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9 Things You Can Do To Get Your Soul Back From Your Awful Job

9 Things You Can Do To Get Your Soul Back From Your Awful Job

I’m guessing that many readers of this article didn’t plan to end up in the job or career that they are currently in. And maybe, since you chose to read this article, you’re one of them. Perhaps you just ‘fell’ into your job. Or maybe you had no plan, didn’t know your passion when you were younger, or lacked vision. But I’m here to tell you not to worry – it’s never too late. You don’t have to have your job suck the life out of you. Tomorrow is a new day, so focus on the positives. Embrace these nine ways to get your soul back from your awful job:

1. Acknowledge your greatness.

When we’re unhappy or feeling stuck, sometimes we can get down on ourselves. We think that there is no way out. And sometimes we even internalize the negativity. I’m here to tell you this: don’t do that! You are special, unique, and gifted. We all are. We all have something amazing to offer the world. So don’t let anyone tell you otherwise – especially yourself!

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2. Focus on other important things in your life.

Maybe you like to play tennis. Or you enjoy watching a good basketball game on TV. Or reading your favorite book. Or taking up a new hobby. Distracting yourself with other positive, important things you have going on (or could start doing), shifts your focus from bad to good.

3. Be grateful for what you do have.

When you are miserable in your job, it can become difficult to see how great your life is in other areas. It’s not uncommon for people to bring their job negativity home to their loved ones. When you do that, your bad attitude can act as a poison. It may even cause you to lash out at your family or friends. But you need to ‘leave work at work.’ When you come home, appreciate the roof over your head, the food on your table, the paycheck you get, and the people who love you. Putting more positive energy into your life through conscious appreciation will decrease the negative energy you feel when you are at work.

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4. Figure out your passion.

Do you love to cook? Maybe you could find a job in the catering business. Do you love to play guitar? Maybe you should teach guitar lessons or start a band. Do you love to read self-help books? Then you could start your own website and post positive inspiration for others. Many people think that what they love doing is naturally separate from their work life. That doesn’t have to be true. Once you figure out your passion, you can find a way to make money doing it. All it takes is a little creativity and determination.

5. Write down the essence of what you want in a job.

When I graduated college, I still had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. One day, I read in a book that I should write down the ‘essence’ of what I wanted my life’s work to look like. So I wrote down things like “flexible schedule,” “lots of vacation time,” “I teach others,” and “I have time to spend with my children.” That one simple exercise helped me focus on what was meaningful to me. And luckily, years later, I manifested exactly the kind of career that I had hoped. You can do it too!

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6. Make a plan.

If you want to get in your car and drive somewhere new, what do you do? First, you get the address of where you want to go. Then you program that address into your GPS and let it guide you to your destination. You need to do the same thing with your career. If you don’t know where you want to go and how to get there, then you will just wander aimlessly and get lost. So make a plan and stick to it.

7. Visualize

Research has proven that the subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between fantasy and reality. So if you literally close your eyes and ‘see’ yourself happy in your new career, your subconscious thinks it’s true and will start making things happen to manifest it. Feel how joyful you are when you get up in the morning because you can’t wait to get to work. Putting positive emotion into imagining your happy future will actually bring it into existence.

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8. Take action.

Don’t just sit around and complain about your job. Unfortunately, I know way too many people who do that. I always want to shake them and say, “DO something about it!” Complaining changes nothing. All it does is make a bad situation worse. Adding negativity to negativity only gives you more negativity. So get on the Internet and search for other jobs. Start applying. Or make a plan to start your own business. And when it’s time, quit your job and let the happiness begin!

9. Don’t give up hope!

Remember, nothing happens overnight. Some people may look like an overnight success, most people aren’t. It takes some people many years to achieve their career goals. But if you get frustrated and give up, then you won’t ever get there. So commit to your career change and know that it will happen.

So there you have it – my advice for taking action and deciding that you will no longer allow your awful job to suck the life out of you. Stay positive and stay on course. You will be happy you did. Good luck!

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Carol Morgan

Dr. Carol Morgan is the owner of HerSideHisSide.com, a communication professor, dating & relationship coach, TV personality, speaker, and author.

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Last Updated on March 29, 2021

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

When I left university I took a job immediately, I had been lucky as I had spent a year earning almost nothing as an intern so I was offered a role. On my first day I found that I had not been allocated a desk, there was no one to greet me so I was left for some hours ignored. I happened to snipe about this to another employee at the coffee machine two things happened. The first was that the person I had complained to was my new manager’s wife, and the second was, in his own words, ‘that he would come down on me like a ton of bricks if I crossed him…’

What a great start to a job! I had moved to a new city, and had been at work for less than a morning when I had my first run in with the first style of bad manager. I didn’t stay long enough to find out what Mr Agressive would do next. Bad managers are a major issue. Research from Approved Index shows that more than four in ten employees (42%) state that they have previously quit a job because of a bad manager.

The Dream Type Of Manager

My best manager was a total opposite. A man who had been the head of the UK tax system and was working his retirement running a company I was a very junior and green employee for. I made a stupid mistake, one which cost a lot of time and money and I felt I was going to be sacked without doubt.

I was nervous, beating myself up about what I had done, what would happen. At the end of the day I was called to his office, he had made me wait and I had spent that day talking to other employees, trying to understand where I had gone wrong. It had been a simple mistyped line of code which sent a massive print job out totally wrong. I learn how I should have done it and I fretted.

My boss asked me to step into his office, he asked me to sit down. “Do you know what you did?” I babbled, yes, I had been stupid, I had not double-checked or asked for advice when I was doing something I had not really understood. It was totally my fault. He paused. “Will you do that again?” Of course I told him I would not, I would always double check, ask for help and not try to be so clever when I was not!

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“Okay…”

That was it. I paused and asked, should I clear my desk. He smiled. “You have learnt a valuable lesson, I can be sure that you will never make a mistake like that again. Why would I want to get rid of an employee who knows that?”

I stayed with that company for many years, the way I was treated was a real object lesson in good management. Sadly, far too many poor managers exist out there.

The Complete Catalogue of Bad Managers

The Bully

My first boss fitted into the classic bully class. This is so often the ‘old school’ management by power style. I encountered this style again in the retail sector where one manager felt the only way to get the best from staff was to bawl and yell.

However, like so many bullies you will often find that this can be someone who either knows no better or is under stress and they are themselves running scared of the situation they have found themselves in.

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The Invisible Boss

This can either present itself as management from afar (usually the golf course or ‘important meetings) or just a boss who is too busy being important to deal with their staff.

It can feel refreshing as you will often have almost total freedom with your manager taking little or no interest in your activities, however you will soon find that you also lack the support that a good manager will provide. Without direction you may feel you are doing well just to find that you are not delivering against expectations you were not told about and suddenly it is all your fault.

The Micro Manager

The frustration of having a manager who feels the need to be involved in everything you do. The polar opposite to the Invisible Boss you will feel that there is no trust in your work as they will want to meddle in everything you do.

Dealing with the micro-manager can be difficult. Often their management style comes from their own insecurity. You can try confronting them, tell them that you can do your job however in many cases this will not succeed and can in fact make things worse.

The Over Promoted Boss

The Over promoted boss categorises someone who has no idea. They have found themselves in a management position through service, family or some corporate mystery. They are people who are not only highly unqualified to be managers they will generally be unable to do even your job.

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You can find yourself persistently frustrated by the situation you are in, however it can seem impossible to get out without handing over your resignation.

The Credit Stealer

The credit stealer is the boss who will never publically acknowledge the work you do. You will put in the extra hours working on a project and you know that, in the ‘big meeting’ it will be your credit stealing boss who will take all of the credit!

Again it is demoralising, you see all of the credit for your labour being stolen and this can often lead to good employees looking for new careers.

3 Essential Ways to Work (Cope) with Bad Managers

Whatever type of bad boss you have there are certain things that you can do to ensure that you get the recognition and protection you require to not only remain sane but to also build your career.

1. Keep evidence

Whether it is incidents with the bully or examples of projects you have completed with the credit stealer you will always be well served to keep notes and supporting evidence for projects you are working on.

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Buy your own notebook and ensure that you are always making notes, it becomes a habit and a very useful one as you have a constant reminder as well as somewhere to explore ideas.

Importantly, if you do have to go to HR or stand-up for yourself you will have clear records! Also, don’t always trust that corporate servers or emails will always be available or not tampered with. Keep your own content.

2. Hold regular meetings

Ensure that you make time for regular meetings with your boss. This is especially useful for the over-promoted or the invisible boss to allow you to ‘manage upwards’. Take charge where you can to set your objectives and use these meetings to set clear objectives and document the status of your work.

3. Stand your ground, but be ready to jump…

Remember that you don’t have to put up with poor management. If you have issues you should face them with your boss, maybe they do not know that they are coming across in a bad way.

However, be ready to recognise if the situation is not going to change. If that is the case, keep your head down and get working on polishing your CV! If it isn’t working, there will be something better out there for you!

Good luck!

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