when you were younger, or lacked vision. But I’m here to tell you not to worry – it’s never too late. You don’t have to have your job suck the life out of you. Tomorrow is a new day, so focus on the positives. Embrace these nine ways to get your soul back from your awful job:

1. Acknowledge your greatness.

When we’re unhappy or feeling stuck, sometimes we can get down on ourselves. We think that there is no way out. And sometimes we even internalize the negativity. I’m here to tell you this: don’t do that! You are special, unique, and gifted. We all are. We all have something amazing to offer the world. So don’t let anyone tell you otherwise – especially yourself!

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2. Focus on other important things in your life.

Maybe you like to play tennis. Or you enjoy watching a good basketball game on TV. Or reading your favorite book. Or taking up a new hobby. Distracting yourself with other positive, important things you have going on (or could start doing), shifts your focus from bad to good.

3. Be grateful for what you do have.

When you are miserable in your job, it can become difficult to see how great your life is in other areas. It’s not uncommon for people to bring their job negativity home to their loved ones. When you do that, your bad attitude can act as a poison. It may even cause you to lash out at your family or friends. But you need to ‘leave work at work.’ When you come home, appreciate the roof over your head, the food on your table, the paycheck you get, and the people who love you. Putting more positive energy into your life through conscious appreciation will decrease the negative energy you feel when you are at work.

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4. Figure out your passion.

Do you love to cook? Maybe you could find a job in the catering business. Do you love to play guitar? Maybe you should teach guitar lessons or start a band. Do you love to read self-help books? Then you could start your own website and post positive inspiration for others. Many people think that what they love doing is naturally separate from their work life. That doesn’t have to be true. Once you figure out your passion, you can find a way to make money doing it. All it takes is a little creativity and determination.

5. Write down the essence of what you want in a job.

When I graduated college, I still had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. One day, I read in a book that I should write down the ‘essence’ of what I wanted my life’s work to look like. So I wrote down things like “flexible schedule,” “lots of vacation time,” “I teach others,” and “I have time to spend with my children.” That one simple exercise helped me focus on what was meaningful to me. And luckily, years later, I manifested exactly the kind of career that I had hoped. You can do it too!

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6. Make a plan.

If you want to get in your car and drive somewhere new, what do you do? First, you get the address of where you want to go. Then you program that address into your GPS and let it guide you to your destination. You need to do the same thing with your career. If you don’t know where you want to go and how to get there, then you will just wander aimlessly and get lost. So make a plan and stick to it.

7. Visualize

Research has proven that the subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between fantasy and reality. So if you literally close your eyes and ‘see’ yourself happy in your new career, your subconscious thinks it’s true and will start making things happen to manifest it. Feel how joyful you are when you get up in the morning because you can’t wait to get to work. Putting positive emotion into imagining your happy future will actually bring it into existence.

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8. Take action.

Don’t just sit around and complain about your job. Unfortunately, I know way too many people who do that. I always want to shake them and say, “DO something about it!” Complaining changes nothing. All it does is make a bad situation worse. Adding negativity to negativity only gives you more negativity. So get on the Internet and search for other jobs. Start applying. Or make a plan to start your own business. And when it’s time, quit your job and let the happiness begin!

9. Don’t give up hope!

Remember, nothing happens overnight. Some people may look like an overnight success, most people aren’t. It takes some people many years to achieve their career goals. But if you get frustrated and give up, then you won’t ever get there. So commit to your career change and know that it will happen.

So there you have it – my advice for taking action and deciding that you will no longer allow your awful job to suck the life out of you. Stay positive and stay on course. You will be happy you did. Good luck!

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Carol Morgan

Dr. Carol Morgan is the owner of HerSideHisSide.com, a communication professor, dating & relationship coach, TV personality, speaker, and author.

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Last Updated on October 13, 2020

How to Get Promoted When You Feel Stuck in Your Current Position

How to Get Promoted When You Feel Stuck in Your Current Position

Have you been stuck in the same position for too long and don’t really know how to get promoted and advance your career?

Feeling stuck could be caused by a variety of things:

  • Taking a job for the money
  • Staying with an employer that no longer aligns with your values
  • Realizing that you landed yourself in the wrong career
  • Not feeling valued or feeling underutilized
  • Taking a position without a full understanding of the role

There are many other reasons why you may be feeling this way, but let’s focus instead on learning what to do now in order to get unstuck and get promoted

One of the best ways to get promoted is by showing how you add value to your organization. Did you make money, save money, improve a process, or do some other amazing thing? How else might you demonstrate added value?

Let’s dive right in to how to get promoted when you feel stuck in your current position.

1. Be a Mentor

When I supervised students, I used to warm them — tongue in cheek, of course — about getting really good at their job.

“Be careful not to get too good at this, or you’ll never get to do anything else.”

This was my way of pestering them to take on additional challenges or think outside the box, but there is definitely some truth in doing something so well that your manager doesn’t trust anyone else to do it.

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This can get you stuck.

Jo Miller of Be Leaderly shares this insight on when your boss thinks you’re too valuable in your current job:

“Think back to a time when you really enjoyed your current role…You became known for doing your job so well that you built up some strong ‘personal brand’ equity, and people know you as the go-to-person for this particular job. That’s what we call ‘a good problem to have’: you did a really good job of building a positive perception about your suitability for the role, but you may have done ‘too’ good of a job!”[1]

With this in mind, how do you prove to your employer that you can add value by being promoted?

From Miller’s insight, she talks about building your personal brand and becoming known for doing a particular job well. So how can you link that work with a position or project that will earn you a promotion?

Consider leveraging your strengths and skills.

Let’s say that the project you do so well is hiring and training new entry-level employees. You have to post the job listing, read and review resumes, schedule interviews, make hiring decisions, and create the training schedules. These tasks require skills such as employee relations, onboarding, human resources software, performance management, teamwork, collaboration, customer service, and project management. That’s a serious amount of skills!

Are there any team members who can perform these skills? Try delegating and training some of your staff or colleagues to learn your job. There are a number of reasons why this is a good idea:

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  1. Cross-training helps in any situation in the event that there’s an extended illness and the main performer of a certain task is out for a while.
  2. As a mentor to a supervisee or colleague, you empower them to increase their job skills.
  3. You are already beginning to demonstrate that added value to your employer by encouraging your team or peers to learn your job and creating team players.

Now that you’ve trained others to do that work for which you have been so valued, you can see about re-requesting that promotion. Explain how you have saved the company money, encouraged employees to increase their skills, or reinvented that project of yours.

2. Work on Your Mindset

Another reason you may feel stuck in a position is explained through this quote:

“If you feel stuck at a job you used to love, it’s normally you—not the job—who needs to change. The position you got hired for is probably the exact same one you have now. But if you start to dread the work routine, you’re going to focus on the negatives.”[2]

In this situation, you should pursue a conversation with your supervisor and share your thoughts and feelings to help you learn how to get promoted. You can probably get some advice on how to rediscover the aspects of that job you enjoyed, and negotiate either some additional duties or a chance to move up.

Don’t express frustration. Express a desire for more.

Present your case and show your boss or supervisor that you want to be challenged, and you want to move up. You want more responsibility in order to continue moving the company forward. Focus on how you can do that with the skills you have and the positive mindset you’ve cultivated.

3. Improve Your Soft Skills

When was the last time you put focus and effort into upping your game with those soft skills? I’m talking about those seemingly intangible things that make you the experienced professional in your specific job skills[3].

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Use soft skills when learning how to get promoted.

    According to research, improving soft skills can boost productivity and retention 12 percent and deliver a 250 percent return on investment based on higher productivity and retention[4]. Those are only some of the benefits for both you and your employer when you want to learn how to get promoted.

    You can hone these skills and increase your chances of promotion into a leadership role by taking courses or seminars.

    Furthermore, you don’t necessarily need to request funding from your supervisor. There are dozens of online courses being presented by entrepreneurs and authors about these very subjects. Udemy and Creative Live both feature online courses at very reasonable prices. And some come with completion certificates for your portfolio!

    Another way to improve your soft skills is by connecting with an employee at your organization who has a position similar to the one you want.

    Express your desire to move up in the organization, and ask to shadow that person or see if you can sit in on some of their meetings. Offer to take that individual out for coffee and ask what their secret is! Take copious notes, and then immerse yourself in the learning.

    The key here is not to copy your new mentor. Rather, you want to observe, learn, and then adapt according to your strengths.

    4. Develop Your Strategy

    Do you even know specifically why you want to learn how to get promoted? Do you see a future at this company? Do you have a one-year, five-year, or ten-year plan for your career path? How often do you consider your “why” and insure that it aligns with your “what”?

    Sit down and make an old-fashioned pro and con list.

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    Write down every positive aspect of your current job and then every negative one. Which list is longer? Are there any themes present?

    Look at your lists and choose the most exciting pros and the most frustrating cons. Do those two pros make the cons worth it? If you can’t answer that question with a “yes,” then getting promoted at your current organization may not be what you really want[5].

    The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. —Mark Twain

    Here are some questions to ask yourself:

    • Why do you do what you do?
    • What thrills you about your current job role or career?
    • What does a great day look like?
    • What does success look and feel like beyond the paycheck?
    • How do you want to feel about your impact on the world when you retire?

    Define success to get promoted

      These questions would be great to reflect on in a journal or with your supervisor in your next one-on-one meeting. Or, bring it up with one of your work friends over coffee.

      Final Thoughts

      After considering all of these points and doing your best to learn how to get promoted, what you might find is that being stuck is your choice. Then, you can set yourself on the path of moving up where you are, or moving on to something different.

      Because sometimes the real promotion is finding your life’s purpose.

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