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10 Reasons Working Dads Should Travel Alone with Their Kids

10 Reasons Working Dads Should Travel Alone with Their Kids

A popular South Korean reality television show called Dad! Where Are We Going? features five celebrity fathers and their kids who travel to various places and go camping together without their moms. Usually families go on vacation with both parents, however sometimes, as the show has demonstrated, going solo on a vacation with your kids can be a very rewarding experience for a Dad. The working Dads on the show bring up many reasons why working Dads should travel with their kids, without their mothers accompanying. Travel with kids can be amazing. Here is a list ten of the top reasons why this sort of Dad-kid vacation works so well.

1. You Will See Things Through Your Kids’ Eyes

With only one adult to handle details you will become slightly more reliant upon the eyes and ears of your fellow tiny travelers to spot good deals, interesting stuff to do, and information you have overlooked. In travel with kids, especially if they are teenagers they will have no problem telling you exactly what they think. This helps you to see things through their eyes – vacations can be a great time to focus one-on-one with kids in a family. Mutual bonding over shared activities and down times can lead to greater communication between Dad and kid. One father found out the reason his daughter was afraid of fireworks was the whistling noise that her ears were sensitive to. After taking a ride on a steam train which just happened to make a similar noise, she was able to tolerate fireworks much better because the sound no longer scared her.

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2. Your Kid Will Uncomplicate You

Whatever your travel agenda, the reality of traveling with a kid who may have shorter legs and attention span will necessitate that you modify your plans on the fly to keep things running smoothly and happily. That half-day museum tour followed by lunch and then a day exploring a village may be too much stimulation for some kid travelers, so by scaling it back you will also learn to uncomplicate things for yourself and look for the quality experiences rather than quantities of experience. One Dad-kid trip ended with seeing half as many attractions because his little girl enjoyed going to bed early each night so that he could read to her for an hour first – something he normally didn’t have time for.

3. You Will See New Things in Usual Places

If you go to a spot that you have vacationed before, it will always be a new experience with your children involved. Chances are that you will know where a lot of off-the-beaten-track attractions are by the end of your trip because kids love to explore even where it seems mundane. Just when you think you know the area, your kids will probably show you that you really don’t!

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4. Your Kid Will Learn Balance

Just as ice cream for every meal has consequences for our health, so does vacation with no rest or regular meals. You will be teaching your kid the value of balance if you keep to a regular meal and sleep schedule, and in turn your kid will learn that balance matters, even while away from home and having fun. One overzealous Dad had to be reminded by his son that it was time for afternoon snack – and as a result they ended up going to a new ice cream shop which became one of the trip higlights.

5. You Will Be The One To Show Your Kid The World

You will get to be one of the first people who shows your kid new experiences and how to handle any difficulties that may come along. You will prove that even though a 9 to 5 job and school are important, the world still goes on when you are not exploring it and many cultures have different ways of working, living, and enjoying leisure than what you may be used to. An adult ‘kid’ still remembers a vacation where he and his father visited ancient historical sites and he learned about the legend of King Arthur for the first time.

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6. Your Kid Will Find New Interests

While exploring new places and cultures, your kid will often find new interests based upon what there may be to do nearby. For instance, a trip to Hawaii might inspire a fishkeeping hobby or the desire to learn modern dances back home. While in the vacation environment anything seems possible, so let them explore and enjoy learning alongside them. There was a Dad who took his kids camping, each night around the fire he’d play the guitar – an old hobby he’d only just picked up again. When they got back two of the three enrolled in guitar lessons as a result.

7. You Will Bond

Without the daily worries and interruptions in your lives, you and your kids will bond in a meaningful way provided you do not bring those distractions with you. Time away from games and computers may help your child develop an interest in reading or photography, while allowing you some breathing space to get to know your kid without all the background noise of everyday life. On a long drive to visit relations one father took the opportunity to share with his son how he had grown up, and the two talked about the similarities and differences.

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8. Your Kid Will Make You Eat The Yucky Food Too

With exploring comes new cuisine, and if you want your kid to be adventurous and try the local fare then you will have to take the lead. They are watching, so even if you think a food is ‘yucky’ you will have to try some too. This brings you down to their level of understanding in a way few other things will. You become ‘fellow foodies’ rather than meal time combatants when you can share what you like and dislike about new foods.

9. You Will Want To Go Again

What better than wanting to do it all again at the end of a trip? Many children are happy when their parents are happy, so your travel buddy will help make sure the time is memorable for you in ways you won’t be expecting. The parts which you thought would be the most difficult may be the most easy. I knew of a Dad who thought having all three kids listen on vacation would be a nightmare. His unique solution was to convince them he was a cartoon-character tour guide of the area, and they hung onto every word.

10. Your Kid Will Learn Flexibility

Your kid will learn that things don’t always go the way you may want, and sometimes there is no bandaid solution for a disappointment (i.e. sold-out concert, car breakdown that makes you miss a meal) but that life, like vacation, is all what you make of it. Rolling with things whether or not they go your way is an important skill to cultivate as early as possible in life.

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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