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10 Reasons Type B People Are Very Likely To Be Successful

10 Reasons Type B People Are Very Likely To Be Successful

How many psychological theories do you reckon were developed by cardiologists? None? Well that’s not surprising — but it’s also not true — because that’s exactly what cardiologists Meyer Friedman and Ray Rosenman did when they introduced their “Type A and Type B Personality Theory” in an effort to bridge the gap between a persons mental and physical health. For those who aren’t familiar with the theory, check this article out.

Since our type A friends are the ones often credited with all the successes and achievements in life — on account of their ambitious and organized character — we thought it’s time that us B types say what makes us great, and importantly what makes us just as likely to succeed as our stressed-out counterparts. Below are 10 reasons type B people are very likely to be successful, lets see how many you match!

1. They are comfortable in what they potentially lack

It has become common practice to be told that if you lack confidence in something, you should just pretend as though you don’t lack anything at all. If you lack confidence in the decisions you make, the key is to pretend that you are completely certain in your choice, “fake it ’til you make it” so to speak. The same goes for business, relationships, physical insecurities and so on. The problem with this is — apart from being highly unauthentic — is that you’ll always feel like you’re walking on egg shells, forever vigilant in case you slip-up and reveal your façade for what it is, a façade.

This is where the observant character of type B personalities comes in. They know exactly what they lack, and then they get comfortable with it. It’s easier to do when you’re a calm person, and not focused purely on one aspect in life. You’ll be staying true to yourself, and everybody else will sense it. A small trick with big rewards.

Mistaken for: Complacency

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2. They are not slow, but calculated

One of the greatest attributes of B types is their ability to effectively analyse their options. Their lack of anxiety and stress means that not only are they free from a clouded judgement, but that their decisions are never made on a whim, they are thought out and weighed up. Crucially, this means that the choices they make are informed, propelling them even faster towards success city. It’s ironic how slower decisions bring speedier success, who’d have thought?

Mistaken for: Tardiness

3. They are easier to get along with

We have all experienced that neurotic friend/colleague/boss who was a nightmare to work with. Always chopping and changing their minds, always setting unrealistic deadlines and forever biting off more than they can chew. Type B workers on the other hand are calm, patient and realistic — their coolness transfers on to the people around them — and since they are comfortable with themselves and their decisions, their team will be comfortable with them also.

Type B people know that success is seldom a solo act. They know the value of a great team therefore they treat them as such, not merely as pawns in a big game of corporate chess. This makes building a network, team or social circle a much easier goal with a higher rate of success.

Mistaken for: Overly agreeableness

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4. They may be more creative.

It’s shown that B type people are more likely to be attracted to creative occupations and hobbies such as art, writing, architecture, counselling and so on. If this is indeed the case, then it makes sense that they may also be successful within science, technology and business careers because they are equipped with the ability to think outside the box and come up with creative solutions which otherwise would have gone unnoticed. The aim of the entrepreneur is to create a solution to a need, B people are truly in their element here.

Mistaken for: Being a know-it-all

5. They are less likely to be taken advantage of.

Who here is more likely to be viewed as susceptible to being taken advantage of, someone who is anxious, stressed, sensitive but ambitious? Or someone who comes across as calculated, confident and who is supported by a strong and trusted team? These B characteristics show that although you are a kind and patient person, you are not to be taken for a fool. You are a great person to have on somebodies side for sure, but you’re also someone of whom it would be unwise to be made an enemy.

Mistaken for: Arrogance

6. They are more rounded people.

It’s easy to get caught up in the lightening fast pace of the world around us, especially if you find yourself in business. Because of this it is also easy to lose track of the other equally important aspects of life, we’ve all heard of company CEO’s with broken families, or people with all the “success” in the world but who’s social skills are abysmal. What is success to someone who’s family resent them, or who’s friends have long since drifted away. To lose track of all the important aspects of life except one is to lose success entirely.

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This isn’t the case for our laid-back B’s, they don’t get caught up in all that. They know that it is important to spread their attention across the different aspects in life, thus becoming the most well-rounded and success-prone version of themselves.

Mistaken for: Unfocussed

7. They are more introspective.

Just like the point above, it is far too common to lose this crucial skill to the wind when you’re in the hurricane of success. However this is so key to attaining success that it deserves it’s own point. Ones ability for introspection is directly proportional to their success, period. For how else would they judge toxic behaviours such as self-deception, maybe what they could have done better, or how they can make progress in their methods, relationships and so on. If you can’t improve yourself, how can you expect to improve your family, your business or your world.

Mistaken for: Being hyper-critical

8. They are not delusional.

Many self-development writers nowadays are capitalising on the all-too-common “positive energy” trend. They profess that no matter what happens in your life, if you can just stay positive then all will be swell. Now obviously this can be beneficial, but only to a point. Many writers are encouraging a delusional level of positivity such that people will ignore warning sign after warning sign. They will keep doing the same toxic behaviours, they keep believing they are right, and they fail to heed the advice of others all in the name of positivity. These behaviours are a product of the “you’re perfect just the way you are” teaching. It’s impossible to improve when you believe you’re already perfect, success is therefore a no-go.

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Self-critical type B people know to stay grounded. Their judgement isn’t impaired by sky-high levels of stress (or conversely, positivity) and their success doesn’t blow up their ego.

Mistaken for: Negativity

9. They know when to quit.

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”. Who said that? Some smart guy some time ago, wait, Einstein? Yes, and he was right once again. Type B people know that beating a dead horse won’t get you much farther than a beaten dead horse. If an idea is constantly bringing back failures no matter what you try, only a fool would continue. B’s know when it’s time to move on, and that is very important and sadly often overlooked in today’s environment of “never give up, never quit, never surrender!” This kind of behaviour is an arrow to the knee of success.

Mistaken for: Being weak-willed

10. In the end, they are more satisfied with life.

One problem with type A people is that they are always battling, always accomplishing and looking for the next challenge, which sounds great in theory. However, they never stop to appreciate their achievements, like a sculptor creating his perfect masterpiece without taking a step back to look at it. B’s take joy in accomplishing things, they slow down their pace just long enough to savour the moment and to feel an intense satisfaction in their masterpiece. They are both the sculptor and the admirer of their work.

Mistaken for: smugness

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Last Updated on March 21, 2019

11 Important Things to Remember When Changing Habits

11 Important Things to Remember When Changing Habits

Most gurus talk about habits in a way that doesn’t help you:

You need to push yourself more. You can’t be lazy. You need to wake up at 5 am. You need more motivation. You can never fail…blah blah “insert more gibberish here.”

But let me share with you the unconventional truths I found out:

To build and change habits, you don’t need motivation or wake up at 5 am. Heck, you can fail multiple times, be lazy, have no motivation and still pull it off with ease.

It’s quite simple and easy to do, especially with the following list I’m going to show to you. But remember, Jim Rohn used to say,

“What is simple and easy to do is also simple and easy not to do.”

The important things to remember when changing your habits are both simple and easy, just don’t think that they don’t make any difference because they do.

In fact, they are the only things that make a difference.

Let’s see what those small things are, shall we?

1. Start Small

The biggest mistake I see people doing with habits is by going big. You don’t go big…ever. You start small with your habits.

Want to grow a book reading habit? Don’t start reading a book a day. Start with 10 pages a day.

Want to become a writer? Don’t start writing 10,000 words a day. Start with 300 words.

Want to lose weight? Don’t stop eating ice cream. Eat one less ball of it.

Whatever it is, you need to start small. Starting big always leads to failure. It has to, because it’s not sustainable.

Start small. How small? The amount needs to be in your comfort zone. So if you think that reading 20 pages of a book is a bit too much, start with 10 or 5.

It needs to appear easy and be easy to do.

Do less today to do more in a year.

2. Stay Small

There is a notion of Kaizen which means continuous improvement. They use this notion in habits where they tell you to start with reading 1 page of a book a day and then gradually increase the amount you do over time.

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But the problem with this approach is the end line — where the “improvement” stops.

If I go from reading 1 page of a book a day and gradually reach 75 and 100, when do I stop? When I reach 1 book a day? That is just absurd.

When you start a habit, stay at it in the intensity you have decided. Don’t push yourself for more.

I started reading 20 pages of a book a day. It’s been more than 2 years now and I’ve read 101 books in that period. There is no way I will increase the number in the future.

Why?

Because reading 40 to 50 books a year is enough.

The same thing applies to every other habit out there.

Pick a (small) number and stay at it.

3. Bad Days Are 100 Percent Occurrence

No matter how great you are, you will have bad days where you won’t do your habit. Period.

There is no way of going around this. So it’s better to prepare yourself for when that happens instead of thinking that it won’t ever happen.

What I do when I miss a day of my habit(s) is that I try to bounce back the next day while trying to do habits for both of those days.

Example for that is if I read 20 pages of a book a day and I miss a day, the next day I will have to read 40 pages of a book. If I miss writing 500 words, the next day I need to write 1000.

This is a really important point we will discuss later on rewards and punishments.

This is how I prepare for the bad days when I skip my habit(s) and it’s a model you should take as well.

4. Those Who Track It, Hack It

When you track an activity, you can objectively tell what you did in the past days, weeks, months, and years. If you don’t track, you will for sure forget everything you did.

There are many different ways you can track your activities today, from Habitica to a simple Excel sheet that I use, to even a Whatsapp Tracker.

Peter Drucker said,

“What you track is what you do.”

So track it to do it — it really helps.

But tracking is accompanied by one more easy activity — measuring.

5. Measure Once, Do Twice

Peter Drucker also said,

“What you measure is what you improve.”

So alongside my tracker, I have numbers with which I measure doses of daily activities:

For reading, it’s 20 pages.
For writing, it’s 500 words.
For the gym, it’s 1 (I went) or 0 (didn’t go).
For budgeting, it’s writing down the incomes and expenses.

Tracking and measuring go hand in hand, they take less than 20 seconds a day but they create so much momentum that it’s unbelievable.

6. All Days Make a Difference

Will one day in the gym make you fit? It won’t.

Will two? They won’t.

Will three? They won’t.

Which means that a single gym session won’t make you fit. But after 100 gym sessions, you will look and feel fit.

What happened? Which one made you fit?

The answer to this (Sorites paradox)[1] is that no single gym session made you fit, they all did.

No single day makes a difference, but when combined, they all do. So trust the process and keep on going (small).

7. They Are Never Fully Automated

Gurus tell you that habits become automatic. And yes, some of them do, like showering a certain way of brushing your teeth.

But some habits don’t become automatic, they become a lifestyle.

What I mean by that is that you won’t automatically “wake up” in the gym and wonder how you got there.

It will just become a part of your lifestyle.

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The difference is that you do the first one automatically, without conscious thought, while the other is a part of how you live your life.

It’s not automatic, but it’s a decision you don’t ponder on or think about — you simply do it.

It will become easy at a certain point, but they will never become fully automated.

8. What Got You Here Won’t Get You There

Marshall Goldsmith has a great book with the same title to it. The phrase means that sometimes, you will need to ditch certain habits to make room for other ones which will bring you to the next step.

Don’t be afraid to evolve your habits when you sense that they don’t bring you where you want to go.

When I started reading, it was about reading business and tactic books. But two years into it, I switched to philosophy books which don’t teach me anything “applicable,” but instead teach me how to think.

The most important ability of the 21st century is the ability to learn, unlearn, and relearn. The strongest tree is the willow tree – not because it has the strongest root or biggest trunk, but because it is flexible enough to endure and sustain anything.

Be like a willow, adapting to the new ways of doing things.

9. Set a Goal and Then Forget It

The most successful of us know what they want to achieve, but they don’t focus on it.

Sounds paradoxical? You’re right, it does. But here is the logic behind it.

You need to have a goal of doing something – “I want to become a healthy individual” – and then, you need to reverse engineer how to get there with your habits- “I will go to the gym four times a week.”

But once you have your goal, you need to “forget” about it and only focus on the process. Because you are working on the process of becoming healthy and it’s always in the making. You will only be as healthy as you take care of your body.

So you have a goal which isn’t static but keeps on moving.

If you went to the gym 150 times year and you hit your goal, what would you do then? You would stop going to the gym.

This is why goal-oriented people experience yo-yo effect[2] and why process-oriented people don’t.

The difference between process-oriented and goal-oriented people is that the first focus on daily actions while others only focus on the reward at the finish line.

Set a goal but then forget about it and reap massive awards.

10. Punish Yourself

Last two sections are pure Pavlovian – you need to punish bad behavior and reward good behavior. You are the only person who decides what is good and what is bad for you, but when you do, you need to rigorously follow that.

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I’ve told you in point #3 about bad days and how after one occurs, I do double the work on the next day. That is one of my forms of punishments.

It’s the need to tell your brain that certain behaviors are unacceptable and that they lead to bad outcomes. That’s what punishments are for.

You want to tell your brain that there are real consequences to missing your daily habits.[3]

No favorite food to eat or favorite show to watch or going to the cinema for a new Marvel movie- none, zero, zilch.

The brain will remember these bad feelings and will try to avoid the behaviors that led to them as much as possible.

But don’t forget the other side of the same coin.

11. Reward Yourself

When you follow and execute on your plan, reward yourself. It’s how the brain knows that you did something good.

Whenever I finish one of my habits for the day, I open my tracker (who am I kidding, I always keep it open on my desktop) and fill it with a number. As soon as I finish reading 20 pages of a book a day (or a bit more), I open the tracker and write the number down.

The cell becomes green and gives me an instant boost of endorphin – a great success for the day. Then, it becomes all about not breaking the chain and having as many green fields as possible.

After 100 days, I crunch some numbers and see how I did.

If I have less than 10 cheat days, I reward myself with a great meal in a restaurant. You can create your own rewards and they can be daily, weekly, monthly or any arbitrary time table that you create.

Primoz Bozic, a productivity coach, has gold, silver, and bronze medals as his reward system.[4]

If you’re having problems creating a system which works for you, contact me via email and we can discuss specifics.

In the End, It Matters

What you do matters not only to you but to the people around you.

When you increase the quality of your life, you indirectly increase the quality of life of people around you. And sometimes, that is all the “motivation” we need to start.

And that’s the best quote for the end of this article:

“Motivation gets you started, but habits keep you going.”

Keep going.

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Reference

[1] Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy: Sorites paradox
[2] Muscle Zone: What causes yo-yo effect and how to avoid it?
[3] Growth Habits: 5 Missteps That Cause You To Quit Building A Habit
[4] Primoz Bozic: The Lean Review: How to Plan Your 2019 in 20 Minutes

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