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10 Reasons Working Dads Should Travel Alone with Their Kids

10 Reasons Working Dads Should Travel Alone with Their Kids

A popular South Korean reality television show called Dad! Where Are We Going? features five celebrity fathers and their kids who travel to various places and go camping together without their moms. Usually families go on vacation with both parents, however sometimes, as the show has demonstrated, going solo on a vacation with your kids can be a very rewarding experience for a Dad. The working Dads on the show bring up many reasons why working Dads should travel with their kids, without their mothers accompanying. Travel with kids can be amazing. Here is a list ten of the top reasons why this sort of Dad-kid vacation works so well.

1. You Will See Things Through Your Kids’ Eyes

With only one adult to handle details you will become slightly more reliant upon the eyes and ears of your fellow tiny travelers to spot good deals, interesting stuff to do, and information you have overlooked. In travel with kids, especially if they are teenagers they will have no problem telling you exactly what they think. This helps you to see things through their eyes – vacations can be a great time to focus one-on-one with kids in a family. Mutual bonding over shared activities and down times can lead to greater communication between Dad and kid. One father found out the reason his daughter was afraid of fireworks was the whistling noise that her ears were sensitive to. After taking a ride on a steam train which just happened to make a similar noise, she was able to tolerate fireworks much better because the sound no longer scared her.

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2. Your Kid Will Uncomplicate You

Whatever your travel agenda, the reality of traveling with a kid who may have shorter legs and attention span will necessitate that you modify your plans on the fly to keep things running smoothly and happily. That half-day museum tour followed by lunch and then a day exploring a village may be too much stimulation for some kid travelers, so by scaling it back you will also learn to uncomplicate things for yourself and look for the quality experiences rather than quantities of experience. One Dad-kid trip ended with seeing half as many attractions because his little girl enjoyed going to bed early each night so that he could read to her for an hour first – something he normally didn’t have time for.

3. You Will See New Things in Usual Places

If you go to a spot that you have vacationed before, it will always be a new experience with your children involved. Chances are that you will know where a lot of off-the-beaten-track attractions are by the end of your trip because kids love to explore even where it seems mundane. Just when you think you know the area, your kids will probably show you that you really don’t!

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4. Your Kid Will Learn Balance

Just as ice cream for every meal has consequences for our health, so does vacation with no rest or regular meals. You will be teaching your kid the value of balance if you keep to a regular meal and sleep schedule, and in turn your kid will learn that balance matters, even while away from home and having fun. One overzealous Dad had to be reminded by his son that it was time for afternoon snack – and as a result they ended up going to a new ice cream shop which became one of the trip higlights.

5. You Will Be The One To Show Your Kid The World

You will get to be one of the first people who shows your kid new experiences and how to handle any difficulties that may come along. You will prove that even though a 9 to 5 job and school are important, the world still goes on when you are not exploring it and many cultures have different ways of working, living, and enjoying leisure than what you may be used to. An adult ‘kid’ still remembers a vacation where he and his father visited ancient historical sites and he learned about the legend of King Arthur for the first time.

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6. Your Kid Will Find New Interests

While exploring new places and cultures, your kid will often find new interests based upon what there may be to do nearby. For instance, a trip to Hawaii might inspire a fishkeeping hobby or the desire to learn modern dances back home. While in the vacation environment anything seems possible, so let them explore and enjoy learning alongside them. There was a Dad who took his kids camping, each night around the fire he’d play the guitar – an old hobby he’d only just picked up again. When they got back two of the three enrolled in guitar lessons as a result.

7. You Will Bond

Without the daily worries and interruptions in your lives, you and your kids will bond in a meaningful way provided you do not bring those distractions with you. Time away from games and computers may help your child develop an interest in reading or photography, while allowing you some breathing space to get to know your kid without all the background noise of everyday life. On a long drive to visit relations one father took the opportunity to share with his son how he had grown up, and the two talked about the similarities and differences.

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8. Your Kid Will Make You Eat The Yucky Food Too

With exploring comes new cuisine, and if you want your kid to be adventurous and try the local fare then you will have to take the lead. They are watching, so even if you think a food is ‘yucky’ you will have to try some too. This brings you down to their level of understanding in a way few other things will. You become ‘fellow foodies’ rather than meal time combatants when you can share what you like and dislike about new foods.

9. You Will Want To Go Again

What better than wanting to do it all again at the end of a trip? Many children are happy when their parents are happy, so your travel buddy will help make sure the time is memorable for you in ways you won’t be expecting. The parts which you thought would be the most difficult may be the most easy. I knew of a Dad who thought having all three kids listen on vacation would be a nightmare. His unique solution was to convince them he was a cartoon-character tour guide of the area, and they hung onto every word.

10. Your Kid Will Learn Flexibility

Your kid will learn that things don’t always go the way you may want, and sometimes there is no bandaid solution for a disappointment (i.e. sold-out concert, car breakdown that makes you miss a meal) but that life, like vacation, is all what you make of it. Rolling with things whether or not they go your way is an important skill to cultivate as early as possible in life.

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Last Updated on January 17, 2019

8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

8 Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Bring Peace and Happiness to Your Life

In life, we all need to be conscientious of what we are doing. You don’t need to live a life of stress if you don’t want to. You can achieve peace and happiness in life by carefully building mindfulness exercises into your life’s routine.

Exercising mindfulness isn’t rocket science and as importantly, you can do it. It will, however, take a few tries to get into the groove of things but once you get it, it is like riding a bike, you will never lose it.

Trust me. It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. In this article, I will share with you 8 mindfulness exercises that will help you to boost your energy, vitality and live a more peaceful and happier life.

Why Is It Hard to Live A Peaceful And Happy Life?

Our Habitat Has Become Too Technological

The world has accepted the idea that technology is often the cure for all evil. We have accepted, as a society, that everything technological will make us live a better life without fully investigating the many side effects that modernity brings.

There are a number of technological side effects that have a tremendous impact on your life that the media rarely tells you about.[1] Some of them include self-harm, economic inequality, having less sex, and even suicide. The global community is becoming less happy because of technology.

How can anybody live a peaceful and happy life when they are depressed? Technology advancements, ladies and gents, is a major reason for why we are living a poor life because it has infiltrated our lives too much.

According to my research, Americans spend an average of 8 hours a day looking at the computer screen — The average screen time spent on smartphones alone is about 20 hours per week. That’s a lot! No wonder why living a happy and peaceful life is so difficult these days.

Too Many People Don’t Want to Unplug

Americans check their phones an average of 80 times during vacation.[2] Some admit to checking their smartphones 300 times every single day. In countries like Brazil, India and China, the situation is no different.

The reality is that people are constantly plugged into technological devices and this behavior is literally making people all over the globe fight an inner war with themselves, which consequently makes them very sad. As we know, war is the enemy of peace which won’t make anybody happy.

Listen carefully:

We have a global anxiety epidemic because people don’t want to unplug from their smartphones and most people aren’t doing anything to fix it. It is a sad state of affairs but very real. This obsession with technology is turning us into perishable robots who live terrible lives.

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The era of anxiety is here to stay. There is little doubt about it. We can, however, fight back with the best remedy of all — We call it mindfulness!

Thank God there is an antidote to this whole technological madness. Without further ado, let’s go straight to the mindful exercises.

8 Mindfulness Exercises to Start Practicing

There are tons of mindfulness exercises available for you to engage with out there.[3] In the paragraphs below, I will include the best ones I’ve personally tried or have seen my close friends and family members try.

Are you ready for it? Let’s go!

1. Pray Daily

You should pray on a daily basis. Why is that you may ask — Well, because science has told us to do so.

When people pray, they feel peaceful, almost eliminating anxiety. Worries become secondary, and often gives people energy and hope to cope with the difficulties of life.

Prayer can make you more confident and focused. Prayer also helps you with self-control, helps to control pain, and can protect you against illnesses and disorders like cancer and high blood pressure. At least, this is what researchers from Harvard Medical School have said.[4]

Pray. You won’t regret it.[5]

2. Pay Attention to Your Inner Thoughts

A lot of people allow themselves to be influenced by their negative thoughts. Be different and resist believing in them. It is a bad habit that can lead to unhappiness.

By the way, if you do feel this way, chances are high that somebody other than you put these thoughts into your head.

Here is my secret to combat this cancer — look at things objectively. I bet that if you look at things as they are, you will realize that most if not all of your negative thoughts are only inside of your head.

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If you pay close attention, you will quickly realize that these voices aren’t worth your time. Believe me — Ignoring them and looking at things with objectivity is often the best course of action.

This article can guide you to beat negative thoughts:

How to Stop Automatic Negative Thoughts When You’re Overwhelmed

3. Smile Often

Smiling will slow down your heart. It will also relax your body because when you smile, your body releases endorphins which in itself has a number of positive benefits for you as a person.

Smile often! You may want to smile early in the morning, during the day, and late in the evening. It is amazing what happens to you when you decide to smile instead of being grumpy.

Surrender your problems to a nice smile. You will notice two things. First, most people just don’t which makes them live a miserable life. Second, if you decide to smile often, you will eventually smile unconsciously which is the ideal.

The moment that you smile unconsciously, you then know that you are truly happy.

4. Organize Your Working Desk

A messy desk will make you less productive and can agitate and overstimulate you. You don’t want that.

When you clear your desk, you engage in deep inner-thinking and your systematic decision making ends up becoming therapeutic.

Most people realize that they are most creative when their creative space is clean and organized. The former often makes people more aware of what they are doing which lends to less stress and more productivity.

Organizing your desk will also make you more energetic and focused because order often decreases chaos which is a condition that often slows down daily progress.

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5. Celebrate Your Friend’s Victories

I love this mindful exercise. One of the best ways to live a happy and peaceful life is to celebrate the victories of others. When you do that, you automatically make your friends in a better mood which makes you in a better mood, as well.

Happiness is contagious! We might as well celebrate others as much as we can. If you find out that your peer has won an award, celebrate with him! If your friend is the recipient of a local charity award, celebrate with her!

What is also awesome is that when you celebrate with others, they often celebrate with you in return. This, ladies and gentleman, will make you feel fantastic. You can’t go wrong with this one, period.

6. Listen to Your Spouse/Partner

God put someone in your life for a reason. You might as well listen to him or her.

I listen to my wife everyday. In fact, I often ask the following question to her, “Amanda, what are your thoughts about…” or “What am I missing about…” It is shocking what I hear back from her. Without her having much context and perspective, by the art of observation in my own nonverbal behavior and the behavior of others, she accurately gives me incredible insights which helps me out with living my life to the fullest.

I’m a firm believer that spouses are supposed to engage in interpersonal communication every day. I most definitely do and will continue doing it. You should do the same.

7. Give Yourself a Break from Technology

You can’t be in total equilibrium if your computerized devices control your life. You must get away from technology on a daily basis.[6]

How do you do that? This is my formula:

First, take this smartphone control test. It is only ten questions but this test will place you somewhere in the human robot cycle continuum.

If your score is between 25-30, take a break from the computer (or smartphone, pad, laptop/desktop) every twenty minutes and stop being on a computerized device after 8:00pm.

If you score between 30-35, still take a break every 20 minutes but stop being on these devices at 5:00pm.

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If you score more than 35, you need to take action immediately.

Limit computer use as much as possible throughout the day. Give yourself as many breaks from the computer as possible. Are you ready for the challenge?

8. Go Exercise

Go exercise at least three times a week. I don’t care if you need to workout early in the morning, late in the evening, on the weekends or during work days. Working out is absolutely imperative for you to live happy and peaceful life.

The stresses of the modern world are too much for you to neglect this important mindfulness exercise. When you go to the gym, you burn calories, focus on activities one step at a time, your mind relaxes, anxiety decreases, you sweat and often think about topics unrelated to your work place among many other benefits.

You must exercise at least three hours each week for optimum results. Why? Just take a look at all the benefits of regular exercising:

12 Benefits of Regular Exercise You Should Know

The Bottom Line

It’s in your best interest to learn and put these mindfulness exercises into practice. Now that our habitat has become too technological and many people just don’t want to unplug, engaging in daily prayer, celebrate your friends’ victories, and listening to your spouse are among the best ways to be mindful about what you are doing and how you are living.

It is possible to live a happy and peaceful life. It only depends on you.

Go exercise! Take a break from technology and invest in you! Life is too short for distractions.

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