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How to Create a Close Knit Family

How to Create a Close Knit Family

A close knit family consists of adults and children. Since children are innocent, it is up to the adults to help shape the four walls around them. They could help shape those walls into a home or a house.

A home is where there is love and understanding between the members of the family, while a house is just a place where members come in to sleep, eat, and then disperse.

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Technology such as television, video games, and Internet is catching up in every household. Statistics show that an average child spends four to five hours in front of the television set while only five to 10 minutes with his parent.

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Divorces are also on the rise due to lack of time and communication. Every adult in a family needs to work towards creating a close knit kin. Such a scenario is not built-in one day. Each family ought to take baby steps to be close to each other and be there for each other through thick and thin. It is important to set some time aside for bonding, and sparing time to laugh and cry with each other.

Below are a few strategies that can help us in building a compact family.

1. Family Meal Time

The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University shows that children who eat meals with their families are less likely to try marijuana or smoke cigarettes, and more likely to succeed as confident individuals.

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A family that eats together tends to bond well. Meal time is the time when family members sit together and chat and discuss their day. Relax and ask about each other’s day. Share laughter and complement each other on how they fared a situation in school or at work. This boosts the confidence of the child and helps them face the situation at a place rather than avoiding it.

Family meal time is not about elaborate meals. It is about spending time together and help reconnect lives by placing technology on hold. Switch off the TV, music, and phone. Making meal time a priority with the family will help lay a foundation for the children showing them ways to thrive and flourish in their community.

2. Guidelines for the Family

Each family should make their own guidelines such as designing your mission statement. This statement could state what the family stands for, such as love, loyalty, honesty, cleanliness, hard work, discipline and respect for elders.

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Each family has the flexibility to design their own mission statement and guidelines. However, upon designing the guidelines, adults have to contribute equally towards it. There are no exceptions!

3. Sharing Private Moments

Each family is entitled to have their share of private moments especially during the time of happiness and sorrow. Making sure the family is present during special events or occasions such as the time of birth of a child, marriage of a relative or a sibling, housewarmings, festivals and birthday celebrations.

This can accentuate life and help make memories while nourishing the emotional and spiritual being.

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4. Creating Family Traditions

Every family should have their own ritual to celebrate a festival or a birthday or an anniversary. Be unique by designing it together as a family and this will help make it a fun event for the children while helping to create everlasting memories.

5. Communication and Love

Communication helps families to open up with their emotions and that helps in giving up the grudges against each other. Result is love and understanding. Parents ought to be open to ideas since that expression will lead to boosting confidence and help in improving relationships.

Buying a house from your hard earned money is easy. The real challenge is to make it a home and help create memories. Patience is the key while practicing the above tactics to help create a close-knit family.

Good luck!

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Last Updated on April 8, 2020

Why Assuming Positive Intent Is an Amazing Productivity Driver

Why Assuming Positive Intent Is an Amazing Productivity Driver

Assuming positive intent is an important contributor to quality of life.

Most people appreciate the dividends such a mindset produces in the realm of relationships. How can relationships flourish when you don’t assume intentions that may or may not be there? And how their partner can become an easier person to be around as a result of such a shift? Less appreciated in the GTD world, however, is the productivity aspect of this “assume positive intent” perspective.

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Most of us are guilty of letting our minds get distracted, our energy sapped, or our harmony compromised by thinking about what others woulda, coulda, shoulda.  How we got wronged by someone else.  How a friend could have been more respectful.  How a family member could have been less selfish.

However, once we evolve to understanding the folly of this mindset, we feel freer and we become more productive professionally due to the minimization of unhelpful, distracting thoughts.

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The leap happens when we realize two things:

  1. The self serving benefit from giving others the benefit of the doubt.
  2. The logic inherent in the assumption that others either have many things going on in their lives paving the way for misunderstandings.

Needless to say, this mindset does not mean that we ought to not confront people that are creating havoc in our world.  There are times when we need to call someone out for inflicting harm in our personal lives or the lives of others.

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Indra Nooyi, Chairman and CEO of Pepsi, says it best in an interview with Fortune magazine:

My father was an absolutely wonderful human being. From ecent emailhim I learned to always assume positive intent. Whatever anybody says or does, assume positive intent. You will be amazed at how your whole approach to a person or problem becomes very different. When you assume negative intent, you’re angry. If you take away that anger and assume positive intent, you will be amazed. Your emotional quotient goes up because you are no longer almost random in your response. You don’t get defensive. You don’t scream. You are trying to understand and listen because at your basic core you are saying, ‘Maybe they are saying something to me that I’m not hearing.’ So ‘assume positive intent’ has been a huge piece of advice for me.

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In business, sometimes in the heat of the moment, people say things. You can either misconstrue what they’re saying and assume they are trying to put you down, or you can say, ‘Wait a minute. Let me really get behind what they are saying to understand whether they’re reacting because they’re hurt, upset, confused, or they don’t understand what it is I’ve asked them to do.’ If you react from a negative perspective – because you didn’t like the way they reacted – then it just becomes two negatives fighting each other. But when you assume positive intent, I think often what happens is the other person says, ‘Hey, wait a minute, maybe I’m wrong in reacting the way I do because this person is really making an effort.

“Assume positive intent” is definitely a top quality of life’s best practice among the people I have met so far. The reasons are obvious. It will make you feel better, your relationships will thrive and it’s an approach more greatly aligned with reality.  But less understood is how such a shift in mindset brings your professional game to a different level.

Not only does such a shift make you more likable to your colleagues, but it also unleashes your talents further through a more focused, less distracted mind.

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