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9 Things You Can Do To Get Your Soul Back From Your Awful Job

9 Things You Can Do To Get Your Soul Back From Your Awful Job
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I’m guessing that many readers of this article didn’t plan to end up in the job or career that they are currently in. And maybe, since you chose to read this article, you’re one of them. Perhaps you just ‘fell’ into your job. Or maybe you had no plan, didn’t know your passion when you were younger, or lacked vision. But I’m here to tell you not to worry – it’s never too late. You don’t have to have your job suck the life out of you. Tomorrow is a new day, so focus on the positives. Embrace these nine ways to get your soul back from your awful job:

1. Acknowledge your greatness.

When we’re unhappy or feeling stuck, sometimes we can get down on ourselves. We think that there is no way out. And sometimes we even internalize the negativity. I’m here to tell you this: don’t do that! You are special, unique, and gifted. We all are. We all have something amazing to offer the world. So don’t let anyone tell you otherwise – especially yourself!

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2. Focus on other important things in your life.

Maybe you like to play tennis. Or you enjoy watching a good basketball game on TV. Or reading your favorite book. Or taking up a new hobby. Distracting yourself with other positive, important things you have going on (or could start doing), shifts your focus from bad to good.

3. Be grateful for what you do have.

When you are miserable in your job, it can become difficult to see how great your life is in other areas. It’s not uncommon for people to bring their job negativity home to their loved ones. When you do that, your bad attitude can act as a poison. It may even cause you to lash out at your family or friends. But you need to ‘leave work at work.’ When you come home, appreciate the roof over your head, the food on your table, the paycheck you get, and the people who love you. Putting more positive energy into your life through conscious appreciation will decrease the negative energy you feel when you are at work.

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4. Figure out your passion.

Do you love to cook? Maybe you could find a job in the catering business. Do you love to play guitar? Maybe you should teach guitar lessons or start a band. Do you love to read self-help books? Then you could start your own website and post positive inspiration for others. Many people think that what they love doing is naturally separate from their work life. That doesn’t have to be true. Once you figure out your passion, you can find a way to make money doing it. All it takes is a little creativity and determination.

5. Write down the essence of what you want in a job.

When I graduated college, I still had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. One day, I read in a book that I should write down the ‘essence’ of what I wanted my life’s work to look like. So I wrote down things like “flexible schedule,” “lots of vacation time,” “I teach others,” and “I have time to spend with my children.” That one simple exercise helped me focus on what was meaningful to me. And luckily, years later, I manifested exactly the kind of career that I had hoped. You can do it too!

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6. Make a plan.

If you want to get in your car and drive somewhere new, what do you do? First, you get the address of where you want to go. Then you program that address into your GPS and let it guide you to your destination. You need to do the same thing with your career. If you don’t know where you want to go and how to get there, then you will just wander aimlessly and get lost. So make a plan and stick to it.

7. Visualize

Research has proven that the subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between fantasy and reality. So if you literally close your eyes and ‘see’ yourself happy in your new career, your subconscious thinks it’s true and will start making things happen to manifest it. Feel how joyful you are when you get up in the morning because you can’t wait to get to work. Putting positive emotion into imagining your happy future will actually bring it into existence.

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8. Take action.

Don’t just sit around and complain about your job. Unfortunately, I know way too many people who do that. I always want to shake them and say, “DO something about it!” Complaining changes nothing. All it does is make a bad situation worse. Adding negativity to negativity only gives you more negativity. So get on the Internet and search for other jobs. Start applying. Or make a plan to start your own business. And when it’s time, quit your job and let the happiness begin!

9. Don’t give up hope!

Remember, nothing happens overnight. Some people may look like an overnight success, most people aren’t. It takes some people many years to achieve their career goals. But if you get frustrated and give up, then you won’t ever get there. So commit to your career change and know that it will happen.

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So there you have it – my advice for taking action and deciding that you will no longer allow your awful job to suck the life out of you. Stay positive and stay on course. You will be happy you did. Good luck!

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Carol Morgan

Dr. Carol Morgan is the owner of HerSideHisSide.com, a communication professor, dating & relationship coach, TV personality, speaker, and author.

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Published on July 27, 2021

15 Smart Video Conferencing Etiquette Tips to Follow

15 Smart Video Conferencing Etiquette Tips to Follow
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During the pandemic, video conferencing replaced in-person meetings and has now become the standard option for business meetings. Over the past 17 months, most workers have gotten past the video conferencing learning curve with Zoom or Microsoft Teams (or their platform of choice).

But just as with in-person meetings, attention can wax and wane. Some say we’re just not used to staring at ourselves so much on the screen. Instead of fixating on that, try employing smart video conferencing etiquette, or you may risk indiscretions that will flag you as a slacker.

Put the Pro in Professional

After more than a year of fine-tuning, here are the new rules of video conferencing etiquette.

1. Mute Your Mobile and Other Devices

The first video conference etiquette you need to know is muting your other devices. Just as in the pre-COVID days, someone’s obnoxious ring tone blaring Taylor Swift’s newest single in the middle of a meeting is also an annoyance if it happens during a Zoom meeting and so is the inevitable fumbling to turn off the sound. Even the apologies to the group get tiresome.

Also, when notifications are activated on the computer that you’re using for the meeting, the incoming message takes over the audio and you’ll miss out on snippets of the conversation. Be sure to eliminate this possible faux pas.

2. Dress the Part

While working from home, you may have fallen into the habit of slipping on your comfiest T-shirt each day. Hey, no judgments! But before you log on to your video conference, try to make an effort with your appearance.

Depending on your company culture and the importance of your meeting, consider dressing the part of the professional whom you wish to project. It will help you feel more self-assured, and others will likely take you more seriously.

For women, wear light make-up, put on earrings, and make sure your blouse is crisply pressed. For men, show up freshly shaved. Wearing a crisp collared shirt in a solid color will usually suffice.

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Pro Tip: Stay away from wearing white or black, unless those colors look great on you. Consider wearing light blue or brown instead.

3. Stage Your Workspace

Have you noticed the backdrops of experts interviewed on news shows? Bookshelves and photographs are carefully curated, and no busy-patterned furniture or artwork is in sight.

Take note of what appears behind you when you choose the location of your video conferences. Piles of junk mail on the table or stacks of folded laundry on the couch will convey more about your personal life than you care to share. Make sure you remove clutter from the camera’s eye, and present a tidy, orderly workspace to your colleagues, coworkers, and bosses.

4. Put Some Thought Into Lighting and Perspective

Be aware that in a video conference, your computer camera can actually make you look up to ten pounds heavier depending on where you sit. But you can easily drop those added pounds by moving back from the screen to diminish the wide-angle distortion.

Frame your head on the screen by tilting the screen up or down. Also, it’s best to not place yourself in front of a window or bright light, which makes you appear in shadow. Instead, face the light source, moving it (or yourself) until you have a flattering amount of illumination. You can also purchase some small spotlights that allow you to add light as needed.

Pro Tip: If your lights add too much redness to your skin, consider counter-balancing with a green filter.

Remember That Half of Life Is Showing Up

5. Arrive on Time

In the old days of in-person meetings, it was nearly impossible to slip in late into a meeting unnoticed. In today’s video conferences, logging in late still shows poor form. Instead, strive to arrive five minutes early and get yourself settled.

Once the meeting is underway, the host may be less attentive about late arrivals waiting to be let in. Diverting the host’s attention away from the meeting with a tardy entry request is the ultimate giveaway that you didn’t honor the schedule. If you don’t want a black mark against you, log in on time.

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6. Turn on Your Video

Few people like to see their face on the screen, but buck up and turn on your camera in video conferences. In most cases, it’s better to be a face on a screen than a name in a blank square. Your statements will be more memorable when other meeting attendees can see you.

If you need to turn off the video, either because of a poor connection, some commotion in the room, or a need for a quick break, give a short explanation via the chat feature. Then, go back on video as soon as you’re able.

Pro Tip: Keep your explanation for your departure pithy. “Sorry! Doorbell rang. Back in five” says it all. Be sure to honor what you say in chat and really do return in five minutes.

7. Plan Ahead Before Sharing Your Screen

Don’t be one of those people who makes everyone else wait as you click through folders in search of a document. That’s just poor video conferencing etiquette. If you know you’ll need to share a document or video on your screen, prepare by pulling it out of its folder and onto your desktop. Also, clean up the files and folders on your desktop to reduce clutter and facilitate easy access. Close other programs like chat, calendar notifications, and email. Disable pop-up notifications to ensure there’ll be no unforeseen distractions.

Be sure to remind the host before the meeting that you’ll need them to activate the screen-sharing function. Show courtesy once you’re finished by hitting “stop share” to return to the screen with participants.

Attend to the Pesky Details

8. Make Sure That Meetings Remain Right-Sized

With the easy accessibility of video conferencing, it can be tempting to extend the meeting invitation beyond the core group and include everyone peripherally involved in a project. But just as with in-person meetings, the more people involved, the more unwieldy the meeting becomes.

Use good judgment when asking others to sit through a video conference so that you don’t needlessly take up others’ time and so that participants can be fully engaged.

9. Remember to “Unmute” Before You Speak

Most of us are likely able to count on one hand the number of video conferences when someone didn’t have to be reminded, “You’re on mute!” Forgetting to unmute before speaking has become one of the most common missteps in video conferencing.[1]

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Show everyone your impeccable video-conferencing poise by managing your mute feature with flawless control.

10. Stay on Point to Keep the Meeting Length in Check

As with in-person meetings, an agenda with assigned time limits for discussions remains necessary to keep a meeting focused. Data shows, however, that video conferencing can actually reduce meeting time.[2] Reasons include the elimination of commuting time and the ability to screen share and annotate to keep everyone on task.

Additionally, side conversations are virtually impossible with video conferencing now that you can no longer have back-and-forth exchanges with the person beside you.

Pro Tip: If you’re running the meeting, let attendees know in advance the protocol for the chat feature. Is it okay for them to “chat among themselves” or not? (See point 11, as well.)

Talking Has a Time and a Place

11. Chat Appropriately

Just like side conversations or texting in an in-person meeting, the use of the chat feature during a video conference can be disrespectful unless it’s directed to all participants. Hence, it’s good video conferencing etiquette to mind your use of the chat.

At the start of the meeting, you may want to ask the host if it’s alright for participants to use the chat feature. This allows them to disable it if they choose. Used appropriately, it can be a helpful tool to clarify or amplify an earlier point once the conversation has moved on or to let the group know that you need to sign off early (and why).

12. Use the “Raise Hand” Feature to Avoid Interruptions

The slight lag in many video conferences can result in speaking over another person if you attempt to jump into a conversation. To avoid this awkward interruption, indicate when you have something to add to the discussion with the raise-your-hand feature that signals the host you would like to speak. This effective meeting management device makes video conferencing run more smoothly, especially with a large group, but it must be activated and monitored by the host.

Pro Tip: For meetings of six to ten people, sometimes the old-fashioned raising of your physical hand may be the best option. But it’s up to the meeting host. Ask them what they would prefer, and follow that.

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13. Don’t Record the Session or Take Photos Without Prior Permission

In this case, not sharing is caring. The “sharing culture” made popular through social media has little place in video conferencing. Before recording a meeting or capturing a screenshot of the participants, always ask for consent in advance from the full roster of attendees. Knowing that a video conference will be photographed or recorded could have a bearing on what others are willing to discuss.

Manage Yourself

14. Minimize Distractions

While de-activating audio and video features can keep distractions from affecting the other participants, you will need to manage noise and disruptions on your end to give your full attention to the meeting.

Move out of high-traffic zones in your home, keep your door closed, and ask family members to be considerate.

15. Save Snacking for Later

Save snacking for later—or earlier. Eating while on video conference is a no-no. Munching in front of the group while close to the camera—as you are when video conferencing—subjects the participants to an up-close and (too) personal view of your food consumption process.

However, it’s perfectly fine to sip quietly from a glass of water or cup of coffee or tea. If the meeting threatens to last for more than two hours, you may want to ask the host in advance to schedule a five-minute break at the halfway point.

Final Thoughts

Even though bosses are now beginning to ask workers to spend some of their workdays on-site, up to 80 percent will permit employees to work remotely at least part of the time, which means more video conferencing in your future.[3] Mastering these video conferencing etiquette tips will help you dial in—as well as dial back—your participation and demonstrate your unwavering level of engagement to the team.

Featured photo credit: Chris Montgomery via unsplash.com

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