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6 Quick Ways To Check If You’re Doing Alright

6 Quick Ways To Check If You’re Doing Alright

As life is a new and unique experience to each and every one of us, it’s not uncommon to sometimes feel a little panicky about how we’re doing. We can also become overwhelmed by the complexity at all and forget the simple things, like checking in with ourselves to make sure we’re on the right track. Here we have 6 quick signs you can use to check that you’re doing alright from The Daily Zen:

Calmness.

Nothing is more fulfilling than an overarching sense of tranquility.  You have feelings and ups-and-downs, sure, but if your core remains strong and balanced, nothing can get in your way.  Live deliberately and passionately, but always come back to the anchor of your breath and your calmness.

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Emotion.

There is a difference between non-attachment and detachment.  Non-attachment means relaxing and realizing the future is out of your control and the past is a ghost.  Detachment is a bad thing; it’s when you lose touch with your emotions.  Do not respond to negativity by stifling your bad emotions.  Embrace them and learn from them.  Feel fully.  This is what being alive is all about.

Books.

We think in language, whether we like it or not.  The more you read, the more precise of an ability you have to express your thoughts as words.  Eloquent prose builds a sense of self and observation that can’t be found anywhere else.  Learn how to interpret your world from the masters of fiction, non-fiction and poetry.  There is much to be discovered.

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Outcome independence.

We cannot predict the future.  No matter what your intentions, you can never really know how a situation you’re in is gonna turn out, or what will result from a given action.  The ideal modus operandi is to do the right thing and be productive and satisfied with your actions, all the while remaining indifferent to their outcomes.  What’s done is done, and all you can hope for is to continue making the decisions that sit well with you and those you love.

Nature.

If you take some time every day to get outside, you’re on the right track.  Nature is rejuvenating and humbling.  It jogs you out of the artificiality of the daily grind.  Even in a big city, feeling the warmth of the sun on your face or the subtle chirping of a bird can drastically improve your day.  If you don’t already take time to enjoy nature, start.  You can thank me later.

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Relationships.

Other people gravitate towards those who project positivity, creativity and confidence.  If you embody these qualities, chances are you are both living a fulfilling life and have surrounded yourself with people who affirm you.  If not, work on developing not surface-level relationships but deeply-rooted fulfilling ones.  Don’t settle for the ‘easy crowd’, the people who put on a mask or fake their emotions.  Find genuine people you really like.  It may take time, but once you do it you’ll both have a wonderful support system and great friends you can spend the rest of your life enjoying the company of.

The Daily Zen is a collection of quotes and articles to inspire creativity, productivity and intellectual curiosity.

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6 Signs You’re Doing Alright | The Daily Zen

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Last Updated on February 15, 2019

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

In Personal Development-speak, we are always talking about goals, outcomes, success, desires and dreams. In other words, all the stuff we want to do, achieve and create in our world.

And while it’s important for us to know what we want to achieve (our goal), it’s also important for us to understand why we want to achieve it; the reason behind the goal or some would say, our real goal.

Why is goal setting important?

1. Your needs and desire will be fulfilled.

Sometimes when we explore our “why”, (why we want to achieve a certain thing) we realize that our “what” (our goal) might not actually deliver us the thing (feeling, emotion, internal state) we’re really seeking.

For example, the person who has a goal to lose weight in the belief that weight loss will bring them happiness, security, fulfillment, attention, popularity and the partner of their dreams. In this instance, their “what” is weight-loss and their “why” is happiness (etc.) and a partner.

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Six months later, they have lost the weight (achieved their goal) but as is often the case, they’re not happier, not more secure, not more confident, not more fulfilled and in keeping with their miserable state, they have failed to attract their dream partner.

After all, who wants to be with someone who’s miserable? They achieved their practical goal but still failed to have their needs met.

So they set a goal to lose another ten pounds. And then another. And maybe just ten more. With the destructive and erroneous belief that if they can get thin enough, they’ll find their own personal nirvana. And we all know how that story ends.

2. You’ll find out what truly motivates you

The important thing in the process of constructing our best life is not necessarily what goals we set (what we think we want) but what motivates us towards those goals (what we really want).

The sooner we begin to explore, identify and understand what motivates us towards certain achievements, acquisitions or outcomes (that is, we begin moving towards greater consciousness and self awareness), the sooner we will make better decisions for our life, set more intelligent (and dare I say, enlightened) goals and experience more fulfilment and less frustration.

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We all know people who have achieved what they set out to, only to end up in the same place or worse (emotionally, psychologically, sociologically) because what they were chasing wasn’t really what they were needing.

What we think we want will rarely provide us with what we actually need.

3. Your state of mind will be a lot healthier

We all set specific goals to achieve/acquire certain things (a job, a car, a partner, a better body, a bank balance, a title, a victory) because at some level, most of us believe (consciously or not) that the achievement of those goals will bring us what we really seek; joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

Of course, setting practical, material and financial goals is an intelligent thing to do considering the world we live in and how that world works.

But setting goals with an expectation that the achievement of certain things in our external, physical world will automatically create an internal state of peace, contentment, joy and total happiness is an unhealthy and unrealistic mindset to inhabit.

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What you truly want and need

Sometimes we need to look beyond the obvious (superficial) goals to discover and secure what we really want.

Sadly, we live in a collective mindset which teaches that the prettiest and the wealthiest are the most successful.

Some self-help frauds even teach this message. If you’re rich or pretty, you’re happy. If you’re both, you’re very happy. Pretty isn’t what we really want; it’s what we believe pretty will bring us. Same goes with money.

When we cut through the hype, the jargon and the self-help mumbo jumbo, we all have the same basic goals, desires and needs:

Joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

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Nobody needs a mansion or a sport’s car but we all need love.

Nobody needs massive pecs, six percent body-fat, a face lift or bigger breasts but we all need connection, acceptance and understanding.

Nobody needs to be famous but we all need peace, calm, balance and happiness.

The problem is, we live in a culture which teaches that one equals the other. If only we lived in a culture which taught that real success is far more about what’s happening in our internal environment, than our external one.

It’s a commonly-held belief that we’re all very different and we all have different goals — whether short term or long term goals. But in many ways we’re not, and we don’t; we all want essentially the same things.

Now all you have to do is see past the fraud and deception and find the right path.

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