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8 Things That Will Make Wedding Planning Much Cheaper and Easier

8 Things That Will Make Wedding Planning Much Cheaper and Easier

A big and glamorous wedding is a dream come true for most women, and it is a source of pride for a lot of guys as well. It is a very special day, something that you will hopefully only go through once in your life, so it is natural that you want to celebrate it with as much enthusiasm and pomp as possible. However, a big wedding can get very expensive very quickly, and planning the whole thing can take a good chunk of your free time and eat away at your nerves for months and months.

If you are looking to cut down on the stress, simplify the planning and save a bunch of money so that you can afford an exciting honeymoon and quite a few other things that you’ll need after you’re married, then keep on reading. The following wedding planning tips will make your life a whole lot easier.

1. Choose a less common season and day of the week for the wedding day

Bride and groom in autumn leaves

    Opting for a wedding in the summer and on a Saturday can be one of the biggest strains on your wedding budget. Spring and summer are the hottest (no pun intended) wedding seasons, and most people like to get married on a Saturday as it ensures that none of your guests will have to skip work and they can sleep in the next day and cure their hangover before going back to work on Monday.

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    However, since there is plenty of demand and a short supply, prices skyrocket during this period. An autumn wedding can be very romantic, and if you choose to have it on a weekday as well, you’ll be saving a lot of money and you will have a bigger selection of venues available.

    2. Consider an outdoor location if you must have the wedding during spring or summer

    For some people it can be very important to have the wedding during the warmer seasons, for whatever reason. There is still a way to save some money – have an outdoor wedding. There are plenty of great locations like national parks or beautiful lakes, and you’d be surprised at what gorgeous scenery lies just outside of town. The beauty of it is that you can rent out park tables and benches for the day and spruce them up a little bit to get a very nice rural theme going.

    You have to be careful though, thin heels will sink into the grass, so be sure to use Solemates or similar high heel protectors and provide enough for all the ladies attending. In windy conditions sew some small weights into the hem of long dresses, and make sure there are some gazebos around and umbrellas available in case of a quick summer rain – you can never be overprepared when going outdoors.

    3. Kill two birds with one stone by holding the ceremony and the reception at the same venue

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    Ceremony and reception

      It can be both pricey for you and a bit difficult for the guests to have to hold the ceremony in one place and then switch venues to have the lunch or dinner afterwards. There are a lot of great places where you can have both the ceremony and the reception, so you can save plenty of time and money. You also won’t risk messing up your hair or dress from getting in and out of a car all the time. However, make sure that the venue has a serious atmosphere and plan it so that:

      • No food or drinks are to be served until after the ceremony, not even bread sticks on the tables
      • All the chairs should be arranged so that they face the altar area
      • Have a slight break between the ceremony and the reception in a separate room, for example, the lobby, so people can get their pictures taken, stretch out, and so that the chairs can be rearranged for traditional seating at the tables
      • Alternatively, you can have the ceremony in one room and the reception in another room at the same location

      With the right décor and a good seating arrangement you can make this a very practical, beautiful and cost-effective wedding.

      4. Set up a wedding website and email account

      You will need to stay in touch with a lot of different people, from hairdressers and florists to people you need to talk to about the venue and catering. Your family and friends will want to stay updated as well and will probably be calling you or messaging you all the time. In this day and age you can get a well-designed website up and running in no time yourself, with no professional programming or web design experience.

      You can just browse through a bunch of free pre-made themes and choose one that you like. The cost of buying a domain name and hosting won’t amount to much, and you’ll have a place where all your nosy relatives and friends can get the all the information they need – time and date, a big old Google map with the location of the venue, some great pictures, the story of how you two met and stuck together all this time and anything else you can think of.

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      A special email account is important during wedding planning as it helps keep all the wedding-related stuff separate from your professional and private life, and well away from your already cluttered-up inbox.

      5. Modify a used dress

        Wedding dresses can easily cost as much as a used car or a bunch of good quality living room furniture and even as much as a brand new entry-level sports car. Depending on your finances, that money may be better spent on furnishing your new home, buying a car or some exotic traveling. A good solution is to use your mother’s old wedding dress and have it modified. You can also buy a used one for a fairly low price, but be careful when shopping for a dress online. There are some very talented tailors out there who can work pure magic on a wedding dress and make it fit your character and style perfectly, all while keeping the price reasonable.

        6. Go for a more traditional feel

        Traditional weddings, as big of a celebration as they used to be, were fairly simple when compared to modern weddings. They relied on very old traditions, which meant having a set of rules you couldn’t deviate from much and a focus on a kind of subdued elegance. By playing the traditional card you will be able to organize a simple, yet charming wedding without too many bells and whistles to distract from the joyful event. Clean, white tables, plenty of room to dance, good music, some tasty food, a bit of cake, a decent selection of drinks, graceful and unobtrusive décor and a warm atmosphere are all you really need.

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        7. DIY some of the decoration

        DIY wedding flowers

          When it comes to decoration, you can save a lot if you put in a bit of effort. You don’t have to be a very crafty DIY specialist to create some great decorations, although it helps if you have someone with an artistic flair and a steady hand nearby. You can order a bunch of flowers in bulk online, a few bulk orders of single varieties through several flower shops, and then arrange the bouquets yourself. Save up a bunch of mason jars, decorate them, put the bouquets in and you have yourself a lot of very inexpensive centerpieces. Mason jars can also be made into oil lamps for romantic lighting as well. You can also make some cute wedding favours, which shows you care and saves money.

          8. Prepare a special wedding survival kit

          They say that the even the best strategy thought up by generals at the headquarters can’t last a day in the trenches. When W-Day comes there will be a bunch of little problems that can throw a monkey wrench into your carefully planned wedding, or upset you and ruin some of the magic for you. Well, luck favors the prepared, so you will need to throw together a small wedding survival kit, consisting of items that will help you avoid common catastrophes, and keep it close to you.

          The items should include wine wipes to avoid staining your lips and teeth, some drier sheets for soaking up deodorant so it doesn’t stain your dress, emergency makeup kit, Visine or Listerine to apply to a pimple for a few minutes to reduce the soreness so it can be concealed more easily with makeup, baby wipes to take care of any lighter stains, Pepto-Bismol for calming a nervous stomach and some breath mints.

          Although wedding planning can be a true nightmare, with these handy tips and a bit of work you will be able to make it a far less stressful process and manage to pull the whole thing off even on a tight budget.

          Featured photo credit: Dr. Wendy Longo via flickr.com

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          Ivan is the CEO and founder of a digital marketing company. He has years of experiences in team management, entrepreneurship and productivity.

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          How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

          How to Be Confident: 51 Proven Ways to Build Self-Confidence

          When you learn how to be confident, you can use it in your everyday life to tackle all of your goals and challenges. However, not many people realize that learning how to gain self-confidence is like building a muscle—it grows in response to the level of performance required of it.

          Here I will give you 51 proven ways to overcome a lack of self-confidence and achieve more.

          1. Learn Something New

          Sign up for that evening class and enjoy it. Alternatively, read a book (or take an online course) on a topic you’ve always wanted to learn more about.

          Learning new things stretches your abilities, keeps your mind active, and most definitely improves your confidence in your ability to do new things.

          2. Ask Your Partner or a Friend What You Can Do For Them

          This can be something as easy as helping them with a chore they don’t like or have little time for. Through helping them, you’ll find that you feel better about yourself.

          3. Hit the Gym

          The physiological effects of going to the gym will leave you feeling great.

          Countless studies have shown that regular workouts at the gym can boost not only your sense of well-being, but can increase your self-esteem, too[1].

          4. Go to a Networking Event

          Rather than being nervous about your own stuff, focus on how to help others. Instead of going along with the aim of trying to sell yourself to others, why not change your approach and simply go along to see how you can help the people you meet?

          By doing this, you’ll come across as calm, confident, and someone that people will want to turn to again and again.

          5. Get Clear on the Things That Matter to You

          If these things are not in your life, you’ll need to bring them in.

          For example, if your daily work routine is currently as dull as dishwater—but you’d like it to be fun—then do something about it. Turn data entry into personal speed contests, paper filing into “screen-free” time, and interactions with your colleagues into enjoyable conversations.

          6. Remove Negativity From Your Life

          Write a list of the things you’re tolerating and putting up with in your life, then write down how you can remove, minimize, or diminish each one.

          I personally like to do this with pen and paper as it feels just a little more real and definite than on screen. It’s also a good idea to put the priority items at the top of your list, so you can begin resolving these first.

          7. Celebrate Your Big and Small Wins

          Look at the big or small goals you’ve completed, and give yourself credit for your part in it.

          Recognizing your achievements is not egotistical, it’s healthy.

          8. Converse With New People

          Go and have a conversation with someone you don’t know. By doing this, you may be pleasantly surprised by what—or who—you’ll discover.

          You can also extend this trait by breaking outside of your normal social situations at your workplace. This will do wonders when learning how to be confident.

          9. Do Something You Would Normally Say No to

          Next time you talk yourself out of doing something (a party invite, a challenging project, etc.), go and do it anyway. This is a great way to boost personal development.

          10. Do One Thing Each Day That Makes You Smile

          This could be something as simple as sending a thank you email to a colleague that has been helpful to you, or leaving a surprise present for your partner that they’ll discover when they wake up.

          Life shouldn’t be drudgery, and we all need to make the effort to keep it light, loving, and fun.

          11. Give Yourself Good Advice

          Look for the patterns of thought that take you to a place where you start second-guessing or overthinking.

          Now imagine that your best friend went through exactly the same thought process and ended up holding themselves back—what would you want to say to them?

          This is known as Soloman’s Paradox—we’re often quite good at solving others’ problems but not our own. Challenge this and take your own good advice next time[2].

          12. Ask Someone on a Date

          If you’re single and have met someone that you’re definitely attracted to—go ahead and ask them out.

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          Even if they turn you down, it will help you learn how to be confident through the fact that you were decisive and made an effort. What’s the best thing that could happen? They might just say yes!

          13. Write Down 20 Things That Make You Feel Good

          Think of this as a gratitude list. Typical things you might include are: your partner, your kids, your parents, your pets, etc.

          I recommend writing this list at least once a month. And most importantly—make sure you’re giving the 20 things plenty of room in your life.

          14. Stop Playing Different Roles

          Stop playing different roles and squeezing yourself into boxes based on what you think people expect of you.

          Be your authentic self, the one who knows what to do and loves what they do. It’s easy to find this part of yourself as it’s inherent in your hobbies and your close friendships.

          If you can bring this authenticity into your work life, you’ll be surprised at how positively others will react to you.

          15. Cultivate a Positive Mindset

          Learn to catch yourself every time you tell yourself that you can’t have, won’t get, or aren’t good enough to get what you want[3].

          Talk yourself up when learning how to be confident.

            Instead, tell yourself that you can have, will get, and are good enough to get what you want. Mindset is everything. Make sure yours is positive and dynamic.

            16. Take Yourself off Auto-Pilot

            Make deliberate decisions on what really matters to you.

            For instance, if you normally work 9 to 5 but find yourself spending hours getting to and from work, why not negotiate with your boss to mix your hours up a bit?

            You might also suggest a day or two working from home. Sell this to your boss by reminding them that the time and stress lost to commuting can be neatly transferred to productive work hours.

            17. Listen Carefully to What You Tell Yourself

            Next time you come up against a risk or a challenge, listen to what you tell yourself, and look for a way to improve your inner dialogue.

            If you normally find that your inner dialogue is negative, then break out of this by asking yourself questions such as:

            • What would make this easier?
            • Is there a different way of doing this?
            • Could research help?

            18. Laugh at Yourself

            Scared of looking silly? It’s no biggie, so don’t let it stop you.

            Whenever we try something new, there’s a fair chance that we’ll make fools of ourselves. But you’d be a bigger fool to let that stop you. Instead, laugh at your baby steps and watch your confidence soar as you begin to master your chosen activity.

            19. Listen to Your Doubts

            Sometimes your doubts are there to let you know what you need to prepare for, so you can use them to your benefit as you move forwards. Other times, they are just doubts.

            The trick is to quickly determine if your doubts have validity. If they do, use them to shape your decisions.

            To illustrate this, imagine that you’ve had an enticing job offer, but you doubt whether you’re capable of doing the job. Spend a little time analyzing your doubts to see whether they reflect reality, or whether they are just negative thoughts that are trying to hold you back.

            20. Recall a Time When You Did a Great Job

            Think of a time when it felt like a whole bank of switches in your head flicked to the on position, and you were firing on all cylinders. What were you doing, and what’s the reason it felt so great? Can you emulate that passion and drive that you had?

            21. Tear up Your Rule Book

            You may not know it, but you’ve almost certainly got a whole bunch of outdated rules that determine what you do and don’t do. These rules limit your thinking and your behavior.

            It’s time to change them. Tear up this subconscious rule book and toss it in the fire. Once you’ve done this, you’ll immediately notice how free you feel to make challenging and exciting decisions.

            22. Ask Yourself What You Have Gained When You Lose

            Do you get annoyed with yourself because you didn’t make the most of something or stepped back from an opportunity?

            Firstly, don’t beat yourself up because that’s just going to make you feel worse. Instead, be brutally honest and ask yourself what you gained from the situation and what you lost out on.

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            Based on this win/lose balance, what’s a different choice you can make next time?

            23. Don’t Let People Put You Down

            If there’s someone in your life who puts you down or makes you feel small, you owe it to yourself to let them know that you expect something different from now on. 

            Trust me, once you’ve told them, they’ll change, and you will, too. Inevitably, you’ll boost both your confidence and happiness by taking control of your life in this way.

            Learn how to get out of toxic relationships in this article.

            24. Reveal a Little Bit of the Real You

            Relationships can be difficult. They can also lose their zest and become stale. If this happens in your relationship, then it’s time to add some magic to the mix.

            Try revealing something interesting about yourself or your past that your partner doesn’t currently know when learning how to be confident. Perhaps you never mentioned to them that you used to play in a rock band—and you still have the recordings to prove it!

            By adding new things to your relationship, you’ll deepen the bond and keep the spark alive.

            25. Be Your Own Hero

            Recognize that you’re more than a match for any situation you might find yourself in—no matter how tough the going gets.

            We all love movies like Die Hard where ordinary people are driven to super-ordinary feats. But here’s the rub: you can be your own action hero.

            Whatever the situation, meet it head on and overcome it. Keep in mind the classic phrase: “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”

            26. Don’t Give in to the Instant Pay-off

            If I was to offer you $100 now for a day’s work tomorrow or $110 for the same work, but I won’t pay you for a week, which would you choose? Well, I can’t read your mind, but I do know that studies using a similar question to this have found that most people choose the instant, smaller payment over the latter, bigger payment. It seems that we’re hardwired for instant gratification.

            However, if you want to be a success in life, always look at the bigger picture. In the example above, if you could have only waited seven more days, you would have been $10 richer!

            27. Instead of Yelling “I Deserve Better,” Say “I Can Be Better”

            Too often I hear people complaining about their personal circumstances but refusing to do anything about it. Don’t be like them.

            If things aren’t going your way, find solutions and implement them. Your boldness and decisiveness will boost your confidence and help you rapidly climb the ladder of success.

            28. Admit You’re Wrong

            It may not be easy, but you should always be prepared to hold your hands up and change your mind if things are going south. Not every idea you have will be a winning one. The trick is to know when things are clearly not working out.

            You can either attempt to get them back on track or kill them off completely (sometimes that’s the best way).

            29. Trust Your Instincts

            We all have our gut feelings and intuitions, but many people choose to ignore them and rely only on facts, facts, and more facts! While this may work for many scenarios, there will be other times when you’ll need to rely on your instincts.

            30. Imagine Your Confident Future Self

            Imagine you’re visited by a successful, confident, attractive, and vibrant version of you from the future, a version of you who’s everything you hope to be. What do they want to tell you?

            They might praise your efforts, but they may also criticize your lack of planning and weak goals.

            Luckily, if you listen closely to what they tell you, you’ll be able to rapidly shift gears in your life and become the you of the future!

            31. Ask for Help

            This is a common issue. We take on way too many responsibilities and end up either burning ourselves out or just doing a bad job!

            The secret is to put the vast majority of your energy and efforts into what you do well. Give the stuff you don’t do well to others who have a gift for it. Sometimes the most confident and effective thing to do is ask for help.

            32. Be Around People Who Make You Feel Like You

            Do this by spending more time with the people who support and encourage you and less time with those who undermine you.

            At work, don’t be ruined by negative, petty people. Instead, make sure you surround yourself with colleagues who make you laugh and feel good about yourself.

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            33. Participate in the World Around You

            Ask yourself this question: “What can I participate in that’s important to me?”

            Typically, this could be your church, a sports club, or even just a weekly get together with your best friend.

            34. Develop Skills to Work on Things That Matter to You

            What can you practice that would radically improve your chances of winning?

            If you want to climb the corporate ladder, for example, then develop the skills needed to do this. These might include: effective project management skills, powerful presentation abilities, and superb goal setting skills.

            Of course, don’t forget that emulating those who have already achieved your goal is one of the quickest and most reliable ways for you to achieve your aims, too.

            35. Act Until You Make It

            The body is a mirror for the mind, so shifting your body language into a confident state can have surprising results.

            This is all about acting. If you want to come across as tough, act tough. If you want to come across as successful, act successful. And if you want to come across as confident, act confident.

            Try doing these things, and you’ll be amazed by the results.

            36. Push Through When You Want to Give up

            Don’t get disheartened or demotivated when you get to 90% with something you’re working on. Push through, and you’ll see that the last 10% is where the magic happens.

            37. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

            Keep comparing yourself to others? Stop it. If you want to learn how to be confident, don’t try to validate yourself through comparison—you’re just peachy as you are.

            Social media often makes this difficult. Try stepping away from your Facebook page for a few days and reconnect with the great things in your own life.

            You can get started with this guide.

            38. Speak up When You Can Make a Difference

            Speak up if there’s something you think could be improved or if you have an idea you think has legs.

            Have you noticed that quiet people at work rarely get the promotions? It’s not that they are incapable or lacking talent, but their abilities are usually overlooked as they don’t know how to engage with others or how to sell themselves.

            Step out of your comfort zone and be sure that you’re an active player. Speak up in meetings by suggesting ideas and offering constructive criticism.

            39. Stop Struggling and Start Accepting

            If there’s something you’ve been struggling to understand for a while, stop trying to understand it. Accept it just as it is, fully and wholly.

            Life offers endless mysteries. If you try to resolve them all you’ll drive yourself insane. Instead, let some mysteries remain, and keep your mind focused on your goals and dreams.

            40. It’s Okay to Be Shy

            There’s nothing wrong with being shy, and it doesn’t mean you’re not a confident person.

            If you suffer from shyness, you might think it’s a major weakness of yours. However, introverted people have the edge in many ways, such as: they’re first-rate listeners, they have excellent observational skills, and they’re easier to trust[4].

            41. Clean up Your Environment

            Your environment directly impacts your self-perception. So, if you’re surrounded by clutter, paperwork, and rubbish, put a morning aside to clean up your stuff and get organized.

            42. Write a List of Things You Would Love to Do

            Write yourself a list of the amazing things you’d love to do in your life, and make a start by simply looking into the first one or two things that leap out at you. This will help you get started as you learn how to be confident

            Even if you don’t currently have the means to live your dreams, you can, at the very least, make a start. The best way to do this is to write out the things you’d love to do. These may include cool stuff, such as travelling the world, learning a new language, or climbing a mountain.

            Once you’ve added the items to your list, don’t stop there. Begin researching and preparing ways to turn your dreams into realities.

            43. Make Your Self-Worth Independent From Others’ Validation

            Don’t make your happiness or self-worth dependent on being in a relationship or being validated by someone else.

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            While it’s difficult to admit it, we often find ourselves rating our self-esteem by the value other people put on us.

            For instance, you may have a super-positive boss who is always encouraging and supportive. They make you feel upbeat and confident at all times.

            However, imagine if they left and your new boss was the complete opposite. They constantly look for faults in your work and regularly criticize you. Would you still feel confident in those circumstances?

            If you’ve answered no, then you need to reappraise your self-worth, as it shouldn’t be dependent on the validation of others.

            44. Use Your Strengths

            We all have our weaknesses, but they only undermine your confidence if you let them.

            For instance, are you aware that Virgin’s founder Richard Branson suffers from dyslexia? He never let this hold him back or destroy his confidence. Today, he is one of the world’s most successful men, with a net worth of approximately $5 billion[5].

            45. Complete a To-Do List

            The longer you leave that big thing on your to-do list, the more it’ll drain you, and the bigger it’ll seem. Get it done and free yourself up.

            If you have a big goal, break it down into smaller tasks. For instance, instead of trying to write a whole chapter of your book in one go, how about just writing the opening paragraph?

            46. Treat Your Body Well

            When learning how to be confident, our body image does matter, because if you have a bad relationship with your body, you won’t feel confident in yourself.

            What’s one of the first things most of us do when we get up in the morning? We look in the mirror. If we don’t like what we see there, then our day starts off with negative self-talk. If, on the other hand, we look in the mirror and feel proud of our appearance, then we start the day off in an upbeat, positive way.

            If you’re unhappy with your body and looks, do something to improve them. Exercise, diet, and styling are common ways of improving your body image—and your confidence.

            47. Learn to Say No

            Don’t say yes to taking on a task simply because you don’t want to rock the boat. You can politely decline requests you can’t meet without needing to create excuses.

            While saying yes to everything that comes your way might feel like you’re being helpful and in demand, in the long run, you’ll burn yourself out.

            48. Learn From Confident People

            Look at the people you respect who seem confident. Don’t copy them, but identify what it is they do differently that conveys confidence and what you can learn from it.

            People-watching is not only fun, but it can be informative, too. Look closely at successful people you know, or those being interviewed on TV, and over time you’ll begin to notice common traits, beliefs, and behaviors that they exhibit.

            49. Follow Through on Your Plans

            Most people find it easy to write plans. The hard part, of course, is seeing them through. To stand out from the crowd, make sure that you know exactly how to complete your plans.

            If you need to, write down a step-by-step guide and begin following it. Not only will this drive you towards the completion of your plans—but experiencing the progress will also give you a continuous boost to your self-esteem.

            50. Shift Your Focus When You Doubt Yourself

            When you feel yourself focusing inwards and becoming paralyzed with doubt or fear, switch to focusing outwards at what you can engage and interact with.

            I remember one of my writing tutors telling me that when the words stop flowing, it’s time to take a break— preferably a walk in the park. It’s sound advice as it’s very easy to get caught up with our thoughts and emotions and be unable to make progress.

            51. Never Beat Yourself up for Failing

            Life is guaranteed to not always be a barrel of laughs. Instead, it’s much more like a roller coaster. There will be ups and downs, so ride them out.

            The art of living is to know how to handle whatever comes you way. The best way to achieve this is by developing an iron core that is unhindered by the topsy-turvy outside world.

            Final Thoughts

            Here I’ve given you 51 different ways to start building self-confidence Take action on the ways that you’re drawn to.

            It’s not enough to read about them. For them to work, you must adopt them into your daily life. Do this, and you’ll start to feel your confidence soar.

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            Featured photo credit: Matheus Ferrero via unsplash.com

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