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10 Reasons Working Dads Should Travel Alone with Their Kids

10 Reasons Working Dads Should Travel Alone with Their Kids

A popular South Korean reality television show called Dad! Where Are We Going? features five celebrity fathers and their kids who travel to various places and go camping together without their moms. Usually families go on vacation with both parents, however sometimes, as the show has demonstrated, going solo on a vacation with your kids can be a very rewarding experience for a Dad. The working Dads on the show bring up many reasons why working Dads should travel with their kids, without their mothers accompanying. Travel with kids can be amazing. Here is a list ten of the top reasons why this sort of Dad-kid vacation works so well.

1. You Will See Things Through Your Kids’ Eyes

With only one adult to handle details you will become slightly more reliant upon the eyes and ears of your fellow tiny travelers to spot good deals, interesting stuff to do, and information you have overlooked. In travel with kids, especially if they are teenagers they will have no problem telling you exactly what they think. This helps you to see things through their eyes – vacations can be a great time to focus one-on-one with kids in a family. Mutual bonding over shared activities and down times can lead to greater communication between Dad and kid. One father found out the reason his daughter was afraid of fireworks was the whistling noise that her ears were sensitive to. After taking a ride on a steam train which just happened to make a similar noise, she was able to tolerate fireworks much better because the sound no longer scared her.

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2. Your Kid Will Uncomplicate You

Whatever your travel agenda, the reality of traveling with a kid who may have shorter legs and attention span will necessitate that you modify your plans on the fly to keep things running smoothly and happily. That half-day museum tour followed by lunch and then a day exploring a village may be too much stimulation for some kid travelers, so by scaling it back you will also learn to uncomplicate things for yourself and look for the quality experiences rather than quantities of experience. One Dad-kid trip ended with seeing half as many attractions because his little girl enjoyed going to bed early each night so that he could read to her for an hour first – something he normally didn’t have time for.

3. You Will See New Things in Usual Places

If you go to a spot that you have vacationed before, it will always be a new experience with your children involved. Chances are that you will know where a lot of off-the-beaten-track attractions are by the end of your trip because kids love to explore even where it seems mundane. Just when you think you know the area, your kids will probably show you that you really don’t!

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4. Your Kid Will Learn Balance

Just as ice cream for every meal has consequences for our health, so does vacation with no rest or regular meals. You will be teaching your kid the value of balance if you keep to a regular meal and sleep schedule, and in turn your kid will learn that balance matters, even while away from home and having fun. One overzealous Dad had to be reminded by his son that it was time for afternoon snack – and as a result they ended up going to a new ice cream shop which became one of the trip higlights.

5. You Will Be The One To Show Your Kid The World

You will get to be one of the first people who shows your kid new experiences and how to handle any difficulties that may come along. You will prove that even though a 9 to 5 job and school are important, the world still goes on when you are not exploring it and many cultures have different ways of working, living, and enjoying leisure than what you may be used to. An adult ‘kid’ still remembers a vacation where he and his father visited ancient historical sites and he learned about the legend of King Arthur for the first time.

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6. Your Kid Will Find New Interests

While exploring new places and cultures, your kid will often find new interests based upon what there may be to do nearby. For instance, a trip to Hawaii might inspire a fishkeeping hobby or the desire to learn modern dances back home. While in the vacation environment anything seems possible, so let them explore and enjoy learning alongside them. There was a Dad who took his kids camping, each night around the fire he’d play the guitar – an old hobby he’d only just picked up again. When they got back two of the three enrolled in guitar lessons as a result.

7. You Will Bond

Without the daily worries and interruptions in your lives, you and your kids will bond in a meaningful way provided you do not bring those distractions with you. Time away from games and computers may help your child develop an interest in reading or photography, while allowing you some breathing space to get to know your kid without all the background noise of everyday life. On a long drive to visit relations one father took the opportunity to share with his son how he had grown up, and the two talked about the similarities and differences.

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8. Your Kid Will Make You Eat The Yucky Food Too

With exploring comes new cuisine, and if you want your kid to be adventurous and try the local fare then you will have to take the lead. They are watching, so even if you think a food is ‘yucky’ you will have to try some too. This brings you down to their level of understanding in a way few other things will. You become ‘fellow foodies’ rather than meal time combatants when you can share what you like and dislike about new foods.

9. You Will Want To Go Again

What better than wanting to do it all again at the end of a trip? Many children are happy when their parents are happy, so your travel buddy will help make sure the time is memorable for you in ways you won’t be expecting. The parts which you thought would be the most difficult may be the most easy. I knew of a Dad who thought having all three kids listen on vacation would be a nightmare. His unique solution was to convince them he was a cartoon-character tour guide of the area, and they hung onto every word.

10. Your Kid Will Learn Flexibility

Your kid will learn that things don’t always go the way you may want, and sometimes there is no bandaid solution for a disappointment (i.e. sold-out concert, car breakdown that makes you miss a meal) but that life, like vacation, is all what you make of it. Rolling with things whether or not they go your way is an important skill to cultivate as early as possible in life.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

    Why You Need a Vision

    Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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    How to Create Your Life Vision

    Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

    What Do You Want?

    The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

    It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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    Some tips to guide you:

    • Remember to ask why you want certain things
    • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
    • Give yourself permission to dream.
    • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
    • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

    Some questions to start your exploration:

    • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
    • What would you like to have more of in your life?
    • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
    • What are your secret passions and dreams?
    • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
    • What do you want your relationships to be like?
    • What qualities would you like to develop?
    • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
    • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
    • What would you most like to accomplish?
    • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

    It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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    What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

    Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

    A few prompts to get you started:

    • What will you have accomplished already?
    • How will you feel about yourself?
    • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
    • What does your ideal day look like?
    • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
    • What would you be doing?
    • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
    • How are you dressed?
    • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
    • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
    • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

    It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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    Plan Backwards

    It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

    • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
    • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
    • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
    • What important actions would you have had to take?
    • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
    • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
    • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
    • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
    • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

    Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

    It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

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