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15 Ways To Be A Highly Remarkable Person

15 Ways To Be A Highly Remarkable Person

Every person on earth has the ability to be a highly remarkable person. For each person, how to get here is different, just as each snowflake has a shape all its own. There is no definitive guide or plan that must be followed, because each personality, passion and priority can illuminate that special quality in an individual to make them remarkable.

Here are 15 ways to be a highly remarkable person. Find the bits and pieces of these that fit your personality and you can become the person you’ve always wanted to be.

1. Face your fears.

A remarkable person lives inside of you. Face your fears and let that person be seen by the world. Fears squash creativity. They keep us within our comfort zone. If you want to be the best version of yourself, you must break free of your fears, especially those that hold you back.

2. Do what you love.

Remarkable people do what they love. They don’t let the world dictate their life. They take it by the horns and take back their life. Do what you love and you will be happier, healthier, and more remarkable.

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3. Be bold.

Take risks. Never settle. When you leave your comfort level you can truly enhance your life and your influence.

4. Listen.

Often times, the best way to be remarkable and interesting is to listen first. If you listen first, you will already know what interests the people you are talking to.

5. Expose yourself.

Learn a language. Love someone fully. Share your story. Take a class in something that interests you. Or go back to school. Expose yourself to a wide variety of topics. You’ll quickly find that you have a much wider breadth of interests than you expect. And with each new opportunity, you need new people who will help shape and mold the best version of yourself.

6. Solve big problems. Or little ones.

Think of solutions to solve problems that are affecting many people. Whether it’s volunteering at your local homeless shelter or taking a mission trip to a foreign country or even building a device that helps make something a little easier, use your skills to solve problems. Remarkable people help others.

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7. Tell stories.

Your experiences are unique. Tell others about them. You may find out more about yourself than you think. By reminiscing and connecting with your past, you can move to the future. Tell the good stories, the bad stories, and be vulnerable. You’ll become more comfortable in your own skin.

8. Be Creative

Find your voice. Come up with your own sayings. Find an art form ore creative outlet that fits your personality. Do you like to write? Start a blog. Do you enjoy reading? Join a book club.

9. Learn something new every day.

When you learn something new each day, you have perspective. Whether you learn something as simple as how to tie a tie to a new word or a new way to put on your make-up, you’ll open your views and have more to say.

10. Be funny. Or witty. Or clever.

Easier said than done, I know. But everyone has a side. Show others your sense of humor, what you find funny, and you’ll find that you connect to people on a much more intimate level.

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11. Be open.

Take the person that you show to your friends, your family, even your pets… and show it to the world. Keep private what needs to be, but don’t hide your personality.

12. Talk to strangers.

We often choose friends in a very odd way. We live near them. Or went to school with them. Or know them through our kids. When you are out and about in your daily life, talk to the people who are in the same place and time that you are. You may find that being neighbors is a much more shallow bond than two people who are madly obsessed with a local artist.

13. Help others.

Find ways to make other lives a little better — things as simple as shoveling your neighbors sidewalk to adopting a child in need. You don’t have to change the world. Just change one person’s life.

14. Be honest.

Stand your ground, understand your morals, and don’t cross that line. Whether someone agrees with your views or not, most will respect your opinion. And those who don’t? You’ll learn humility from their close-mindedness.

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15. Be yourself.

You already are a remarkable person. You have the qualities already within you. Know and remember this. You don’t have to change. But don’t stay the same.

Featured photo credit: Ana_Cotta via flickr.com

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The Science of Setting Goals (And How It Affects Your Brain)

The Science of Setting Goals (And How It Affects Your Brain)

What happens in our heads when we set goals?

Apparently a lot more than you’d think.

Goal setting isn’t quite so simple as deciding on the things you’d like to accomplish and working towards them.

According to the research of psychologists, neurologists, and other scientists, setting a goal invests ourselves into the target as if we’d already accomplished it. That is, by setting something as a goal, however small or large, however near or far in the future, a part of our brain believes that desired outcome is an essential part of who we are – setting up the conditions that drive us to work towards the goals to fulfill the brain’s self-image.

Apparently, the brain cannot distinguish between things we want and things we have. Neurologically, then, our brains treat the failure to achieve our goal the same way as it treats the loss of a valued possession. And up until the moment, the goal is achieved, we have failed to achieve it, setting up a constant tension that the brain seeks to resolve.

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Ideally, this tension is resolved by driving us towards accomplishment. In many cases, though, the brain simply responds to the loss, causing us to feel fear, anxiety, even anguish, depending on the value of the as-yet-unattained goal.

Love, Loss, Dopamine, and Our Dreams

The brains functions are carried out by a stew of chemicals called neurotransmitters. You’ve probably heard of serotonin, which plays a key role in our emotional life – most of the effective anti-depressant medications on the market are serotonin reuptake inhibitors, meaning they regulate serotonin levels in the brain leading to more stable moods.

Somewhat less well-known is another neurotransmitter, dopamine. Among other things, dopamine acts as a motivator, creating a sensation of pleasure when the brain is stimulated by achievement. Dopamine is also involved in maintaining attention – some forms of ADHD are linked to irregular responses to dopamine.[1]

So dopamine plays a key role in keeping us focused on our goals and motivating us to attain them, rewarding our attention and achievement by elevating our mood. That is, we feel good when we work towards our goals.

Dopamine is related to wanting – to desire. The attainment of the object of our desire releases dopamine into our brains and we feel good. Conversely, the frustration of our desires starves us of dopamine, causing anxiety and fear.

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One of the greatest desires is romantic love – the long-lasting, “till death do us part” kind. It’s no surprise, then, that romantic love is sustained, at least in part, through the constant flow of dopamine released in the presence – real or imagined – of our true love. Loss of romantic love cuts off that supply of dopamine, which is why it feels like you’re dying – your brain responds by triggering all sorts of anxiety-related responses.

Herein lies obsession, as we go to ever-increasing lengths in search of that dopamine reward. Stalking specialists warn against any kind of contact with a stalker, positive or negative, because any response at all triggers that reward mechanism. If you let the phone ring 50 times and finally pick up on the 51st ring to tell your stalker off, your stalker gets his or her reward, and learns that all s/he has to do is wait for the phone to ring 51 times.

Romantic love isn’t the only kind of desire that can create this kind of dopamine addiction, though – as Captain Ahab (from Moby Dick) knew well, any suitably important goal can become an obsession once the mind has established ownership.

The Neurology of Ownership

Ownership turns out to be about a lot more than just legal rights. When we own something, we invest a part of ourselves into it – it becomes an extension of ourselves.

In a famous experiment at Cornell University, researchers gave students school logo coffee mugs, and then offered to trade them chocolate bars for the mugs. Very few were willing to make the trade, no matter how much they professed to like chocolate. Big deal, right? Maybe they just really liked those mugs![2]

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But when they reversed the experiment, handing out chocolate and then offering to trade mugs for the candy, they found that now, few students were all that interested in the mugs. Apparently the key thing about the mugs or the chocolate wasn’t whether students valued whatever they had in their possession, but simply that they had it in their possession.

This phenomenon is called the “endowment effect”. In a nutshell, the endowment effect occurs when we take ownership of an object (or idea, or person); in becoming “ours” it becomes integrated with our sense of identity, making us reluctant to part with it (losing it is seen as a loss, which triggers that dopamine shut-off I discussed above).

Interestingly, researchers have found that the endowment effect doesn’t require actual ownership or even possession to come into play. In fact, it’s enough to have a reasonable expectation of future possession for us to start thinking of something as a part of us – as jilted lovers, gambling losers, and 7-year olds denied a toy at the store have all experienced.

The Upshot for Goal-Setters

So what does all this mean for would-be achievers?

On one hand, it’s a warning against setting unreasonable goals. The bigger the potential for positive growth a goal has, the more anxiety and stress your brain is going to create around it’s non-achievement.

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It also suggests that the common wisdom to limit your goals to a small number of reasonable, attainable objectives is good advice. The more goals you have, the more ends your brain thinks it “owns” and therefore the more grief and fear the absence of those ends is going to cause you.

On a more positive note, the fact that the brain rewards our attentiveness by releasing dopamine means that our brain is working with us to direct us to achievement. Paying attention to your goals feels good, encouraging us to spend more time doing it. This may be why outcome visualization — a favorite technique of self-help gurus involving imagining yourself having completed your objectives — has such a poor track record in clinical studies. It effectively tricks our brain into rewarding us for achieving our goals even though we haven’t done it yet!

But ultimately, our brain wants us to achieve our goals, so that it’s a sense of who we are that can be fulfilled. And that’s pretty good news!

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